Today i watched two ted talks. Both almost contradicted eachother, but also were like a missing puzzle piece to each other.
One of them was titled βThe paradox of choiceβ. It spoke about how all of these choices in life are likely an illusion to make everything feel attainable, when itβs not. The idea of wanting more makes everything feel like less, and youβll never be satisfied.
The other was titled βThe paradox of being ambitious but lazyβ. This one spoke about how we get high off a concept of what we want life to look like, when the truth is, we donβt actually want it. We like the idea of this type of life, all things close enough to touch but not enough to grab on too.
The concept that we arenβt trying hard enough: β and because someone else got it, means I can tooβ. That statement isnβt wrong, but the reality is we see all these possibilities and get overwhelmed. The dream dies and we end up rotting. The feeling of not doing enough when there is so much to do is what eats our rotting selves. Overthinking the dream, then allowing it to slip between our fingers.
We convince ourself we are the problem. So we change our minds and choose nothing at all. The idea that choosing one dream will make you lose all the others as well. It makes us scared, resulting in a loss of each and every dream.
What do we do when the paradox of choice comes to bite our ambitious but lazy self in the ass? When the list of lives you want to lead keeps growing, but only because you donβt engage in the one you got. If you continue to imagine yourself somewhere else, youβll never be able to live in the reality.
The only way to get out of this cycle is to be real.
And thatβs crazy coming from me.
Iβm ambitious, hungry, and have huge big dreams. But to keep it real doesnβt mean settle for less. It means to really take a look inside yourself and figure out a life you truly see yourself living. A life where you donβt only see the positives, but also all the negatives that come with it.
Itβll be hard. itβll be hard to change the perspective of yourself. But the life you want isnβt all the materials in it, itβs the state of mind you wish to achieve. Start with the mind, and that mindset will begin to mirror your satisfied reality.
But also keep trying in this life first, because the key to happiness isnβt having the items and objects you want, its trying to live your life without them and making the best out of yourself.
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