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I'm very different than i was 2 years ago.
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& shit it is 2014... happy 2014
i am ready to get on with my life. can't do a post like i did in 2012.
I'm very different than i was 2 years ago.
a lot has changed
wow, i need to write so much. but i am so behind on everything personal. writing and life.
after i write in my travel blog, my journal of secrets, postcards, long ass letter to my "big sis" i can tell you about everlasting, my stone, and the philosopher (he plays a littler part but at same time he makes difference).
im glad i didn't write in this when i came to the motherland. it would have been a "kill yourself" kind of blog. i was too depressed to write luckily.
all is well.
hard day and night
i have been asleep all night and all day and now i cant sleep when i really need to. i have to wake up at an unearthly hour of 7:30.
noooooooooooooo!
and i havent even begun my post from this weekend.. oh geez..
graduation
this is just a temp post because i am too tired to tip anything. but i will talk about my spectacular experience at graduation with my boy.
i will dream about it
im just gonna put out an outline real quick so it isnt out of order
1. woke up mega early so i could fix up myself to look real nice and cover my face so im less ugly
2. made it to school at 10:10 but slept for 20 minutes.
3. walked in saw my lil boy picked him up and then saw my 6footer and went over to sit by him
4. watched the service, notice how my boys were not sitting together at all....
5. afterwards said hello to people hugged talked etc. kayak took my hand and led me to my boy and i side hugged it
6. talked to him for a good while, his brother was standing there the whole time. he promised to bring me the snow globes and did not.
7. slept at friends moms house. went to PT and saw my cuz.
8. went to cuzzo's house. found out what was going with him and my aunt. her little 13yo pup is dying :(
9. suppose to meet kayak 10 before to speak of theories, was late and jsut told him talk afterwards. told bball player dont trip and ran up to my seat.
10. texted kayak most of the time cuz he and i were bored.
11. i stood over by the doors becasue i wanted to be closer to them.
12. at the end of it i saw my curly headed boy noticed me and he blushed so bad it was perfect.
13. i saw the boys kiss on the lips - it was magicial
14. i found out what i wanted to know about my man and it was interesting
15. we then went talking for a long time and imma gonna miss him. alreayd do. i will include what we talk about later
may day
i can not believe how long it took me to get to this. i hope this i accurate. thank gawd i texted tons of my friends tell them about it because i would have been screwed in parts. here you go, peer into my love life (or hopefully soon to be love life)
may 1 is an awesome perfect super day to me. it is my may day.
i get really excited when things work out for me. when things go the way i want it too.
i told my best guy friend (who is also my mans bff) that i was going to try and take him towards my car to tell him in privacy that i liked him. so very wise i told him that..
i rushed through my math test that day (which maybe i shouldnt have done). and went down to say my goodbyes to my few friends and the ones i could find.
i only found five friends.. which is sad. i wanted to say good bye to a certain four but couldnt find them.
fortunately the dean checked my room with ease and i was free to go.
i dropped off a letter, said goodbye to my roommate at her sisters apartment, sold my books, and away i went to the pizza place they were eating at.
the juniors had just came back from their new england trip. i spoke to some of them about it and found out what they did and saw some photos. i talked my curly headed boy on the phone a bit, but honestly, i wanted him to enjoy his time and with his class. he was cranky too. he has to sleep. he gets really mad when he does not get his sleep!
a side story before my real story.
i was talking to him on the phone for 10 minutes when all of sudden it got loud, and he got distracted. i could tell he was getting mad at everyone around him. and i was just saying, "hey whats wrong, what happened, is everything okay?" i thought the bus was breaking down late at night. he just said he would call me back. so i said okay. and the phone went dead. no call (no surprise). i texted him the next day.. well... you can just read it...
me:
You never did call and tell me whatever you said you would tell me later. I just remembered you didn't.
him:
I know I am depressed because (boy name) is a bitch and ditched me for a girl
me:
What girl?
him:
(girl name)
me:
Oh hahaha, does he like (girl name)? Last he told me he didn't.
him:
He says but sat with her on the bus instead of me
me:
What why
I would love to sit with you.
Nothing wrong with girls by the way..
him:
I miss you so much
me:
I miss you too a lot
it was just the sweetest and most sincere "i miss you (not to mention he added so much)" message i have ever received. also just the most significant one as well.
after that i got a text message on his phone from the friend who ditched him exclaiming that my boy had ditched him to go sit with his black friend, so the girl asked is she could sit with him and he said she could.
my blue eyed man got back to texting me and said his black friend left him too making him sit all alone. i told i would sit with him and we would watch semi pro. he knew that would happen. our conversation changed after that and slowly ended.
later i found out in the week that night i was texting him, was the night he went into an unstoppable fit of rage. he was so angry he did not want to share a bed with his best friend/the guy who let the girl sit with him. he was screaming and yelling, throwing things around. some girls in the class told me they could hear him.
most people would be turned off. all i saw was he does not like change. which is a problem for me. i want to be a change in his life. i want to be in his life. i do not think he knows how to handle it. i hope he is that way towards other people and not about himself.
back to where i left off (here is a refresher though (i need a refresher!))
the juniors were on there way back from their new england trip. i was speaking one of my gal friends (the girl who sat with my boys best friend) and she told me where they were going and i followed them there. i arrived the same time as them. and remained in my car just to catch my breath, make sure i knew what to say, that it was not stupid to say. i ran out of my car and my kayaking biffle told me to creep up and stay quiet. when i reached my six feet tall man i grabbed his ass and said, "i like this bootay!" he turned around and was blush and seemed to be over joyed to see me. we hugged.
i began my rounds saying hello to people. he kept his eyes on me... he was not gonna let me out of sight. he cried for me to come back which i did. i said some funny things to the vp and made him laugh hysterically. we were in the line for pizza and he was getting me the food i wanted and he even got the drink i wanted, he was being a sweetheart. i sat with him and talked and we were having a grand ole time. the star cross lovers that my boy hated that they sat together made lots of glances back and forth each other, giggling at my conversation with him. then.... all hell broke loose..
i brought up the terrible awful horrible topic of college. which he has no plans for except not to attend the stereotypical college that i and most of the sda culture attends.
(we will call this college, university)
he did not want to go to university because his entire family works there, he practically grew up there, he did not care that most of his best friends were going there. he told he wanted to go to utah. which it is my dream to live there. so i understood. but i kept arguing about how university was a great school, you should go there for at least a year, all your friends will be there you do not have to make new ones, i want you there... he did not argue so much when i said that.
i apologized for trying to control him and luckily a huuuge interruption came in. a personal favorite teacher of mine, told me how annoying i was on Facebook how i commented on every photo he was in saying goofy things. i looked over at him and he was turning red again, he liked it... how could he not!
people began to leave, it was just me and my boys sitting there. i told them how i wish i could take them in my car but i was packed to the brim of things from my room. my adorable blonde did not believe me so he requested to see my car. "how perfect did that work out?" i thought in my head. i should have knownthat my guy friend told him about it and he was just helping me out.
they both came towards my car, but my friend stayed further back and eventually just hid behind a car, leaving me and him, him and i... all alone..
i showed him my car and he just laughed because he said there is tons of room left and he no idea what i was talking about. i said if there is come with meeee and i tried to throw him in the car (gently, did not want my hulk strength to kill him). i eventually got the nerve and grabbed his arm and told him this
me:
hey, i gotta tell you something..
him:
okay what is it?
me:
i like you
him:
*body position change, half adorable smile*
me:
i like in the sense that i have a crush on you
him:
oh okay, i know
me:
what!??!? what do you meann???
him:
(friends name) told me
me:
*looks over where (friends name) should be* c'mon (friends name)!!
him:
hahahaaaha yeah
me:
well, do you like me?
him:
yes i like you
me:
you like me!!! *huge grin*
him:
yes!!
the guy friend and the gal friend come from their hiding spot (no idea when the girl showed up, whatevs) and they took a photo of me and him after declaring our mutaual like for each other. i hugged him good bye and told him i would miss him. and tomorrow (technically today in the morning), i see him... the story continues..
procrastination post (to the max)
may 1 is an awesome perfect super day to me. it is my may day.
i get really excited when things work out for me. when things go the way i want it too.
im going to finish this when i come back from food.
ah, a day later i come back to this post. just had to watch game of thrones you see.. i just wanna know what is happening to the poor stark family!
back to my may day.
i rushed through my math test that day (which maybe i shouldnt have done). and went down to say my goodbyes to my few friends and the ones i could find.
i only found five friends.. which is sad. i wanted to say good bye to a certain four but couldnt find them.
fortunately the dean checked my room with ease and i was free to go.
i dropped off a letter, said goodbye to my roommate at her sister apartment, sold my books, and away i went to the pizza place they were eating at.
the juniors had just came back from their new england trip. i spoke to some of them about and found out what they did and saw some photos. i talked to him on the phone a bit but honestly, i wanted him to enjoy his time.
okay im about to eat again! i will finish this today!!
two days later im back on. i think im going to just copy what i had so far and just make a whole new post all together the actual day i write it. till then ill just keep writing what prevents me to typing it.
i sat on tumblr on my other account and went thru and laughed my ass off at everything. i have finished game of thrones so that is no longer a distraction. im going to go eat with my moms friend and her daughter and its gonna be awkward.
i bolded what i will copy over to the new post.
today is the day
i have a math final exam. i need to get rest so i am at the top of my game. but first. i must tell you how i will finally tell the boy i like that i like him. i dont know how it will go, i dont know how i will do it. but it will be done.
wish me luck.
great... like you
you just cant say that without me totally reading into it like a crazy mad woman. wanna know why? BECAUSE I REALLY DO LIKE YOU.
it was a spur of the moment i could totally tell. im sure you didnt like my reply back - which was this " awh, thats so sweet :)))) "
please just call me and talk to me 3 minutes a day. please text me first.
i miss you
eyelashes
i have stressed myself so much. sadden myself so much.
my eyelashes are falling out.
im falling apart.
why i havent had sex & my biggest fear
it seems like in my title that my biggest fear is sex, i had it ordered that way so you would keep on reading. just to clear the air, i am not afraid of sex.
im going to address why i haven't had sex. when i have sex, i want it to be with my husband, the man i will have a child with. i want my own, my very own child so very badly. i hate my period, but at the same time i am very grateful for it because it means i can have children. i always thank god for my period because of that.
i dont want to take any medicines, im a natural person. i want my body to be healthy now so when i have a baby it is healthy. i want my baby to be the best it can be.
my biggest fear is... not having my own (i stopped for 5 minutes to cry, legit tears). i dont want to be lonely, i want to have a child. i really do not want it to come down to me adopting or having some mans semen put inside of me. i want to raise my child with someone. hell, ill be a lesbian if it comes down to it (no.... that is a complete and utter lie, straight for life).
i want to be a mom. i would be such a good mom too.
i have had so much practice with my future made of honor's boys and now baby girl. i have learned how to be patience, kind, strict, loving all in a mothering way. there is so much i know and learn everyday.
why wouldnt a boy/man/guy want that from me.
they dont think ahead, they are gonna want someone to take care of them.
what upsets me the most about the boy i have had a crush on since talent show in march, is that he doesnt care. he doesnt get it. and most guys are like that. they dont think ahead like i do. i think so ahead i freak myself out. its terrible and i hate it.
i have so much love to give, i never keep any for myself.
____ everlasting
i would put the first word to that but it would give too much away on who i was talking about. hopefully whoever is following me knows me well enough from previous post to know the boy on my mind literally 24/7 or just 100% on my mind.
wow, i miss him. he made life seem so care free and happy. he smiles all the time. even when he s made. everyday possible i just find him perfect. ill probably in my next post write all the pros and cons, so i can see them. so im going to stop talking about the pros and cons, just gonna talk about my agony.
my huge dilemma, my saddness, my agony... is that i am no where near the one i love. no where near with relationship, distance, understanding, since i am being so honest right now........... he doesnt even i know i like him in the romantic form! i dont know why i am already calling him "the one i love" when he doesnt know it... kinda weird.. i just know i do love him and i will love him even more.
i just don't understand why he wouldnt like me. i guess i really really really do think into the future unlike him. let me explain more - i now am looking for a suitable partner, a husband. i look at the guys and hoe there dads are, i look how they treat children and siblings, etc. i like how this blonde boy treats all the categories i look at. i mean, i really got to know him over a mission trip, thats adorably sweet. he is so kind... something to add to my pro list. (where are those cons, am i right?!?!) any who.. i dont understand why he wouldnt like me back. im pretty, sweet, not fat, good family, $$$, normal, funny, drama free, and i would let him do whatever he wants. im super cool about everything.
i just wanna be around him every second. watch him. i know it sounds weird and creepy, but i deeply care about him. he has something most guys dont have. wow... i need him, i hope he needs me.
your story is wrong
i hate it when people tell the story like im the bad guy. youre dead wrong.
sexual tension
the last time i had someone obviously interested in me was in 2009, a solid and maybe more than 3 years ago. this person i was obsessed with right away. i wanted him and only him. i got him and was with for 9 months and just lost interest, so i broke up with him. i left for spain and well, you know the story. he went for my best friend. they dated a total of 2 years. i stood there and watched and i crumbled slowly but surely.
they had sex. they did what i wanted to do. they had the freedom, the parents that allowed them to have this bond i could never have with anybody. she got tired of him and did what i did, broke up. i knew when that happened he would come crawling back to me.
it took him a while.
i thought i would be annoyed, mad, sad, and just yell at him. i have done none of that. do i want him to come crawling back? do i want him back? i know a relationship will not start because i have repetitively said i am going to argentina. now i feel like i am just saying words for no particular reason. am i lying to myself?
saturday night on the 26th at around 10:50-11:00 i had the longest and most sincere hug to ever happen. it was so comforting and i felt safe. i was not sad or in danger, but at that moment i needed that feeling and i got it. the hug was also awkward. when i thought it was time to pull away and move on he did not, he kept hugging. i had to just keep holding on. i told him its gonna be okay, dont worry. i was lying and he knew it. i told a funny story about meeting a redneck and getting hitched. he just quietly laughed. our faces were so close. when he left. he kissed me.
he kissed me.
i am for sure dramatizing this. i told my best friend in the whole in entire universe it was a kiss with no explanation. my personal life need an explanation. he was a cheek kiss. it was sincere and emotional. i felt it was the same just not as damaging.
i the psycho that i am... thats all that goes through my mind. i just do not understand why and what does it mean. i liked it i will admit it, but i do not know what to do about it.
im just fucked this week.
one lonely college night
my roommate is out with her best friend and her boyfriend. i was invited. i put my studies first like i knew i should. the invitation was done while i was in the basement of the library. my cell phone had no service. the invitation was done by my roommate calling my repeatedly until i answered. i did not answer so they left and went rock climbing. i want to be able to rock climb. boys like girls who do cool things. i need to find a husband. college is where you will probably meet your spouse. and i wouldnt mind having cute photos of us in college to show our kiddos. it wont happen to me. ill meet him in the boring work place. or worse.... not at all.
it is one of my main concerns. who will i marry??? i just want to know now. i stress about it all the time. i should probably stop eating so much. i should try and get lean and tight. thats what i like. i need to look good so they want me. no one wants a fat gross girl. speaking of girl. i need to be a woman. back straight. boobs out. style. walk with a purpose. i can not possibly do all of that.. hopeless.
one of my friends wants to get his ged. become a professional kayaker. he is very attractive. i want to make a personal collage of his best photos and hang it some where. its really creepy. he is also one of my best friends. he is the best person i know and he is a friend, making him my best friend. i miss him. when he gets his ged he might come to my school. another friend for me! i would leave this dorm in a heartbeat and get an apartment with him. i will cook and clean. i will make it happen and get the grades i need. it would be the best.
i am almost hundred percent postitive that normal college kids are bringing in the weekend by drinking. i never would want to do that. i just want to blog and tumble thru tumblr. but, i do feel like i should do it. just to get it out of the way. to tell my kids something. but, why would i run the risk of under age drinking? my kids are going to think i am lame no matter what i tell them. and if i do become a parent, and i want to be a good one, i am hope i am not a fool and tell them ridiculous stories so my kids could possibly like me. its weak.
i just hope my choices are all good. i hope i am not being too up tight. i hope i enjoy college.
5 days down, 271 more to go
my first week of college is done. first day was the worst day. i walked in the classroom no idea where to sit. it was so cold in there too. i wore white cardigan and an argentina blue urban outfitter dress and roxy sandals. i felt my body collasping it was just so cold. i took notes, took quickly, i couldnt read my hand writing last night. it was hard to want to homework and study, but i did it. i made it through alive. the test wasn't what i thought it was going to be. i thought it would be complex. it was simple to do. and it was either you knew or you didn't. the homework was stupid. i had to sketch the friggin moon.. i had to measure the suns shadow at noon. i can't wait to be done in three weeks with this class.
advice i will tell my children:
if you can, get ahead. go to sleep early. fun is for the weekend. make friends in weird situations and thru people (during a fire drill & become friends with moms classmates kids). don't eat unhealthy, once you start you can't stop. the opposite sex... give them a month, they will come around. don't be a fool. back straight, be proud, look like you want somebody. the first week is hell, you'll be okay on saturday.
im just sad - about a boy
its truly unfair to me. it really is. i get it though. "life isn't fair" and at time i am glad it isn't. because if it was, i would be screwed over at times. as everyone else wishes, they wish their plans would work. because their plans seem the best. thats how i feel too.
i will explain to you.
in the very beginning of the summer i went to china with my school group for a mission trip. i practically fell in like (not love, you see what i did there) with a boy who went to. i had worked with him previously on sketch and that's was the first time i spoke to him really. he was funny made me laugh. he is two years younger than me i looked at him as just some boy. it changed when i got there. i just wanted to be around that person. i noticed i got annoying so i backed off a lot. when i did the other girls went all over him. and they didn't know when to stop. so i am guessing (can't read minds) he realized i was better, funny, understanding, etc. (im assuming this by the way). he began to seek me out. he would say "i was looking for you" and i would just be over joyed. he would save me a seat at dinner. he would talk to me. he told me things. i was interested. he wasn't what people had said. he just had a terrible memory and wasn't a great listener. it was okay, i didn't mind it at all.
our last night together he told me three times he would miss me. i told him i would miss him too after he told me the third time. we agreed we both get each others gifts. he was going to russia and i was going to japan. i told him to get me a little snow globe and a pin. i told him i would surprise him. he gave me a hug (kind of) and he said he just wants to squeeze me. a little odd, but it worked for me.
we agreed we would meet the first week i was at school (which is this week) and we would eat hot dogs, play cards, exchange gifts and have a joyous time. nope.. nah. im at home right now, no idea what he is doing.
we went our separate ways, little did i know how separate they were. i spoke to him once through texting. i sent him a photo of an in-n-out burger. he said "i hate u so much" (joking fyi) "glad to hear from you. even if its that you hate me..." "i hate u in aloving way" and that was our conversation. this is me ^^^ i said that just to specify.
it makes me so sad because i thought it would be my turn to have that happiness. someone there just to talk to. i just don't have that guy. most of my friends have boyfriends and are very satisfied. i'm just lonely.
he was nice to me, low maintenance, he was far from becoming a jerk, and he was surprising in an interesting way. he was what i wanted right now.
thats why i am sad.
i wasn't going to give up (yet).
i was going to drive down to his school and my old school and visit friends and make him realize i was great and get his friends to tell him to pursue.
nope. nah. not happening. i probably won't have wheels till january and even then i'll only have half the wheels.
i give up now.
i want people to come to me. i don't want to pursue anymore. i don't want to over think.
i heard college boys are jerks and want to have sex and drink and almost everything i have no interest in doing. i know i am going to a religious based college, but that doesn't change people hardly ever. it makes it worse. with my luck, i will end up in a abusive relationship with "no way out" or something i make up in my head. if i end up in that i hope to come back and read this. "get out you dumbass." simple as that.
college. i can't have this at college. i need to leave it behind me. my thoughts, my feelings. positive positive positive positive positive positive realistic..
it has been a while
it has been months since i have an opportunity to write down my feelings. luckily, my feelings and emotions have changed so much. i now do not feel like dying is a option. in fact it is not. no one would watch after my parents after i am gone. my brother, he will be dead in the next year or so or in jail... trying to bring the illegals over.. that is the bright side of looking at it.
lots has happened. i noticed my family likes to push me around and hit me, literally. november i was treated that way. things changed for me then on. i had to become strong in a different way. a way people will not understand.
december, i had to become even stronger. he flunked out. just like that. i now become the only hope to bring glory.
and second semester. oh you, you were the worst. i had the most difficult times with friends. staying in the middle. it is just impossible for people to grow up and stop hating.
it has been quite a while... during that time i could feel this place waiting for me to come back. i did not want to. it makes me wonder. it makes me sad. it makes me cry.