so it goes,

and ever will. 33, female, I still steal music from youtube.

[pinkvoidmuse-deactivated2023021]

Young women believe the lie that being objectified is a compliment men give them, and not men putting them in their place. So the idea that if they send nudes, do porn, strip, they will be empowered doesn’t add up to the reality. They find that despite men begging and paying for it, they are the ones shamed. Revenge porn doesn’t show a desperate male begging for pussy. It shows a woman being violated by a man who found the act he begged for inherently degrading to her. You aren’t the issue. Your body isn’t the issue. The way men view you and sex and violence is the issue.

[honeyblankets]

reflecting on how every single woman in healthcare is told to be prepared for elderly male patients to “misunderstand boundaries” or “be confused on what is appropriate” or “not in his right mind” regarding literal sexual assault/harassment.

wow what a massive coincidence that the elderly women with dementia/cognitive impairments, etc never sexually assault female healthcare workers.

wow what a huge coincidence that male healthcare workers are much less likely to be assaulted or be the victim in inappropriate patient situations.

wow what a coincidence that elderly men are granted exemptions for their disgusting behaviour due to their age/conditions when these behaviours simply do not even exist with elderly women.

[selkie-on-land]

When they are young they are not responsible because they don't know and have consciousness that they are sexually assaulting/raping you and other girls and women. (But they are still conscious enough to never goes after other boys or any man.)

When they are adults, they are not responsible because alcool, drugs, your clothes, anything. They are not realising that what they are doing is sexual assault/rape. (But they are still conscious enough to never goes after other men)

When they are older, they are not responsible because they don't know and have consciousness that they are sexually assaulting/raping you and other girls and women. (But they are still conscious enough to never goes after other men)

So basically, the rule is to NEVER hold boys and men accountable for their actions and crimes.

It's never their fault that they are sexual predators.

No, never !

[radfem-polls]

Hi everyone! I have been a vegetarian since I was 17, I’m in my late 20’s now. Long story short, I stopped eating last year due to extreme trauma and am still underweight now. I’m struggling to get my health back and so much of it is still being massively affected regardless of my efforts (my skin pale, lost 2/3s of my hair and it’s still shedding, my periods are now irregular when they never were, I’m having reproductive issues, exhaustion, my eyesight has gotten worse, my sleep horrific). I’m thinking about incorporating fish into my diet again to see if it’d help even though I don’t agree with ethically I know on a feminist level I need to survive this and need physical strength to survive the emotional trauma and suicidal urges that have come with it. So I was wondering if anyone had any tips on how to introduce it again. I’m genuinely worried I’m going to vomit trying to swallow it. I can’t eat meat that’s a no just fyi. I was also wondering if anyone had any advice on trying to put weight back on - trying to refeed and nourish oneself again basically. I’ve lost all my muscle too and I’ve gone down 3 cup sizes and my breasts are now basically just skin. I am obviously having therapy and many health appointments, I’m asking this in addition to everything else. Thank you everyone.

advice on how to put weight back on recovering from an eating disorder/trauma?

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[nostalgicforwhatneverwas]

Eat eggs, lots of em, eat em daily.

I've seen this trend on IG of bean salads, beans, corn, onion, peppers, cheese, etc. Big bowls of something like that can last for days in the fridge.

Eat foods that make you happy or made you happy at some point, like chocolate cake because it reminds you of something good that happened when you ate it.

Load up on carbs, breads and pastas and potatoes, all that good stuff.

Create a loose meal plan or list of foods you know you like to eat and keep things on hand so you can eat them whenever you like, build up some consistency with your meals.

Do some resistance/strength training once you're more stable, nothing hard core, but exercises that will keep your bones from taking any more damage than they already have and that will encourage muscle building. Resistance bands and light weights would be a good place to start, again when your health and weight have stabilized. It's hard to feel weak when you can do an exercise that proves to you, in real time, that you are strong.

With fish, start with meals that have fish mixed into it as opposed to a hunk of fish on your plate like fish tacos or a tuna salad sandwich or a chowder. Be sure to use ingredients you know you love, it might help. Revisit recipes you used to enjoy.

[totalwomanvictorynewsletter]

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[magnetictapedatastorage]

[fandom-man]

[targetedknowledge]

[narutwitter]

[phantomrose96]

If you are a PET trying to help your HUMAN just remember the acronym WAY

Are you in the Way?

Are you in the wAy?

Are you in the waY?

If the answer to all three is YES then you are HELPING 👏👏👏

[g1rluninterruptedd]

(stylelikeu on instagram). this came across my feed and i was really fucking with what this mom said. opened the comments… ofc everybody was like “this is weird”. and i don’t think it is at all. she’s both giving her daughter that choice and just asking her to think critically about why she’s doing it? i really appreciate this approach tbh 🤷‍♀️ W mom

[rosy-cocoa]

if you hear "you're perfect the way you are" or "learn to love yourself" and immediately feel that those are threatening statements, I encourage you to ask yourself why. It's easy to hear these and lash out, or assume the speaker doesn't understand you but the truth is that it's REAL. everything in the world wants you to hate yourself - you are easier to manipulate and sell to if you are obsessed with whether you are enough or chasing a "true self". it's not easy but it is an act of revolution to love and accept yourself exactly as you are.

[capricorn-season]

[uvb76fan]

love when a woman says "i am not comfortable with a man being here / doing this" the response is always "oh this man is good dw." okay did i say i am not comfortable with a bad man doing it or did i say i'm not comfortable with a man doing it? way to just outright tell me you think my boundary is stupid and you're not going to respect it.

[nickyandmikey]

when two musicians sing into the same microphone and lean in very close to each other… like omg are you guys gonna kiss now to relieve the homoerotic tension?😳

[nickyandmikey]

THIS IS NOT ABOUT ONE DIRECTION I DON’T KNOW WHO THIS “HARRY” PERSON IS GO WATCH BRUCE SPRINGSTEEN AND CLARENCE CLEMONS KISS ON STAGE RIGHT NOW

[irrelevantlyvalid]

op is the only valid person i’ve ever met. everyone else needs to come to the light

[chokolattejedi]

Okay, but this is really important: Bruce Springsteen occupied this really weird place in music history. His songs were all from this pessimistic, nihilistic view of an America that had let him down:

Just like the anti-Vietnam War protest songs that we associate with the 1960s, or the early nihilism that spawned punk music in the 1970s. But he didn’t *sound* like a punk anarchist; he sounded like a country rock singer. When he released Born in the U.S.A. people completely misinterpreted (or possibly ignored) the lyrics in favor of the tone of the music.

Politicians used his music to promote their ‘Murica Yes! brand, and he had to literally explain that that was not what he was about. He’s over here asking when we’re going to have jobs and heathcare, not stanning the politicians who weren’t helping the people.

It was also kind of a big deal that he had an integrated band, because even as late as the 1980s music was still kind of segregated and MTV was straight up racist. They refused to play and promote black artists and then claimed that were no black artists in the first place. Michael Jackson’s record company had to threaten a boycott of their white artists to get MTV to play his Thriller video.

Plus, the first black/white interracial kiss on TV was in 1968 (OG Star Trek). Also it took us until the 70s to get sympathetic gay characters on screen, and the 90s to get gay characters to kiss onscreen. And all of those firsts were met with outrage.

So keep that in mind when you see Bruce Springsteen not just playing with an interracial band, but engaging in an interracial, gay kiss on stage repeatedly.

Passages from American Popular Music by Larry Starr and Christopher Waterman

[executeness]

I used to think that Bruce and Clarence kissing onstage was exuberance, showmanship, and telling racist homophobes to fuck off. Like, they picked up a certain kind of audience and went “Racist homophobes? Not in our house!” And started the kissing then but then I actually looked it up and

https://www.gq.com/story/this-fucked-me-up-bruce-springsteen-singing-about-clarence-clemons

It was a story where… we remade the city. We remade the city, shaping it into the kind of place where our friendship and our love for one another wouldn’t have been such an exceptional thing. - Bruce Springsteen

It wasn’t about showmanship or rejecting bigots or anything it was just. Damn right that was one of the loves of his life and damn right he was going to kiss him onstage

It gets me a little that Bruce has had a divorce, that he’s been married twice, but he loved Clarence for the rest of Clarence’s life and will presumably love him the rest of his own

Clemons said in one interview. “Bruce and I looked at each other and didn’t say anything, we just knew. We knew we were the missing links in each other’s lives. He was what I’d been searching for.” In another version of the story, Clemons says “He looked at me, and I looked at him, and we fell in love.”

I’m having some emotions about it!

“He was elemental in my life,“ Springsteen adds, “and losing him was like losing the rain.”

Not just! I love you pure and deep and true but! I am going to love you like that in front of the whole damn world!

We have fewer narratives about taking risks and making statements for platonic love rather than romantic and supposedly it would be easier to downplay this onstage than romance and! They refused! They fucking refused! In front of hundreds of thousands of people, over the course of years! In the spotlight, in word and deed, I love you!

God I’m not okay about it

[ramshacklefey]

Now I’m mad that this is not among any of the things I was ever told about this artist.

[jbbartram-illu]

I knew about this in general (& via all those fabulous photos), but this just adds even more beautiful context <3

[eregyrn-falls]

Just to add to the pile: this was the cover of Springsteen’s break-through album Born to Run, in 1975:

I mean, will you LOOK at this:

This was the pic chosen for the album cover from an extensive photoshoot, too. A few others:

There’s a lot more online if you search. They’re all pretty amazing. But the photographer is right, the one chosen for the album cover just pops.

[anticurses]

literally what is up with this

[anti-capitalistlesbianwitch]

This Doonesbury abortion cartoon was originally written by Gary Trudeau in 2012, in response to a Texas law requiring women to have an ultrasound before an abortion. It was banned from many major newspapers, and they ran syndicated cartoons in its place.

Now seems like an appropriate time to bring these cartoons back, with the passing of Texas’ new law requiring the burial or cremation of miscarried or aborted fetal remains. I guess we’ll have to wait and see if Trudeau decides to write the sequel.

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[whatbigotspost]

God. You’ll have to excuse me openly weeping atm. I remember being horrified when that law hit the books here.

I had no idea how much worse it would get in 10 year’s time.

[whizpurr]