“i can’t do simple hygiene bc im depressed” that’s easy babe! just do simple hygiene
Y’all always have to wallow in your misery instead of considering maybe, just maybe, the encouragement people like this give is just telling people to do one, easy thing instead of worrying about a whole routine. Can’t make yourself shower? That’s fine, just brush your teeth. Don’t have the energy to do your hair? Okay, just brush your teeth.
Making 1 small change that can start improving your mood leads to other small changes. When I couldn’t make myself shower I would make sure I changed underwear every day. And then I started using baby wipes to keep myself fresh. And then I worked my way back to trying to take showers every day. My record might not be perfect but I’m getting better.
It’s really unhealthy to keep the mindset that anyone who isn’t miserable and suffering under their mental illness or emotional problems doesn’t know what they’re talking about. Maybe they’ve just grown to learn how to love and care for themselves in spite of what they’re going through.
People want to get mad at Gay Jesus for giving tips he’s probably used himself to get over depression. All people see is gays being their entertainment and forget they’re fucking human. Depression and every other kind of mental or emotional thing you can think of affects marginalized people exponentially for every level of marginalization their identity can claim. Queer people almost universally have experienced depression or anxiety because of their identity. You don’t think a gay man this flamboyant has faced shit???
He knows what he’s talking about. Don’t over simplify what he said because you want to downplay it. Overcoming step one is always the way to get through things. This is great advice.
I gotta add, he’s also giving the most useful advice.
Your teeth are one of those things that will literally cost thousands of dollars and disintegrate if not cared for. You can put off washing your face, you can put off showering, but if you stop taking care of your teeth, your ass will get kicked for it down the road.
So not only is he giving GOOD DEPRESSION ADVICE (”If you can’t handle all the things, it’s okay, just handle one thing consistently and start there”) he’s also recommending the RIGHT thing to consistently handle, so that your overall health and quality of life won’t take a nose-dive down the line.
JVN is trying to help and protect you. Listen.
