Daddy and I discuss this sometimes, because we both have come across different kinds of Doms. We notice traits that will essentially ruin the relationship. And I notice how rare it is to find a good Dom - or a good submissive. While there is probably no such thing as a “true” Dom or sub, these are things I think are traits of a good Dom and red flags indicating a bad one.
A good Dom is loving. He understands that submissiveness is a gift, not his right to take. He has patience. He has some ego but balanced with humbleness to admit to his property that he is not perfect. He makes his sub feel satisfied and protected most of the time. He works hard to build his sub’s trust, so he doesn’t just go out doing whatever he wants just because he can (although he will sometimes punish you just because he can, but a good Dom will let you know if it is for his pleasure, that you didn’t do anything wrong). A good Dom is open to learning everything about his sub. He is interested in being a better Dom, so he will pay attention to training strategies that work or don’t work. A good Dom understands the huge amount of responsibility he has in caring for another human being. He wants to protect her, love her, and more than anything help her grow into a better person she is happy with. He is intelligent and forgiving.
A bad Dom will make you feel unsure and you might feel unsafe. He is overly arrogant and uses dominance as an excuse to let out aggression. He is sloppy and inconsistent with his training and is more concerned about himself than his sub’s growth. He may pressure you into giving him control over things you aren’t comfortable with, and you probably won’t be comfortable with it because in your gut you feel you don’t trust him. He may lose control over his emotions when he feels loss of control over you. With him, you feel more afraid than loved.
I am going to post the next chapter on Wednesday! Wednesday will be 50 sog day. I plan on touching a touchy soy ivy but Harry Potter and the cursed child parts one and two. I will be doing 3-10 scenes a post depending on the content. I missed working on this blog!!
HILLARY CLINTON DID NOT CLINCH THE NOMINATION TODAY. SUPERDELEGATES DO NOT VOTE UNTIL THE CONVENTION. IF YOU ARE PLANNING ON VOTING FOR BERNIE TOMORROW, STILL GO VOTE FOR BERNIE. THE CLAIM THAT SHE HAS CLINCHED THE NOMINATION IS FALSE. I AM SO ANGRY. (LOOKING AT YOU, PBS.)
It’s exactly what Chris Matthews threatened to do at 8pm tomorrow, except it will affect ALL of the primaries tomorrow, not just California. It’s blatantly false and it’s voter manipulation. There are hundreds of delegates up for grabs.
THIS IS TODAY NOW GUYS. YOU CAN STILL VOTE TODAY IN CALIFORNIA, MONTANA, NEW MEXICO, SOUTH DAKOTA & NORTH DAKOTA. (NEW JERSEY JUST CLOSED).
The polls are open until 8-10pm local time in most of the states voting – if you’re able to, you can still get there in time to vote. YOUR VOTE DOES COUNT AND IT DOES MATTER.
So, I've been hard at work on my own crazy romance shorts! I have the next few chapters of 50shades outlines and I'll be putting them up by Valentine's Day! So look for three chapters to go up soon!
Again, for the people doing the good work by actually reading this trash to give the rest of us PLENTY of reasons not to, this is dedicated to ohgodwhylit and idetonatearoundhim, you brave, brave souls!
*My gif-making is crap, the Jen ones, not Captain Subtlety, did not do those as it would mean having to actually have the accursed movie on my hard-drive. Imagine being the one prosecuted for downloading THAT!!
I am self publishing a book and I need a cover photo(s) for the books.
You and your partner will be paid for 10 photos a total of $10 for each shot if I chose your couple! What I’m looking for: two women between the ages of 20-30
One of Asian decent (the character is South Korean)
And one who is mix raced (the character is Jamaican and Middle East mix) You will be credited as models on the books. Any questions about the books or poses please feel free to ask!
By making 50 Shades of Grey the best selling book ever, women have lost the moral high ground to give me shit for liking female comic book or video game characters who fight in high heels with their tits about to fall out of their boob plate armor. You’ve got your terrible problematic fantasies, and I have mine. Let’s just stay in our own lanes, and we’ll get along just fine.
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Shall we finish the chapter? Yes. We left off with Ana getting her overpriced piece of paper and Christian asking about e-mails and Ana being confused.
It's the end of a more than likely four or five hour graduation ceremony and Kate calls out to her and says that Christian wants to talk to her. The Hens from earlier have now shit their pants and are gaping at Ana. What did I say about the lying?
Ana congratulates Kate on her speech. Kate nags about her going to talk to Christian. Ana goes back and forth about Ray.
JUST GO FUCKING TALK TO HIM! Ray understands that you are being pulled in 124 different directions because it's a big day.
She gets talked into gong off to talk to her fuck buddy Christian. He excuses himself (and he murmurs again!!!! I swear to fucking Krishna I'm going to find the person that edited this and bitchslap them)
He thanks Kate for being his human trafficker. He pulls Ana aside; while Ana worries about what the fuck he wants.
"Why haven't you e-mailed me? Or texted me back?" He glares.
Ummmmm She fucking graduated today? I know when I graduated I spent 0 hours on my phone because I was running around like a sacrificed chicken with no head.
They have an augment? I'm not sure about it but it involves Kate's speech and her eating habits.
"Anastasia, I don't want to go there at the moment." He closes his eyes, looking pained. "I've been worried about you."
"Worried, why?"
"Because you went home in that death trap you call a car."
Trust me, ALL cars, whether they are weathered though or cost more than my house are death traps. Google car crashes.
She mentions that Jose (sorry I can't put the little accent over his e) keeps her car in running condition and Christion gets all pissy.... It use to be Jesus's mother's car.... Wait... I thought Ray bought it for her..... maybe it's like the car that has the family tree of a family in Mississippi.
"Anastasia, I need an answer from you. This waiting around is driving me crazy."
"Christian, I...Look, I've left my stepdad on his own."
"Tomorrow. I want an answer by tomorrow."
"Okay. Tomorrow, I'll tell you then."
If I was thinking about a new dom I would need more than two days to consider him. Oh, wait... I know what I'm doing, have had non sexual doms, had one sexual dom and still am with him.
Christian says he would like to meet Ana's step-dad. Personally, it would be a big deal for your step-dad to have met a business tycoon. As usual Ana is all me me me.
"No!" It's my turn to sound exasperated. "Introduce you to my dad as what? 'this is the man who deflowered me and wants us to start a BDSM relationship'? You're not wearing running shoes."
Christian glares down at me, and then his lips twitch up in a smile.....
"Just tell him I'm your friend, Anastasia."
Ana, you are making stuff too complicated at this point. I'm finding myself agreeing with Christian more and more, but lord help Ana because she will one day have a dumb and think the train wants to hug her.
They go on the search for her Ray. They weave though the crowd and Ray finds them first. We get the typical Dad stuff. He takes pictures, congrats. Also there is a conversation about having drinks. Alcohol makes every calibration better.
Some guy named Ethan Kavanagh is happy to see her. He picks her up and twirls her around and I have no fucking clue who he is. She is happy to see Ethan. (was he one of the asses that was at the bar where Jose assaulted Ana?) Ethan was in Europe for a while and has been back for a week... I'm just confused about this person. Who we find out on the next page is Kate's brother.
DEAR MRS. JAMES WHEN RANDOMLY INSERTING A CHARACTER A LAST NAME FOR AN INTRODUCTION DOES NOT EXPLAIN ANYTHING.
How it should have been written: I see Kate's brother, Ethan, from the corner of my eye. (rest of crappy stuff could have happened.) leaving your audience confused and angry is why last weeks Twitter massacre happened.
Half a page of Kate making an amazing speech and then Ray meets Christian. I feel like this is some kind of weird gay awkward thing? Mrs. James ties to make it sound formal but it just sounds forced. Ray asks how long have Ana and Christian have known each other. We get a re-cap of the last TWO WEEKS?!
Some how Grey knows that Ray is a fisherman and they go off and talk fish. I wonder if he stalked her stepdad like he did her? She is mad at Kate for telling Ray that Ana knew Grey.
"Because I knew you never would, and I want to help with Christian's commitment issues." Kate smiles at me sweetly.
I scowl. It's me that won't commit to him, silly!
"He seems tres cool about it, Ana. Don't sweat it. Look at him now-- Christian can not take his eyes off you." I glance up, and both Ray and Christian are looking at me. "He's been watching you like a hawk."
I would have bitch slapped her. It is not Kate's responsibility to tell Ana's parents about what is going on in her love life. I want to lock this list in the "red room of pain" (which I don't even know if we have gotten to yet.) Mr. Rape on the bed, Kate over a chair, and Ana... I'll just put her in a cage while I beat them all, and not in the fun way.
Kate rationalizes her being a good for nothing friend by telling Ana she did her a favor.. No you put your nose where it doesn't belong. you are now on the cunt list.
Ana decides to save the two men in her life from each other. Ray runs to take a dump or pee leaving Ana alone with Christian. They pause as the photographer takes a picture of the two of them. (Personally, I would be all over those two. Christian just spent ten minutes talking to the girls dad and now she's back. This is the front page tabloid gold. "CHRISTIAN GRAY WITH UNKOWN GIRL! SEEN AT GRADUATION AND HOTEL TOGETHER... Seriously, it takes a few calls and a couple hundred bucks out of the tabloid dig pot and you have millions of copies flying off the shelves if the world knows him as well as we are let to believe.)
Moving on.
"Oh, I wish I knew what you where thinking, Anastasia," He whispers darkly, cupping my chin and raising my head so that we gaze intently into each other's eyes.
My breath hitches. How can he have this effect on me even in this crowded tent?
"Right now, I'm thinking, Nice tie," I breathe.
He chuckles. "It's recently become my favorite."
I'm so done. Can we have a conversation that doesn't make me wish I had joined the convent when I was 22, angry, and hating men?
This is suppose to make women all hot and bothered, I have actually had a drop in my sex life since I started to read this. Fancy that.
*insert non sexy banter about sex for about a page*
Thankfully Ray returns!
"Annie, should we get some lunch?"
Okay." I blink up at ray, trying to find my equilibrium. What have you done? my subconscious screams at me. My inner goddess is doing backflip in a routine worthy of a Russian Olympic gymnast.
I'm worried about the amount of imaginary friends she has. seriously, you are suppose to stop having them at like 6 or 7.
Ray invites Grey to lunch, Grey refuses because of rich people problems. Ray asks Grey to look after Ana and he promises he will... I'm so glad we have a beautiful example of the male patriarchy.
Ray has a Jewish mother moment. "Seems like a solid young man. Well off too. You could do a lot worse, Annie. Though why I had to hear about him from Katherine..."
Jewish mom criteria for marriage: Male, rich somehow preferably a doctor or a lawyer, handsome, and well, looks don't matter much so long as they get grandchildren out of it.
Thankfully lunch with Ray is not entertaining enough to make it into the book and we skip to him taking Ana home, reminding her to call her mother. (that two for jew mom) and that he was proud of her. (I give that a half, the Jewish mother would have reminded her that she was 21 and only had 16 good years left to breed).
Ray leaves and Ana starts to check her phone. She has three missed calls from Christian, no messages, one missed call from Jesus, a voicemail congratulating her and two texts from Christian.
"Are you home safe?"
"Call me"
Didn't you see her like less than two hours ago? Ugh, now the e-mails. Again they are about her getting home safe. Another saying she looked pretty.
She decides to reply, I would have called, but eh, she says that she can come over this evening but he decides to drive down immediately!
She takes the Thomas Hardy first editions and decides to give them back while he is coming over. She wraps them in brown paper writing: "I agree to the conditions, Angel; because you know best what my punishment ought to be; only- only-don't make it more than I can bear!"
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I feel like these characters are way too desperate. It's chapter 15 now and my vajay is a dry as California.
We open with Christian wearing nothing but Levis and holding a riding crop. He was looking down at Ana's naked body. She could smell leather and blah blah sex.... He tells her to suck his cock. She just puts his massive hulk cock in her mouth before she really could give him any pleasure? He has a crop in his hand and traces it all over her body and...............
Yep it was all a dream. She could even feel the aftershocks of her imaginary orgasm.
What the hell just happened?...I didn't know I could dream sex
It's what men call a wet dream. It's a wonderful place where you have sex in a dream and have an orgasm and then wake up feeling better or guilty depending on if you are part of the circle of guilt faiths or not.
She gets out of bed still blahing on and on about what could have caused this mystery of wet-dream. While she his having her inner monologue Kate is skipping, yes skipping, around the kitchen.
She see's Ana staggering around and they have pointless conversation about the night before. Kate wants to know very detail you can imagine and Ana just wants a "cup of morning tea" because coffee is too good for her.
Kathrine Decides to work on her speech while Ana has more thoughts about Christian and we find out that her BBFL is valedictorian.
I feel like Lisa is Kate and gum girl is Ana. She sticks with her because it's better to have a friend than to live alone when you are smart.... trust me I have dumb friends just so I feel better.
Also Lisa is a beautiful representation of how I feel about this book.
Ray, Ana's step dad shows up for her graduation. He mutters like everyone else in this book. Like everyone else around her he has some kind of psychic ability to know weather or not Ana is alright. First her mother, then Kate, then Christian, now Ray. I wonder if she has one of those strips with the red LED lights that flashes words over her head.
I feel like this chapter is going to accomplish nothing more than non witty banter and her getting her fucking diploma.
Christian enters the room and he has on the grey tie that we all know about. you know the one... it's sold everywhere and it left little marks in her skin. Yeah, that tie.
"Look at him"..
"He's hot."
I'm sure they are not talking about Professor Collins.
Must be Christian Grey."
Is he single.
I bristle. "I don't think so," I murmur.
"Oh." Both girls look at me in surprise.
"I think he's gay," I mutter.
You could have said a thousand things. "He's probably with some super model." "He's fucking the secretary." "He may even just may have 3 girlfriends that all live in a bouncy castle" Or even half a truth like "Maybe he's a secret weirdo that can't keep a girlfriend." But don't insult men everywhere with you being an inconsiderate lying cunt.
What happens next:
The chancellor speaks, Ana has more thoughts about her sex dream from this morning. She also gets pouty that Christian is not looking at her. Yes, let him give the game away when two seconds ago you said he was gay.
Kathrine Kavanagh now has taken the sage. Ana gets al prideful and slightly pouty when he is looking at Kate impressed with her speech. I do agree with Kate on one thing. Christian is Creepy as fuck.
Christian Grey talks next. I think that the floor must be a swimming pool by now because if what Ana's brain communicating right now is correct then every woman in that room has wet her panties. Then something surprising happens. ACTUAL THE FUCK CHARACTER DEVELOPMENT.
"I have know what its like to be profoundly hungry. This is a very personal journey for me..."
My jaw falls to the floor. What? Christian was Hungry once.
So, now we know why he is so avid about his feed the world thing that we read about.... 13 chapters ago.... this would have been more valid if he had said that during the interview.
incase you forgot (or stopped caring like I did): Christian was adopted from his crack whore mother by the Greys at the age of four.
Great now she thinks she has to "save the damaged man."
Can we not have every sing fucking trope in this book?!
I'm seized by a sense of raw outrage. Poor, fucked-up, kinky, philanthropic Christian-- though I'm sure he wouldn't see himself this way and would repel any thoughts of sympathy or pity.
When are you going to realize that he does not want anything from you other than what was outlined in that contract?
She gets her overpriced piece of paper and Christian congratulates her, asks her if her laptop that is non existent is working and why is she not corresponding with him. She says something that I only assume that she thinks is smart that confuses the fuck out of Christian.
I go back to my seat. E-mails? He must have sent another. What did it say?
Probably something along the line "you are mine and I will fuck you." Her inner goddess is not pleased about something. I think she needs some Mellaril, or Haldal... one of those. They should make the voices go away.
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I'm going to put air in my sister's tires. Be back later wit the rest of the chapter. Thank Gwod it's only 15 pages this time.
So we left off with Ana saying that she trusted Mr. Rape to take her where no man has gone before....
"Well, then," he looks relieved. "The rest of this stuff is just details."
"Important details."
My head is swimming with all his words. I should have brought Kate's digital recorder so I can listen to this again later.
Ok, it's supposed to be 2011. Ok, even the stupid flip phones recorded. Also when talking about something as important as negotiation terms of BDSM.... maybe a piece of paper? I have a little note book that has the initial yeses and nos. we haven't looked at it in 2 years, but the point is that we did write it down... well, I did.
The good timing waiter brings in a black cod dinner with blah, blah, fancy dinner again. She takes a gulp of her sparkling water wishing it was wine. I'm glad it's not. He might take advantage of you being stupid and bend you over and well... you can fill in the rest.
The now move onto the rules about eating. I wonder about his obsession with her eating habits. We don't really know what she looks like other than Bella Swan. Is she bony? Does she look anorexic?
No one is going to dictate to me what I eat. How I fuck, yes, but eat... no, no way.
So, you are willing to be raped but if they tell you when to eat you draw the line?!
WHAT
THE
ACTUAL
FUCK?!
He gives in on the food thing. For being a business tycoon he really sucks at this negotiating thing.
"Why can't I look at you?"
"That's a Dom/sub thing. You'll get use to it."
Will I?
"Why can't I touch you?"
"Because you can't."
The looking thing... *looks at master all the time.* yeah, I have yet to hear about that one with other BDSM couples I know. I think this is Mrs. James not knowing what real BDSM is and only watch porn. The touching thing is him being an ass or because he's damaged.
I'm going with damaged.
She asks if it's because of his former Mistress Mrs. Robinson. Yes, fucking Mrs. Robinson. She not only got inspiration from Twilight but from the Graduate as well.
Skimming over the former submissive point of his life he moves on to the no masturbation clause.
"Out of curiosity...why?"
"Because I want all of your pleasure." HIs voice is husky but determined.
Masturbation is healthy. Since says so. It's not his fucking beeswax if she plays with a dildo or not.
More non witty banter about going over the soft limits.
"You've not eaten very much."
I've had enough."
"Three oysers, four bites of cod, and one asparagus stalk, no potatos, no nuts, no olives, and you not eaten all day. You said I could trust you."
The fact that he counted the bites is just fucking creepy. And even Ana says it's stupid. She and Christian have banter about food which ends in...
"Right now, I want to peel you out of that dress."
Wait, one second we are fighting about food and the next we are talking about sex.
THIS DOES NOT FOLLOW!!!!! I ASK FOR ONE SIMPLE CHAPTER THAT HAS CONTINUITY!
She deflects the rape comment with dessert.... WHICH IS THE DUMBEST WAY TO DEFLECT EVER. Dessert can also be sex.. or whipped cream... or whipped cream on a penis.
"You could be dessert," he murmurs suggestively.
"I'm not sure I'm sweet enough."
"Anastasia, you're deliciously sweet. I know."
ummm... ew. And secondly I told you so.
Ana: You're not being fair!
Christian: I'm an ass and I like to rape have sex.
How can he seduce me solely with his voice?
Because you are a stupid horney teenage girl.. even thought you just turned 21.
He has made her panties even wetter... I'm pretty sure the hotel is going to need to replace the seat of her chair and the rug under it. continuing on he uses more brain wash by saying that Doms make all the choices so subs can be sex robots and do what their masters say. He even goes so far as to tell her that he knows that her vagina is running like Niagara Falls.
How can he tell?
"I can tell because..."
Holy shit, he's answering my unspoken question. Is he psychic as well?
No, he can tell because your dripping off your chair. I'm surprised that maintenance hasn't been called for clean up.
We get more flushing, more babble about how she is stupid.
My only sphere of reference is Kate, and she doesn't take any shit from men.
This is the smartest fucking thing she has thought in 225 pages. Don't take shit from men. Even if you are in a BDSM relationship.
More banter about food that ends with Christian telling her he doesn't care about her food.... which just a page ago he was bitching about the amount of food she didn't eat.
My inner goddess frowns at me.
YOUR INNER GODDESS IS NOT REAL! GO CHECK INTO A LOONY BIN AT THIS POINT.
She decides to seductively eat her asparagus..... which is now a metaphor for Christian's cock. He asks her what she is doing. She says eating... He hates that she is toying with her....
INSERT COCKBLOCK WAITER.
He clears the plates and leaves. She realizes that if she stays their meeting will end in her being bent over the table and being fucked. I wonder to myself why she didn't go full skank and suck his cock under the table, but maybe that will be in another book.
She decides to leave.
Him: But why?
Her: Because I think it's a good Idea and I have free will.
Him: But I don't want you to.
Good lord it's like children in middle school who are at the mall making out in the photo booth.
"I could make you stay," he threatens.
"Yes, you could easily, but I don't want you to."
"You know, when you fell into my office to interview me, you were all 'yes, sir,' 'no, sir' I thought you were a natural-born submissive. But quite frankly, Anastasia, I'm not sure you have a submissive bone in your delectable body." He moves slowly toward me as he speaks, his voice tense.
1. He THREATENS HER
2. He thinks that her being polite and intimidated was the makings of a sub.
3. Why is his voice tense?
Is it because he is loosing? Because his hard on is becoming blue? please I don't understand this verb usage.
She agrees with him and then he uses the most overused line the book of controlling assholes. "I don't know any other way...This is who I am."
Yes, you do. You don't want to because you want to have control. This is a control thing. Gwod I want to beat the shit out of him.
They have a make out that is over written.... hands though hair like it was their last kiss goodbye until he goes to war....
Him: Please stay with sugar and cherries on top.
Her: I said no.
Him: Spend the night with me?
Her: NO.
Him: *has blue balls* You are impossible.
"Christian, I have to think about this. I don't know if I can have this kind of relationship you want."
Good girl, now say no and end this retched book.
He escorts her to the valet. He sees the junkier she drives.
Him: you drive that pos?
Her: What part of poor don't you understand?
Him :will you make it home?
Her: Yes, not go away it's not much but my stepdad bought it for me with love.
Him: I'm gona buy you a car.
Her: I fucking like this car and hate you when you use your money to buy me love.
Him: I will and you will like it.
Her: Good-bye
I feel like he's just use to women liking the random crap he buys for them. I would string him along and then dump him after I get all I want... So what if it's prostitution? I need stuff.
He wants me, but the truth is I need more. I need him to want me like I want him and need him, and deep down I know that's not possible. I am just overwhelmed.
Why do you need him? You two have about as much chemistry as two wild cats that have been stuffed into a laundry basket and shaken to see if it would piss both of you off.
we have an internal struggle of if he won't and I will and if I won't but he will.... It's a paragraph that reminds me of my journal at 14.
But the thought of not seeing him again is agonizing How has he gotten under my skin so quickly?.. I dash the tears from my eyes. I don't want to examine my feelings for him.
First I must fix that pos sentence above.
The thought of not seeing him again is agonizing, he has gotten under my skin. How did he manage to make me have feelings for him so quickly?
see it works so much better without the but and I have expanded on her emotional sate.
Also, why are you crying? You avoided sex that would have been overly complicated and you took away his upper hand in doing so. Believe it or not you won. By not having sex you walked away with the power.
She gets home to find an e-mail from Christian asking why she ran. (meaning why did she leave while she still had power.) and he hoped that she would take his proposal seriously. "We will take it slow"
That was long gone in chapter 9 when you "rectified" her situation of being a virgin by having sex with her when you where not in a relationship with her and she clearly wasn't ready. Sex is not just genitals grinding against each other. It's deep, complicated, and personal. ESPECIALLY for BDSM couples and people who have never had sex before.
The e-mail also makes her cry more... I don't know why she is crying but maybe we are suppose to feel her emotional confusion? I'm not sure.
I think of all the times he warned me to stay away.
Anastasia, you should steer clear of me. I'm not the man for you.
I don't do the girlfriend thing.
I'm not a hearts and flowers kind of guy.
I don't make love.
This is all I know.
So he told you he was an ass and now you are crying into your pillow over it. I have no pity for you.
Perhaps together we can chart a new course.
And then you can go on a magic carpet ride and sing a Whole New World.
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I'm so done. Ana and Grey just need to die or do the Romeo and Juliet thing and kill themselves.
Gif above are the plans for the rest of my night. See you in a few days for chapter 14.
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