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Honestly, I think the reason media with younger audiences tends to be labeled as “cringe” is because young people approach their interests with an earnest excitement that adults find disquieting and uncomfortable. No, the Proper and Adult way to do things is to be alienated from your own emotions and approach everything with a disaffected irony, because god forbid you have a Genuine Emotion.
The real irony comes from the fact that the older generation did the same thing when we were kids too. So much for not becoming your parents eh?
One of the things that bothers me about social media
Is the immense amount of people who latch on to a subject and say things along the line of "If you dont agree with me ill block you" or "Feel free to unfollow me if you dont care" as if devaluing other peoples opinions because they disagree with you is an okay thing to do.
We understand its your space, but isnt it better to appreciate people with different opinions as a way to gain perspective and open mindedness in your day to day? I struggle with this myself, but straight up shutting people down preemptively even seems pretty bad.
honestly, avoiding the common deprecating humor on here like “lol I wanna die” or “I’m just your average garbage can’t” and shit like that was the first step of my emotional recovery
it amazes me how actively moving towards more positive casual humor has affected my mental state for the better
avoiding politics I have no control over, as well as sidestepping around negative self image humor has made a huge difference, and the benefits were very quick for me
it takes a conscious daily effort to avoid falling into those old behaviors, and it isn’t always easy, but it’s made a huge difference in my emotional and mental health
I highly recommend stepping back and taking about a week of actively avoiding these things, as well as investing in a positive humor, and seeing what a change it makes
and I completely understand that feeling negative humor is a coping mechanism, but it’s a decidedly unhealthy one!
it’s very common to invest yourself in relatable negativity, but I know from a long history of personal experience that this can only make healing more difficult
Tumblr has a very negative view of staying in dysfunction because it’s comfortable and a way to relate to other people, but it focuses on actively avoiding recovery because it’s difficult and less comfortable than misery
but this isn’t a good thing!! and before anyone pops in with “we can’t all be neurotypical Karen” this is something that I have had to do as a mentally ill person that came from absolute rock bottom to a moderately functional person that has to actively avoid old behaviors of wallowing in my own misery
Focusing on recovery has not made me any less of a mentally ill person, and it’s no less of a struggle to do this every day. It’s not easy! and it’s hard! but it’s worth it to know that things can and do get better with time and effort in focusing on my recovery and a healthier mindset
This isn’t to say that other mentally ill people just aren’t trying hard enough, but recovery is an important process that has literally saved my life. It’s something that’s worth investing into because it’s an investment in yourself. It’s by no means a cure-all, I am still mentally ill and I still struggle every day. But it’s made the weight of my discomfort and pain more easy to bear. With the help of my support system and an active effort to recover I have learned to function more easily as a disabled person in a world of pain.
You are worth your recovery, even if it doesn’t feel that way right now
You are worth the effort to heal, and you are worth finding again
You deserve help and health and if you’re struggling I wish you the very best <3
At long last, The Chosen One has been discovered. Working as a cashier. With no interest in doing anything even slightly more difficult.
yeah because there is nothing more difficult than retail
tbh anyone who works/has worked retail would see the chance to go around saving the world in ways that could potentially kill them as a welcome vacation
“Does the position of Chosen One offer health benefits of any kind?”
“Well, our ragtag gang of world-saving underdogs has a doctor on-team.”
“Do I have to pay her out of pocket, is what I’m asking.”
“Gosh no! She’s an idealist, you don’t pay her at all!”
“Oh! That’s nice. But then I guess there’s no paycheck.”
“I mean, the secret cabal that dispenses our orders does make sure we have enough money to feed ourselves and keep a roof over our secret lair and such.”
“Hourly?”
“Hourly what?”
“Like have you guys ever had to punch a time clock?”
“We once had to dismantle a sinister time-freezing device in the shape of a clock….otherwise no.”
“Sold. Off we go.”
“do i have to be nice to people who are yelling at me?”
“we’re the good guys, you can’t kill random civilians just because they’re mean!”
“kill?? no, i mean, can i tell them off.”
“well, sure, of course.”
*rips name tag off shirt and tosses it over shoulder* “i’m your huckleberry.”
This resonates on a spiritual level
Anyone ever considering the fact that the Chosen One is working as a cashier is the reason the world is safe at all?
have some queer writing tips because i’m fucking tired
i have just scrolled by yet another one of those “how to write queer characters if you’re straight” posts and they fucking exhaust me. because they’re almost always just a list of things not to do, and most of it is fucking wrong. and they always put in this caveat ‘you can do these things if you’re not straight :)’ and it makes me want to flip a table, because guess what, i don’t look up an author’s sexuality because i don’t give a fuck, and someone shouldn’t be required to out themselves in order explore certain themes.
so let’s go through some common advice that i fucking hate, and what i, personally, would suggest instead. i am one person, and do not speak for the whole community, just like no one person of any group ever speaks for the whole community. note that i use gay as an umbrella term for not straight
bad rule: don’t have a gay character have close friends who are all straight
in my group of seven very close friends, i am the only one who’s not straight. the idea that is is unrealistic and ridiculous and means the character is a throwaway is stupid. i went to a notoriously gay school and have lived in multiple major cities, so it’s not like i lacked opportunity. it just turned out that all my really close friends are straight. it happened to me, it’s happened to others, sometimes it just happens.
better rule: don’t have your gay character be the only gay character in the story.
what is unrealistic is when the gay character is the only gay character. just because they don’t hang out with other gay people, and so other gay people aren’t in most of the story, doesn’t mean they don’t exist. the pretty lady at the bus stop is waiting for her girlfriend, someone’s dad is gay, two girls on a date past them in the street, the history teacher talks about his husband, they’re playing a game of spin the bottle and a girl plays on both sides because she’s attracted to multiple genders. unless part of the queer character’s story is that they feel like the only gay person on the planet, they shouldn’t be portrayed the only gay person on the planet.
bad rule: never kill gay characters
sometimes, people die. we are all so, so sick and tired of watching ourselves die on screen and in books, but the idea that we don’t die is silly.
better rule: try and only kill gay characters in the same percentages as straight characters
i think it’s important to think in percentages rather than just numbers. the thing is if you have eleven major characters in a story, and only one of them is gay, and then you kill them and one straight character? you have killed 100% of the gay characters, and only 10% of the straight ones.
so say you have two gay characters, and eight straight characters. if you kill one gay character, and four straight characters, you have killed 50% of the gay characters, and 50% of the straight characters.
think about the movie mad max. there was a lot of women in that movie, and so when some women died, it didn’t feel like the end of of the world. because there were more women. in your writing, don’t let death come off as a “punishment” for being gay. if death happens, it should happen indiscriminately. so if you’re doing a dystopian novel, and lots of people are dying, but you’re killing off a much, much higher percentage of gay characters then straight, it doesn’t look great.
this is not a perfect system, but hopefully by keeping it in mind you avoid falling into the trope where the gay characters always die.
bad rule: don’t show problematic gay relationships, fighting within a relationship, or characters who have “too much” sex
we are not all pure uwu babies, and every time i see someone telling people to portray us this way i want to scream. we have shitty relationships, we’re shitty people, we like having sex, and some of us like having it a lot. who we’re attracted to doesn’t change the fact that we’re people, and even people with the best of intentions are far from perfect.
better rule: do not reduce characters to their faults, or to their sex lives
if all we’re told about a character is that they’re gay and in a shitty relationship, or that they’re gay and have a lot of sex, then those two things become muddled together. write well rounded characters!
first of all, sometimes people in perfectly healthy relationships fight, or have disagreements, and accidentally hurt each other. there is nothing wrong with portraying this, because most relationships are’t one hundred percent happy and peaceful all the time.
moving on. yes, the roommate brings home someone new every night and has loud sex with guys and gals and whoever, but they also bake pies and hate the taste of cilantro and have a boss they like and coworkers they want to fling into the sun.
he’s too controlling, and he looks through his partner’s phone, and he gets mad when he doesn’t know where his bf is. his bf isn’t financially stable enough to leave him, but hates feeling constrained. it’s just not going to work. he’s an exec at a hedge fund, bf is a barista, he hates his job, bf loves his, they have mutual and different friends, they watch movies, and he went straight to college, and bf spent a year roadtripping instead.
bad people are still people. don’t reduce people to bad and gay. bad and gay and a shitty boss and rich and a sore loser gives your audience more to work with, and then you haven’t drawn a clear line between gay and abusive. as long as you’re writing well rounded and complex characters to begin with, this shouldn’t be a problem.
you should take care when portraying sensitive subjects, and do your best to portray it well. but that’s true regardless of the gender or sexuality of your characters.
i would note that having only abusive/abused gay characters is probably not great. remember, gay people are everywhere! try and include them in small, casual ways in other parts of your story if possible. this is easier with longer fiction, but if you’re doing a shorter piece where the only characters are the couple in question, then it’s not option, and that’s okay too. just try and be careful that you’re giving people more to work with than gay and abuse.
if you want to portray happy and pure love, that’s totally fine!! sometimes all we want is to sink into a story of happiness and comfort. but if you don’t want to write that, and want to explore darker themes, that’s okay too.
bottom line:
giving people a list of things not to write isn’t helping them to write better. it’s just telling them not to write.
also, don’t demand that authors out themselves to you so you can “decide” if they’re allowed to write about certain things. either something is poorly written and offensive, or it isn’t, and i don’t get to know personal and private details of people in order to decide if they’re allowed to do something. it’s none of my fucking business, or yours.
as writers, we write about things that we’ve never experienced and will never experience. the only way to get better at things is to keep doing them. will you mess up and write something insensitive or upsetting?
probably.
i sure have. but the answer here is to learn how to do it better, to be more authentic in our stories, and be willing to listen and learn from people who know more than we do.
the answer is to write more and write better, not to not write at all.
Knowing that people like you exist brings me joy like no other
Stupid People
One of the most ridiculous things about stupidity is how attractive it is. You love to hate to love it, and no matter how hard you want to stop listening and giving it attention, you cant entirely help going back, whether to ridicule it or because you find it endearing or whatever.
Stupid people are this but 10 times worse, mostly because half the time they actually believe the drivel they are spouting. If we all ignored stupid people that world would be a better place.
Emotions
One of the biggest things thats evaded me is being able to understand my own feelings. When it comes to being able to say "I care" and "I love", theres always that knowledge that I do, and I can always say that without a seconds hesitation, but when i actually think about it, I can never really peg what love/what caring feels like. I know I do, but I cant ever explain how I know.
Yeah… this is abuse. The stranger with the styrofoam cup is correct.
I found the article, it’s as bad as you think it is:
“Being a psycho girlfriend is a unique kind of power that says A) you have absolute control over your happiness, even the happiness that comes from another person, and B) you’re pretty. When your boyfriend lets you get away with some next level crazy girl shit, he’s essentially saying that you’re pretty and he loves you. And sometimes you need to hear those things by any means necessary. So if you’re in a pinch, you should have some go-to fights to start, just for fun!”
https://totalsororitymove.com/random-fights-to-start-with-your-boyfriend-when-you-feel-like-testing-the-strength-of-your-relationship/
hey everyone! if you so does literally any of these things, especially for the reasons listed in this ass backwards article, they are abusing you. do not stay with abusers.
Why do people try so fucking hard to be in toxic and unhappy relationships. Do not do any of these to your partner, ESPECIALLY on purpose. If you actually have some issue with something, talk to them. Communicate, be mature about it, cause if you can’t step up in a relationship, don’t be in one.
This is what stupid people think is the right thing to do in a relationship. Do not be stupid people. Relationships are a two way street, and if you feel so uncomfortable communicating with your SO that you resort to toxic and abusive behavior then you really shouldnt be in a relationship at all.
It’s satire. You idiots.
We are aware, we are just trying to spread our obviously wellmeaning intentions despite being too embarassed at missing the joke to try and fix our responses in the first place.
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Blankets
full offense but none of you would have ever survived fanfiction.net in 2009
Look, you dont know pain unless you surfed fanfiction around that time on a first edition nook. It was a trying time indeed.
There’s nothing more ugly than the culture of having children for the sake of having them. Too many people ask “do you want kids?” but not enough ask “are you ready for the emotional, physical, and financial sacrifices you will have to make to raise children?” It’s so ugly to me that people treat kids like a commodity, like a dress or a pair of earrings they just throw on. How dare you? That’s not a new car you can get bored of or discard in a few years, that is a person, and particularly a person who will absolutely be dependent on you for emotional support, financial support, discipline, and leadership; someone who you will have power of virtually every portion of their lives until they’re ready to be adults, who you will impact in irreversible ways, who will look to you for the rest of YOUR life and theirs for explanations about life and how they turned out to be who they are, for better or for worse. If you say you “want kids” but you’re “not sure if you could handle” them needing time and attention, costing you money, or you’re “not sure you can handle” if they turn out gay, or disabled, or transgender, or any other myriad of things that don’t really make your child any less of a person but which an ugly society can have ugly views on, etc. then you don’t deserve to have children. If you “want children” but haven’t thought about literally having to be there for them for virtually everything they will go through and ask of you, you’re not adult enough to have them.
And what’s so insidious about many of these same people is that they are the ones making their children feel guilty that they fed them, housed them, and basically didn’t let them die, as if this is some meritorious act, as if parents aren’t supposed to raise their children and not kill and starve them, as if they are some type of martyr that deserves praise for doing the bare minimum.
While this post makes a lot of good points, the problem here is that it doesnt matter how ready or not you feel to have children, when you finally do the experience of parenting will never, EVER be how you expect it to be. Being a parent is something you litterally have to jump into the deep end to do successfully, and many just dont have the ability to be "good" parents initially. Good parenting comes with experience, and no one ever gets it right the first time. One of the big things that hits me about this post is it comes across as the child should take their parents for granted just because their little lives are so precious, but the thing about that is that the woman who gave birth to that child had to deal with a parasite that drained her body for 9 months and stole her food, left her weak to disease, sometimes immobilized for days on end, and could have killed her, andd her spouse has to watch her knowing that she could be lost to them at any moment. To say that they dont deserve the respect that comes with actually taking that child to term, and doing what they can to care for them and raise them to be a functioning member of a legitimately backwards society discredits the parents who work hard to raise them. I dont care what kind of parent you think you are, but you DID bring your children into this world, and you DID raise them, and even if you are a shitty parent they dont respect or one that they love to death, they better at least acknowledge that fact.
On the subject of children and sexuality/disability/etc. its the exact same deal. You dont know how you are going to react as a parent, you dont know how your child is going to change and grow, they dont even know until it happens, and its just another one of the challenges that comes with taking care of another human being. You dont know how the situation is going to play out if it ever even does, and even if it does it may even happen without you, and you would never know.
I suppose what im trying to get at is yes, treat your children like decent human beings, no matter what. But dont ever "expect" to be ready for children if you do decide to have them. You wont ever be ready. Same goes with being "ready" for the intense drain on your life that they will be. You can never 100 percent know that, and shouldnt expect to.
If you look in the mirror and think you're ugly
Its just because YOU arent attracted to yourself, which doesnt mean that no one else IS.
Everyone of us hope to find a partner that is perfectly a match with you. There is no such thing as a perfect partner, but there is someone out there that is perfectly made for you. Have you ever thought of what you really want from a partner? Many of us might not be consciously … More
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open and non defense: the accuracy physically hurts
“Has empathy for and understanding of their partner. “ It’s so accurate
Open and non defensive…so accurate, it hurts…
“Has empathy for and understanding of their partner”, read the description and … yep. So accurate !
I broke the test.
Wahoo! I’m-a Dr. Luigi, and I gotta diagnose you with Number One Fever! Symptoms include: -being number one! -being friendly and-a nice! -making everyone around-a you like you instant-a-ly! -wahoo! -optimism! -and-a more! And it’s-a permanent, too! You’ll always be number one, friend! Wahooie!
Never thought id ever hear about being number one from a guy litteraly holding an L.
Depression
Its occured to me that a lot of people who do become depressed look to find things to try and make them happy, or turn to medicine in an attempt to lessen how depression affects them. But like, how many people who are depressed try getting angry? I know it probably sounds insane, but anger can be a pretty motivating emotion. And if youre motivated and feeling something other than just depressed, then youve already taken a step in some direction, and that, right or wrong, is still progress.
So IHOP is IHOb now...
Im not quite sure how to feel about this