Never in my 31 years of being alive has a man approached me, told me I was attractive, then asked me for my number. Yetā¦that actually fucking happened today.
And no it wasnāt who I would have wanted to do that. It was some random guy involved in the construction happening to our science building on campus.
I was flattered but not really interested and he was nice and respectful about it, but I felt SO fucking awkward, dude. I have now realized that I have absolutely NO fucking clue how to respond in that situation. And lowkey, it kinda freaked me out.
I think because Iām neurodivergent, asexual, and non-binary, the notion of a random person approaching me in that way almost feels like a threat. Because I know the chances of anyone doing that and either a) being okay with me being non-binary or b) also being on the asexual spectrum, is pretty goddamn rare. And someone who ISNāT asexual showing interest in me like that does, in fact, feel threatening to me because I am very much sex repulsed and extremely inexperienced in general.
I never thought I would feel that way if this situation happened to me and itās kind of frustrating, to be honest. I know that there isnāt necessarily anything wrong with me, but this feeling makes me feel like there is. Like why does the act of a guy respectfully showing interest in me make me feel like Iām being hunted for sport?
I think I need to really think about how I may or may not want to approach the idea of meeting someone new in that way, and I now have the time since mystery gym guy is gone for the summer. I think Iām definitely not cut out for perusing someone who I donāt know at all, I think people Iāve spoken to a few times before or those who I know from being around them and are more than likely safe people who are also open minded and understanding would be better options.
But as of right now I only know one person like thatāa guy who works on our labor crew who Iāve wanted to talk to for a while. Heās been looking at me a lot recently when we see each other around campus at the gym or around the library since he works right next door. And I get the feeling that he might also be just as inexperienced as I am, which is more comforting than not, tbh. Heās also my age, so we might have quite a bit in common. He just wonāt fucking talk to me for some reason even though he canāt seem to stop always looking at me when Iām around, haha.
But yeah. I think Iād feel less threatened in an instance where someone like him tried to talk to me versus a stranger Iāve never met. That shit threw me so fucking off guard. Like I said, I was flattered by him complimenting me, but more than anything that really put into perceptive for me just how naive, inexperienced, and unfamiliar I am with all of this shit.