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Nietzsche believed that you’ve gotta be able to think about suicide before you can move beyond wanting to kill yourself because only once you’ve accepted it as an option can you make the choice not to do it, and the alternative, to deny the urge and ignore it, would inevitably cause you to cave to the unaddressed desire you have for it.

And the dude was right.

The rogue’s gallery of psych students and junior practitioners on this hellsite have hijacked my post about not being mean to yourself to explain to people how actually what I’m talking about is cognitive-behavioral therapy, and how it involves disciplining yourself to never talk negatively about yourself and how it’s important to check with a therapist that you’re doing it correctly, and like, this is why I don’t trust and can’t stand these people.

Being your own friend is a holistic process, there aren’t exercises you can do or therapy methods you can apply, which is why most people relapse almost immediately after stopping CBT or DBT, because they haven’t actually made any progress in how they look out for themselves, they were merely thrust into a disciplinary regimen where they are taught to engage in habits which their therapist then holds them accountable to, and so, without that therapist, they fall apart again.

Not being mean to yourself doesn’t mean censoring self-deprecating humor, it doesn’t mean snapping a rubber band on your wrist when you have a negative thought, it means taking time to sit down and think about yourself as if you were another person, to really take stock of who you are from as objective a perspective as you can muster, and if you really want to grow, realizing that this person you see can’t grow if the person closest to them, which is you, spends all their time berating them and making them feel like shit.

Being friends with yourself is not a series of therapeutic exercises, it’s challenging yourself to evaluate why you’re a dick to yourself in a way you aren’t to other people, or maybe you are a dick to other people, and maybe you want to be a dick to yourself, which is goofy as fuck, but if you’re still suffering, maybe ask yourself why the fuck you want to be such a dick, the answers may surprise you.

audacityinblack

That thing of “always avoid negative thoughts” actually does more harm than good, in a lot of cases. It can actually lead to a system where you pretty much scold and punish yourself for not thinking “right.”

Something wild on today’s work thoughts:

Deep-sea fish don’t know they’re blind. They’re not even aware there’s a way to experience the world that involves being able to visually interpret it.

Some animals have no sense of smell. The idea that things can emit an odor is totally lost on them.

Some creatures have no need for hearing. They can’t conceive of the idea that things make noise when they occur.

The only reason disabled humans know these things exist is because other humans can articulate them. The ability to communicate with each other is crucial to knowing about senses you don’t personally possess.

…so what senses are there that exist, but that we can’t even conceive of existing, because nothing exists that can communicate them to us?

biglawbear

pastrypuppy

as a biologist I feel I must offer:

fish experiencing 3D space and specifically the living electrical presence of other animals with their midline, with such precision it allows them to do incredibly fast improv synchronized swimming

some trees physically and chemically connected to their entire species' population in an area, allowing them to feed each other and receive warning signals about predators (eg things eating them) from miles away. tree root telepathy but they don't have neurological tissue, let alone "brains"

animals with magnetite in their bones that allows them to sense and navigate by the earth's magnetic field

also that thing where pigeons can like. we think they can hear the tectonic movement of the continents and navigate hundreds of miles based on hearing, at all times, the shape and movement of the geological landscape

itznarcotic

tayne-dot-exe

spirantization

I see some people in the notes thinking that this is the Death card, but it's not. It's much funnier. It's the Five of Cups, upright, which symbolizes like. Loss. Disappointment. Emotional Suffering. You thought you were going to get something and then you didn't. Even more hilarious than Fox News bringing in a tarot card reader for Trump in 2024 is that same tarot reader immediately flipping over a card that says LOSER.

depsidase

thememedaddy

taxidermycanine

them: you better not be gay wolf when i come over

my gay wolf ass:

depsidase

the-disabled-mothman

Give my girl Mary Shelly more credit! She did not keep her beloved dead husbands heart with her and potentially lose her virginity on her mothers grave to NOT be given credit as the most badass gothic writer! We would not have the sci-fi/horror genre we have today without her!