“Don’t Tell People Your Plans or They Won’t Happen” is a Limiting Belief.
Tell the whole world what you’re creating, it’s still happening. Saying it out loud doesn’t cancel your decision. A conversation doesn’t have the power to undo what you’ve already chosen. Speaking about your future doesn’t make it disappear. Stop treating your desires like they’re fragile. They aren’t.
One of the deepest conversations my man and I ever had started with a simple question.
“Where do you see yourself in 10 years?”
I remember laughing because, truthfully, I already knew the answer.
I had dreams. Big ones. (I’ve already achieved some of them! 🥹 The others, I want to simply just experience them in the future cause I decided on that. 🥳)
But instead of telling him at that time, I hesitated.
I told him, “I don’t want to say it out loud. What if it doesn’t happen? They say you shouldn’t tell people your plans because you’ll jinx them.”
He looked at me for a moment and said, “Well, I don’t see it that way. I don’t think saying it out loud jinxes it. I think talking about it is me claiming it. So why would I be afraid to say it and tell others? I just have this belief that if I keep saying it, it’s going to happen. And it will, because I claimed it.”
My limiting belief instantly dropped. It was such a life-changing realization. It was such a simple conversation, yet it completely changed the way I saw things. I realized that we were looking at the exact same action through two completely different assumptions.
Society taught me that speaking about my future could somehow ruin it.
But my man thought speaking about speaking about my future is simply another way of claiming it.
The conversation was never the problem. The meaning we assigned to it was. Neither of us had proof. We just had different assumptions.
That was the moment I started questioning how many beliefs I had accepted simply because everyone else believed them too.
Who decided that talking about your desires “jinxes” it?
Who decided your dreams were so fragile that a conversation could destroy them?
Why would speaking about something suddenly cancel a decision you’ve already made?
Now, whenever I decide something is mine, it stays mine whether I whisper it to myself, tell one person, or announce it to the whole world.
Because in the end, nothing has more authority than my own decision.
The moment I decide, it’s already done. It’s always in the now. It’s always now! I will always have it because I already decided it.
