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I'm so jealous of your orders for Oklahoma! I lived about two hours north of OKC and I loved it. The summers are awful if you're not a heat person, especially with the humidity, but there's lots to do in the city. You won't be bored. If you have any questions, I'd love to help!

Ahh, thank you! I'm so nervous & excited at the same time. I've never even visited that area before.. I'm from California & have lived here my entire life. I'm curious what the people are like over there!

inkskinned

1. Date a boy who makes you happy, but marry him only if he makes you laugh deep-belly rumbles that hurt your ribs as they expand outwards. Date him when he sees that you’re hurting and he gives you a moment to feel that pain like a handprint spreading across your consciousness, marry him only if he can make you smile even while you’re gross sobbing. The world is not a kind place. You will feel a lot of pain. Make sure you are with someone who makes it all bearable. Humor is an excellent gauge of intelligence. Life gets boring. Find someone who makes the banal interesting. 2. Make sure he has scars on the back of his hands, it’s a good sign he has experience either fighting or making things - creation is an act of selflessness and bruised knuckles are a good sign he knows how to defend himself. You’ve got too much soul to be handled by someone who has never been passionate. If he’s never thrown a punch, let him at least have tasted the insanity of bringing an idea into existence. Rough palms are better than soft ones, they have been salted by this earth and made into leather. Callouses are evidence he has lived, that he has broken skin and been in pain over and over and over again and still came back to the source of it. People rub against each other. Don’t marry him if he can’t handle even a little blister. 3. Before you say yes, get him angry. See him scared, see him wanting,see him sick. Stress changes a person. Find out if he drinks and if he does, get him drunk - you’ll learn more about his sober thoughts. Discover his addictions. See if he puts you in front of them. You can’t change people, baby girl. If they are made one way, it doesn’t just wear off. If you hate how he acts when he’s out of it now, you’re going to hate it much worse eight years down the road. You might love him to bits but it doesn’t change that some people just don’t fit. 4. Trust your instincts. If he ever makes you feel unsafe, don’t make excuses, just get up and leave. That’s all there is to it. It’s better to be safe than sorry. 5. If he puts money before you, he’ll keep pushing you to the bottom of the pile until you become his last priority. It’s one thing if he can’t afford what you want, it’s another if he has the cash but won’t spring for a box of chicken mcnuggets. Money and love are arch enemies. 62% of divorces occur due to economic strain. Make sure keeping you is more important than his 401k. 6. How a man treats animals is a good indicator of how he treats children. If you see him raise a hand to a dog, pack your things into a little black bag. Animals at their worst are only half as annoying as a toddler on their best behaviour. Your kids will be beautiful, but they will also misbehave. Same goes for waiters and hotel maids - if he’s rude to those who are working for minimum wage, it says a lot about how he sees himself. Patience is rare and so important. If he’s not forgiving to a dog, he’s not good for your kids. 7. If he isn’t in awe of you, he doesn’t deserve you. You are my little girl and you were born perfect. If he can’t see that, it’s his loss. There is someone who thinks your flaws power his heart. Be strong. If he asks you to change, be like like rock of your birthstone, do not waver. You are wondrous just the way that you are.

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milsotherapy

anyone going to Navy Graduation Aug 22

Anyone?

pastryy

So close to when I'm going!! Aug 29th! ☺️

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if you want a nice body, go get it. if you want to become a lawyer, study your ass off. if you want nice hair, pick a style and get it done. stop being afraid and motivate yourself. find yourself. find your happiness, because it’s out there waiting for you.

milsotherapy

How long has your bf been at basic?

Liiiiike, 3 weeks now! (:

sojuandhenny

coral

growingracealways

This guy right here.

Four and a half years of separation. Four and a half years of tears and airports and struggling and fighting; for us, for our relationship. Four and a half years of fighting on the same team, even if some days and nights felt like we were anything but.

And now he’s all mine. More than I could ask for.

Mine forever. Mine every day. Mine every single time I wake up at night, in the middle of the night and roll over restless. I can reach over and feel him there. And that is an indescribable feeling. Mine for every moment I wished such was the case. Mine for every holiday and birthday, for countless seemingly insignificant moments we always seemed to miss out on. For movie nights and Netflix marathons, for taking out the dog at 5am and for holding ice on my ankle after my klutzy self has tripped again. Mine for car games and kisses at red lights, mine for doing dishes and hanging pictures, for dancing in the kitchen and tickling on the living room floor. Mine for singing wrong words loud and proud to radios and for getting lost in unfamiliar places.

My husband and my absolute best friend. Man, I used to hate when people said that; so cliche so corny. But I’ve never felt anything like this and that phrase is the only genuine way I know how to describe it. The one I want to tell everything and nothing to, my day my secrets my stories and my memories. He’s on my team, always. He forgives me, fights for me, and loves me endlessly, to the best his human heart can do.

And for me, that is more than enough.

We’re still learning. And we will continue to learn.

Every single day, for the rest of our lives, we will learn how to be together, how to live together, how to do life together, how to fight together, how to grow together for ourselves and for each other, and how to love each other.

And after four and a half years of lonely nights and empty weekends, that is more than enough for me.

The rest of our lives together is more than enough for me.

wifeandmommax

Marry your best friend. Fooling around is fun, but life gets in the way and when it gets hard, you’d wanna be married to your best friend.

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pastryy

Story behind this? Her dad was leaving on a 2 year deployment. She was crying, and wouldn’t let go of her dad’s hand, even when he stood in line, saluting. No one had the heart to break them apart.

i’ve reblogged this like 470348 times, i can’t not reblog it everytime