I'm fucking sick of looking at plural communities or plural tags and seeing people talking about forcing their headmates into dormancy. "I want to force my persecutors into dormancy" "we forced our old host into dormancy" "can we force all the non-helpful alters into dormancy" "I don't want to go through the effort of establishing healthy communication with the whole system can I just force some of them into dormancy" "We forced an alter into dormancy and he came back and hates us all, any advice" "If you're dealing with a persecutor and they won't listen to reason you should try forcing them into dormancy" "I forced my alters into dormancy but it didn't make them go away what should I do" " This alter was annoying me and so I forced them into dormancy lol" "We don't bother giving our fragments identities we just force them into dormancy" "This alter triggered another alter's source trauma so we forced them into dormancy" I feel like I'm on the fucking truman show what the fuck are you talking about? What the hell do you mean? Why are you all so fucking obsessed with it? What is wrong with you guys? Don't you understand how fundamentally fucked up that is? Hello? Am I talking to myself right now?
a term for any part that is missed, grieved, or was 'lost' to their system. this may have been through shattering, prolonged dormancy, fusion (particularly negative fusion), drastic fragmentation, or any other occurrence that the system views as loss.
this is one of the few terms that the headmate themselves cannot claim. rather, its intended use is to give those who loved them a term to refer to them by, memorializing their existence and showing that they were cherished by the rest of their system.
more personal info below the cut, surrounding what inspired us to make this.
#OHHHH THIS IS WHAT AMMIE WAS #man i wish she were around to see this
these tags were left under our house host term by @crys-ambivalenttowardrbs . it hit us hard. it made us happy to know that we'd been able to give a recognized name to something others experience, especially when the person in our own system, who coined it for themselves, struggled for so long to define their role in words.
"man, I wish she were around to see this."
we've echoed that sentiment so many times, about so many we've lost; it makes us emotional reading it over trying to write this. they would have loved this, if only they could see it. it's even harder now, because we lost the person who coined that role, split up into multiple for a lot of different reasons. though we love the newcomers dearly, there's still that sense of loss for the person they were.
everyone focuses so much on how, in the typical way, headmates can't die, so they skim past the fact that you can still lose them because it's 'not the same'. we've always hated that. loss is loss, no matter what way. sometimes you can get them back. sometimes you can't. it doesn't change the fact that it hurts when they're gone.
we wanted a way to let others know they're not alone in grieving. a way for those left to show that the ones they lost weren't just forgotten, they're memorialized, whatever that means to them. a way to commemorate the alters that didn't make it through to the other side.
this post is dedicated to ammie. it's dedicated to those in our partner system that we never got the privilege to meet before their collapse. it's dedicated to all the members of our system we've lost over the years, and to those we never got to meet properly before they slipped away. it's dedicated to every single part, alter, headmate, fragment, that every plural has lost in their journey.
we understand that holding on is hard. we know. but your system will love and cherish you, and what you did for them, long after you're gone.
anyone else ever grieve the inherent reality of being part of a system? like. i front once or twice every few months if i’m lucky. i’m never really gonna live a full life. best case scenario, i’ll get maybe 5% of a life’s worth of consciousness throughout my entire existence. i won’t be able to decide our job or where we live or even our friends. the best i’ll get will be one vote out of the crowd that could get vetoed anyways if long-standing hosts aren’t fond of it when i’m not around to defend it. all of the friends i’ve ever had really only cared about me in the first place because they were friends with other members of the system. i’ll be lucky to make a handful of my own friends with my fronting frequency. all of those odds assuming i don’t go entirely dormant. it’s fine being here and all, but it’ll never fully be my own life
Cardinal Copia Imperator from The Band Ghost is a workgenic stressgenic autism based system! Cardi is the host, Papa Emeritus IV is a dormant alter, and Frater Imperator is a frontstuck alter
Cardinal Copia Frater Imperator and Papa Emeritus IV from Ghost are apart of a Workgenic Stressgenic Autibased System!
Workgenic is a system or headmate origin that is directly related to a job. A workgenic system could be caused by workplace trauma or stress; forced labor; headmates forming to perform a system's day job; headmates forming to assist with work; or any other cause directly related to an occupation
Stressgenic refers to a system or system member whose origin is the result of stress
Autibased refers to a system based on their autism. This means that the plural was affected by their autism, but isn’t necessarily an origin; autigenic as a modifier instead of an origin. It may extend to inner worlds, headmate roles, or system functions
Cardinal is the Host, Papa is a Dormant Alter, and Frater is a Frontstuck Alter!
A Host is the headmate who is most active, most responsible for day-to-day activities, and/or is fronting most often. A system may have a single host, multiple hosts, a fluctuating number of hosts, or no host at all. Hosts may be accompanied or assisted by other headmates, such as co-hosts or frontrunners
Dormancy is a state of inactivity during which a system member or group will be "asleep" for a certain amount of time. This is usually marked by difficulty in triggering them to the front, interacting with them or even finding them in the inner world, or experiencing their passive influence. Dormancy is very common in all kinds of systems, especially DID and OSDD ones
Frontstuck is when a headmate is fronting and, suddenly or not, becomes unable to leave front
is it possible for an alter that like, for a long time you thought was gone for good and forever, can just like...sorta come back??? if someone could reblog this with an answer id appreciate it
