time stands still as days go by

elise • black • bi and nb • 22

[starlightacademia]

“It's taboo to admit that you're lonely. You can make jokes about it, of course. You can tell people that you spend most of your time with Netflix or that you haven't left the house today and you might not even go outside tomorrow. But rarely do you ever tell people about the true depths of your loneliness, about how you feel more and more alienated from your friends each passing day and you're not sure how to fix it. It seems like everyone is just better at living than you are. A part of you knew this was going to happen. Growing up, you just had this feeling that you wouldn't transition well to adult life, that you'd fall right through the cracks. And look at you now, it's happening.”

[vinegarextract]

this is my takeaway from Everything Everywhere All At Once

[lukois]

getting really into penis lately

[tallrugbyguy]

Is it getting into YOU, though?

[lukois]

[cornbreadlesbian]

The art of pie

[relelvance]

Can you describe the culprit using this picrew creator

[straightwoman]

https://www.fatgirl.fatlibarchive.org/

FaT GiRL Archive

[lothringenn]

[compyuter]

🪤

such an awesome emoji

[1dietcokeinacan]

🐀🪤

it makes me so sad that he will never see it wtf. I want him to be facing it. This is the biggest mistake that has ever been made in all of history .

[kattmeithmath]

🪤 🐀

[1dietcokeinacan]

He’s not facing it he’s facing the back. He cannot see the cheese in this configuration. WRONG

[karyey]

NO girl dont ruin your early 20s by staying home every saturday and lamenting the death of your childhood while also being afraid to even act like a 20 something year old bc you still feel so young yet so old and lost all at once haha you’re so sexy!

[itscolossal]

30,000 Photographs of Black History and Culture Are Available From Getty’s Archive

[tenya]

nintendo online sucks because it’s not “pay us for an internet connection that you can then use to play games online” it sucks because it’s “pay us for the privilege to use the internet that you already pay someone else for and that your device is already connected to and can use for stuff like software updates. but not online play. you need to give us more of your money for that first” like damn. i miss the 3ds every day bro

[tenya]

for the record I hate every video game console that does this. Xbox and PlayStation are not safe from my ire

[shockpine]

[mahoganymamii]

This shit is so fuckin funny omg

[etherealnoir]

[thecolorblockcurator]

Instagram: laneandlucia

Shop: Lane and Lucia on Society6

Celebrating pride this year by changing my name!! I’m so excited. I still have decided what it’s going to be but I love all the support & name suggestions.

Here are my favorite the pride illustrations I’ve created over the years.

[98yuugbugtvscvs6347-deactivated]

[semiotextiana]

stop

[cyborg-sevalle]

Nietzsche believed that you’ve gotta be able to think about suicide before you can move beyond wanting to kill yourself because only once you’ve accepted it as an option can you make the choice not to do it, and the alternative, to deny the urge and ignore it, would inevitably cause you to cave to the unaddressed desire you have for it.

And the dude was right. 

The rogue’s gallery of psych students and junior practitioners on this hellsite have hijacked my post about not being mean to yourself to explain to people how actually what I’m talking about is cognitive-behavioral therapy, and how it involves disciplining yourself to never talk negatively about yourself and how it’s important to check with a therapist that you’re doing it correctly, and like, this is why I don’t trust and can’t stand these people.

Being your own friend is a holistic process, there aren’t exercises you can do or therapy methods you can apply, which is why most people relapse almost immediately after stopping CBT or DBT, because they haven’t actually made any progress in how they look out for themselves, they were merely thrust into a disciplinary regimen where they are taught to engage in habits which their therapist then holds them accountable to, and so, without that therapist, they fall apart again.

Not being mean to yourself doesn’t mean censoring self-deprecating humor, it doesn’t mean snapping a rubber band on your wrist when you have a negative thought, it means taking time to sit down and think about yourself as if you were another person, to really take stock of who you are from as objective a perspective as you can muster, and if you really want to grow, realizing that this person you see can’t grow if the person closest to them, which is you, spends all their time berating them and making them feel like shit.

Being friends with yourself is not a series of therapeutic exercises, it’s challenging yourself to evaluate why you’re a dick to yourself in a way you aren’t to other people, or maybe you are a dick to other people, and maybe you want to be a dick to yourself, which is goofy as fuck, but if you’re still suffering, maybe ask yourself why the fuck you want to be such a dick, the answers may surprise you.

[audacityinblack]

That thing of “always avoid negative thoughts” actually does more harm than good, in a lot of cases. It can actually lead to a system where you pretty much scold and punish yourself for not thinking “right.”