美灵

Thank you for being alive ✨ | '02, raised on polish beetroots and potatos

[succubusboyfriend]

practicing self care less out of self love and more for the sheer logical reasoning of it’d be kinda stupid of me to expect myself to be able to function without proper maintenance

[succubusboyfriend]

“oh i don’t deserve rest and relaxation, i haven’t done enough, i haven’t earned it” and my car’s breaks don’t deserve break fluid because they aren’t breaking well enough to earn it. that’s what you sound like!!!!!

[inkcobwebs]

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web weaving inspired by "charlie's garden" by djo

[peachy-mei]

Watching Criminal Minds, yearning for Aaron Hotchner (as you do), when I realize he looks SO MUCH like my dad when he comes home from work

Sigmund Freud, you would have loved me

[curingourhearts]

It is nearly impossible to heal without forgiving yourself for 'wasting time'. The times you grieved in your pain are not wasted, you were simply doing everything you can to survive. Sometimes it can take a long time before you start making progressing to getting better but that doesn't mean your time now is wasted. The more you keep trying, the more peace you allow yourself, the easier it'll become to keep getting up and trying again. Recovery is painful, but that's simply because you will end up stronger than anyone could ever imagine when you go through it.

[daily-reminders-that-ur-enough]

You do not need to (and should not) give your 100% all the time. That's just how you burn out! Often your best is your 50%, your 20%, your 10%, and that's okay. It's okay to do a shitty job at things if that keeps YOU going.

[loveyourlovelysoul]

What you call self-sabotage might just be your body saying: "Familiar pain feels safer than unfamiliar peace"

What you call procrastination might just be your body saying: "I'm overwhelmed and everything feels too much"

What you call anxiety might just be your body saying: "I've been in danger before, and I don't know if it's over yet"

What you call neediness might just be your body saying: "I didn't get what I needed, and I'm still longing"

What you call overreacting might just be your body saying: "This feels like danger to me because it once was"

What you call emotional instability might just be your body saying: "I was never taught that feeling emotions could be safe"

What you call resistance might just be your body saying: "I don't feel safe enough to do what you want me to"

What you call laziness might just be your body saying: "I'm frozen because I had to work hard for too long"*

What you call numbness might just be your body saying: "I had to shut down to keep you safe"

What you call avoidance might just be your body saying: "Im not ready to face this yet. I need slower exposure to it"

(the.trauma.educator on ig)

*gentle reminder that body gets tired also after doing mentally draining work/job (which includes feeling stressed too, not just studying or working 9-5 in front of a computer -which holds responsabilities, anyway)

[desultory-suggestions]

If you are feeling good about yourself or situation and then your mood suddenly shifts leaving you feeling insecure, unsure, etc. try to remind yourself that nothing has truly changed but your perception. Your cute outfit did not suddenly become horrid. Your delicious meal did not tranform into a terrible one. Your peers perception of you has not radically transformed over a social misstep. Everything we experience is put through it through our mental filter, and that can convince us that everyone else sees us with the judgement we have for ourselves. Be kind to yourself.

[misscrazyfangirl321]

Checkpoint

Are you having fun? Do you want to keep scrolling or are you just on autopilot?

Have you eaten today?

Have you consumed water today?

Do you need to go to the bathroom?

Have you slept recently?

Do you have any chores in process that you've forgotten about or are putting off? (Laundry that needs taken out of the machine, a dishwasher full of dishes that need put away, etc.)

Have you taken all your meds?

If the answer is "All good," feel free to keep scrolling!

But if any of these reminded you of something you need to do, please take care of yourself. 💕

[shark-making-soup]

hey. hey.

wanting attention is not a bad thing. wanting people to care about you is not selfish. it’s okay to want people to listen to you. you don’t need to do anything to deserve love. love is not a finite resource; we hold enough of it in our hearts to love each other every single day of the year. you deserve to be loved every single day of the year. don’t forget that.

[thelatestkate]

[aurapalettes]

& you know what it actually IS lifechanging to smile at strangers & say please & thank you & goodmorning & compliment someones outfit & help someone in need & be more accepting of loving other people just because they are other people!!!

[weltenwellen]

Stephanie Foo, What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma

[weltenwellen]

Stephanie Foo, What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma

[peachy-mei]

I think I like this little life

It may not be perfect but it’s mine

And maybe, despite everything, I will be alright

Not sure when or how but I feel it looming in the distance… can a future have an echo?

I just need to stick around, take it day by day

Yeah, I think I can do that

Drink the same tea everyday, wear the same scarf, see the same birds in their nest on the same branch

Smile at the same cashiers, walk the same paths, eat from the same plate

Bathe in the same sun, run from the same rain, admire the same snow

I think I like this little life

I think I’m proud to call it mine

(I think I’m glad I saved it)

[free-my-mindd]

[lotuspositivity]

You aren't ungrateful just because you're frustrated with your situation. You can feel upset while still being grateful for what you have. Two things can be true at the same time.

[slfcare]

the most difficult thing about growing as a person socially, as in getting out of your shell and noticing that you are, is that there will still be times when it doesn’t feel like you’ve grown at all! times when you can’t really connect with anyone around you, times when you fail to enter into an existing conversation, times when you say the wrong thing (or nothing at all when in hindsight you probably should’ve). but that’s also kind of the best thing, because that’s the thing that helps you realize that sometimes, it’s not you or your lack of skills or any shortcoming. sometimes certain environments just aren’t for you and certain people aren’t your people, and that’s okay. that’s human. it’s okay to not feel the progress you have made all the time.