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they/them | cptsd blog | current thoughts - "defective child", desensitized to life, ghost child

[kosmogrl]

I will get there

[thebonewitch]

At the end of the day, my thoughts on job hunting are that it's incredibly stupid how every fiber of our current socioeconomic structure is screaming that you MUST have a job and nothing else matters because you MUST be working and that's the only thing of true importance so never forget that you MUST have a job, and I'm like damn okay so I'd like a job, can I have one? And the answer is No

[anxeious]

[titsay]

[trowelsanddirt]

by will mcphail

[the-catto]

iT’s fUnY beCAusE mEn aRE DumB

[addictedtocaring]

No dumbass, it’s funny because women are usually left out of these pictures. And most of history. While actually, you know… living full lives and contributing to society. Just like men do. But men are always in the fucking picture.

This isn’t a comic about men being dumb, it’s a comic about women being forgotten, ignored, and excluded. But you were so ready to be pissed at mean feminists that you took something personally that absolutely wasn’t and got offended by something that wasn’t being said.

[cheesyradfem]

The artist was a man but women still got blamed for the “misandrist joke” by a redpiller calling himself a “big dick americhad“

[she-volution-deactivated2022052]

i love this dude he’s made a bunch of other ‘misandrist jokes’ as well

[shotofchinaco]

Not to go too off-topic but just want to remind everyone that Will McPhail also gave us this great one in 2017:

[making-friendos]

One must imagine Sisyphus happy

[thememedaddy]

[stuckinapril]

I’m fine

[stuckinapril]

I need divine intervention

[kaasbolletje]

[drdougdouglass]

[whitepeopletwitter]

[i-say-stupid-things]

i’m gonna hold your hand with a glove on when i say this

when disabled/chronically ill people tell you they can’t do something, then that is not your cue to tell them that they can actually or that they’ll always find an excuse if they’re looking for one.

when a disabled/chronically ill person says they can’t do something, sometimes that doesn’t mean it’s outside the realm of possibility, sometimes it means if they (attempted to) do that, they will seriously hurt themselves.

when a disabled/chronically ill person says they can’t do something, sometimes it’s preventative care, and they refuse to do that thing to prevent a flare up from happening/their symptoms getting worse in the first place.

disabled/chronically ill people are not “looking for excuses”, they are giving you reasons why. something they don’t even have to do! so maybe just accept the reasons they give you.

[furiousgoldfish]

I accidentally discovered something that helps with my psychosomatic pain, I'm not sure if it's problematic, or if it works only specifically for me, but I'm going to tell you what it is and how I came to it, so someone else could try it and tell me if it works or not.

It was on a day I was agitated and distressed, trying to make myself feel better by any means, to the point where I went outside to sit in nature to see if some kind of outside positive stimulation would help (sometimes it helps). It didn't help at all, and I didn't know what to do, so I grabbed a stick and started tapping it around in frustration. This also didn't help, but then I tapped it lightly on my leg. I was at first, worried that I was engaging in some sort of self harm, because this is the situation that could trigger that sort of thing, and I did experience being hit on my legs in the past, so I spent good 5 minutes analyzing what I just did and trying to figure out if it was wrong of me or not.

After just a few seconds of tapping my leg in different spots, I started feeling different; my leg got all relaxed and started buzzing, like a very pleasant buzz that made me feel better. Again it was extremely light tapping, no pain of any sort! Barely noticeable stimulation. But the psychosomatic pain in my leg went away and was replaced by the pleasant buzz. It made me wonder if maybe my body is so understimulated that a light tapping is very welcome and makes it feel less neglected.

Later on I tried doing it on my arms as well, same result, pain is gone, pleasant buzz, I felt better immediately. It works so well it can change my mood from dread to pleasant curiosity. It's also simple enough that I don't have to talk myself into it, if I can grab a plant stem to tap with, I can do it. Maybe it's a form of grounding, it reminds me that my limbs are there? I have no idea.

I would love to hear any opinions on this, could it be problematic and harmful even if there's no pain at all, and does it work for anyone else or whether it's me-specific? I am suspicious that I might just be doing something trauma related. But I am appreciative to have a method to immediately feel better, there are times I need to get up and do things and this allows me to remove the pain quickly. I haven't had any side effects either, I don't feel worse later.

[princen-jasper]

“There are no trigger warnings in real life”

“The real world is cruel, get over it.”

My boyfriend is triggered by Christmas and Christmas music. We were in a restaurant, and Christmas music was playing, and he started panicking so he went outside for a cigarette. The manager of the restaurant overheard him saying he had to get out, and changed the music over for the rest of the time we were there. There are safe spaces in the real world. People are nicer than you think. And bullshit people who try to tell you to get over your triggers, ain’t shit.

[autasticanna]

Honestly “the world is cruel get over it” is pretty easily translated to “I’m a complete asshole who doesn’t want to be held responsible for my sh*tty behavior”

[cargopantsman]

The world may be cruel but you don’t have to be.

[delistylehardcore]

it rly is weird how theres this culture in progressive spaces where like you can be as mean, as CRUEL even, as you want as long as youre not being explicitly bigoted towards any marginalized group of people and still be seen as a really good person with good morals who nobody is allowed to have beef with bc theyve never done anything racist or homophobic

[definitelynotsatan]

politically correct behavior devoid of compassion for humanity as a whole is a callous performance and nothing more

[transcyberism]

this is why there’s a huge debate over whether certain groups are “really” oppressed btw, or whether that oppression is unique to them vs just a manifestation of another type of oppression also experienced by other groups. the goal with that whole line of debate isn’t to actually understand power dynamics and the structure of hegemony, it’s to be able to shit on people you dislike guilt free.

[i-say-stupid-things]

what is it with able bodied people saying “get well soon” after you say that you’re chronically ill?? like? i am not gonna? and i once literally responded with “i’m not gonna, it’s chronic, as in permanent.” and they went like “oh well, hope you get better!” like bro 💀

[marypenelope]

Speaking for me personally (and also as someone who has their own chronic health issues), most of it is, as someone mentioned in the replies, script failure. Humans have a lot of scripts and shorthands for social interactions, and the most common one for finding out someone is ill or injured is to wish them a swift recovery. There isn't really a script for how to respond when someone won't recover tho, and so many people end up falling back on the script they do know even if it's not really applicable.

In my own personal experience, when I end up saying - or feeling the impulse to say - 'get well soon' to someone with a chronic condition, what I'm really trying to convey is something more along the lines of 'I hope your good days outnumber the bad ones', and 'I hope you find treatment that is effective for and accessible to you', and especially 'hey the fact that you are in pain sucks and I wish you weren't but I know that's not likely to change soon but also I hope that it will anyway because I hate to see people suffering and the 5-year-old inside me is insisting it's not fair even though the adult me knows that's not how it works but anyway the point is I hope you're in as little pain as it's possible for you to be in'. All of which is quite a bit harder to fit on a greeting card than 'get well soon', and which don't have any conveinent shorthands that will let me express those sentiments in a concise, understandable manner.

[i-say-stupid-things]

thank you so much for explaining this! i saw the “script failure” reply but didn’t really understand what that meant & also didn’t have the time before to further ask.

but this actually makes sense and i think i’ll try to just take it to mean things like that whenever someone wishes me well/a swift recovery now! again, thank you so much!!

[edenfenixblogs]

This is such a good interaction from everyone involved and now the world is a little better because people understand each other better.

This is so good. All interactions should be this.

[piedude]

Good job everyone, let's hit the showers

[identitty-dickruption]

look I'm a disability studies scholar so I know why people are like this. but. people really do get so pressed about the dumbest shit. why do you care if someone has multiple people in their head? why do you care if someone is existing with a mobility aid in your line of sight? why do you care if someone takes a couple extra seconds to formulate a sentence? even if you don't believe that someone is legitimately disabled (which is bad on its own. but still). what do you lose by just taking people at face value? and what do you gain by living life as an angry little ass all the time?

[ars0nsblog]

Me :>

[dainty-delicate-doll]

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