Anonymous

Mods: Lane (he/Anxiety) , NPC (he/him) , Atticus (he/him) all one system

[problematicfactive]

New intro Post

New intro post! How exciting! This is my celebration for reaching 25 followers so fast! Thank you all for your overwhelming support in this journey, it really has been a lot.

If you're new here, my boyfriend and I are both introjected from extremely problematic medias revolving around a very bad person that lived in real life. We are both from fictional medias, bit the person of which we introjected is very much real, and We've gotten a LOT of shit for it.

Spaces that claim to be safe spaces for systems-- or God forbid, safe spaces for *problematic* introjects and alters, tend to be rude or spiteful towards individuals who are factives from problematic sources.

I firmly believe this hateful stance comes from a place of not understanding, so I've created this blog to give people who don't understand a chance to talk and speak to us without losing their cool as we also stay anonymous on this blog. They're always nice until they find out who you are /hj . Since it's creation, the blog has since turned into a big place for problematic factives to just feel safe and seen. I'm beyond happy about this, and glad my blog can serve both purposes. More under the cut!

We post a lot of everything!

We answer asks from people who have questions about us or about being problematic factives, we make positivity posts for problematic factives, problematic factive culture is... posts, and lots of other things you could think of. Feel free to vent in our askbox or message us for a chat! We'd love to have a friend.

Some things off the top of my head that I can't do on this blog (but if you end up making a blog for these things and need a mod, totally hmu!)

Stimboards/Moodboards etc. - I would literally love to do these but the problem is I know like nothing about anyone. Of you were to ask me for a Donald Trump moodboard I honestly do not know what I would do my mind would just blank. That being said, in decently good at making them so if there were a person I knew well enough to do a stimboard on, I definitely could

Icon edits - This is somthing I'm capable of doing, but it isn't something where I would want this entire blog to just turn into requests. If you're making a blog specifically for these creative requests things totally hmu

Art - I cannot draw but my hope is that that changes in the future.

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Meet us!

My last intro post didn't really have any information on us as people let's try and fix that.

I can't tell you my name, but you can call me Anxiety. I'm the main mod and significantly less source connected/more source ashamed. I go by he/Anxiety with Anxiety being able to work in place of either a name or a pronoun. Unless the host is helping out with something, anything that isn't labeled comes from me. I'm the only one out of the two of us with the physical ability to type so when he posts something, it's a little special occasion and deserves a label.

My boyfriend doesn't have a name option other than a source one. On the blog he has only been referred to as my boyfriend, but if you need a name for him, call him NPC. He uses he/him pronouns and will sign off any post that he thinks up all on his own with -NPC and tagged with # npc posts

Tagging

Here is some of the tagging we use on this blog

# problematic factive culture = Problematic factive culture is.. posts

# kindness and positivity = Kind and Positive asks we've received

# good thoughtful questions = Good questions we received as asks

# positivity post = Positivity posts

# problematicfactive blog things = things that ate moreso related to one of the mods or running the blog than they are about problematic factives

# rainy day drafts = drafts that could be super old because I made them and them left them in the drafts so I could post when I don't have anything else to post

# queued because I am asleep 😊 / queued because hopefully I'm sleeping = posts that I queue to be 5-ish hours away from the last post. I often post somthing at 12 am Eastern Time regardless of the last something was posted, so those early morning positivity posts tend to also be queued with the tag

If you come across us and like what we do, consider boosting or realigning this post! I'd love for as many people to find out we exist as possible

# askers experience = Asks sent in where an asker tells me about their life

# npc posts = posts my npc wrote as a mod on this blog (does not apply to posts where "my boyfriend's answer" is me paraphrasing or trying to speak for him)

[afton-robotics-co]

“support alters with problematic sources!”

yeah? i'm an introject of boyinaband.

oh, not me, you say?

how accepting of you.

( disclaimer in case this isn't obvious ;; we do not support him, i fused with an alter from when we were literally like 10 years old )

[problematicfactive]

Hello factives.

It's Atticus. I got thrown into front for some reason, so I wanted to start some conversation.

Problematic factives, specifically of publically harmful people, what's the hardest part for you about being yourself? How does it affect the way you see yourself and interact.

This post is ONLY for factives, fictives do NOT derail, fictives, do NOT speak over anyone, fictives do NOT decide it's your place to tell someone's else's story

Not everything is about fictives

-Atticus

[problematicfactive]

I have GOT to be in that era of "fame" where people use bringing you down to bring themselves up or just want to argue with you for no reason because there is no way someone could take THIS

PT: Why's that a DNI and not an "I wont create for"? Sorry for being "so fucking stupid", but I think it's weird to have Do Not Interacts on systems with things you yourself as it can't be controlled just because you won't make that specific content. An alter could easily be in either of these types of relationships and simply not want to request anything related to that

And get THIS

PT: But no. They were made beacause I didnt want headmates w those kind of relationships to interact {IN THE SENSE OF SENDING IN THINGS IN ABOUT IT. OFC THEY CAN IN INDIVIDUALS REQUESTS ABOUT UNRELATED THINGS}"

Like if that was the case legitimately why not answer the question? Genuinely. Does that make sense to you guys?

-Atticus

[problematicfactive]

With the loss of the blog mentioned, we would like to just quickly share the we do still run a factive request blog, focusing specifically on problematic factives @problematicfactquest is really needing at least another active mod, and we probably won't get to any requests sent in right now, but as soon as we get another mod, we can really start working on it. Feel free to reach out

[buildablox]

Hi, good evening to everyone, this is a bit of a break away post to talk about something generally serious

But also something I shouldn't have to talk about.

This post is about @problematicfactive | I won't respond to anything, feel free to block me if you really want to just run away from this but you did it to yourselves after how you acted. Both sides could've done something different but you really should have just blocked them and moved on.

Under the cut will be mentioning topics of incest, similar abusive relationships, and predatory relationships. If you are sensitive to this content and want to still proceed then that's on you.

So a little bit ago my friend had a blog for problematic headmates, wanting to help them and all that good stuff!

But then one little weasel came by and decided it was oh-so very smart of them to ask why they wouldn't do things for incestuous relationships or adult x minor relationships

Interesting question but sure, man, Curiosity and all that fun shit. But it's someone's boundaries and it's really no rocket science to scroll and move on or even block if it's that big of a deal for you.

I won't do those either, does this warrant doing all this extra shit you didn't need to ever do? I don't really think so.

Problematic headmates should never be pushed away from topics, nor their progress in possible recovery or their own personal journeys when it comes to the struggle of being something or someone problematic

And I truly never give a shit about who is in anyone's system. Be Hitler, be Dahmer, be Trump for all I give a fuck - it doesn't matter at the end of the day because systems will be systems and those are your headmates to care about - not me.

I would know, I have those types of headmates. I still have headmates who refuse to recover but we still do what we can. Headmates who daydream about incest with a previous abuser - headmates who want to prey upon other headmates for being younger. I've been a victim to my own headmates before whether it be them having gotten me into pedophilic relationships or other similar things.

These things are real and do happen - but that doesn't mean every system blog should have to be comfortable about it. Individualism exists, I fear. And this includes different levels of comfortability about certain topics.

Here are the thoughts from the person who had owned the blog before it was deleted ;;

[...] have those traumas

been around it to some degree

read proship and the like fics and didn't/did know better at the time but now doesn't want to

played or watched something with those themes (ex: TCOAAL) even if not a proshipper or didn't know

And so on.

But we aren't comfortable with it? I'm not hating on other blogs who can handle it, i even recommended a blog who was able to handle that kind of thing.

But no. They were mad because i didn't want headmates w those kind of relationships to interact in the sense of sending in things about it. Ofc they can in individual requests about unrelated things.

On top of that yeah we shouldve been more clear in our pinned but like :/ sorry we didnt want to trigger our headmates i shouldve thought about other people and not ourselves. so stupid of us/sarcasm

So let's use our thinking caps and maybe just move the fuck on next time. It's really not that serious if someone doesn't want a specific type or group of people interacting with them.

They are actually extremely accepting, seeing as how they handle me and my system and our genuine problematic aspects. So get a grip or something - there's a bajillion blogs out there.

If you wanna complain about it so bad maybe just make your own blog like that and do what the hell you want with it forever

People can be accepting and still have boundaries

[problematicfactive]

"Ofc they can in individual requests about unrelated things."

That was not obvious. That was not an "of course" thing, the blog very clearly said for systems with headmates in those types of relationships not to interact. The blog did not say "don't request things relating to" it said "DNI if" and that was literally the question we asked. Why can't you just avoid requesting /those topics/, how are you going to run a safe for problematic individuals and say that people with certain experiences can't interact. All that HAD to be said was. "They can, just don't send in those types of requests"

There is a very, very big difference between "don't request x content" and "do not like my posts, followy blog, or send in requests if someone in your system does x" - the first is a boundary, the second is just exclusionary. And don't suddenly act like you don't know what DNI means

We asked a question. A genuine question that we wanted to know the answer to. There is no reason to act like asking a question is the same thing as forcing pedophilia down your throat.

-Lane & NPC

[PT: NPC]

[problematicfactive]

I didn't agree with Lanes decision to reblog that here in the first place and their tone in the fact that "people are so fucking stupid" tells me personally that that isn't a safe blog to go to. Now obviously that makes it my word against Lane's word and you guys have had Lane since the beginning so do what you will, but if anyone runs an ACTUAL accepting blog please reach out

-Atticus

[problematicsplitting]

To the coward blocking us making it unable to give them an answer. We aren't comfortable with those topics. We don't mean it harshly and we understand systems cannot control who they split, but yes, since I'm not being paid for, i will not do topics I'm uncomfortable with since this is a hobby! /npa

[problematicfactive]

Why's that a DNI and not an "I wont create for"? Sorry for being "so fucking stupid", but I think it's weird to have Do Not Interacts on systems with things you yourself admit can't be controlled just because you won't make that specific content. An alter could easily be in either of these types of relationships and simply not want to request anything related to that.

-Atticus

[funeral--pyre]

Reminder that telling a headmate to change an aspect of their identity or self to be "less problematic" is dehumanising as fuck. You can't go around doing that shit. It's entirely a you issue if you can't handle a headmate having an identity, they're not responsible for your issues or required to morph themselves into something you can swallow. Fictives, factives, people with number names, nonhumans who are "scary", headmates who are queer while the body isn't, headmates who are queer in a different way to the body, disabled headmates, etc.

You can't tell a singlet to change their entire name because you think it's problematic. You can't tell a singlet to hide their gender or sexuality because it "doesn't match" their body. You can't tell a singlet to change or hide their entire damn identity because you don't like it. You can't tell a singlet to stop having days where they experience disordered symptoms.

If the headmate in question is acting respectful, treat them with some god damn respect. It doesn't MATTER if they "match" the body. They're just as much of a person as any singlet is. You cannot convert someone into being something they're not.

[problematicfactive]

thank you for this blog :) we split a serial killer lately and are struggling with it, and the factive tag is just flooded with irrelevant stuff :")

Best way to fix the factives tag being flooded is to make factive content and have a firm stance against irrelevant crosstagging. Speak up for yourself and others will start to do the same.

As for the thank you, of course :) I hope your new member finds his way well

[problematicfactive]

I need my own blog but I would not talk about a single damn thing other than people that irritate me

-Atticus

[problematicfactive]

Problematic factive ask game

I made a problematic factive ask game

If you don't want to do the game on tumblr, I can find a space within the factspace (the discord) for these to go!

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1. Do you have an alternate name? What is it?

2. Which of your family members do you miss the most? Why

3. Which of your friends do you miss the most? Why?

4. What's a very minor difference between you and your source

5. What's one thing you and your source would disagree with and one thing you would agree with

6. Are there any conspiracy theories surrounding your source? What? How do you feel about them

7. What's your favorite thing about yourself? Connecting to source or not

8. Do you have a habit that relates to your source in a way people wouldn't understand? Can you explain it?

9. Free space! Ask whatever

10. What's a question you want people to ask you? What's the answer to that question

11. How old are you (alter age)? How does that compare to your age in source? Does it affect your memories?

12. Does your system have roles/jobs? If so, what's yours?

13. Who in the system are you closest with?

14. How does your source affect your day to day?

16. How source connected are you? Are you a postfactive?

17. What's problematic about your source? How do you feel about it

18. Is your source important to who you are? How so or why not?

19. Did you introject before or after the problematic thing happened? Did you introject because of it?

20. How do you feel about doubles

21. What sets you apart from most doubles?

22. What do you have in common with your source?

23. How do you feel about your source

24. Is there any clarification you'd like to make on the relationship between you and your source? (Like, are you actually a mix between your source and something else? Are you your source person fictionalized etc)

25. How do you tell others you're a problematic factive

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Make sure you clarify any questions you don't want to answer

[debbiesdead]

1. Do you have an alternate name? What is it?

debbie 😊

2. Which of your family members do you miss the most? Why

my daughters. maybe my mum and (step)dad but i feel less connected to them. i miss my oldest daughter coz i feel like i failed her & my youngest was too young to know anything

3. Which of your friends do you miss the most? Why?

lol i didnae have friends but i guess F even though i dont remember shit about him

4. What's a very minor difference between you and your source

im not dead 🤪 lol but i dont smoke or drink or do drugs & im younger even than the body

5. What's one thing you and your source would disagree with and one thing you would agree with

ehhh i dinnae know and i dont want to speculate

6. Are there any conspiracy theories surrounding your source? What? How do you feel about them

skip idk

7. What's your favorite thing about yourself? Connecting to source or not

im alive ✌️ im better than my source was. she was fucked up and i never did any of that stuff (even tho it feels like i did)

8. Do you have a habit that relates to your source in a way people wouldn't understand? Can you explain it?

ehmmm i dunno. maybe craving cigarettes and alcohol and self harm, but i think most people would probably get that

9. Free space! Ask whatever

✌️

10. What's a question you want people to ask you? What's the answer to that question

"are you ok?" and the answer is "never have been m8". im being irreverent but idk. i guess it would be nice for people to see me as "me" but im scared as hell of that too

11. How old are you (alter age)? How does that compare to your age in source? Does it affect your memories?

i kind of feel like im in my early-mid 20s most of the time? bodily we're nearly 30, and my source was 29-30 when she died. so i dunno. i guess most of the time my "memories" feel a bit jumbled and confused, like my kids are always changing ages and i dunno how i feel about anything

12. Does your system have roles/jobs? If so, what's yours?

maybe a trauma/memory/emotion holder or something, i dont really know. i showed up when we were discovering a lot of things about my source so maybe im just our way of dealing with all of the unresolved shit related to that.

13. Who in the system are you closest with?

M, the main system protector. its funny coz he has the same name as someone my source had really fucking complicated memories about (her brother). i wonder if thats why i feel kind of like he's my sibling. but also he's kind of not? it's hard to explain, we're like the same person but also siblings but also exes.

14. How does your source affect your day to day?

i dunno. i just feel like shit when i think about her, about who i was. i know i wasnt LITERALLY her but it feels like i was. i just feel sad and shit that everything went so wrong and that im stuck feeling like this all the time.

16. How source connected are you? Are you a postfactive?

dunno what that means tbh

17. What's problematic about your source? How do you feel about it

abused my kids. stabbed a guy. tried to kill myself. made everybody's life hell. you know how it is.

idk how i feel about it. "bad" i guess.

18. Is your source important to who you are? How so or why not?

i dunno. i guess so but i dont want her to be. its complicated. i dont want to just throw her away either but also i do??

19. Did you introject before or after the problematic thing happened? Did you introject because of it?

uhh i barely understand what this means lol. my "source" is the body's mother so like. idk use your imagination

20. How do you feel about doubles

i would be shocked if one existed. but if one does it's probably the body's sister so like, fair dos, she's entitled to one lol

21. What sets you apart from most doubles?

n/a

22. What do you have in common with your source?

fat, hate myself, like black and red lipstick, loud, angry, wallowing, love my kids, etc

23. How do you feel about your source

have we not covered that like 5 times

24. Is there any clarification you'd like to make on the relationship between you and your source? (Like, are you actually a mix between your source and something else? Are you your source person fictionalized etc)

i guess im a bit of a mix of a few things. the body's mother aye, but it's like a) her as we remember her before her death, b) her as we think of her now, as adults, able to see her as a whole person (and a tragic one), and c) the body's sister. maybe some other shit too idk.

25. How do you tell others you're a problematic factive

loooolllll i dont tell anyone i exist because they all know i was a shit mum so why would i

but anyway i dont think anyone needs to say "oh hi im problematic btw" to people. you can just be yourself

[problematicfactive]

The questions seem repetitive because you aren't supposed to answer them all at once.

-Atticus

[problematicfactive]

I didn't agree with Lanes decision to reblog that here in the first place and their tone in the fact that "people are so fucking stupid" tells me personally that that isn't a safe blog to go to. Now obviously that makes it my word against Lane's word and you guys have had Lane since the beginning so do what you will, but if anyone runs an ACTUAL accepting blog please reach out

-Atticus

[problematicfactive]

Do people get those "omg they're back!!" Notifications for lil old me?

[problematicsplitting]

Promo Post !!!

We are blog here to help problematic introjects of all kinds ( fictives, factives etc ! ). We will make moodboards, stimboards , headmate packs, terms/flags, etc !

Please read our pinned post for more information ( there isn't links or anything to another site i promise LMAO ).

We will help whether your source is Hazbin Hotel, Harry Potter, a Real Life Abuser or Killer, to a Radqueer Introject or an Introject of a Proship fic !!

We do NOT support creators behind the problematic sources ( JKR, Vivize, IRL murders/abusers etc,, ) if you think we do then you do not have critical thinking skills. ♡

[problematicfactive]

Haven't worked with this blog yet and the reblogs on their pinned are off, but they seem very promising and it's been a very long time since I've been able to reccomend a blog. I'll send in a submission pretty soon, but I'm pretty sure I can say with enough trust to go ahead and support this creator

[problematicfactive]

Thought I was a fictive, and the character was problematic enough, but oooohhhh noooo, factive here. Yay

-WS🎶

Ok.

-Elliott

[problematicfactive]

It's okay to lie about your source. You don't owe anyone the truth about your system