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haven’t been on tumblr since 2014

[parasocialrose]

i work in HR. also currently fixated on Heated Rivalry. my abbreviations are getting confused.

[white-boy-of-the-year]

WBOTY 2025 Round 2: Poll 3

Dan Howell vs Phil Lester

Dan Howell

Phil Lester

Voting ended onDec 15, 2025

As always, our inbox is open for propaganda!

[parasocialrose]

GUYSSS WE’RE UNSTABLE!!!!!

i am so tense over this it’s so silly

[amyoffline]

[adziedoodlesphan]

wouldn’t be a dan & phil liveshow if the website they used didn’t explode | more phan doodles here | ko-fi (online tip jar!)

[rowan-the-sorcerer]

dan going from traumatized closeted gay kid to proudly wearing makeup and skirts in front of his publicly claimed boyfriend. i’m not crying YOU are

[lesbianhowlter]

should we leave?

[parasocialrose]

we were spoiled this week 😭😭😭

[diphowell]

exchange that would've killed a victorian phannie

[parasocialrose]

show this to me a month ago and idve shat died and cried - in that order

[rayleearts]

Draw your comfort youtuber(s) it’s healing

Also can we appreciate the symbolism of Phil’s jacket??

[danandphilupdates]

from intertalent

3/11/25

[parasocialrose]

dans smile post-hard launch is so BIG and BRIGHT and i just feel so full of joy when i see it. could write an essay on why but my lunch break is over :,D

[fryday]

you know how dan said in BIG that he had come out to his family that month (june 2019). that means he was hiding his relationship from them for 10 entire years isnt that absolutely crazy

yeah it is. even if it was a situation where everyone sort of knew but no one acknowledged it for his sake - because, really, there's no other conclusion you can draw from the evidence that he had been living with phil through 3 apartments and hadn't dated anyone else - it is still so ... quieting to think that as long as dnp's relationship was the elephant in the "online" room, it was also the elephant in the actual rooms he would have been in with his family whenever he saw them. imagine not saying something so clear for that long. regardless of the respect they showed him not to pry, he would have felt the weight like crazy.

they surprised me with what they said in the bed video too, because i had no idea they were still hiding the truth about their status from their peers as well up until that video. I guess in hindsight it makes sense that they wouldn't tell anyone they couldn't absolutely trust since all it would've taken was one untrustworthy person to go blabbing about them online, but. to have both come out in 2019 and continued to maintain the front of just being besties to actual people in their lives for another 6 more years??? it's kind of amazing how they did that.

[parasocialrose]

it honestly hurts my heart to think about this. i was in a ‘secret’ relationship for 3 years - that was because the guy was a shithead, not like dnp situation - and it was awful. i can’t imagine having to hide such a beautiful , happy thing like dan and phil have done for nearly 2 decades.

i’m so full of joy that they feel able to share their joy with us but also with everyone in their lives now <3

[parasocialrose]

just finished reading ‘read between the lines (i will if you will)’ for the 3rd time since the hard launch and i don’t know what to do with myself

i used to read actual books 😭

[parasocialrose]

can confirm wicken fen is 10 x cooler since dnp visited

[phulge]

how it feels having to go to a normie ass job when dan and phil just came out as a couple of 16 years

[parasocialrose]

me sat working HR whilst my brain is on dip n pip crack 24/7

[pseudophan]

dan and phil coming out as a couple? not a huge shock. dan and phil having a consistent upload schedule? genuinely unprecedented i never thought i'd see the day

[parasocialrose]

the concept of knowing there’ll be content every monday at a minimum scares the shite outta me 😭😭😭

[adziedoodlesphan]

:] happy phanniversary to all of those who celebrate ♡ | more phan doodles here

[everything-is-as-it-was]

The phandom is like the abrahamic religions because some believe the hard launch has already come (BIG, Christianity), some believe it came, but, later, and differently than the first one pictured it, (literally everything since they’ve been back, Islam), and some believe the hard launch is still coming (Judaism) in this essay I will-

[everything-is-as-it-was]

After some feedback I have decided to add: there are some who believe they will never hard launch because there is nothing to hard launch about (they’re exes/platonic friends- atheism), some who truly believe it’s none of their business (agnostics) and then some who believe that they are together, but will never hard launch and therefore we must learn to be satisfied with what ‘little’ we have (Buddhism)

I would also like to emphasize that I’m not religious myself lol and I really don’t mean to force anything on anyone - this is all just in good fun !!

[absolutefilthimsosorry]

The waist touch photo got to me last night and I just need to be sappy for a moment.

The thing about the thEY toUcHed!1!111!!! thing for me is that it’s like queer representation in tv and film. It shouldn’t be a big deal to see queer characters portrayed on screen but it still is, it gets to me every. single. time, because I lived through a time when I could count the queer representation I’d seen on screen on one hand. Likewise it shouldn’t be a big deal to see Dan and Phil touch but it is because I lived through a time when they were so afraid of being outed that they avoided touching each other to a degree that was abnormal for even a purely platonic relationship.

In a time where we have mainstream shows like heartstopper, having queer representation in bridgerton shouldn’t affect me but it did. In a time when dnp are making explicit gay sex jokes, them touching shouldn’t affect me but it did.

So sure, it shouldn’t be a big deal but the context makes it a symbol of progress, a sign of something in the world getting better for queer people, an indicator of wider acceptance. And that is something worth getting excited about. Something to celebrate. A light in the darkness. So dnp can tease us about it all they like, seeing them relaxed and feeling safe enough to touch in these casual ways is still going to give me a tiny burst of joy every damn time. In the same way getting queer rep in mainstream shows still makes me kick my feet and grin like an idiot.

And I suspect deep down they understand this because they, like me, grew up queer in a time when it was less accepted and much less talked about. I’m sorry that their relationship has become so tied to the defiance of societal heteronormativity, that must be so weird for them, but it has and that means that their current actions mean so much more than they would in a vacuum.

[parasocialrose]

this!!!! yea, I am a parasocial obsessive weirdo but it’s all because of this underneath.