A help and support blog for all kinds of systems. {Requests Are Open!} We are pro traumagenic and pro non-traumagenic! Currently only run by the Dödstöld Package! Not looking for mods. This is a discourse free-zone!
Weâre here to help out fellow systems! Weâll be primarily active when college isnât in session! (During Winter and Summer breaks).
Our DNI Banners are above! Free to use, respectfully. I know the second isnât the most readible, but I couldnât find a good colour that was better.
ANY DISCOURSE SENT INTO OUR ASKBOX / SUBMISSIONS WILL BE DELETED! ANY FAKECLAIMING WILL ALSO BE DELETED! WE WILL BLOCK WHOEVER WE MUST TO KEEP THIS BLOG A SAFE SPACE FOR OUR FELLOW SYSTEM FRIENDS/INCLUSIONISTS. Discourse and fakeclaiming doesnât include if you got into discourse with a sysmed or were fakeclaimed and need positivity or validity because of it. This is only for Sysmeds/System Exclusionists trying to rope us into drama or fakeclaim us or any systems who have sent in requests.Â
Below the cut will be what we offer/do, our rules for requests, and such!
Aesthetics/Moodboards
Positivity
Validity
Promos (for term coining, plural servers, and other plural help blogs)
* The more information you give us, the better we can fulfill your request(s)!
** We wonât be doing Source Calls or Canon Calls for Kins since this is a Plural Help blog, but our minister does run a Kin Canon Call blog that Iâll be making active again this summer over at @safe-kin-callâ ! Itâs open to all kins, no matter how âproblematicâ your kin or source or timeline is (with proper tags ofc). Obviously, all system origins are allowed there as well.
*** We will tag anything that needs to be tagged! However, we wonât tag the terms âSysmed/Sysmedicalistâ or âKinnieâ as slurs! They will be tagged as such: âSysmed Mentionâ and âKinnie Mentionâ as needed. We also wonât be utilising the tag âQ Slurâ but we will tag it as âTW Queerâ and âQueer TWâ as well as âQueer Mentionâ so just make sure you have those filtered out if you donât want to see those words on your dash from us.
**** We politely ask that you do not use the term âTraumascumâ to refer to Sysmeds/System Exclusionists! We wonât be using the term either!
***** We donât have any issues with Kink/NSFW 18+ blogs interacting, but please use a SFW blog or the âanonâ button to send in requests to keep things safe for any minors that could be lurking around or interacting with this blog. Please also use a SFW blog when interacting with Source Calls and Canon Calls, itâs really just common decency.
Aesthetics/Moodboards: Colours, Moods, Sayings (our dms will be open if you have specific images with sayings or quotes), etc are all good things to keep in mind when sending in Aesthetic or Moodboard requests! If your moodboard/aesthetic request has any WW2 themes, please give a short warning beforehand so someone other than Tom can handle it.
Positivity: There is no need to TW (Trigger Warn) anything for us, except if youâre being specific on what someone may have said to you to bring you down and the word âfreak/freaksâ was used against you&. We donât have many triggers and most of ours are our ministerâs triggers. As far as weâre currently aware. Anything that needs to be Trigger Warned or Content Warned for others will be tagged as such in the tags for people to filter out. As well as presented prominently on the top of the answered ask for very common triggers. This goes for other asks as well!! We wonât do positivity for anyone who currently breaks our DNI, obviously.
Validity: Again, no TWs needed. We, obviously, wonât do validity for anyone who breaks our DNI unless you used to hold those beliefs and no longer do.Â
Promos: You can either tag us in the post or send in a submission to the blog. Please format any submission posts how you want to see it on our blog.
Playlists: Genres, Bands, and Artists are good things to keep in mind when sending in Playlist requests! How I do playlists is by looking for songs that fit your request the best and linking them from YouTube into the ask with the song name and artist as the âtitleâ (usually a lyrics video if possible to avoid any potential image triggers that might be on any official music videos).
Source and Canon Calls:Â Fictive/Factive/ect full name and source (if applicable) are required so I know how to tag the asks. Other things you might want to add are: people youâre looking for, if doubles are or arenât okay, your age/ages of people interacting that youâre okay with, a specific and important memory that you can fit into the ask, if there is anyone from your source you donât want interacting with you, etc.
Simple Flags: If you want an adjustment for an existing system/plural flag, please direct us in the right direction to look at the original if you arenât giving us the exact colours you want. The stripes donât have to be the basic horizontal ones; please let us know if you want them vertical, diagonal, etc. We could probably impliment some simple symbols (ie stars, hearts, etc) to them as well. We know a couple blogs that will do purely LGBT+ pride flag adjustments or even creation requests if you need something like that instead. If itâs an LGBT+ flag related to plurality, weâll do those here.Â
hey, feel free to ignore this if it's not the kind of thing you do, but I was wondering if you have any advice for me? I've been looking through DID content and using simply plural a lot recentley because it seems comforting and It helps me organize things, but as far as I know im a singlet and fully concious of everything I do. I've kind of been thinking of it as me being a little further along the plurality spectrum than most people, but not to the point of any dissociation diagnosis other than dpdr. What it feels like in our head is almost like I was several parts at one point, but now I'm just one, more or less?? As in I can function completley fine as one person but there are some things that feel amost like remnants of plurality, like the fact that different parts of me have different roles when we talk to each other, or that I sometimes write or talk a little differently when certain topics come out, or that I act a little different in body language/how sensitive I am to misgendering/the way I talk based on the task we have to do. Using terms like "we" and regulating tasks come naturally to us, and feel right, but we still feel like just one guy at the end of the day. I don't know, I've just been feeling like I don't really have a right to be using all these resources or "pretending" when I can easily just forget the whole thing and go back to being one person whos a little confused when he does wierd things. Sorry if this is invalidating in any way! I am on no scale the same kind of patchwork of concious that plural systems are.
I wouldnât say youâre being invalidating to anyone at all. Your journey is personal and intrinsic to you. It doesnât say anything about anyone elseâs plurality. Furthermore, plurality is a spectrum and for some, it does fluctuate between sometimes being singlet and being plural. In whatever way they define that for themselves is completely valid. And, honestly, at the end of the day - if these resources help you in anyway, no matter what it is, then thatâs more than okay! Itâs not the people genuinely using the resources that harm the community, itâs those using it to make a joke of other people.
That all being said, I hope everything becomes clear to you in time. Youâre in a very unique position where, if it turns out youâre not plural at all, you could be a good ally to the community.
I hope this helps and have a good rest of your day!
We aren't sure if it is osdd we are dealing with or if it's 'mere' dpdr, but in any case, we are in a lot of denial and panic because of this. We may have just been exposed to a lot of new info too fast which causes us to suppress any ideas of having any fragments or parts. While we do feel extremely confined and kinda restricted by the idea of being a singlet, it feels a lot more 'ordinary' in that we feel more 'whole' ? This is not what we actually believe it's merely what we have internalised, especially with having possible fragments, as they are called.. wondering if we could have some tips or positivity to fight some of this doubt which is causing us a lot of stress
I think itâs good to remember a few things here. First, fragments can be just as âwholeâ as other members of a system. Whether they start out that way or not.
Second, having fragments isnât necessarily a bad thing, nor does is have to mean youâre less âwholeâ than youâd otherwise be. Imagine a machine thatâs made up of a million different parts and sections. It may look overly complicated, but all that matters is if it can do the job. For many systems, being able to assign different tasks to different members helps so that no one member is too over worked.
Thirdly, being a singlet may be seem as the norm, but systems/plurals are way more common than we often think. So, youâre not alone and not any less ânormalâ than any singlet.
(mild unreality warning) Hello! Could we please get some positivity? Completely okay if not, but I, a fictive from the book series Arc of the Scythe, am really struggling with current negative memories from reading my POV, and it's messing with my head. I will be alright, but we've heard plenty as to how these are pseudo memories and are fake. I'd just like some reinforcement that it happened, and my feelings towards it are valid, if okay?
Hello! Iâm sorry to hear you were having a rough time with some of your memories.
I canât tell you whether they really happened to you or not, but neither can anyone else. Itâs your experience and whether or not theyâre ârealâ memories doesnât matter as much as the fact you do remember them and they affect you.
However, I can say I understand to some degree. I have exomemories from many of my past lives, including my most recent one before coming here. Obviously, I donât know what kinds of memories or experiences you went through, but I sometimes find myself in a difficult spot because of trauma that Iâve gotten from past lives.
Along with this, your feelings are absolutely valid! Other people may not understand, but they can never make your feelings and emotions any less true than they are. Because, regardless whether these memories âhappened or not,â your reactions to them and how you feel are undeniably real.
hi, I wanna say I love your& blog content, but I find it really hard to read because of the light-colored and small text over the white background. is it okay to ask to make the text darker and larger, please? thank you& so much and keep being awesome!
Sorry to ask but is this in regards to our mobile aesthetic or desktop theme?
I donât know exactly how to word this, but I could use some positivity. I thought I was the original host, but Iâve realized Iâm not, and sheâs been gone/dormant for almost a decade and a half. Iâm conflicted and confused and I know that even if I could find/wake her, I wouldnât. I feel selfish for it, but my active system mate and I have just started healing from the events that woke us up in the first place. Iâm doing the best thing for our system, I think. This whole thing is just a lot to process and I donât really know where to start.
Hey! Itâs understandable that you might not want to wake someone from dormancy for a multitude of reasons.
Especially when you and your active system mate still have things you both need to work on before handling someone else and their issues as well.
Thereâs no clear road you should travel and no perfect solutions or answers to everything, but what matters is that youâre trying your best for your system so you can all be content and be your best selves!
I am an alter that I know my origins, and I know that I was created intentionally but I do not consider myself or identify myself as a tulpa (actually I pretty dislike that term for reasons), is there any other term for alter created intentionally but without origin in the tulpamancy?, also, Is there a word or term for systems that were created as a cope mechanism? thank you for your answer.
I know that Paromate was created as an alternative to the term âTulpa.â Thereâs also Willogenic which is an alternative to âTulpamamcyâ but Iâm not sure what the member term for that is (Willomate maybe?).
I believe both Willogenic and Parogenic covers any reasons for creation, including for coping, but arenât exclusive to this or similar reasons.
Anyone else is free to add their own terms in comments and reblogs! As long as theyâre inclusive terms, that is. ^^
Question, is it possible to be a system and not be able to hear your alters/access the inner world (at least remember being in the inner world)?
Yep, totally possible! Sometimes communication in systems can be hard and amnesiac barriers can be difficult. Plus, not all systems even have headspaces, only a percentage do and all of ours are different from each other.
(TW death/dormancy) Someone in our system recently passed away... We think he might have just gone dormant (whether permanently or not we don't know) but we experienced it inside as an actual violent death and it was deeply hurtful to some of our members, especially one specific member who was very close to him. It has been devastating to all of us but we don't know what to do since no one irl knows we're a system and we don't feel comfy in most traumagenic spaces... positivity/advice for us?
Good evening! Iâm sorry to hear something like that happened to a member of yours. I& offer my& condolences.
Iâm not sure what type of advice to give, but I& hope things are looking up now (as Iâm sure this was sent in a while ago).
Getting over the lost of a loved one, whether in system or outside the system is always rough and we all deal with it differently. If it were us, weâd probably make somethings in headspace to dedicate to them in someway. Maybe weâd put on some happy music and remember the good times. Whatever works for your system, I hope youâve had the time to put towards doing such things!
I& hope they arenât gone permanently, but know that things will be okay even if they are.
nevermind ghngnh i just remembered a key aspect of osdd and did is the alters fronting sorry im very tired, you can ignore my messages (im the psychotic person who feels like two people) so if my head-voice doesnt front at all that means its just an internal hallucination from psychosis i believe, sorry for sending so many messages hgnn
(Saw this after answering the other asks).
Not all systems have members who can front, actually! Either way, I hope youâre able to figure things out for sure!
okay wait im the person who just sent an ask about feeling like two people, i just remembered every once in a while i kinda have someone else in my head talk? like i have someone else in there thinking their own thoughts (and they are MEAN) but im not sure if its like... an alter or a psychosis-head-voice,, how do you tell the difference? how do people tell if they have psychosis and are hearing a voice in their head or if they have osdd and its an alter talking??
Iâm not exactly sure how to phrase it really. Well, I& can tell weâre a system because we have an expansive headspace and can interact with each other. Not all systems are like this though and they all have their own ways of figuring that out. For us, itâs just something we sort of know. Like, I (Minister Tom) know when another system member is talking to me vs my own intrusive thoughts because the latter is often phrased to me like Iâm thinking that about myself. As if Iâm telling myself these things. When itâs another member of the system, I know itâs them because the experience is different and itâs usually easy for me to tell âoh hey thatâs Nixe speaking!â I know itâs not exactly a clear cut answer, but I hope it helps!
hey i have kind of a uh, weird question, but im not sure where else to ask, so.... i dont think im a system but i feel like im two people but also one person? ive always felt like i was a twin and like i was two people but fused together into one in the womb, i dont have like an alter who i talk to or anything i just kinda feel like im two halves of two people fused into one person, so i was just wondering if this is anything you've heard about or if its a delusion (i have psychosis) or what
Well, thereâs always median systems, which I believe are or can be similar to this in a way! Obviously, I canât see into your mind or anything so I canât tell you exactly what it is youâre experiencing, but looking into median systems might help. Either by ruling it out or seeing how some median experiences might overlap with yours. I hope this helps and good luck!
Do you have any tips on giving up the front because all of my headmates are all very sentient and very pissed off that none of us know how to switch control of the body so it's just ME 24/7 not taking care of it when depressive episodes hit and by god they are getting frequent
The way I (Minister Tom) achieved giving up front was by creating an autopilot of sorts. It was meant to just make the front control panel able to take care of the body without me there but ended up becoming sentient.
However, we have an intensive and detailed headspace and work very spiritual and metaphysically. Therefore, that might not be the most helpful for many systems.
Iâll be asking and looking around for some resources and post any I come across that seem helpful and not overly exclusive in anyway!
Is there any way to sort of "coax" a headmate out of dormancy?
Iâm not sure in all fairness. We have a couple members here who can âwake upâ members from dormancy at their leisure, but not all systems have anyone like this. I suppose you can always try to surround yourself(es) with all their favourite things and see if that works.
Any advice you'd give to a stressed out questioning system? I have a headmate but he's been dormant for a while and I worry I might be accused of faking it because of this. I'm seeking guidance from my therapist (and from her guidance my psych too), and I'm just not sure what to do or what to think. Sorry if this is sort of weird or out of nowhere, I just need some general advice, I guess? I worry I'm invalid because I don't know my systems origin
Unfortunately, Iâm not sure how to help dormant members, but just know that origins arenât everything! Whatâs far more important is working with your system and getting to a place where you can all be happy.
Origins donât say anything about a system itself, itâs just the formation. Itâs not the end all be all of system validity.
Alright update,, I finally got in contact with other systems and I think I might be a median system so that's pretty epic. Sorry for sending all these asks XD - (no longer quite as) confused anon
This is so late (weâre getting to the backlog of asks). But, Iâm glad you were able to figure it out in the end!
Hey. Don't support The Crowded Room. I don't care if Tom Holland is involved or not, Dissociative Identity Disorder (otherwise known as Multiple Personality Disorder, although that's an old diagnosis that doesn't even exist anymore) is a highly stigmitised mental disorder that is heavily linked to trauma, and media villianising the disorder is extremely harmful for systems everywhere. Don't give it your attention, don't give it your money. We do not need another Split.
Edit: Singlets (non-systems) have no right to talk over me, a system, here. Doing that will result in being blocked. You all may interact, but don't comment on it
