If you could list the top 5 most important things to do to prepare for going independent what would they be?
1) Photos, they are you BEST advertisement, you want high quality photos and you want a lot of them so it’s indisputable that they are really you. Now pricing totally depends on where you are in the country but Groupon has really great deals on boudoir packages. I got 1200 worth of photos for 700 and they did all my styling and wardrobe which at the time made me want to cry but they have paid off like no other and I’ve realized their value. The better your photos the more “high class” you will look. Also if you’re leaving an agency you want to start fresh so you’ll need a whole new gallery.
2) A good website, this isn’t hard to do at all there are a lot of free escort website builders (they will have ads) or you can pay a fee to get your own domain and no ads, alternatively you can pay someone to build you a custom site but that’s a major investment I would wait until you are progressing to make that step. SELL YOURSELF on that website, make sure all your writing sounds amazing and makes you intriguing , these men are most likely only going to be spending a few hours with you but writing a bit about your hobbies and interests gives them a way to break the ice with conversation, find things in common with you, and build you up in their mind as their fantasy girl before the apt.
3) Boundaries, this is a really vague category because there are SO many boundaries you can set, not just sex wise (but those are important and you should have a list of your set NO NOs in mind). But having boundaries is important if you get someone that tries to press them before even meeting you it’s a sure sign of a bad apt. Last year I carried around THREE FUCKING PHONES a personal line a sugar line and a escort line I put in a lot of time and had to be so careful to not text family from the escort line or call a POT from my personal line. It was a lot of work and stress but I was also making 5 figures a month no problem. Now I just have my personal cell and my escort email, if a guy won’t respect the fact that I’m email only and presses it, I’ll cut contact. I’m also outcall only, I do not want to deal with the pressures of getting hotel rooms yet I still get at least one email a day asking where my incall is.
4) Set monetary goals/plans. So let’s say you want to make X amount each month, let’s say 5 k minimum and you are charging 500 an hour, so you need just 10 hours a month to make that goal! And at the end of the month you have had one overnight which you have a base fee of 2.5k, three 2 hours, and two 1 hours. Ta da you passed your goal but 1,000 of that is for rent and bills, 600 for maintenance: four mani-pedis, a blow out for your overnight, and a facial, 200 for your personal trainer/gym pass, 500 for eating out and drinks and another 100 for condoms, lube, hair-ties etc. and maybe 300 for new lingerie. 400 for transport if you don’t have a car. And the 400-500 that will inexplicably go missing ( this happens, accept it, you probably did something dumb with it when you were drunk? ) what are you going to do with the rest? Hide it all under your mattress? you can’t put it all int he bank eventually that will raise a red flag month after month, get a safety deposit box? You have to have this all thought out and honestly I’m still really bad at this.
5) Patience and Emotional Support, starting out indie will go one of two ways, you will have a boom and get a lot of clients and if you’re good be able to keep it up or more than likely you will wait days for emails, I was really lucky, having started with an agency I had a reputation and reviews people were searching for my indie account the second I left my agency but there are still weeks where I get one email if I’m lucky, they’re generally really easy to know the cause of, is it tax season? is christmas coming? People don’t go out to a fancy dinner when they’re broke they go out when they have extra money. You are the fancy dinner. As for emotional support start gauging who your SW friendly friends are you WILL need people to confide in, if you don’t have any put some of that new found money into seeing a sex worker friendly therapist, it will feel weird paying someone else by the hour in cash but trust me you need someone to talk to through this. EVERYONE bitches about their job and customers but sex workers don’t often get that luxury because of stigma so you need to find a safe outlet, and be very careful about who you trust, like SUPER fucking careful. Starting a tumblr is also a great outlet and resource for online friends, sometimes the anonymity is the only thing you CAN trust…
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