The Hottest Of Messes

I'm Zee. I'm 22. I like unicorns. I’m grown by accident and I like to travel. Quite broke, but working on it. I like booty. Tag a bitch #nizhani

[dorfs]

[ooumami]

All my life I knew I was meant to be famous. I’m working on it

[ruinedchildhood]

[share]

“learn how to take a joke”

why don’t you learn how to make one

[virtualsphere]

Doja Cat for Paper Magazine shot by Brian Ziff

[sportsandguysgoofingaround]

[kaijuno]

The signs as whatever the hell this is

[undercoverpisces-deactivated201]

[pissvortex]

BABY YODA CANON

[pacmantrinity-deactivated202207]

Baby Yoda Cannon

[pissvortex]

get him out of there

[exphautaz]

okay

[blood-and-breath]

[ooumami]

Used To

I used to want to be somebody

I used to want to be

But the longer that I was

The less life wanted me

I had an expiration date

They don’t tell you from the start

One day shit just starts getting real

And the real tore me apart

I ran away from life in books

In movies and in songs

Because this life was not for me

I guess He got it wrong 🤷🏽‍♀️

[ooumami]

Tumblr kind of went down the shitter after 11/17

:/

But I’ve actually been great. Better than ever. And I actually said today that I don’t wanna die. Can you believe thats the first time I’ve ever felt that way? At least in my memory. You can do it! It takes a lot of work and unfortunately it’s always gonna be kind of 🤷🏽‍♀️. But there is something between manic and wanting to stop existing. I can do this. For my mom. For my gran, for Josh, for Tiana, for Dana, for Olvah... I like my life right now. I have goals but this today is good enough for me not to mind doing it again tomorrow.

Me to me—

[ooumami]

Probably my last #blackoutday

[ooumami]

It was actually my last 😂

[memesandlaughs]

[findingfeather]

So I talked about one of the reasons (one of the big reasons) that exclusionist radfem bullshit is so prevalent on tumblr being that they bring it here on purpose, because it’s how they can get young wlw in particular to believe them without question and be their enforcers, because the young wlw who end up here are often those who are isolated in their physical face-to-face spaces. 

But there’s a flipside to that coin, which is that this is also where they can get young mspec (bisexual, pansexual, etc), asexual and trans kids (usually women and trans men) to swallow it. 

You walk up onto Grindr and start telling mostly-cis gay men they can’t use “butch” and “femme” in their descriptions anymore, you’re not gonna get very far. To put it mildly. The one who don’t give a shit about anything but their own comfort and perspective are just going to laugh at you, and for the most part the ones who do care (often a lot) are also well aware that these talking points are bullshit. 

You walk up to BUTCH Voices saying OMG ONLY LESBIANS CAN USE BUTCH and you’re probably gonna get a less friendly Talking-To than gets handed out sometimes on THIS site. 

Because when you tell a 30, 40, 50, 60 year old person with a community and a history with their sexual and gender identity “you can’t use this word you’ve been using for literal decades to describe yourself” the friendliest reaction you’re going to get is a good-faith attempt to explain, the least aggressive you’re going to get is laughter, and probably (given that just about all of us here in “hey we’re not straight and don’t conform to majority-expected gender expression and relationship composition”-land have also been spending those decades under anywhere from low-to-high-level-siege-and-attack for same) you’re going get someone telling you to Shut The Everloving Fuck Up, I Don’t Have To Take That Shit From You. 

But. 

Say those same things to the nervous, newly-self-aware person (at any age, but especially in their teens or twenties?) Who just found this general place (tumblr) where The Not-Straight People Are? who are probably in the process of figuring out what the hell they even feel and are Learning What Things Mean? 

When you tell THEM “you’re not allowed to use that word hdu!” they probably say “omg I’m sorry” and take the alternates you fling at them. Especially if you back it up with harassment (as a great many of these people do). Especially if you manage to generally cloak your bullshit in the language and patterns that social justice work uses ( “you’re appropriating! you’re talking over us! you should listen when we tell you about our words!”) to frame this as a privilege-disprivilege axis, rather than acts of active lateral violence from one group (monosexually attracted wlw) against another (mspec people). 

Their bullshit works better here. A lot better. And that’s another dynamic that’s important to keep in mind. 

[spiders-hth-is-an-outlier]

They are radicalizing isolated and needy young people. The ideologies change, but the tactics remain the same, because those tactics work.

And I can’t help but notice many of these same people are actively pushing this gross lie that “every adult you speak to online is a pedophile you have to be afraid of.” How convenient that this rhetoric creates *more* isolated and lonely young people who live in terror of engaging with elders in the community who could give them access to real support and advice that isn’t about an ideological agenda.

I’m so beyond angry with these people. They’re preying on vulnerable children and stuffing their heads full of entitlement and division. They’re harming the community and they’re *harming our children,* and it’s fucking unconscionable.

[swolerbear]

I was literally just thinking today about how many Tumblr discourses would fail if people were given the opportunity to be a part of the community more, and here people put it all better than I ever could.

[writing-prompt-s]

Image prompt

[randomslasher]

“Gary, I realize it’s your first day, but we do have a dress code.”

[northern-borealis]

I literally can’t tell who is talking to who, and I don’t want to change that for a second.

[doctorslippery]

[semicolonthefifth]

I love how the body structure and the decor of the larger bone fairy creates a nice area of concentration that leads the viewer’s eye towards the tooth fairy. This, aside from the obvious glow and design contrast, help direct the attention where needed and is a brilliant move by the artist.

[jewishdragon]

I went to the artist’s website and they are the same one who made this:

Digital Painting, Illustration, Concept Art for Hire

[charmantecats]

She has arrived