OKCGRAMMAR

Immersing oneself in the online dating world is a bit like learning a new language. An irregular, disrespectful, vulgar, though sometimes pleasantly surprising language. There are no rules in this terrain but certain grammatical patterns exist. 《 《》》 Oh, and let's not forget: most importantly, feminist and fighting the male entitlement that oozes out of online dating interactions one post and ig at a time.

[okcgrammar]

What do people think about Match.com’s new study?

[okcreepsters]

I’m shaking with disgust as I post this. (the link is here)

#rape tw

[okcgrammar]

Unfortunately many men have a ridiculous stereotype that a woman who’s intelligent, attractive, and cool “must be crazy”. As far as I know, this untruth was popularized by How I Met Your Mother (Barney’s “Hot-Crazy Scale).

[okcgrammar]

[brutereason]

Women are taught to internalize intensely restrictive beauty norms from the time they are small children. Don’t do or say things that makes women feel like they aren’t meeting this norm, or create pressure on them to meet it. At the same time, it is equally not a feminist response to do or say things that pressure women to use their body to resist these norms if they don’t want to. Recognize that there are significant social sanctions for women who disobey beauty norms and they shouldn’t be expected to act as martyrs and accept these sanctions if they don’t want to. Whether according to your personal aesthetic or ideals you think she wears too much makeup or too little, removes too much body hair or not enough, it is none of your business how women choose for their bodies to look.

35 Practical Steps Men Can Take To Support Feminism - xoJane (via misandry-mermaid)

[tea-and-pages]

Today on my school’s Yik Yak, there was a girl.

This girl was seeking advice about what to do.

She had spent the night at her boyfriend’s place and woke up in the middle of the night to him having sex with her. She informed him he was hurting her and to stop. He continued as she cried.

Several people got on the thread to inform her that yes, this was rape. Yes, she needed to get out of that relationship. Yes, she needed to talk to campus police.

And then there was this one asshole who showed up with “Wait, so you’re saying you don’t want to have sex with your boyfriend?”

This asshole was quickly followed by Asshole #2 with, “You’re in a relationship with him, though…”

LET ME BE PERFECTLY CLEAR ABOUT THIS.

BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE IS NOT AUTOMATIC CONSENT.

BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE DOES NOT TAKE AWAY YOUR RIGHT TO SAY “NO.”

BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP DOES NOT MEAN THAT IF YOU SAY “NO” AND THEY CONTINUE, IT’S NOT RAPE.

Having been in a relationship where I experienced this exact situation, I didn’t realize that at the time. I didn’t come to that realization until I opened up to my now-husband about it and how much it still hurts, almost four years after the fact, and he was utterly horrified. I knew my ex had been sexually abusive in a lot of ways, but I never considered him a rapist because I figured that as his girlfriend, me saying “no” didn’t matter. Seeing someone else going through the EXACT same thing made me physically ill. I can’t just let this go without saying.

BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP DOES NOT EXCUSE RAPE.

NO MEANS NO, RELATIONSHIP OR NOT, AND I REALLY FUCKING WISH PEOPLE UNDERSTOOD THIS.

[okcgrammar]

THANK YOU!

[ooph-deactivated20160501]

Today in a nutshell.

[nikoni]

[musinvenusian]

These are all the yik yak’s at John Hopkin’s University. That school is full of prestigious assholes who are predominantly white or asian. Yaw wanna spout some shit online, but you wouldn’t dare say it to a black persons face or you would be catching some hands an then some.

Fuck John Hopkins University and fuck the racists fucks that live there. Think about it yaw, these are our future doctors and shit.

[sherlockholmes]

Oh my god

[waitdidyousayyoutubers-deactiva]

IF YOU HAVE NOT SEEN 50 SHADES OF GRAY OR AMERICAN SNIPER AND HAVE NO INTENTIONS OF DOING SO, REBLOG THIS

I’m following all of you

[waitdidyousayyoutubers-deactiva]

This post is getting so popular so quickly that I’m having trouble following everyone.

Good.

[demonsexcure]

Feminists United Club Member Grace Mann Murdered After Months of Threats of Sexual Assault and Violence

After University of Mary Washington Feminists United Club president Paige McKinsey spoke up at a student senate meeting about the culture of sexual hostility among the university’s fraternities and the university’s unwillingness to do anything about it, the anonymous social media app Yik Yak exploded with insults and threats of physical and sexual violence toward McKinsey and other campus feminists.

After the rugby team was recorded singing a song about raping dead whores, prompting FUC members to report the incident to the school administration, the threats got even worse. 

Then, on April 17th, Grace Mann was murdered by her roommate, a former rugby player.

You can literally be murdered for being a feminist.

[profeminist]

i actually have looked at the links you post, and it has hepled me become more aware and calmly inform those around me, because you are so awesome you have made a difference :D

Thanks so much!

FEMINIST FIST BUMP!

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have.

Robert Holden (via bonus)

[peopleyoumeetontinder-blog-blog]

Steve seems really single.

[tinderfeminists-blog]

[peopleyoumeetontinder-blog-blog]

Just because I let you pay for dinner (I’m poor!) I STILL don’t owe you anything!

[okcgrammar]

WOMEN DON'T OWE ANYONE ANYTHING, NO MATTER WHAT!

[okcgrammar]

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[dearpatriarchyfuckyou]

This guy doesn’t quite get that he’s still being sexist.  Previous post here: http://dearpatriarchyfuckoff.tumblr.com/post/117359731014/the-audacity-of-some-people-to-keep-messaging-you  It is not in men’s nature to be sexually explicit without the consent of the women they are messaging.  It is not in men’s nature to harass women who do not reply to them.  It is not in men’s nature to be a “perv”.  Whilst i understand that the patriarchy instils these ideas in men, teaches them that this is how you should act towards women and gives them the privilege of not experiencing it on an everyday basis like women. It is up to men to unlearn these traits and characteristics.  We don’t teach women to harass, or objectify, rape or assault men.  It is not in nature, it is a product of a fucked-up patriarchal society.  I try to be as blunt with misogynists as possible and point out what they did wrong. It is then up to them to re-evaluate their behaviour and educate themselves.  Women are not products for consumption and we are not here to teach every fucking sexist how to not be a dick.  The internet is full of blogs and pieces on personal experiences. There are books, documentaries, films, songs, art.  Fucking look at these things for yourselves and assess your politics and behaviour towards women.  If you’re not with us then you’re against us.