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fullwitchpatrol-deactivated2018

Inhibitor Bar in action…she hates it !!

No wonder she isn’t found of it. The inhibitor bar is a really devilish construction.

It prohibits access to her own sex (although she can not reach it anyway due to the mittens and cuffs) and at the same time invades it with squirming motions that presses in the most intimate places as she moves.

She has no way of sitting or kneeling as the bar hits the floor and presses even deeper into her. If it is long enough it will hit the cervix, and that HURTS. The only thing she can do is lean against something for support at best.

With each move the chains connected to her ankles will pull the bar in different directions, and as the pivot point is in the crotch shield each pull below will be translated in an equal push in the opposite direction above the shield… that is inside her!

As the walk is an alternating movement, the bar itself will also shift back and forth, so as soon as she move, the insert moves. It is impossible to not get wet during such a circumstance. Even the most stubborn mind will have to give in to the body’s natural lubrication, and when that starts… the arousal is already coming.

Even with the movement inside it is unlikely to be enough to get over the edge, at least not easily. So it will only be frustrating in more than one way, with no hope of orgasming despite the intrusion between the legs.

Add to all of this that the corset restricts the breathing a bit, and that there is no way to see a thing with the hood securely in place. Not to mention how useless the hands are. She can move, but to what use? Without possibility to see where she is going it is a huge risk to take, even though the movement will turn up the arousal too. But what if she trips and fall?

The sharp eye might notice the use of a vibrator tucked in under the shield to further enhance the frustration. It is out of control, possibly low enough to only tease and leave her starving for more. And there are also padlocks to make sure the chains and cuffs that connects to the inhibitor bar can not be removed by someone else.

The final questions are why this is so incredibly erotic in all its horrid evilness, and why it despite its violating nature and the hate relationship to it is something that haunts the mind and comes back as a need to experience again… and again… and again…

One of the parts in BDSM that often gets mentioned is the pain/pleasure mix which relates with the love/hate relationship. This is an example of a device fitting right in with this kind of psychology. It is also a quite strong tool for conditioning, mind wise as well as behavior wise. Kudos to JG Leathers among others for creating and bringing this odd and interesting tool into the scene.

hot

Please NOW!!

Decisions, decisions

HOW TO SUCK DICK

If you simply wanted to get a guy off as quickly as possible, all you need to do is lock your lips at the base of his cock and suction them up and down the bottom ¾ of his shaft at a quick, steady pace while pressing your flattened tongue against the underside of his dick. Make sure you are applying pressure with both your lips AND tongue. Keeping your tongue engaged at all times is key. I try to keep mine moving at all times. This is how you get 90% of guys off. It helps me keep from gagging to hold his cock steady at the base and bring my lips down to meet my fingers. You can do this very slowly for a more intense feeling, but make sure you move at a steady rhythm. Some guys like it faster or slower; you may have to ask, or more likely, he’ll tell you. This is your power move, the one that is actually going to bring him to orgasm. A true hooker blowjob needs only this one move; if scientists were to create a blowjob machine, this is what it would do. The other moves I’m going to teach you are artistic flourishes; you use them to add flair and style to your blowjob or to slow down the action a little. SALIVA Don’t be afraid to just slobber all over his love muscle. It should be as wet and sloppy as possible, especially during your power move. A good blowjob makes loud, gross suction-y noises. When I’m done, I’m usually covered in my own drool and leave a wet spot on the bed. USING YOUR HANDS If his dick is too big for you to take the whole thing in your mouth, you’ll need to use your hand too. Slobber all over his cock for awhile first so your hand will slide easily up and down instead of just catching on his dry skin. The most important hand move is the twister. When you slide your hand up his shaft, twist your wrist. A twisting motion gets you into a smoother rhythm than the straight up and down. Slide your hand up and down on the base of his cock in conjunction with your mouth moving up and down on the rest of it. The hard part is finding the correct grip: again you may want his guidance. Another good trick is to wrap your hand around the top of his cock and put your mouth over your hand. Then slide your hand down the shaft and your mouth down on top of it in a fluid motion until your hand meets the base of his cock. It will feel like you’re sliding your mouth all the way down him even if you can’t. It’s times like these I wish I could draw; I’d make little diagrams. THE BALLS I usually start out by paying some attention to the balls. There are three basic ball moves: you can put them in your mouth and suck them (LIGHTLY), lick them with a flattened cow tongue, or tense your tongue into a point and run the tip of your tongue all over them. I alternate between all three. Sometimes I lift them up and lick underneath his balls. Also, if you cup them while you are entering the home stretch, you’ll be able to tell he’s about to cum as they get higher and tighter. THE HEAD My next move is usually to give his shaft several long licks from base to tip. This is the ice cream cone move; it looks sexy, it’s a nice touch, but it’s not going to make anybody cum. While conducting the power move, I come up from time to time to give the head a little attention: sucking on it, moving my tongue in a circle around it, and flicking my tongue over that spot on the underside that all the sex websites tell you is el sensitivo. In my experience, guys don’t really go that wild over attention to that spot, but these are just flourishes anyway. I tend to get a bit wrapped up in my work that I forget to make eye contact, so head action is a great time to look up at him with puppy dog eyes and his cock in your mouth. FACE SLAPPING I mentioned this in my tips to get him to cum faster, but at least once during the beej, I usually pop his dick out of my mouth and slap it against my tongue or face, then look at him while I rub his cock against my cheeks and lips. Guys are visual, this is just a little something dirty for him to look at. DEEP THROAT I can’t really teach you how to deep throat, that’s between you and your gag reflex. The important thing, I think, is to make an effort to take him in as deep as you can, even if it’s only for a few seconds. It’s hard to explain exactly how I do this: try concentrating on relaxing your throat and jaw. As I mentioned before, it helps me to steady his cock with my hand when I go deep, and breathing in instead of just holding your breath also helps abate that “gonna puke” feeling. THE BIG FINALE When you’re ready to finish him off, go into the power move and don’t vary your pace for anything. If you’re cupping his balls, you’ll often be able to tell when he’s about to cum as they tighten up. I speed up a little bit at the end, and when I feel him start to come I push my head down as deep as it will go and suck slowly and intensely at the base, letting his cum just shoot down my throat.

bubblegumbeth

Lay me on your lap, stroke my hair and call me your good girl

love-diaries

“No one is “always busy”, it just depends on what number you are on their priority list”

—

doctordaddysir

This! I’ve talked to and gotten a lot of questions from subs about this. Also I’ve heard a lot of “he means well, he’s just always busy”. Here’s a hint. “No one is always busy”.

Vanilla, Fetish world, it doesn’t matter. If your guy, your fuck buddy, your Dom, your Daddy is always busy. If he always backs out of meeting you to hangout or do a play session, etc. If he always says “I was going to call but I was so busy” or “I meant to text but I’m so busy”. If it’s days between times you talk, or the only time you talk is when you Initiate it, you need to realize you aren’t a priority. You need to decide if that’s acceptable to you.

No one HAS to have a Dom, Daddy, BF, to be happy. Having no one for the right reason is much better than having someone for the wrong reasons. Be strong, realize you’re worth more.

accidental-muse

i want so much for my followers, who need this, to hear this.

this isn’t expecting a partner to give you hours a day of undivided attention. that is, quite frankly, overkill, unrealistic, and selfish.

but if it’s putting up with going days without a single call, or a text, even just to express their hectic situation…

and, as the OP said “no one is always busy”?

“Be strong, realize you’re worth more.”

rosesandultraviolence

Fingering her and then putting your fingers in her mouth to make her taste herself is big dick energy.

It could have gone easier, but Tanner fought his enema. Now, it will be hotter and soapier. The bardex nozzle will ensure Tanner learns his lesson.

77kura

de-clisteribus

“Take your underpants off and get down on all fours.”

tracknumber06

moeuo-deactivated20210807

I've seen people argue that BDSM & kink is bad because of aftercare. "You don't NEED aftercare or safewords for vanilla sex, because it's not harmful!"

Uh, hate to tell you but aftercare and safewords do exist for vanilla sex. It's getting your partner a glass of water after. It's cuddling and compliments. It's asking if they're feeling good during. It's words like stop, no, easy. It's asking if there's anything to make it better next time.

If you really don't practice communicating and aftercare with your partner regardless of how vanilla it is or not, you're just not a good partner.

anxietyproblem

lovemysub-deactivated20250527

Easiest way to explain healthy BDSM to a vanilla person who thinks it's wrong?

Imagine that you have a goal of getting in shape. After trying different diets and exercise programs, you find that you keep straying from them and inevitably you find yourself back at square 1.

You want it to be different this time, so you finally take the plunge: you hire a personal trainer.

You tell your trainer “ok, I have a goal to be able to run the Boston marathon by next year.”

“Ok”, says your trainer, “how much time do you have every week to devote to this, and are there any types of exercise you are unwilling or unable to do?”

“Well, I have an hour a day on weekdays and can make 3 hours on Saturdays and Sundays, and I have some shoulder problems so I can’t do too much upper body work and I’m unwilling to do stairs because I want to keep my knees healthy”.

So your trainer, working within those limits, draws you up a diet and exercise program, says “this is what I need you to do at minimum, and we’re going to start here work our way up”.

You start your program, and your trainer keeps you accountable. When you slip, your trainer reminds you of your goals and tells you how to make up for the missed exercise or the extra calories.

Now, the most important part of all of this is that even though the personal trainer may be the one giving the orders, ultimately that trainer works for you, not the other way around. And if that trainer steps out of line, you take your business elsewhere. You hold ultimate power, even if it doesn’t look like it in the moment.

Congrats, anon. You just described a power exchange relationship in completely vanilla terms!

Hope this helps!

-LMS

toodomforyou

Just in case anyone else find themselves having this conversation :)

-LMS

tempest-caller

@wetwareproblem @turtles-owned-miss I thought you two would appreciate this. :)

One thing I love about this analogy is that exercise isn’t all one thing. No one would describe a personal trainer as someone who forces you to climb rock walls, because while some might do that, others will have you do lunges, or push ups, or lift weights, or jog, or all kinds of things. Same with Dom(me)s. They don’t just “beat” people. They might cuddle with you or spank you or tie you up. It’s not all one thing, and what you get depends on the trainer or the Dom(me) you have, what you like and don’t like, and what you want out of the relationship.

The other good thing is that people might be exercising for different reasons. Some might be doing it because they like it, some because they hate their body, some because they have a goal like running a marathon, some because of other reasons. You can’t say all people who want a personal trainer have internalized bigotry that makes them hate themselves, because not all of them are doing it to get skinny and pretty, right? Likewise, you can’t say all subs have internalized misogyny and that’s why they like this. Aside from the fact that not all subs are women, women who are subs are that way for lots of reasons.

I mean this takes shitty SWERF arguements against kink and throws them out the window. I love it.

lovemysub-deactivated20250527

Absolutely, @love-bites-but-so-do-i. I have spent time reading the radfem arguments against BDSM and the common theme is “internalized misogyny” and the idea that women are so brainwashed that they can’t truly consent to BDSM activity, and like….for people who claim to be feminists, they don’t seem to have an awful lot of respect for women’s agency. It’s “women can do anything they want, unless they do something I don’t agree with” to those people. And that doesn’t seem like feminism to me. That seems like exactly what feminism isn’t.

itlldoagain

notsoinnocentlittlegirl-deactiv

Signs Of An Abusive Submissive.

1. Manipulation.

“But if you loved me you’d….” “You love me unconditionally don’t you?” “If you cared about me you’d…” “Dominants are supposed to…” “I’m a little submissive, you control me, so it’s all your fault.” “You hate me don’t you? That’s why you won’t do…” “You are such a dick, why can’t you just do something nice for me, for once.“

This is often done by “subs” who are out to use their Dominant for something, often to fulfill their kinky fantasies, and also often to get spoiled. The above phrases are often used to coerce the Dominant into buying them stuff, or participating in sexual play the Dominant is not comfortable with. Please remember you do not have to do anything you are not comfortable with, I don’t care how much tumblr says you have to eat her out or fuck her on her period, or lick his asshole, or buy her those new plushies and shoes every week, if you are honestly not comfortable with this, don’t let yourself get manipulated and talked into doing it.

2. Verbal/Emotional Abuse.

Putting their Dominants down, telling them how worthless/ugly/stupid/dumb/terrible they are, calling them names, and when you get upset you’re told that “it was just a joke.” “Don’t be so sensitive” “You’re overreacting.” “Aren’t you supposed to be the Dominant here?” “You control me so I can’t possibly do something to you you wouldn’t like.” Etc. This often goes hand in hand with manipulation and gas lighting to make the Dominant put up with this kind of abuse.

3. Physical Abuse.

Even if she’s a she, even if they’re 100 pounds and 10 feet smaller than you, if they even do as much as raise a hand at you or threaten to, you are being abused. Hell, even if it didn’t hurt, they are not supposed to hit you. At all. (obviously some couples like to play around a get a little rough and -both people enjoy it-, but I’m sure you all can tell the difference.) Again, if you say that this make you uncomfortable, they will often say things like examples already given. “I thought you were a big strong (wo)man.)” “c'mon, you should be able to take that, baby.” etc.

4. Denying you aftercare.

A lot of Dominants need aftercare too, and many don’t realize it, because for a lot of Dominants taking care of their submissive is their aftercare, but when for some reason this is impossible, Domdrop happens, and it can happen hard. Aftercare is not just for the sub, and if they don’t want aftercare but you know you do, and even after explaining will flat out refuse, it means they don’t care about your well being after an intense scene or session.

5. Refuses to give you any kind of love or affection or care.

“You’re the Dominant, you should be able to take care of yourself.” “I’m the one who deserves love here.” “You’re too big and strong to be taken care of.” “Why don’t you pay attention to me for once.” “Your problems aren’t that bad.“

Affection is so important in a relationship, if it’s something you need, don’t ever settle for someone who won’t give you those things.

6. Does not support you in hard times.

When say, a relative dies, you may not be able to be as consistent, you still want to be their Dom and they your sub (or maybe not, thats fine too), but you also need them to support you and care for you in tough times. If they tell you to suck it up and take care of THEM instead, they are again a selfish little bitch that only cares about themselves. Take care of yourself when you need to, and you deserve a sub who will take care of you too.

7. Talk bad about things that are perfectly normally in D/s but that doesn’t fit their abusive agenda.

“Serve you? What. No. I’m a little fragile sub, YOU’re supposed to get ME drinks.” “Beg? I’m too good for that. That’s disgusting, you’re supposed to please me whenever I want you to.” “No, that’s not how D/s works.”

(obviously this is different from a sub who is simply not interested in these things, it’s the phrasing and the reasons behind it.) They’ll always make everything about themselves, and when you bring up something that isn’t specially for them, they’ll guilt you and shame you. They’re only interested in themselves and keeping you under their thumb.

8. Deciding everything without negotiation or regard for your feelings.

They never want to negotiate or communicate, play can only be on their terms, them never letting you actually decide or have a say in anything.

Your feelings matter, don’t do anything you don’t want to do, don’t let yourself get talked into anything. Communication is everything in a D/s relationship.

9. They never obey you, they try to convince you D/s is all about the submissive.

There’s a difference between playful, agreed upon brattiness that’s fun for both parties, and using their Dom for their own selfish needs. This is often done by subs who want you to buy them stuff, care for them, spank them, etc, but they do not want to actually obey or serve you. They just want to use you and take advantage of you. Often times, disobedience is more of a sign of an ignorant or inexperienced sub than anything, but when it is paired with manipulation and other things, is when it crosses the line from ignorance to abuse.

10. You feel like you can’t trust them. They lie often.

Trust is everything in D/s, absolutely everything. If you can’t trust them, you can’t have a D/s relationship with them. If they lie a lot, even seemingly small, insignificant lies, it is a sign they do not respect you. Or they’ve cheated, or you’ve heard bad stories from their friends/co-workers, you’ve found suspicious things, etc. You deserve someone you can trust, not a liar.

11. Every single thing that would be abusive in a vanilla setting, or if you were their child, friend, or sub.

Every. Thing. All those other posts and guides and things online and everywhere that talk about signs of abuse? It all applies here. All of it. Don’t put up with what you wouldn’t put up with if it were any other kind of relationship. Cheating, slapping, name calling, lying, blackmailing.

There’s so many things that can be signs of abuse. In the end, you’re the only one who can say if you are in an abusive relationship or not, please take care of yourself. Run if you need to, run fast and hard, get a support system, if you need a stranger to talk to, my inbox is open for you. A relationship is about both people, even a D/s relationship. Both people deserve to be happy and have their needs met. Take care of yourself, you deserve love and care, and the submissive you deserve and dream of.

seekingmyinnerself

Unfortunately, subs can be abusive too. This time the dom(me) needs to run.

platonic-suggestions

“It’s bullshit to think of friendship and romance as being different. They’re not. They’re just variations of the same love. Variations of the same desire to be close.”

— Rachel Cohn

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