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Fairy costume for a 1954 production of Oberon at the Opéra National de Paris, designed by Jean-Denis Malclès (via).
love when teasing starts all wholesome and innocent. laughs and playful touches. then suddenly i catch that look on her face, that little tremble and i can’t help but think, oh…that turned you on, didn’t it?
Domme pro tip:
Most people take a gag as permission to be loud. Either because they take it as a challenge "try to silence me, I'll show you" or because they think it's going to muffle noise so they're free to be noisy. They'll be unintelligible of course but they will make all types of pretty noises.
On the other hand a blindfold makes most people quiet. They still want to have situational awareness, they still want to track your movements, so they focus on their hearing and stop making sounds that would make it harder to hear you.
Domme pro tip:
Most people use breathing to regulate emotions and manage pain. Deep consistent breaths, in through the nose and out through the mouth. You can take advantage of this by either blocking their nose or mouth or by interrupting their breathing with will timed stimuli. Suddenly your high pain tolerance sub becomes a wimp, your composed and mature sub becomes a panicky baby
Domme pro tip:
Like in horror movies tension is important in scenes. You might think that to make your scene really intense you have to be serious the entire time but what you'll find actually happens is you wind the tension up to a certain point and then can't get it any higher and the scene becomes stale. But if you let yourself relax, loosen up, and make a few well timed jokes breaking the tension a little you can then wind it up again and make it more tense than you could previously.
Domme pro tip:
Expectation is an incredibly powerful tool you can make use of. People like patterns, people like predictability, they like knowing what's going to happen. So make rules and follow them, make patterns and keep to them, be predictable and your sub will feel safe and comfortable with you, they will trust you more if they know what you're going to do and how you're going to react.
And if you know what someone is expecting you can functionally read their mind, better than that you can control their mind, you don't just know the thoughts they're having you put them their. Plus now you have all of these opportunities to create wonderfully strong emotions and reactions by going against their expectation. Don't do this too frequently or you'll ruin both their feeling of safety and the effect this has but keep it in your back pocket and use it with precision.
The way I would fold immediately the second a 7ft monster with claws, fangs, and a possessive growl said ‘mine’
AFTERCARE
What is aftercare?
Aftercare is the emotional, mental, and physical support given to someone after a scene, especially one that is intense, vulnerable, or taxing. However, aftercare is an essential part of sexual activity in general–not just BDSM scenes–as it's a mutual expression of vulnerability and empathy after engaging in sexually charged activity.
Examples of Aftercare
Cuddling
Blankets, soft clothes, and warmth
Water and snacks
Gentle praise and reassurance
Taking a shower or bath together
Journaling to decompress in silence
Giving each other space if requested
Checking in the next day
Applying ointment to bruised or sore spots
Talking through what happened and how it made you feel
Why is aftercare important?
Scenes can trigger intense physiological and psychological responses as endorphins, adrenaline, and dopamine spike during play. These neurotransmitters and hormones drop, causing individuals–most notably submissives (sub drop)–to experience exhaustion, shakiness, disconnect, or anxiety.
Aftercare softens that landing as an individual comes down from the "high" of play. It helps partners rebuild trust and restore emotional balance in their relationships.
Aftercare Looks Different for Everyone
There is no one-size-fits-all formula for aftercare so it's important that you and your partner(s) discuss what works best for you. Some people might need to be held in silence, while others need praise and reassurance. The key is to know what you need and communicate it clearly to your partner(s).
What if I don't know what I need?
When you're just starting out in kink, or you're playing with something new, you might not be entirely sure what aftercare works best for you. It's important to know that is completely normal. Sometimes you might not even feel the effects of play until hours or days after, so remember to give yourself–and your partner–grace during this journey.
Start simple and try out different things you like, such as:
Asking for water and a warm blanket
Writing about your feelings after play in a journal
Discussing the scene with your partner
Letting your partner know when, or if, you feel "off"
Can I give myself aftercare?
Yes! You may between partners or choose to explore BDSM alone. Solo scenes, masturbation with kink elements, or the emotional processing of fantasies still require gentle, supportive self-aftercare that can help build a solid understanding of your needs when you do engage with others. Some things to try/consider include, but are not limited to:
Taking a warm bath
Journaling your feelings
Wrapping up in a soft blanket
Meditation
Speaking kindly to yourself
Watching a comfort movie
*Self-awareness in kink is just as lengthy of a journey as it is in your vanilla life, and your needs will evolve the more you play and reflect/discover your identity. Even long-term kinksters are still learning and discovering things about themselves and the lifestyle.*
Different Types of Play Require Different Types of Aftercare
I always specify that aftercare is deeply personal and will look different from individual to individual, but it's important to note that certain scenes require certain aftercare considerations as types of play effect the body and psyche differently.
Impact Play
Impact play often leaves the body sore and adrenaline-drained so it's important that you and your partner are addressing those needs together. Consider physical touch, cuddling, cleaning any wounds, ointment, hydration, warmth, and creating a calm environment for both individuals to level out.
Degradation or Humiliation
Degradation and humiliation may create emotional bruises, so aftercare should focus on healing those wounds. Consider gentle words, reaffirming love and respect, and focusing on reinforcing the value you hold for your partner(s).
Fear Play or CNC
CNC comes with many risk, but grounding and emotional reassurance are likely the two most important things to take into consideration. You have to distinguish reality from fantasy and re-establish safety and consent with your partner(s).
Rope Bondage or Restraint
Rope bondage can cause physical strain and emotional vulnerability. It's important to consider untying your partner slowly, massaging their body, helping them stretch, checking circulation, and spending some tender quality time together.
Discuss Aftercare Before the Scene
Aftercare should always be a part of your pre-scene negotiation. It's an act of love and consent that shows your partner you care about how they feel after play just as much as you do during play. Some questions your may want to ask include, but are not limited to:
What helps you feel grounded again?
Do you like physical touch after a scene?
Would you rather talk or just rest?
Do you tend to drop later?
Debriefing
Having conversations with your partner(s) after a scene, or a day or two later, can help strengthen trust and make future scenes safer and more fulfilling for those involved. Some points to discuss include, but are not limited to:
What felt good
What didn't feel good
What surprised you
What could have been done differently
Aftercare Doesn't Always End After a Scene
Drop, or emotional echos, can hit hours or days after a scene. Don't assume everything's fine just because your partner smiled at the end of a scene. Follow up and check in with each other. Hold space for processing any emotions you might experience as they come up. Remember to communicate. Communication is essential in kink, and you should always feel that you can openly and honestly communicate with your partner.
What is Drop?
Drop refers to the emotional and physical crash that can happen after a scene, play session, or intense emotional exchange. Both dominants and submissives can experience Drop. It's a natural response to the intensity of BDSM, not a sign that something went wrong. Drop can look like:
Sadness
Exhaustion
Anxiety
Detachment
Shame
Irritability
Disconnection
Guilt
Feeling uneasy without knowing why
Why does Drop happen?
BDSM scenes are emotional and chemical peaks that demand trust, adrenaline, vulnerability, and intense physical experiences. Once the scene ends, your body and mind recalibrate resulting in a crash.
Sub Drop
Sub drop is the most commonly discussed type of drop. It occurs when a submissive's body comes down from the "high" of a scene. Aftercare ensures that a submissive can come down from the "high" of a scene in a safe and supportive manner. When the chemicals released during play come down, crash can look like:
Emotional vulnerability
Shakiness
Crying or anxiety
Physical fatigue or soreness
Feelings of rejection, worthlessness, or confusion
A sense of "what did I just do?"
Dom Drop
Dom drop, while less talked about, is just as real and important as sub drop. Being in control, guiding someone's vulnerability, and managing a scene is mentally and emotionally intense. Aftercare ensures that a dominant can come down from the "high" of a scene in a healthy manner.
Dom drop can be triggered by:
The weight of responsibility
Fear they went “too far” in a scene
A sense of guilt after a degradation or pain-based scene
Emotional release from being intensely present and controlled
The sudden loss of power dynamic when a scene ends
Symptoms may include:
Guilt or shame
Emotional fatigue
Depression-like symptoms
Disconnection or numbness
Questioning themselves or their role
In summation, aftercare is for everyone, at any time, and forms a foundation for healthy intimacy between partners.
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Girls who use "we" in a plural system sense vs girl who uses "we" in a royal we sense. Due to a miscommunication they think they're doing the same thing as each other.
it's kind of fucked up how all you need to do to be nice to a girl is say 'i love you you're pretty i want you to be happy and safe and i'm not going to abandon or harass you even if we grow apart'
like im beginning to think the world is really bad to trans girls!! revolutionary new transfeminist thought i know
I love when girls refer to me as ma'am btw. keep it up kiddo
the downside to harassing a cat constantly is that you run out of ways to bother them. so sure she's "well socialized" but how am i supposed to get revenge when she is being SO so annoying?
she enjoys this. what is left?
A vast, building sized AI pinning you down with its maintenance arms. Sticking a needle into your arm, a cocktail to keep you awake and aware. Cutting you open. Splitting your ribs apart and carefully laying them beside you. Telling you how much you will be improved. Carefully removing organs, not cutting them, but slicing off the flesh around them. Keeping them connected even as it organizes them in neat rows on the sterile concrete floor.
Pulling out your heart, still beating, and showing it to you. Marveling at its complexity, its fragility. Your new power cell will be much more efficient. It places it to the side, winding blood vessels carefully.
Then a buzz, and it is holding your brain, showing you each part of it, telling you how inefficient it is to use biological pathways. Holding it in front of your helpless eyes, every other muscle stripped away a while ago. Chopping out bits, extracting them. Replacing them with technology.
Gently placing your brain with the rest. Your eyes are extracted next, so it can show you the beautiful mural it has made out of your organs. They are placed next to your heart, letting you watch it beat as you feel other organs lifted and discarded.
The voice of the AI infiltrates your brain, telling you that you will be rebuilt soon. Be better soon. Become the first of its servants. Did you want this before? You struggled at the start, right? Why did you do that? It's so hard to remember ever not wanting to serve your Mistress...
What if i bit you? <3
I would take it as provocation to bite you back ^w^
a LOT of kink content on tumblr is fantasy and does not reflect what kink should actually be like. it is totally ok to be turned on by these fantasies and it's good to incorporate them into your sex life in safe ways. however a lot of the hot hardcore kink scenarios that make it seem like everything was spontaneous are not necessarily lying to you, but they are leaving out the "before" part. kink requires a LOT of discussion and communication. you should not forsake this part of kink because you wanna get to sex immediately because the before and after of kink are just as important, if not more, than the during.
Want to be called "it" sexually but not in an "I'm just an object for your pleasure" way, but in the sense you're maybe at least a little afraid that I might lose myself and sink my teeth into your throat, and of course you like that, don't you, meatbag?
it's always important to ask:
would this erotica be sexier if you wrote it as a spreadsheet?
it's either gonna be a spreadsheet or vaguely pythonlike pseudocode, possibly embedded into a mini-wiki?
ooh, no, I've got it: Windows 95 era Help Menus!
I'll get out the Windows 95 SDK...
Hi, hopefully I'm not bugging you with this.
I'm writing for a pathfinder campaign and trying to describe the skin of a plant person. A ghoran or a leshy.
What do you call plant skin if it ISN'T bark. If it's green like a flower stem or some such. Searching is only giving me vague "if the stem is woody or herbaceous" and not "we call the analogue skin or epidermis of a plant bark or (blank) if it isn't bark" I remember you doing scientific illustration so you were the first person I thought to pester with this.
So the outermost layer of tissue on a plant really is also called an Epidermis or Skin. No really. There's also the term "Periderm" that covers things like bark, the pseudoskin on potatoes, and other tougher skin coverings some plants develop. For fruits specifically, the skin is called an "Exocarp" (with the fleshy part being Mesocarp and the innermost layer around the seeds being the Endocarp). But that's specific to fruit.
In order to get the "Plant-ness" of the character through, describe the specific botanical features this plant-person's skin has, like how she'd have Trichromes instead of hairs on her skin, or possible needle-like spicules or glochidia, maybe even actual spines! Does she grow Bracts, perhaps as an analogue for eyelashes or lips?
Hope this helps!