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Hanahaki Disease

So I’ve seen a lot of Hanahaki disease in art and such but whenever I try to find out more information on it (as if I were to ever write something I am very anal and I need to know all aspects of it) I could never find them. So this is my version of the hanahaki disease. It can be for angst and for happy endings because I can’t angst so I needed the ability to write this and still have a happy ending but as it’s originally an angsty thing I kept the angst aspect as well.

Keep in mind these are all just made up by me I don’t know the original person to come up this is, in essence, my version of the disease.

Hanahaki Disease is contracted when there’s a one-sided love. Flowers begin to bloom (and wilt) inside the lungs and eventually it’ll clog up your respiratory system and lead to death. The person suffering will cough up flower petals (both from wilted and healthy flowers) it’s also possible to throw up whole flowers (the scratching in the throat will make you cough up blood for a good while after, god forbid your hanahaki flower is something with thorns)

The flower depends on what type of love you have for the other (it can be lustful, longing, etc.) or it can be the type of person you like (if they’re toxic, pure, playful, etc). Nobody knows why some get it from their type of love and some get it from whom they love.

The flowers grow faster and bigger the more you love the person and depending on how big the flower shows how much they mean to you (so if your flowers are inhumanly big for their type and a single one fills up the entire lung then it’s the purest form of love)

The only known cures is that you get the flowers surgically removed (this also takes the feeling of love you have for the person away. It can come back, however, so it’s normally advised that after the surgery you distance yourself from the one who caused it)

On another note, if the doctors accidentally miss even a single seed then the flowers continue to grow as do the feelings which can be dangerous since they get bigger and grow more rapid

Once the surgery is done the doctors typically will keep the flowers in a vase and give it to the person if they wish to keep it as a reminder

The main risk with the surgery (other than death as it’s a risky thing to do in general) is that the person could lose the ability to love altogether.

The second known cure is that the person that caused it reciprocate your feelings. Sadly this is normally not the case (sometimes you can’t force things to happen when the feelings aren’t there even if someone gets hurt).

It’s best that if you caused someone to get the disease and you don’t love them to not pretend you do, it doesn’t get rid of the disease it can actually make it fester and become far worse than it would’ve been naturally.

Types of flowers and their meanings can be found in this post

Other Notes:

Some people opt to get the surgery done whenever it gets bad but they keep some of the flowers so the feelings don’t go away. This is normally very pricey and isn’t advised. It took doctors a long time before they allowed the operation to be done and purposely leave some in there.

Despite people thinking it affects mostly woman, it actually affects both men and women equally. This is shown from a survey done at a hospital, there was almost an exactly equal number of men and women sufferings from the diseases. It’s still thought to be a more women-centric disease.

The longest someone has survived with the disease without any form of treatment was two years. After a year it was so bad they had to be hospitalized almost every other week (though they always refused treatment of any kind and was allowed to go home)

People with the disease who don’t get it cured or treated normally only live from two months to a year with the disease before it kills them.

A treatment to help reduce the growing (doesn’t stop it but prevent whole flowers from blooming which is normally what kills people) are these pills that basically make the body secretes a kind of weed killer type of antibody that attacks the flowers and make it inhabitable for them to live in the lungs (they will still try by the patient normally just caught up wilted flowers and occasionally a dead vine or leaf). With treatment, the person has a 50/50 chance of surviving and living a full life. They’ll live a life of always coughing up flower petals however and the pill lowers their immune system and can make them sick and can sometimes attack muscle and fat (which can also lead to death). The pills are also far cheaper than the surgery so a lot of people try the pills first.

The disease isn’t just front someone not loving you back, sometimes it’s from not letting the person know you love them and you assume they don’t return it and the thought festers into the disease

Some people who continuously gets the disease from just one person (or perhaps many and they’re just someone who falls in love easily but nobody returns their feelings) have been known to commit suicide once they realized the disease will just be back again and the one they love will never love them back (already unrequited love sucks but add in a reoccurring disease and you can’t escape it is the worst).

There is a small community (mostly online) that glorify the disease as they think it’s beautiful to love someone so much you are physically ill and encourage people to not get a cure or treatment and let it take them. There’s also people who don’t suffer from it but want to as they think it’s beautiful.

imapieceofiron

“The disease isn’t just front someone not loving you back, sometimes it’s from not letting the person know you love them and you assume they don’t return it and the thought festers into the disease”

If this was real, I would be dead in like two days.

gunsandfireandshit

lol

toastpotent-deactivated20250619

fine by me. croak bitch

socialistexan

Like to charge, reblog to cast.

tokyo-mirage-sessions-fe

in animal crossing when it’s raining and u spin ur umbrella and the rain flies off reblog if u agree

traumasurvivors

It’s okay if you thought you were over it but it hits you all over again.

It’s okay to fall apart even after you thought you had it under control.

You are not weak. Healing is messy. And there is no timeline for healing.

sinnersleadtheway

I needed this

transgenderteensurvivalguide

So I came out to my parents a few weeks ago and they said they supported me but they keep calling me a girl and I've told them it bothers me but they keep doing it. Every time I try to talk to them about it they change the subject or pretend I didn't say anything. What should I do?

Kii says:

So, we have over a hundred questions in our inbox that are basically “I came out to my parents/guardians/friends/other person and they won’t call me my name/pronouns and/or let me transition, etc. so I’m rounding them all up into one answer that is very general and can be linked to for further similar questions.

So, what you’re going to need to do is sit down with your Problem Person in a calm, neutral space. Depending on your person, this may need to happen several times, or you may need the help of a mediator, such as a supportive parent, a family friend, or even a professional counselor. Make sure you’re doing this at a time that neither of you are stressed from work, school, or other things, and you both have a lot of time so you don’t feel rushed to come to conclusions. If you have multiple people to talk to, I would suggest doing this one at a time if at all possible. Plan this talk in advance by saying something along the lines of:

Hey, I want to talk to you about that argument we had earlier this week, but I want to discuss it calmly. When are you free?

I feel like when I came out, we did not get to a place of understanding, and I would like to continue talking about it. When can we do that?

I don’t think we see eye-to-eye when it comes to my identity, and we both have trouble talking about it without getting angry. Can we agree to have a calm conversation about it sometime? When can we do that?

Make sure it doesn’t sound like blame (”You don’t understand”) and that you make it clear that you don’t want to argue. If your person blows this off, be very direct and insist that it’s important for you to come to some kind of agreement, and don’t give up until you’ve found a time to speak.

Now, hopefully you have a mental (or physical) list of what problems you want to be solved by the end of this conversation. You should have this down solid before your conversation. Some things might include:

I want to be called the right name/pronouns.

I want to be allowed to dress a certain way/have a certain haircut/etc.

I want to start hormones/have surgery.

I want us to have open communication about my identity and both of our feelings. I don’t want either of us to feel the need to hide our feelings.

I don’t want problems to be solved by yelling. I don’t want to feel afraid of coming to you with my problems.

You should also practice talking about your identity and your wishes, so you can explain it clearly and plainly without tripping over your words. (This may make you seem less sure.)

Now, we get to the actual conversation. Have resources prepared if your person is the type to ask for them. Sit down, and start off with something like (depending on what your previous issues are):

I really don’t want this to end in yelling, so if it gets to that point, can we agree to talk about this at another time?

If you have questions, I want you to ask them. I don’t want you to be confused.

I am willing to compromise if you are too.

I don’t know your side of the story or how you’re feeling about this, so please tell me.

You can continue these reminders throughout the conversation. Now, state your first issue, and ask for their input. Examples include:

It makes me feel really bad when you call me (name/pronouns/gender), and I am wondering why this is a problem.

Being able to express myself how I want is important to me, and I want to understand why you think it is not acceptable.

Starting hormones would make me feel more comfortable in my body, and I’m wondering what you think the dangers are.

Obviously, you’re not going to be able to predict how they feel (which is the whole point of this conversation in the first place) but if you’ve heard arguments against you before, have responses prepared for those. Otherwise, just remain confident in who you are and what you want. Your person’s opinions may hurt you, but they may be hurting too. People often feel like they are losing their child/relative/friend, or that you will become a different person. They may also feel that that they’ve done something wrong, so be very clear that that is not the case. Let them know that you love them and want them to continue loving you for who you are, and that you don’t want there to be any negativity around this issue. Also figure out what compromises you are willing to make. Some examples include:

You will call me by my correct name/pronouns, but if you make a mistake, I will be polite in correcting you.

I can buy the clothes I want, but I have to get a job/do chores to pay for them.

We will go talk to a doctor together to talk about the safety of HRT/surgery. (If this is an issue you have, I would suggest showing them resources on the safety of HRT, but a doctor may also reassure them.)

You can be open with me if there is something wrong, but I will let you know if you hurt my feelings.

Compromises should be agreed on by both parties, and neither of you should agree on something that you’re not actually okay with. If a compromise is too much for you, say so, and suggest an alternative that you would be okay with.

You might not get what you want after one conversation, and if that’s the case, you did not fail. It may take multiple conversations, multiple days (or weeks, months, or years) to come to agreements, but if you are calm and clear on what you want, it will happen in time. Make it clear that you are open to conversation and questions at all times, and that you still love your person and hope for their support in your transition.

Lee says:

The Interpersonal relationships link has some info on communication that might help with the conversation:

DBT skills

Assertive communication

Assert yourself!

Passive, aggressive, and assertive communication

List of interpersonal skills

Interpersonal effectiveness handouts

Interpersonal effectiveness skills

I statements

What are personal boundaries?

10 ways to build and preserve better boundaries

Healthy personal boundaries

Create emotional freedom by setting emotional boundaries

Boundary exploration

Why it can be hard to say no and how to do it anyway

Signs of unhealthy boundaries

This info is specifically about dealing with these people:

How to deal with parents that are not accepting

What to do when you have unaccepting parents

Problem solving packet

Parents who won’t use name/pronouns

Reminding friends to use your pronouns

Transgender Advice: Dealing with Unsupportive Parents

Ally Moms

Send them our ally resources page or our for parents page

A Letter to Parents Who Don’t Accept Their Gay and Transgender Children

Rejected by your parents? You are not alone. (Leelah Alcorn suicide mention)

How to help someone who forgets your pronouns

Reasons why they/them pronouns are okay to use

Followers, feel free to add on with more advice!

bugkeeping

I havent seen anyone talk about this yet so im making a post.

So lets say you’re researching something for a paper (or just for fun) and the research paper you want to read is behind a paywall, or the site makes you create an account first, or makes you pay to download, or limits you to only 5 free articles, or otherwise makes it difficult for you to read what you want.