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Woman Surprise Her Girlfriend With The News She Will Be Her Kidney Donor - Watch the full video

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OH MY GOD THIS IS LOVE

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Update:

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AHHHHHHHHHH YASSSSSS

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Productivity at this point of the year

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Stop trying to make it seem like you give a shit about the working class, Hillary.

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DONT BRING KINDERGARTEN TEACHERS INTO THIS.

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She also tweeted this soon after Bernie made a veeeery similar statement. So ridiculous.

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When two students are having a discussion while l’m trying to teach.

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Um…yes…it does…surprise!!

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#PresentReady Schools

Here’s my question: Why are we so concerned with being “future ready” when we’re not even “present ready?”

I mean, do we really think that our students (and we ourselves) are truly literate in the current Web-centric information environment? Are we using the technologies we have right now to even a quarter of their power or potential? Do we fully understand the implications or privacy and security on our online interactions as they exist today? Are we well enough informed about the motivations of those who want us to buy their products, or the motivations of those who want our kids to continue to take high-stakes standardized tests? Can we say that we’re all good when it comes to the environmental, cultural, and ethical implications around the choices we make around technology and learning and schooling today? (Feel free to add yours below.)

Aside from never being fully able to get anyone to define what exactly is meant by “future ready,” my biggest frustration with initiatives such as these is that they shift focus away from what our bigger issues are right now. There’s a whole bunch of other stuff that we should be talking about before we start trying to figure out what our future needs are. (And by the way, how can you really have a clue about the future if you’re not living in the present?)

While I don’t agree with the whole thing, the summation that Jordan Shapiro gives in his latest post at Forbes resonates:

The point is that our children don’t need 21st century skills. Skills are easy to come by and simple to teach. Besides, those skills necessary to operate the current technologies and to participate in the current economy are certain to be obsolete by the time our children need them. What we need instead is a new kind of normalization—new classroom rules, new district wide administrative systems, new school designs and new educational customs that will break the cycle of winners and losers, haves and have nots, believers and heathens.

We need to teach our children that the goal is not self-empowerment for the sake of the individual, but rather for the collective. They must learn not only how to identify and discover their unique gifts, but also how to offer them up in service to the rest of us.

That has nothing to do with being “future ready,” but it has everything to do with being ready for the future.

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Let me preface by saying that I technically (still) enjoy cooking and stuff. I mean, I like the mechanics and the process of preparing a meal, especially if I have the time and it’s a meal that I’m interested in making. That said, over the past coupla months, I have grown increasingly resentful about having to cook. TBQH, the absolute worst part of my day is when I am forced to answer the question, “What’s for dinner?” Cuz clearly I am the only person who is capable of making that decision.

Given my druthers, I’d probably feed my friends and family the same two or three chicken dishes that I know how to make in 20 minutes. Instead, I feel like I always have to accommodate multiple palates and multiple requests like a short order cook. Cuz the main reason why I spent a bajillion years in school and a bajillion dollars on a fancy-pants Ivy League education wuz to serve food, obvs.

What’s for dinner tonight? Well, I prepared dinner bentos that include summer rolls with shrimp, pan-fried gyoza and chicken ginger soup with vermicelli. And you’re gonna eat it, whether or not you’re in the mood for it, sheesh.

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The actual constant struggle.

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It's not even 10 but it's already a rough day.

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Reasons Humans are the cutest animals:

1. They know that automatic doors open by themselves, ut when they walk towards them they slow down just in case. Sometimes they hold out their hands and pretend it’s magic.

2. They adopt smaller animals and live with them in their homes, sometimes imitating noises and sounds in attempts to communicate.

3. When they see something funny on TV, they immediately repeat it, sometimes to other people who were already in the room watching to begin with.

4. When they like being around someone very much, some humans will take clothing items from the person to have their smell around when they’re gone.

5. Many humans will take their favorite foods away from their regular feeding areas and hold off on eating them until they are sufficiently comfortable and entertained, to maximize on the experience.

6. Sometimes, a human will associate a particular song with an individual or event, and the song will invoke deep emotional reactions.

7. While many humans prefer to sleep alone, a large number of them sleep better when in close contact with another human who they trust and enjoy the company of.

8. When a human is particularly engaged by an enjoyable task or hobby, sometimes they simply forget that their bodies require basic care to survive.

9. Sometimes the urge for them to sneeze suddenly disappears, and they become frustrated with their automatic immune responses

10. Some humans talk in their sleep, or make funny noises or breathing patterns.

11. When a human likes another human, they begin to imitate vocal patterns and mannerisms.

12. Humans come in a wide range of shapes and colors, and many humans will decorate themselves with flashy dyes or fabrics.

13. They will collect random objects with no set objectives in mind- they will gather items such as paper squares, lengths of fabric, puzzle games, and pleasantly-shaped rocks, which they will excitedly show off to other humans.

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"My lesbian daughter has struggled with self-esteem issues surrounding her body since adolescence. I'm worried her body image struggles and low self-esteem affected her choice to date women instead of men, since she's never considered herself attractive. Help?"

- Question submitted Anonymously and Answered by amelia —

amelia Says:

Ugh. Body issues are tough. I know. I’ve struggled with body issues my entire life. I am a plus-sized woman and have been since I was a teen. To be honest, it is something I still struggle with. And I’m a 38-year-old woman who has been happily married to a man for 16 years.

If you want your daughter to feel better about her body, make sure your daughter knows that you think she is beautiful. Compliment her and tell her the body she currently has is wonderful. And be prepared for it to not make a bit of difference. Unfortunately, society speaks to girls and women a lot louder than any mom. Your daughter may only respond by rolling her eyes and never take your words to heart, but at least your words will be out there.

There might not be a lot of things you can do, but here are a few things you should never do:

Negatively comment on the weight of other people or yourself. This reinforces people are judging her for her body. If you comment that you are fat and you are smaller than your daughter, think about the message that sends to her.

Suggest exercise plans, weight loss/gain plans, gym memberships, etc. This tells her that you think she looks bad, too. Even if this is true, and that is how you feel, just don’t. If you are worried about your daughter’s health, still don’t. If she is an adult woman in this country and has body issues, she already knows.

Tell her she has a pretty face. This tells her that the rest of her body is so bad, her face is the only thing you could think to talk about.

Now let’s address your question about the relationship between your daughter’s body image and her sexuality. It is true that in some parts of the lesbian community there may be less of a stigma against women with less than svelte bodies. Women know what women’s bodies look like. Most women know that those airbrushed images on magazine covers are just that: images. How does this relate to your daughter? Does this relate to your daughter? The truth is I don’t know. Only your daughter has those answers.

But the real question is: does it even matter? I am a big believer in parenting the child you have today. Today your daughter identifies as a lesbian. Today she is a lesbian. As her mom, your job is support your lesbian daughter. There is nothing wrong with being a lesbian. Whether you realize it or not, your question implies that there is. When you ask if her body image has effectively driven her to date women, you’re implying that dating men is better, as if dating men is the first and better option. It’s not better. It’s just different.

No matter what body issues she may be having, your daughter can be counted on for one thing: to be exactly who she is. And as her mom, what she wants and needs from you is your love and support. So love your daughter. Love everything about her. That includes her body, her insecurities and her orientation. All the parts of her are beautiful, even the parts she has trouble with, because she’s your daughter.

As your daughter grows and changes, as we all do with age and time, support who she is every day. Don’t be waiting for a particular change or wanting one, but accept her for who she is. Respect her enough to accept and celebrate who she tells you she is. Because who she is—that’s her question to answer, not yours.

So parent the kid you have today. Love her, celebrate her and make sure that she always knows you don’t want her to be anyone other than who she is. And that you, her mom, will be there. Always.

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amelia is a mother, wife, partner and breadwinner. When not at the office she’s spending as much time as possible with her three young sons, husband and best friend. In her copious free time she knits, obsesses about science fiction and cult television, and reads way too many books. She considers her most superhero worthy act finding a couple free hours now and then to read trashy novels. Her post about the adventures of raising a young gay son are featured on Huffington Post. Read more by amelia right here.

Read more on The Parents Project, a first-of-its-kind digital resource for parents of LGBTQ kids.

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Low self-esteem and body image are tough stuff, complicated even further when LGBTQ identities gets involved, too. Remember when Huffington Post blogger amelia wrote this amazing piece about exactly that? We thought we’d remind you, just in case.

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I got this sheet from work. Sorry for the bad copy, I had printed it out for myself and later decided to scan it into Evernote on my phone for a friend who was struggling with both her diet and anxiety/depression.

Our dieticians hand this out to our patients, I’m not sure where the information is sourced from (I don’t even know if our dietician wrote it up herself or just c&p’d from the Web or a book) , but cross-referenced with other things I’ve read about nutrition and mood disorders, it seems pretty solid.

I figured I would put it here for anyone who wants to supplement their mental health plan with nutrition geared towards balancing mood!

Edited to remove the name of my workplace. My blog doesn’t fit with our “brand messaging” ;)