So what is it called when you wish you could just be you and keep your awesome tits without being seen as a girl but you also wish you could swap out a vag and a cock like a lego head and gender is something you dont want to have but you would rather it be boy than anything else because that's so so so much better than girl. what. What is that.
Anyone else have horrible anxiety and emetophobia, and the universe made your anxiety response nausea? And now you just get so stressed you're sick a lot?
Like, I don't want to go to dinner with my friends but we've been planning this for days? I thr0w up. I'm supposed to do some interactions with people I don't know? Well I "can't" go, because the thought made me thr0w up. I spent all day worrying which means I didn't take my meds or have caffeine? Guess what? now I have a migraine and I'm s!ck because of that. Lovely.
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This information is also on my website here!
Safer self-harming & first-aid:
Cutting the Risk (free book an sh harm reduction, first aid + anatomy info) (my favourite)
More Accurate Diagram of Safer Spots For Self Injury, made by an EMT with a phlebotomist, a paramedic, and nurse. No image description.
My website (wip), first aid for cuts, info on infections + first aid for (mild) infections, info on blood vessels, DIY first aid supplies
how to make butter fly bandages (image described)
Harm Minimisation, a brief guide to harm reduction for self-harm
Avoiding self-harm:
Calm Harm, an app that helps you āride the waveā of self-harm urges. Free in the UK and US, charges may apply else where.
The Hurt Yourself Less Workbook (edited to remove some fatphobic language + images of self-harm, original here)
Finding useful distractions/displacements, distractions and displacements, delaying self harm (more distractions/alternatives, even more distraction/alternatives)
Helplines & other supports
Self-injury Support's (uk) webchat, phone, text, and email support services. webchat, phone, and text support have limited hours, see website. emails replied to with a week. (does not track ip/location, if identifiable info (i.e. name, location) about you or another person who is "is at risk of significant harm or death" or is hurting someone else is given it will be passed on (i.e. to emergency services))
alternatives to harmful crisis lines (USA focused, some resources available in Canada)
Misc:
@self-harm-harm-reduction, my blog. feel free to send an ask if you have harm reduction questions
Self-injury support (uk charity, lots of online resources)
What is a self-harm harm reduction plan
Self-harm report card, "this report card can be used if seeking treatment for an injury ā for example given to health professionals"
Self-injury Support's resource library (resources not made by SiS found here, for resources by SiS check the "self-help info & resources" section of the menu)
This is super useful!! I wanted to add a little to this:
The app i used to recover is called HarmLess. You "check in" every day, and it helps you track how many urges you had, if you harmed yourself, and you put in a little journal note if you want to. You also get different app "themes" (color schemes) as rewards for clean streaks, check in days, etc. You also get to see a stopwatch counting upwards so you can look at exactly how long you've been clean and be proud of it :) if you harmed yourself and check that in, it starts the timer over and gives an encouraging quote. i've been using it for a while and i'm two years clean now, so i recommend it :)
every year we inch closer and closer to living in the No, I'm Not A Human reality and that is not what i meant when i said being a video game character would be cool
maybe if i switch it up and say "bro 2026 is gonna be so trash for me" the universe will grant mercy and allow joy to penetrate the veil of absolute apocalypse
y'all ever get so mad at someone that like their whole presence is the most infuriating thing known to mankind like SHUT THE FUCK UP WHO THE FUCK GAVE YOU PERMISSION TO BREATHE
i want transphobes to be so confused about my gender they don't know whether to call me a man or a woman as an insult. "you'll never be a woman!!" oh thank fuck. "you'll never be a man" yeah considering everything that's actually kinda ok w me.
explain your gender in 10 words or less without using boring words like āmaleā, āfemaleā, ānonbinaryā, āmasculineā, āfeminineā orĀ āandrogynousā.
when you meet someone cool and realize theyāre not cool and thatās why theyāre cool to you because theyāre really fucking weird in the same way as you