becoming

Girlblogging but done by a Queer Genderfreak

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black lace, silk sheets, full body mirror selfies, platform heels, cherry lip gloss, arctic fox hair dye, black cats, oversized hoodies and satin pajamas, black mani pedis, soft candlelight and fairy light lighting, relaxing two hour baths, pretty tights, baking days, black fluffy slipper, nights out with friends, burgundy ribbons, toe rings and anklets, gourmand perfumes , goth makeup, self care routines, maneating music, having a best friend, soft energy, thunder and lightening, fluffy black hair, ink pen stains, flashy earrings, cherry gum, book shopping, pretty long lashes, the moon, ballroom dancing lessons, black and white polaroids, the sounds of an old typewriter, garnets, thigh highs, roses, messy cursive writing, boudoir photos, Aphrodite prayer time, dark chocolate, the smell of incense, black lingerie, dark red lipstick, waking up earlier, sensual experiences, crystals, taking up more space, oversized teddy bears, piercings, giving gifts, silver heart lockets as a devotional piece of jewelry, frilly socks, having my hair washed, black dresses, hygiene hauls, black tote bags, bat stuffies, expensive bubble bath, manifesting, kiss marks, annotation,  off the shoulder knit tops, taper candles, heart imagery, smoking lavender and chamomile, hot chocolate, coven meetings, flip phones, skinny scarves, silver rings

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love how it’s been like a year since i created this blog and i’m still soooo far off from becoming what i want to be. it’s hard not to be discouraged.

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🥀smelling good🥀

Laundry:

unscented gentle laundry detergent

downy vanilla scent boosters

vanilla concentrated laundry fragrance

Use “Chocomusk” as a linen spray for your clothes

In the shower

dove shea bar soap

vanilla silk18 shampoo and conditioner

vanilla body scrub

vanilla shaving cream

shea baby oil as an in shower moisturizer

dove cherry bodywash

Out of the shower

Frenshe Vanilla body oil

palmers cocoa butter lotion

fine’ry cherry body spray

billie eillish vanilla perfume

fine’ry cherry perfume

Zoha vanilla cherry musk perfume oil

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little ways to make your life better

go on mental health walks

journal prompts that make you self reflect 

take more baths that are for the purpose of relaxing 

start your mornings with ten minutes of yoga and a breathing exercise 

smile when you make eye contact with people 

make your bed so that getting in it at the end of the day feels more rewarding 

have 3+ outfits that make you feel amazing, and cycle through them when you need a pick me up 

smile at yourself in the mirror at least once a day 

keep a commonplace journal where you can write down things you need to remember on the go. 

on top of that, write down things you see that make you happy, compliments you give or are given, and positive moments from your day

do something as simple as drinking a cup of water, and count it as self care because it is. 

Detach from your phone for an hour, and take some genuine me time where you get to tune out the world for a little while. 

wash your sheets. the first few nights of sleeping on fresh sheets are heavenly, and you deserve to feel that. 

have a hobby that is also a skill. learning a language, crochet, scrapbooking, pottery, working on cars, whatever you’re interested in. 

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🥀sleep routine🥀

Rules: 1.Sleep routine starts at 10:45 pm( to wake up at 7:30ish, adjust as needed) 2.you have to have dinner before seven pm 3.no blue light past 10:00. 4.My sleep routine starts after shower, skincare, oral hygiene, body self care, and washing my hands 5.No big lights after 8:00

Make sure your hair is about 65% dry and then put in root lifters (or heartless curlers if that’s your thing!). Then, put on a bonnet.

Next, go downstairs and make a nighttime mocktail or some tea. Something with ingredients meant to make you tired and sleep well. While you make that, nibble on some dark chocolate. The dark chocolate will supposedly help you sleep when consumed before bed, and it’s said that a square every day is good as a preventative measure against heart problems. This is also the time that you’ll take any medications that you may have, and stick a warmie/heatable stuffie in the microwave if you have one!

After you’ve had your little drink, go back to your bed and pull back the blankets you’re going to sleep under and spray a sleep linen mist on your sheets and pajamas. If you like a warm bed, turn on your heating pad or place your heatable plush in your bed! (Other alternative are a hot water bottle or a rice sock!)

Then, do a slow mindful yoga flow. We want this to relax you as much as possible and prepare you for bed! End in the child’s pose for a few minutes while taking deep breaths.

Next get in bed. Here, we’re going to do the last of the skincare for the night. Take a facial oil and a gua sha, (I like to use a heated one), and start massaging your face. Once you have the oil evenly distributed on your face, use silicone reuseable face patches to lock in the oil. You’ll sleep in these! During this time, apply any lash/brow serums, and put oil on your nails.

Then, spray the bottom of your feet with magnesium spray. If you have anytime left before bed, read, color, crochet, or just do something not very stimulating that doesn’t require a screen.

At 11:20, put in your mouth guard if you wear one and place your mouth tape. If you use a sleeping eye mask, then put this on now.

Goodnight!

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🥀Self Exorcism🥀 First

Sneakers on, headphones grabbed, water bottle filled with whatever refreshes you most. We are going on a walk my friend. It can be anywhere from 10 minutes to 45, but you need to quite literally touch grass. Photosynthesize. Be one with the wind or whatever you want, but get outside.

Then, with your tennis shoes still on (Pro tip for adhders, shoes on means brain in Go Mode), you’re going to set the mood. Hopefully this is taking place after school or work, or on a Saturday evening. Your first inside goal is to find the tea lights, the candles, the fairy lights, hell, even lamps will work. You’re going to turn off the big light, light your candles, and turn on the playlist of music that makes you feel like the most unashamed version of yourself.

Next

Crack the window, strip the bed, and start a 20 minute tidy. During this tidy, i want you to practice gentle parenting yourself. Say things like “It’s okay to make big messes, we just have to clean them up” and “No one is angry at me, no one is mad, i haven’t disappointed anyone”. Whatever the child in you would most need to hear after being in a slump. (Pro Adhd tip: use a pile system while cleaning. Books in one pile, clothes in another, trash in another, etc.)

After all the piles are sorted and put away, shake out any rugs in your room and sweep. Nothing makes you feel as clean as a freshly swept room.

Finish up by wiping down your surfaces and cleaning mirrors. Make sure to dust any places that have been collecting for a while first.

Then

The used sheets go straight into the wash, and the new sheets, a towel, and your nicest pair of pajamas go into the dryer so that they’re warm and cozy for after your shower.

Take a break to grab a snack and a drink that will tie you over. Make sure to have something that nourishes your soul AND your body. (My personal favorite is a hot chocolate and a small fruit and veg platter. Odd pairing, i know, but for me it genuinely is about getting nutrients in after a depressive episode.)

Next

Here’s where things get a little more personizeable. If you have long hair, or like me have short hair but are really into self care, this is when i want you to oil and massage your scalp. Doing this helps clear out any built up oil and debris on your scalp, and can help with hair growth if that’s your thing. You can use things like Coconut oil, or even Virgin olive oil depending on your hair type. Let that sit and soak in for about 25-45 minutes.

While that sits, i want you to open a journal or your notes app. You can either start a brain dump OR, if that’s difficult for you, then follow these three prompts: What is going on in my life? What isn’t going on in my life that should be? And what is going on in my life that shouldn’t be?

Then

Shower time, babes. whether it’s an everything shower or a relaxing one is up to you, but make sure you exfoliate and wash your hair. The goal here is to feel as clean and fresh as possible. I want you to feel reborn after this. Make sure to do your full skincare routine and brush your teeth really well.

After your shower you’re going to put your (still hopefully warm) favorite set of pajamas and nicest (but still comfy) underwear on. I want you to be as comfortable and confident as possible. I know they sound contradictory, but i promise it’s possible.

Then, we’re going to turn on a comfort movie, and do some self care. We covered the basics, food, water, touching grass, clean environment, and clean body, so it’s time for the more pampering things if you have the energy.

Do a face mask, under eye patches, maybe buff and paint your nails. Just pick one task that’s going to make you feel good.

Last

Make sure you go to bed at a reasonable time, preferably before 10:00 pm if your schedule allows for it. The best way to end your self care is to get the sleep you need.

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you do not need to spend a bunch of money to become the girl of your (and everyone else's) dreams. what you need is to take a good look at your daily habits and understand that beautiful hair and skin come from clean eating habits and hydration; that a gorgeous body comes from adequate nutrition and physical effort; that confidence comes from a tranquil mind and decent sleep; that no person of importance neglects their hygiene or dwells in excessive behavior... it needs to start from a force within you, from intuitive adjustments. then, afterwards, you can buy the expensive moisturizer. as a treat, not a need.

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