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headspace-hotel

me then (young, naive): i dont swear because there are better choices to make with my vocabulary

me now (older, wiser): I am master of all the words, and fuck is the best one

luckylectio

Anti

(For my fic "A Tale of a Darker Time"!)

louisegluckpdf

they won't tell you this in therapy but sometimes the best way to stop catastrophizing/anxiety is to interrupt your spiraling with "girl what the hell are you talking about"

ytpreviews

It's not a cure but you have no idea how many times this image has helped me with my OCD

notgreatthanks

This tag has been more effective than any meds I’ve ever taken

boomer-mythology-destroyer

jadeharleyinc

hey sorry. can you stand a little further back and we try again

tboy-cock

the weird thing about being a leftist is the government calling you a radical extremist and your family believing that youre a radical extremist and the whole times your main political beliefs are shit like "we live in a world where we could very easily end world hunger, homelessness, most disease, poverty, ect. and the people in power are choosing not to, and thats evil and should change" and that bigotry is bad

milanesa42

“The employees need a larger salary” “hmmmm large celery”

humming-fly

you ever have just like, a really bad idea

anyways if you like bad things here’s a postcard

humming-fly

I was trying to figure out why this post starting spiking recently and then I found out you animals had this queued for Mother’s Day

sass-o-matic

#Slimer.QUEUE’d #Happy Mother’s Day! :3c

hyperlexichypatia

Shocking development: in a language and culture where most given names are considered masculine or feminine, some genderqueer and nonbinary people choose given names that seem unusual!

genderkoolaid

whenever someone tries to make you feel bad about being fat, acting like being fat is some unnatural modern corruption of our Naturally Thin Ideal Human State, just remember your neolithic ancestor çatalhöyük skeleton 2058, a possibly disabled "obese" woman who carried heavy loads and stayed active till she died OVER FIFTY!!!! which was a good long life for the time!

would skeleton 2058 want you to waste your life and ruin your health chasing thinness??? NO!!!!!!!!!! she wants you vaccinated and active and eating a glorious amount of delicious food in your home with your loved ones. and also collecting auroch skulls

json-derulo

Source! good for her omg

bstrdr

[ID: text: "In conclusion, 2058 was a woman over fifty, obese, who had been in the habit of carrying heavy loads slung over her shoulder. She had sustained an injury to her right foot at some time and possibly limped slightly. This disuse may have brought on the osteoporosis of the calcaneus. The degenerative changes in the neck vertebrae may be the result of neck strain during carrying; otherwise there are virtually no degenerative changes to any of the joints and she remained mobile to the end of her days." /end ID]

genderkoolaid

@holyfootstool interesting that you mention that: 2058 was actually found in a grave with a perceived-male skeleton (2056), who was also an older adult! 2056 also did a lot of physical work in his life. he had strong legs, had a lifelong habit of kneeling while leaning on his left foot, likely dealt with chronic neck pain (altho his back was in surprisingly good shape), and his right hand was injured at some point.

its totally unknown what relationship they may have had though. she was buried first, likely in a basket, and some time later the grave was re-opened and he was placed on top of her and displaced her body slightly (this wasnt uncommon for çatalhöyük, where reopening graves and multi-body burials were part of the natural flow of how death was engaged with). there's probably no way of knowing who they may have been to each other, but they were buried only a few days apart.

there remains every possibility she was having kinky sex. with whom? only the wheat and bones and stars know...

intersexcat-tboy

I have no words for how disgusting this is. No words if I attempt to articulate anything about this same reproductive violence and rape I will go off for paragraphs but looking at this makes me nauseous and fume.

The justification (link) is "It wasn’t about trans men and if you can’t see that i’m afraid you’re stupid."

Just so people can block all the rape apologists

In case anyone needed the reminder, rape jokes are harmful. You are building the pyramid that allows people to be subjected to rape

intersexcat-tboy

"you are illogical for talking about rape culture, it's actually a moral or ideological defect so I'm not going to listen to you, and I'm going to dehumanize you for it"

Hmm where havel heard this type of response before? Oh yeah, rape apologists

Apparently @/chhopsky (massive acc on twt btw) thinks you criticize rape jokes by ... Making rape jokes. Because rape jokes are okay if you're saying them ironically, y'all are just "confused" and "stupid"!!! And need it simply explained to you (: she "hopes this helps" (multiplied by who knows how many times she's spammed this at users) as there is absolutely no nuance in saying how things are fine so long as it's a criticism

Ts feels so similar to "oh well I'm *hate* watching this movie I paid to access so it's not bad for me to participate in it since I'm obvious about how I'm criticizing it!!" As if that's not still supporting (via funding) and/or reinforcing it

genderkoolaid

on top of how this normalizes rape culture in general. the thing that's so frustrating to me about these kinds of jokes (specifically around getting men pregnant, with covert or overt implications of coercion/rape) is that if you do this to a cis perisex man, nothing will happen to him because he can't get pregnant.

like the above "joke" is bad regardless, for the reasons laid out. but this specifically references birth control as a form of pregnancy prevention. a core part of this "joke" is the idea of impregnating a man without his consent and then leaving with no concern for his well-being.

the only men that this could happen to are trans and intersex men. at this time a cis perisex man is never going to be vulnerable to that specific kind of violence, and there are thousands upon thousands of trans and intersex men who have already been violated like this.

when people make jokes like this, they are appropriating ACTUAL transmasc and intersex suffering to project into onto cis men in their revenge fantasy. it is an act of dissociating the actual lived and ERASED experiences of gender-marginalized men and making OUR oppression become associated with THE PEOPLE DOING THE OPPRESSING.

trans and intersex men's experiences with sexual violence and pregnancy are already erased in ways that further hurt them and contribute to their deaths. so when those experiences are ripped out of our mouths and away from the context our bodies, and projected lazily onto this oppositionally sexist revenge fantasy. all the insistence that "its not about trans men you guys!!!!" misses the point because this joke logically can't NOT be about trans and intersex men.

these jokes literally do nothing to cis perisex men and are a dagger in the stomach to trans and intersex men. its not feminist or woke or nuanced. its the opposite of all three of those things. its just pure visceral catharsis and callousness retroactively justified.

faggotry-enjoyer

Building on that, the fact that it could only be about trans and intersex men really highlights how bullshit the excuse of "it's just reversing the situation" is. Trans and intersex men who can get pregnant are not violently subjecting women to (actual or risked) unwanted pregnancy. We physically couldn't.

Obviously, this would still be a fucked up joke to make even if it was really "reversing the situation," because that shouldn't happen to anyone. Sexual violence isn't wrong because of who's doing it or who's experiencing it; sexual violence is wrong because it is violence, and that extends to the jokes that enable it. But in this particular case that justification isn't just inadequate, it's also blatantly untrue.

intersexcat-tboy

This is what gets me. "Women in men's fields" is about reversing what's happening. Someone posted a woman making a "joke" about being a family annihilator, where the man takes the position of what usually happens to women (being murdered, which men can be). So for the man to take the position of what usually happens to women in this scenario, the man would have to be at risk of pregnancy. That's LITERALLY how the WIMF meme works. That's how it's always worked. That the man whose field is being replaced by the woman then takes the "woman's" role.

The punch line apparently here is that it's "ridiculous" to ask a man if he's on birth control. But wait I mean cis men!! I'm OBVIOUSLY talking about cis men. 🙄 Because why else would it be ridiculous

(Intersex existence /woosh)

genderkoolaid

#Trying 2 be chill at the function but cant help noticing stigma against male pregnancy bleeding through the cracks of normal interactions

kropotkindersurprise

January 25, 2026 - A federal agent protecting ICE fascists gets hit in the head with a pot during an anti-ICE noise protest at the Home2 Suites hotel in Minneapolis in which ICE were staying.

Around 150 people converged on the hotel, making noise, blocking the road with dumpsters, breaking the windows, shooting fireworks, and vandalizing ICE agents' personal cars, prompting local police and federal agents to evacuate ICE from the hotel. [video]

bullprince-art

Aro pride drawing from aro pride week (late upload)

spotted-tomcat

A Japanese transmasc rapper named Cocona has become a Brand Ambassador for Gucci. GUCCI!!!! And he’s in Milan Primavera, a really important and fancy fashion show, strutting around with a buzz cut and all his piercings and visible top surgery scars and I’m like genuinely so emotional about this I need all of you to see this!!!!!!! 🥹🥹🥹

spotted-tomcat

He has been out for about 2 months, and in the time since his bandmates (as he is part of a musical group) have been nothing but extremely loving and supportive towards him, even rebranding from “Xtraordinary Girls” to “Xtraordinary Genes” as a way to support him :D

They now refer to him as their little brother and pet his buzz cut like a cat :]

I hope this can serve as proof to any trans people who may see this that there will always, ALWAYS be people out there who see you as you are and love you for it! It just takes a little time.

daisieswithdaydreams

@this-is-trans-joy

this-is-trans-joy

This is trans joy!!!

i-suggest-transing-your-gender

Every time you post about how much you hate men and that they all should die violently, an egg's shell gets a bit thicker and that closet gets deeper

transmascvash

NOTE: Wow, I wrote this piece anonymously and privately and did not intend for anyone else to actually read it. It was a way for me to vent…

Does NO ONE remember this article and it talking about exactly how harmful this stuff is for everyone?????

non-suspicious-black-van

This is a long but very well worth read for literally any identity please do read this through in it's entirety. Here is a snippet:

"I hate that the only effective response I can give to “boys are shit” is “well I’m not a boy.” I feel like I am selling out the boy in baseball pajamas that sat with me on the bed while I tried to figure out which one I was supposed to be, and the boys who I have met and loved from inside my boy suit—who believed they were talking to a boy. I feel like I am burning the history of the naked body that sits on the floor of my shower. The body that went to prom in a boxy tuxedo and coveted the dresses.

Because I am not a boy, but I had a boyhood. I was, and am, made to live as a boy and I cannot suspend the perspective that gave me and join in when it’s time to fluster one of those clueless fuckers into anger by calling him a fuckboi and then tell him his anger proves he’s a fuckboi, or to humiliate one with an OKCupid screenshot because we’ve willfully conflated the clumsy ones with the threatening ones so we can grab those solidarity faves. It’s fucked up. It has metastasized.

More than a few out transwomen have told me, privately, they they are uncomfortable with these things, but are afraid that speaking up about it would cause ciswomen to like and trust them less. “I play along,” one of them told me, “because in the queer community the only people who defend cisboys are cisboys. I don’t want to give up finally being read as a girl.”

Another says “I do the misandry stuff because it’s an easy way to earn queer cred points, but when I think about it it makes me uncomfortable.”

Another: “It’s a coping habit I’m not proud of. If I agree ‘girls rule boys drool’ it makes me feel more like a girl."

"My story is not what makes true what I am saying"

doberbutts

On that “white people experience racism” - my father is a white man with southern Italian ancestry that gives him tight curly black hair. When he let it grow as a teenager/young adult, he basically has what could be described as like, an Afro in 3c curls. Despite being undeniably white, he was forced by multiple employers to cut his hair short enough that the curl wasn’t visible because his natural hair was “too black.” He talks about his old hair with longing but he’s never grown it out since.

A guy I worked with last year discussed with me how people often mistake him for mixed black. He is not white, and while he read to me as mixed but nonblack I explained to him that I could understand why someone would assume he was mixed black. He asked me to guess and I said something latino and something Mediterranean, maybe Puerto Rican and Italian. I was close! He's Puerto Rican and Greek, nonblack by his own identification although due to the history of Puerto Rico it is very possible and even likely that he does actually have some African ancestry in his roots with the way the slave trade moved through the island, which we also discussed.

He has thick, bushy, 3b curly hair like mine, a big nose and big lips, prominent cheekbones and grows facial hair in the same pattern as I do. He's significantly lighter than me, lighter than my examples of Drake and Obama, but I would not consider him particularly white passing as much as I would consider him ambigously of color due to facial features and hair texture, which in his own words had him frequently mistaken for being a black man.

I also used to date someone who was white, genetically 100% Austrian according to his 23-and-Me results and in fact linking way back to some Austrian prince. With monolid, almond-shaped eyes and a facial hair pattern that made me think he was mixed Asian when I first met him. He in fact had many people mistake him for mixed Asian, and also had people who attacked him especially during the early days of the pandemic when people strongly blamed China as well as when he was a little kid.

Bigots don't follow logical patterns. There is no amount of "actually I'm xyz demographic" that will stop someone from attacking you once they've made up their minds that they hate you. It's weird to me to see people deny that, when it's a documented pattern of behavior that bigots perform again and again.

genderkoolaid

the patriarchy does not love people who are men. it coerces them into constructed desires (for power, for control, for wealth, for punishment) and rewards them for willingness to be coerced. but to be A Man, in the patriarchy's eyes, is not to be a person; to be powerful is to be a person.

this is why bell hooks says to create loving men we (as in, people committed to anti-patriarchal revolution) must love (care for on a political-social level) men whether they are performing or not. it exposes the lie of the patriarchy and exposes that there are other desires (for connection, for emotion, for liberty, for hope, for peace, for personhood) that have been silenced and restrained and there is real pain that comes from coercion.

bell hooks was not being idealistic when she explained that the revolution against patriarchy must start from love. not just the emotion or our individual relationships, but with a deep sense of shared personhood and innate care and compassion towards others, that guides us to political-social revolution, that makes an alternative world possible through the force of sheer refusal to submit to the cruelty the current system runs on.

genderkoolaid

free pdf of The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love by bell hooks

free audiobook of The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love

free pdf of Feminism is for Everybody: Passionate Politics by bell hooks

free live reading of Feminism is for Everybody: Passionate Politics

genderkoolaid

part of transmasc erasure is the assumption that because we aren't "the most vulnerable" in a specific context, we are already having our needs met in that context, so there's no need to bring us up at all.

trans men, particularly Black & otherwise multiply marginalized trans men are at higher risk of murder because of their (intersectional) transmanhood. yet you rarely hear people discussing transmasc relationships with violence especially IPV, how anti-transmasculinity is related to femicides, how erasure leads to trans men dying and never being known as trans men so they are not included in the data. because they aren't the most at risk, so why bother, right?

but they still suffer greatly and that suffering comes from + is compounded by the work of erasure. there is throughout the world a severe lack of transmasc/FTM-centered resources, especially as it relates to topics associated with women such as femicide, menstrual poverty, sex work, etc. there is an implicit assumption that if transmascs are the most affected, then we don't need support directed at us specifically. but we do & that support by and large does not exist. because neither the perpetrators nor the allies see beyond erasure.

so where do we go? how do we seek healing? justice?

and then of course there are the contexts where data suggests we ARE the most affected. and still no one brings it up. multiple studies show transmascs having the highest rate of suicidal ideation & attempt, yet personally I rarely see people specifically talk about anti-transmasculinity when talking trans suicide rates. there are people who consider themselves pro-trans, pro-choice, intersectional feminists, yet never think about how transmascs are uniquely affected by lack of access to menstrual care or reproductive care. it's almost like the goal of erasure as a systemic tool is to make one's oppression unspeakable and unthinkable. it doesn't actually protect us at all.

we are more vulnerable than cis women, but still deemed unimportant enough to ignore twice. we are hated enough to be hurt without repercussions and disposable enough that no amount of harm is proof that we are victims deserving of a voice. even those that should be our allies see our absence as natural and comfortable, and when we insist on our presence, call it artificial and unnerving.

solidarity with transmascs means bringing us up every time we are denied a seat at the table we are actively dying beneath. assume transmasculinity is always relevant.

genderkoolaid

#the gender clinic i go to has individual support groups for trans women and one for nonbinary people. nothing for trans men.#and there is no ‘overarching’ trans support group—just the gendered ones—so where do trans men go? guess we don’t need support ffs

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