The Most Important Meal of the Day

she/her - ✡️ - student

[not-safe-for-breakfast]

must have this pic on my blog

so

(it's from pinterest)

[wearetryst]

"I’ve been the kind of person who has expressed themself through art for as long as I can remember, in any form I gained interest in: drawing, writing poetry, and stories."

Hobby Whores with Kane Fawkes

This instalment in our sex worker hobbies series Hobby Whores features Kane Fawkes discussing drawing.

[soosxcial]

cyber sex

what even counts as real sex anymore? is it just bodies touching or is it something more? if two people hook up over webcam with voice and eye contact and everything but they’re not in the same room...does that count?

sure it’s missing stuff like touch and smell and all the messy physical things we associate with sex but does that make it less real? or just different?

cybersex can still feel intimate. people can get off. people can connect. sometimes people feel more vulnerable doing that than they ever did in person. maybe it’s not about the physical checklist. maybe it’s about intention, or connection, or wanting to be seen and wanted

we’re told what sex is “supposed” to look like but that’s always changing. and honestly a lot of people fake their way through “real” sex while feeling nothing. does that still count more than a meaningful connection through a screen?

[not-safe-for-breakfast]

i def think connection + intent are important when it comes to cybersex, but after the discussion we had in class about sex animatronics being the likely future of electronic sex toys i am convinced that the real thing is sacred & having sex with an actual human is the ideal we should aspire to

shsjsjsjs

[wearetryst]

"I’m very open about what I do for a living, and try to set the tone from the beginning by making it clear that I’m comfortable talking about it. When I tell new people about my job, the tendency can be to quickly change the subject, fearful of saying or asking the wrong thing."

What Your Sex Worker Friend Wants You To Stop Doing

Eddy discusses the ins and outs of what your sex worker friends want you to stop doing and saying.

[wearetryst]

"Like many others, I always felt called to this sort of work. Like many before me, I’ve always been drawn to the whore in movies, stories, visual art, etc. I’ve always identified as a sacred slut."

A Tryst With New York Escort Marina Moonlight

In the latest instalment of our sex worker interview series "A Tryst With" we're chatting with New York Escort Marina Moonlight about tarot,

[not-safe-for-breakfast]

TELEDILDONICS

from what i understand, this is the word for sex toys that incorporate tech somehow, like vibrators connected to the internet or VR porn (which is a thing apparently? anyone have experience with this & might wanna share...i am wondering how it would work logistically)

it sounds very scientific, & i like to type it out (hence the all caps shsjsjsjs)

i think teledildonics makes the sex industry + idea of sex more mainstream, more normalized and integrated into everyday life...because of you have this stuff on your phone it is going to be more obvious no matter how hard you try to hide it, just because our phones go with us everywhere—so it can be a positive development that helps weaken the social stigma around sex

here's a Forbes article that furthered my understanding, would greatly recommend giving it a quick read

What the heck is... teledildonics?

Explaining the buzzwords of the moment: what are teledildonics and what do they mean for our future?

[prettyfamous]

Jon Hamm | Interview | Buck Ellison | April 2025

FEY: Do you get tired of fucking on camera at a certain point?

HAMM: You know there’s no actual fucking, Tina. You know that, right?

- Tina Fey

[not-safe-for-breakfast]

there is a LOT of cybersex on this site, as in written-out fantasies + open askboxes on the accounts that write them so there's that extra layer of sweet sweet communication to make it *interactive*

& it's super interesting to me, whenever i see pink writing i know im in for something wild tbh

so, if you write smutty imagines/i don't even know what to call the ones that are straight-up porn but not abt a fictional character (just generic hes/shes)

this is the space for you, follow me, i want all of it

pretty please

[soosxcial]

sex work as a choice

“like any other form of labor under capitalism, people trade sex for reasons that exist on a continuum of choice, circumstance, or coercion”

people always say sex work is empowering if you choose it. but what does choosing something really mean when rent is due and every other door is closed. survival isn’t exactly freedom

some people genuinely want to do sex work. some do it because it pays better than anything else. some feel like they have no other option. is that empowerment or just doing what you have to do. maybe both?

we like to label things as either empowering or exploitative but real life is messier than that. you can feel good about something even if it came from a hard place. and sometimes desire and desperation show up at the same time

plus we’re all shaped by what we’ve been told is “acceptable” or “respectable” especially when it comes to sex. that stuff gets in our heads whether we realize it or not

so yeah maybe the question isn’t whether sex work is empowering or forced. maybe it’s just about listening to people and trusting them to tell their own stories

[sbrown82]

Jeff Goldblum with girlfriend Sharon Young during “The Player” premiere at the LA County Museum of Art in Los Angeles (1991).

[sexworkerstories]

I had a client over the phone who wanted me to roleplay as a little girl, his daughter, and he roleplay did cocaine with me and shot me up with opium and then fucked me. he communicated safe words with me beforehand and stuff so he seemed to understand consent, but it still kind of rattled me. anybody else really wonder what those kind of clients are like around children in their real life?

[not-safe-for-breakfast]

this poses a difficult question that i'm honestly not sure has an answer: where is the line when someone's kink becomes dangerous? does the line exist at all? everything was consensual in this story, but if this client venerates child abuse this much and associates it with sexual pleasure as well, how does that behavior translate to real life? how can we be sure that people with kinks that would cause harm in a real-life setting don't have a tendency towards causing such harm in real life? should certain kinks, such as inflicting intense violence, remain stigmatized so that the behavior is not in danger of being deemed socially acceptable?

personally, my thought is that if no one is hurting anyone (in a non-consensual manner), then what people do is of course there own business...but anything involving children and sex should indeed be stigmatized and examined from a mental illness perspective so that these people can get professional help

[wearetryst]

"You can have the best promotion, the hottest body, or the most charming attitude, but if the quality of the videos you're trying to sell suck, people aren't going to come back for more..."

Sluts for Security: Video Production Basics

Ada Hamilton helps sex workers up their video production game.

[not-safe-for-breakfast]

feel like most YouTubers/content creators could use some tips to up their production game, haha. to me it shows how sex work is only really different enough from other kinds of video content to be considered separately because that's what corporations are telling us. we can accept motivational speakers and video essayists as two different kinds of YouTubers; the only reason why we can't think of sex workers as a third kind is because YouTube doesn't allow sex work. but really it is just another genre of video content creation

it's sad, how much the stigma around sex work has crafted our perceptions of the digital landscape

[not-safe-for-breakfast]

my last post got shadowbanned methinks, my prof suggested it in class and it really tracks

i expected it to do numbers but not even a single note shsjsjsjsjs

[not-safe-for-breakfast]

the trump administration is full of people whose goal is to erase queer identities from online spaces by calling queer content sex trafficking and queer people sex predators. we can't let them win.

we saw this with the 2018 porn ban; if we can get through that, we can get through anything (joking, but kinda not shsjsjsj). though the situation is definitely most similar to the SESTA/FOSTA shitshow, it reminds me of that millisecond frickin ONLYFANS banned explicit sexual content—the government's distaste for sex work driving a corporation to conform with what said government wants of them. even though OF said they were doing it because they wanted "more diverse content" SESTA/FOSTA had already been in effect for 3 years, so it makes sense that they would feel pushed to betray their userbase who built the site. WE are the users, we have control. OnlyFans didn't ban porn for long; don't forget that we have the power to change the minds of big corporations if we band together. we can take the power of the government's hands.

[not-safe-for-breakfast]

okay was anybody gonna tell me that freaking ONLYFANS banned porn in 2021, or was i just supposed to find that out in a college class on sex + social media myself???

[chutzpahchesed]

🥰 🩷

[wearetryst]

"I often see clients who are exploring their sexuality/gender, often very privately. It’s not something they feel comfortable to share with their lovers, partners, friends. I feel grateful to be with them on that journey, it’s an honour and it’s hot."

A Tryst With With San Francisco Escort Theli

In our sex worker interview series we're speaking with San Fransisco Escort Theli, about freestyling, affirmation, and craniosacral therapy!