Every man should have an adult wardrobe. That means owning at least three suits. A navy blue suit, a black suit and a grey suit. To help you get started here are a few guides:
Getting suited up for the first time? Here you go.
How To Match Tie, Collar & Lapel Widths
Real Men Real Style Guide to Fit
How to Fit a Suit Jacket and Mens Pants
Don’t bath in cologne. Ever. The point of cologne is to smell great but only to those who get up close and personal NOT to the entire room. So dab in the back of the ears, on your wrists and dassit. DASSIT!
Learn to tie a tie. You’re an adult. It’s always embarassing when a man doesn’t know how to tie a tie. Here’s a guide:
Leadership skills are important in life NOT just at work. Always invest in learning and growing those skills. Start with the following books:
The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership
Becoming a Person of Influence: How to Positively Impact the Lives of Others
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change
Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion
Always treat a woman like a lady no matter what. It’s not a matter of her, it’s a matter of you. Women have tried their best to kill chivalry (yea i said it hahaha), but it still speaks well of men to maintain these standards. The basics:
Always walk on the street side with a woman.
Always hold the door open for a woman.
Always walk behind a woman when she goes up the stairs.
Always walk in front of a woman when she goes down the stairs.
Always pull the chair out for a woman when at a dinner table (especially on a date)
Always stand when a woman, especially on a date, leaves or enters the room until she is seated.
Learn manners. You’re not more of a man because you don’t know what a salad fork is. That’s stupid. Here are some books to get you started:
Modern Manners: Tools to Take You to the Top
The Gentlemen’s Book of Etiquette and Manual of Politeness
Everyday Etiquette: How to Navigate 101 Common and Uncommon Social Situations
Good Manners for Nice People Who Sometimes Say F*ck
Emily Post’s Etiquette, 18
Money. Start saving at least 10% of your paycheck into savings no matter what. Don’t touch it unless you absolutely have to. Build and protect your credit. You’re going to need it sooner than you think. Start thinking about investing now. Compound interest is hugely important to building wealth. Here are some places to get you started:
The Millionaire Next Door
Self awareness is the key to personal growth. Without it you’re doom to just keep repeating the same mistakes and wonder why you’re not progressing. Start with personality tests to get a sense of who you are and once you do, build on your strength and limit the impact of your weakness.
Learn and live the 80/20 rule. 80% of your success comes from 20% of your acts. Figure out what those are and invest more in that 20%. Here are some resources to get you started:
The 80/20 Rule of Time Management: Stop Wasting Your Time
The Top 4 Misapplications of the 80/20 Rule
Sex. Don’t be a typical man who thinks he’s a sex God and never has to learn anything or put any time into getting better at it. For women, that’s the worst. It actually means that if you knows what she needs to get off and feel satisfied, you won’t listen if she tells you. Not. Good. If you actually want to be great in bed, listen and learn.
Spectacular Sex Moves She’ll Never Forget
The Men’s Health and Women’s Health Big Book of Sex
This should go without saying but I’m going to say it any way. No means no. Nothing matters when she says no. It doesn’t even matter if you’re fucking, no means no. Cease and desist immediately. Respect her wishes.
Job Interviews: As someone who interviews a lot of people, there are some essentials you have to master in order to do well in interviews:
Come dressed like you want the job NOT like you already have the job. Dark suit and tie. Hair neat.
Always bring your resume and many copies of it.
Give a strong full handshake. None of that spaghetti, three finger bullshit.
Take notes. Pen and pad not an iPad or your phone. Pen and pad.
Prepare good questions in advance. You should always ask questions that show knowledge of the industry as well as knowledge of a good work environment. You should interview them just as much as they interview you. Find out what issue they are trying to solve with the position they are hiring for.
Always have an answer for the question “why do you want to work here?” Always.
End every interview with the question “So given what we’ve reviewed and talked about today, is there any reason why you wouldn’t offer me this position?” That’s a power question that makes it clear you want the job and you’re open to having a frank discussion about your chance (good or bad).
Send a thank you email (not letter or note) no more than 3 business days after but not the next business day.
Incorporate into the thank you email the answers to questions you asked and/or information you were given (remember those notes) to show that you were actually listening. Especially work in the information regarding the issues they are trying to solve with the hire and how you can help them with that.
Always make and maintain eye contact.
And there you go. Some starters for ya.
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