... piper ?

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[piperclouded]

piper

adult-boded osdd system of 20+

she/any (get silly with it)

i'm very mentally ill, and have constant unexplained exhaustion problems, please be aware of that when interacting. i will not be listing my diagnoses unless i feel they are relevant to a conversation.

no dni, but will follow yours. if i don't like you, i'll just block you. i suggest you do the same to me, if for whatever reason you don't want me to interact with you.

[piperclouded]

below the cut for comfort

so what do you do when you majorly fuck up bc you thought you had your bpd under control and it turns out you don't. what do i even do now. i am trying so hard to be stable. goddd what do i even do w myself anymore :(

[whumpologyy]

pick an injury to give to prev's character

a black eye

a bloody nose

broken ribs

dislocated shoulder

head injury

cigarette burns

whipping scars

broken ankle

bloody gashes

gunshot wound

Voting ended onMay 29

[diserbillyti]

Honestly man I kind of love telling able people I used to be a support worker. The response is always ableist but sometimes it's in a surreal and fascinating way.

Once I had someone do the whole "that seems so hard, you must be so patient" standard routine. I ask her, "why's that?" You know, why do I need to be some kind of virtuous martyr to watch 90s cartoons with other disabled people for $30 an hour?

And she says to me, with full seriousness and a look of utter dread on her face,

"All the biting."

OK mate. What do you mean. What biting. What are you on about.

"The biting," she repeats, as if it's obvious and I ought to intuitively know what she means. Then she kind of snaps her teeth to demonstrate. "You know?"

No I don't know. What do you mean biting.

"They bite," she says. Eyes wide, dead serious. "The, um, the Slow People. They bite."

Melany, I says to her I says, they're not damn draculas.

[mogaiclan]

selfship flag cat? 🥹🥹🥹

ParchmentHoney!

Yume/Selfship cat!

Flag originally coined by Pawwesome on Twitter/X!

[captainstarburst]

this is not to say you shouldn't make characters with strabismus- you should! i want to see people with my disabilities! but i think a little research can go a long way. i'd love to see it given more depth in writing than just being an indicator of intelligence (which it isn't and never has been!)

[thelocalweird]

Yeah you support mentally ill people, but are you normal about bfrbs?

[piperclouded]

potential host change :[

[bioethicists]

i'm just thinking abt how many providers i've had who heard my story abt psychiatric abuse + immediately individualized it. "oh, you're so smart + kind+ obviously sane! you didn't deserve that! i can't believe they gave you that diagnosis when you're obviously not like that! they shouldn't have treated u like that when all you did was xyz! they shouldn't have assumed you were crazy like that!"

there is always a third person haunting this interaction- the patient who does deserve that, who is "actually" that evilscary diagnosis, who did Have To be treated like that. if i want to soak up the affirmations of these providers, i must be careful to never become this third person. i must affirm myself by setting myself apart from her- i did not deserve to be treated like that because i am not like that.

i reject this. not only was i like that, she + everyone else like that deserve everything i deserve. they are my siblings + my friends + my lovers. i do not need to cut them out of me to believe i deserved better. i refuse to comfort myself through the lens of someone else's dehumanization. the tragedy is not that psychiatric violence was applied to someone who not insane enough to warrant it. the tragedy is the violence.

[rainclangai]

intro

hi! welcome to rainclan! this blog will include art, writing, coining, and storytelling. it's run by @zoeylavenderz ! this blog is a mogai warrior cats blog, meaning it's a warrior cats story but all the cats are queer and use microlabels.

if you think this is unrealistic, go reread the books again- nothing about this universe is realistic.

this blog is safe for just about everyone (excluding radqueers), and has no stance on syscourse or shipcourse. this blog is pro-subtliden (good faith identities such as bi lesbian and lesboy). this blog is ran by a mentally ill traumagenic adult system.

important links

gender terms

rainpaw

[piperclouded]

could i perhaps get a promo... :3c

@rwuffles @squidfreak uhh idk who else to tag... anyone who wants to?

Reblog to let prev know their presence is wanted

[postmanic]

important !

low supports needs autism :

- not always high masking

- not always able to mask at all

- not always fully verbal or verbal at all

- can be very visibly autistic

- can be diagnosed early in life

- can be in disability support services

- very common to not be employed or to not live alone or to not know how to drive, etc.

- does not mean "no support needed"

- does not mean "basically a allistic person"

low supports means low compared to other autistic people! still need a lot of support compared to a neurotypical able bodied person.

am not low supports needs autistic myself but have friends who are ! low supports needs autism still a disability still important to not make assumptions

[piperclouded]

having some system changes/issues rn. very scary. has anyone ever had a little (12) as a host? if so, how did it go? feel like brain is pulling me (little) to be the new host. scary.

[i-remember-there-was-mist]

April Fool’s Day is in a few days, and I just wanted to make this clear. This blog is safe, and I can promise you no screamers, nothing emotionally abusive, no fake posts, and nothing to intentionally trigger dissociation. You are safe here.

[in-sufficientdata]

What was your first used form of communication online (youngsters edition)

AIM

Friendster

MySpace

Skype

TeamSpeak

PalChat

DMing on Facebook/Messenger

DMing on Twitter

DMing on another microblogging site

Discord

something else that came into existence between 2000-2013

I am baby and should not actually be allowed on this site

Voting ended onMar 31

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[dragonsarecool1213]

How To Actually Keep People You Don't Like Away From Your Blog

and why DNI's don't work and are kinda... weird?

I see a lot of folks on tumblr (and sometimes other sites) so desperately try to keep racists or bigots or whatever off of their blog. But it's almost always in the form of a "DNI" (or "Do Not Interact") a small or sometimes huge list of descriptors of the kind of people the user doesn't want interacting with that blog.

But the issue is... 99% of the labels of people listed aren't concepts people self identify with.

People who are racist, xenophobic or commit crimes DON'T SELF IDENTIFY AS RACISTS, BIGOTS OR CRIMINALS!!!

Which then completely and utterly makes the concepts of DNIs pointless.

They will read that DNI go "oh! this doesn't apply to to me" and ignore it. Boom completely useless piece of text taking up precious space on your blog for no reason. And even on the tiiiiniest chance you list a label that someone might identify with... they can just.. ignore it if they like ur content..

so in short.. DNI's do nothing.. except they DO do one thing... They fill your blog, bio or intro post (or god forbid every post) with a bunch of potentially triggering words and tons of negative energy. For literally no reason. Nothing makes me assume a blogger is annoying or unfun to be around like seeing a DNI. And not to mention all the times i've had my day ruined by trying to enjoy scrolling thru a tag only to be constantly blasted with "HEY REMEMBER THAT [insert horrible thing] EXISTS???". It sucks. And it's driving me mad.

But I'm not just here to rant about it, about how awful they are and that noone should use them. I understand that people want to enjoy their time on their internet and curate your space, so i'm going to show you the SUPER easy SUPER effective way to actually do that. And it can go RIGHT where your DNI is!

HOW TO ACTUALLY KEEP PEOPLE YOU DON'T LIKE OFF YOUR BLOG IN ONE EASY STEP:

List the things you DO support.

That's it.

Take your DNI and invert it. List all the groups you support. Wanna keep terfs off your blog? say I LOVE TRANS PEOPLE!!! TRANS WOMEN ARE WOMEN! want to keep racists off your blog? I SUPPORT BIPOC RIGHTS. etc etc.

How does this work? Well lets go back to that hypothetical racist on the internet: They come strolling upon ur blog dum dee dum and now they see ur intro and bio. They see that you support bipoc rights, landback movements and insert other movements that support marginalized groups. Said hypothetical racists will see that, go 'ew' and then leave. Probably.

is it 100% effective? no. many ppl don't even read bios or intro posts and some folks follow ppl they disagree with. But for the most aggressive of these types? 10-20% of them going ew and leaving is better than 0% doing anything after reading a DNI they don't believe applies to them.

But that's not the only thing this method does. Because here's the thing.. I don't really believe people have DNI's to keep people off their blog. Shocking.. i know. For most ppl it's a list of their morals so they can show off how 'morally good' they are. Which is a whole can of nasty worms I'll go into in another post. But for now I'll take it at face value and go with it. And tell you that if you want to broadcast your morals, why do it with hate?? Because all that does is spread that hate and negativity, all it does is remind all the marginalized folks who you DO want around, of all the people who suck and hate them and making feeling like shit. But a support list? a list of groups you support? well now you just have a paragraph dedicated to love, the folks you actually want interacting with you will be like 'oh damn, they like and support my people. awesome :)'

and to me that is far faaaar more important than just listing down all the people you hate.

That's it for my ramble on this topic- "oh but mr throwawayblog what about [x, y, z] or people who disagree with me on [x stupid internet discourse topic]?" that is once again another nasty can of worms that I will be saving for future posts, either on this blog or another. But it's a lot harder pill to swallow then this. And I want this post to be shareable enough to spread at least somewhat and reduce the amount of DNI's im forced to look at. by idk, at least 10%?? at least?? please?????

thanks and good night.

*This does not apply to minor's DNI requests on 18+ accounts. While also not.. super useful.. it at least makes sense and has a precedent. This post is not talking abt that.

[thetadelta]

This also falls into the most basic, most important piece if activism advice out there: you need to love the oppressed more than you hate the oppressor, or all you're actually doing is looking for excuses to be be angry and divisive.

"Racists DNI", for example, shows me you are focused on bigots and says nothing about whether you actively support POC– I have zero trust that someone with this statement on their profile actually knows what racism looks like or meaningfully supports people affected by it. Statements like "Black Lives Matter" or "Land Back", on the other hand, show me you are vocally supportive of marginalized groups and aligned with specific antiracist values.

[renthony]

If I may go on a pissy little vent for a moment, I am really fucking tired of other Americans acting like Florida has already fallen totally to fascism, there are no Floridian leftists, and Florida can just be written off entirely as a "lost cause."

There are Black and brown and indigenous and Jewish and queer and disabled and countless otherwise marginalized Floridians, all fighting tooth and nail for our home and community. But everyone acts like we don't matter or should "just leave."

And it makes me so tired, y'all. I LOVE Florida. I love its people and its environments so, so fucking much. I want better for my beloved home, and I want people to stop treating it as a fucking joke.

I want people to stop acting like there's nothing here to love and protect. Your "Florida is a nasty swamp full of Republican rednecks and crazy Florida Men" stereotyping is HURTING PEOPLE. Do better!