So I'd like you to meet my partners. This is the broken, this is the beaten, and this is the damned.
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So I'd like you to meet my partners. This is the broken, this is the beaten, and this is the damned.
they should legalize polyamory. everywhere. and im not kidding at all. if someone wants to marry multiple people they should be allowed to. for any reason.
There's a word for that. It's called "cheating".
So no it’s not, actually. There is a massive difference between polyamory and cheating.
I’m going to put this as nicely as possible because I’m just running under the assumption that you’re uneducated
I’m in a poly relationship, and it works just fine. There is active communication that involves everyone, there are certain boundaries set that no one crosses, and everyone is comfortable and it is all consensual.
If it were cheating, that would mean that there would be no communication, one (or more) parties wouldn’t be completely aware of everything, and there wouldn’t be boundaries or consent there.
People can have multiple partners without it being cheating, and it can actually make people really happy. It becomes cheating when someone isn’t being informed of what’s happening and/or isn’t comfortable with it.
It’s really all about communication, and I honestly recommend you like, educate yourself, before saying stuff like this.
I want to be mad but this is the funniest response I could’ve gotten
they should legalize polyamory. everywhere. and im not kidding at all. if someone wants to marry multiple people they should be allowed to. for any reason.
There's a word for that. It's called "cheating".
So no it’s not, actually. There is a massive difference between polyamory and cheating.
I’m going to put this as nicely as possible because I’m just running under the assumption that you’re uneducated
I’m in a poly relationship, and it works just fine. There is active communication that involves everyone, there are certain boundaries set that no one crosses, and everyone is comfortable and it is all consensual.
If it were cheating, that would mean that there would be no communication, one (or more) parties wouldn’t be completely aware of everything, and there wouldn’t be boundaries or consent there.
People can have multiple partners without it being cheating, and it can actually make people really happy. It becomes cheating when someone isn’t being informed of what’s happening and/or isn’t comfortable with it.
It’s really all about communication, and I honestly recommend you like, educate yourself, before saying stuff like this.
Sooooo ummmmmmm this is something that's probably going to piss a lot of people off, but I feel like I really need to say it.
If you get a message from an account claiming to be a Palestinian fundraiser, it is a bot. It is a scam. You need to report & delete the message and encourage others to do the same.
I know because I get messages on this account DAILY. I have a very high follower count and I'm pretty active and I interact with my followers a lot, and apparently that all adds up to one big bot magnet.
Bots following and messaging this account was a MASSIVE problem before Tumblr fixed its new account policies. I used to spend literally hours blocking and reporting the hundreds of bots that I would get following me each day.
I learned a lot about bots and how to identify them. The easiest way is with no avatar, "untitled" in the blog description (BTW if your avatar is still set to default PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD change it because you run a substantial risk of being accidentally blocked & reported as a bot).
One of the dead give aways of a bot was what I call "word salad" names. Three seemingly random words strung together making no sense, always adjective, adjective or noun, noun. If you reported a lot of these bots, you'd notice the same words kept showing up.
Nowadays, I am bombarded with fundraiser requests and sometimes, they don't even bother to hide the fact that they're a bot. The avatar is default, the blog title is "untitled," and the blog name is a classic randomly-generated word salad.
However MOST of the requests I get come from at least semi-legit looking accounts. There are pictures, a name, a story. Never mind that I've gotten that message three times from different accounts.
Sometimes, they claim to be vetted, but the whole vetting system essentially adds up to "trust me bro." There is no way of guaranteeing that this account isn't just lying about being vetted, claiming to be vetted by a false person, or are using the identity of a real Palestinian to scam people.
Previously, I've seen a lot of people getting attacked for raising questions about these fundraisers and getting attacked for being racist or for harming Palestinian families in danger, like Tumblr isn't a website famous for its scams and the words "The Arkh Project" "All or Nothing" or "Miss Officer and Mr. Truffles" mean nothing to you.
I personally have been scammed by people claiming to be charities on Tumblr before, specifically, The Leelah Project which used the name of a trans teenager who died by suicide to swindle people out of their money.
Luckily, there are actual, respected charities out there you can give money to if you want to help the cause:
Palestinian Children's Relief Fund
Palestine Red Crescent Society
United Nations Relief Works Agency
Islamic Relief
World Central Kitchen
Médecins Sans Frontièrs
One of the hardest things to accept about the situation in Palestine is that realistically, there is very little that your average outsider can do to change it. However, these large, well-respected and trustworthy charities are out there doing the hard work to keep people alive, and should be where the donation money is going
These scam bots feed on people's naïvety and need to believe that they are making a difference, and even worse, feed on the fear that by ignoring them, it somehow makes you a racist doing direct harm to a refugee family, when in fact they are using the suffering of Palestinians to take away money from those in need.
As far as fundraisers that don't send out random asks for donations, I honestly don't know. You'll have to do the work yourself and approach with much caution.
Be careful out there.
another really heartbreaking aspect of this is if you give money to a homeless guy who lied to you, that dude still gets some money which he probably needs anyway. with these scambots the money is probably going to bot farms, which are nontrivially reliant on human trafficking.
Cyberfraud is considered human trafficking's newest form of exploitation, according to the global crime-fighting organization. Victims are l
it's not just a waste of your money, it's a payment to actual literal criminal organizations. donate to vetted charities.
If you feel powerless, and you just do something to feel less powerless, without actually making it be something that works, you're doing it about your feelings, not about the situation you're unhappy about.
There are a lot of people in the notes claiming it’s easy to just check a vetting blog, entirely missing that this post addresses how easy it is for those vetting systems to be taken advantage of (people can take the identity of a vetted person by these blogs very easily).
I honestly don’t know what to think in terms of if there are actual real people anywhere at all buried in my inbox, but considering the plethora of supposedly vetted people asking for money in my inbox in exactly the same way there were a plethora of “people” in my inbox with completely bare accounts and “dying pets” asking for money with the same verbiage as each other…
Tumblr has always been a place where scams are pretty rampant. Yes, Tumblr is also a social media website where people are posting their legitimate fundraisers, but that’s exactly why scams can run as rampant as they do here.
Because it’s easy to prey on people who are already tuned into an issue. And with this one in particular, when even this post has people screaming at OP about how supposedly racist they are for this post, people are taking their own feelings of helplessness and reckoning with the fact that they are privileged and feel like they’ve finally been presented with a low-effort way to help and are lashing out at the people who are claiming this low-effort “help” they’ve glommed onto is rife with scams with that guilt they were feeling from reckoning with privilege—“I’m doing a thing which helps me feel less racist in a world where I’m privileged, and so you making a post like this one and telling me I’m not being less racist is a threat to me not being racist; you must be the racist!”
Anyway. The takeaway from this post shouldn’t really be, “do or do not donate to tumblr fundraisers for anything,” and certainly shouldn’t be, “and so you’re saying we shouldn’t donate our money at all?” like so many people are jumping to.
No, the takeaway should be that you need to be extremely careful with where you’re giving your money. Make absolutely sure you know where it’s going. The easiest way to do that is to pass off that responsibility to charity organizations which are much more equipped to be able to get your money where it’s needed and much less likely to put your money toward disguised human trafficking.
amazing additions!
I have seen many a post saying things along the line of "I would rather give to a hundred scams on the chance that some of these people are real and need my help" but I cannot stress enough that the danger of giving to a scam is not just "oh no i gave money to someone that didn't actually need it."
Scams can and will take your card/bank info/identity/whatever if they have a chance at it. Not every scam. But folks have got to be more cautious and treat this as a serious risk.
I had been donating to a lot of vetted fundraisers when my card information was stolen. I got an unauthorized purchase on my card, and luckily, my bank caught it and froze my card. I had to cancel it and get a new card. I had already been checking every single fundraiser and only donating to vetted ones, and my information still got stolen, and it was very likely stolen by a bot.
I'm now getting an amount of fundraiser asks in my inbox that I can't keep up with, and a lot of them are very obvious scams, and some of them are likely legitimate, but there are so many that I can't keep up.
The problem isn't that you may donate $5 to someone who doesn't need it. The problem is that if you donate $5 to a scam bot and that bot takes your card information and the scammer drains your bank account, then you have a drained bank account. It isn't selfish or racist to be careful with your information. It's proactive. If your account is drained, you can't donate $5 to ANYONE. I am very lucky that no money was taken from my account and I was able to get a new card. Not everyone is that lucky. Protect your information. Donate to verified sources.
Also not to put too fine a point on it, but that bit about the online scamming industry relying heavily on the use of human trafficking victims in very real and very serious.
I think a lot of the logic of "give recklessly!" comes from there being pretty hard limits on what an irl scam can consist of. Let's say I'm at the grocery store, and the woman in front of me can't pay for her groceries, oh no, and she's got her arm in a sling, and it's her five year old daughter's birthday too, and she starts crying as she's putting the items back one-handed... I think most people wouldn't give a shit if maybe that woman was scamming us. I think most of us, assuming we could, would pull out our wallet and tell her not to worry, it's really no problem, and buy the boxed cake mix and the toilet paper and the whatever else for her.
But... what's the worst thing that can happen in that situation, really? The worst possible outcome is "I bought <$100 worth of ordinary groceries for a woman who was actually a scam artist". That's a risk worth taking for the people who are really in need, right? That's a totally reasonable trade off.
I'm at no risk of getting my personal information via a gofundme lookalike password harvester. I'm not even really at much risk of getting my credit card number stolen, unless the checkout clerk is in on the scam, which is pretty unlikely.
More than that, you know what there is absolutely zero risk of at all? There is no risk that if I pay for this woman's groceries, those groceries will be used to directly fund and maintain a massive human trafficking operation in Myanmar. There is no risk that, by paying for her groceries, my name will be placed on a list of marks, and I will then be accosted by dozens upon dozens of human trafficking victims who are all being forced to enact "sad mother tearfully putting back groceries" scams, as well as vehicular scams, romance scams, extortion scams, and more, literally at gunpoint. I'm not going to "do good recklessly" at the supermarket, and then as a direct result of that, have my next six coffee dates all turn out to be people who were lured to a foreign country with the promise of a good job, had their passport stolen, and are being kept in a warehouse with limited access to food, water, and basic hygiene – who have been threatened that unless they can go on hundreds of coffee dates a day and convince at least a dozen of those people to pour money into a crypto scam, their captors will make the hell that they are living even worse.
If any of that was a realistic possibility in the case of an irl grocery store sob story, don't you think we'd all be a little less likely to reach for our wallets?
"Do good recklessly" does not mean "it's fine to recklessly give money to anyone who says they need it, even if there are very good reasons to suspect that a huge amount of that money is going directly to a literal human trafficking ring".
Please please please give to real charities instead of random fundraising asks you receive online. If you can't be convinced to do it for the sake of not getting scammed, then do it for the sake of not wanting to participate in genuinely horrific abuse. Every dollar you send to a scammer who is using the stolen identity of a vetted Palestinian in need? It doesn't just get pocketed; it also very likely goes to support this:
This is her story of survival.
Yeah, this. It’s important not to just think of it as “my money might go to someone who is doing fine” but “my money might be going toward actively making the world worse, including much worse for the kind of people I want to help.” (Human traffickers frequently take advantage of people trying to escape a humanitarian crisis at all costs — like, say, the numerous people desperate to get out of Gaza right now.)
Idk what trans man needs to hear this but you're NOT evil or disgusting for being a man. You do NOT have to suffer for the sins of the patriarchy committed by cis dudes. Being a man doesn't invalidate the misogyny you experienced growing up or experience now. Being a man doesn't mean you deserve to be isolated. Being a man doesn't mean you're inherently predatory or scary. You didn't "choose" this, and finding your true self is NOT "betraying the community" because you happen to be a man and/or masculine rather than a woman and/or feminine. You ARE allowed to be upset when people "affirm" your gender by malgendering you.
You DO deserve a community that uplifts you. You DO deserve to experience trans joy. You DO deserve to have your voices heard and your struggles recognized. Wanting the bare minimum of solidarity is NOT "making everything about trans men".
tumblr just deleted a huge swathe of palestinians who were on here trying to fundraise. if you've been helping any of these fundraisers please take this time to 1) check in with palestinians you're in contact with 2) help them submit support requests if needed 3) keep these campaigns circulating while the beneficiaries are being silenced. these campaigns are life or death, this isn't just social networking. do not let these fundraisers languish.
Palestinians who've reached out to me today after having their blogs deleted (sorry if I don't have your most recent former account):
@abood-gaza5, formerly @/aboodgaza. GFM link to Abood's campaign.
@familgazaamal1, formerly @/familygazaamal. GFM link to Amal's campaign.
@mahrahpalestine, formerly @/freepaleatine95. GFM link to Marah's campaign.
@mohammedmatar392, formerly @/mohammedmatat. GFM link to Mohamed's campaign.
@momenalostaz555, formerly @/mo98h and @/momenalostaz. GFM link to Momen's campaign.
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This is so sick dude
since lists like these tend to gain more traction than if i just published the asks, i've once more compiled a list with palestinian survivors who've reached out to me. please donate if you can, and REBLOG FOR REACH. thank you!
ahmed al-nabih, #218 on the vetted gaza evacuation list, €25,526/€30,000
shaima and family, unvetted as of yet, $170/$30,000 (EXTREMELY LOW ON FUNDS)
abood and family, vetted by association through mohiy-gaza, $5,122/$40,000
youssef al-habeel's tragically ill son (URGENT!), #406 on the butterflyeffect project spreadsheet, €8,582/€20,000
muhammad al-shaer, vetted by el-shab-hussein, £13,762/£50,000
noureddine and family, vetted by roadimusprime, $13,095/$45,000
ahmed and family, vetted by 90-ghost, €13,672/€80,000
anas al-sharfa, unvetted as of yet, €1,062/€50,000
ahmed al zaeem, #129 on the vetted gaza evacuation fundraiser list, $24,706/$50,000
hazem shawish, vetted by association through samarsh97, €4,811/€50,000
rudaina and family, vetted by 90-ghost, €10,150/€30,000
aya almajdoub, vetted by roadimusprime, €437/€55,000 (EXTREMELY LOW ON FUNDS)
Hello 👋, I hope you're doing well..
My name is Mahmoud, and I'm a 17-year-old from Gaza. The ongoing war has devastated my city, destroyed my school, and made daily life incredibly challenging.
Despite these hardships, I'm determined to continue my education and build a better future. I've been given a chance to study abroad, but I need help to cover the costs of leaving Gaza, as well as living expenses and other essentials abroad once the crossing opens.. 🙏
If you can, please consider donating or sharing, your kindness can truly make a difference, and thanks for your time. ❤🍉
https://gofund.me/bd3ccf0b 🔗
Hey so, I can’t donate right now because I’m in a situation, but I can post this.
Everyone who can, please donate, those who can’t, please reblog.
Do not just like this and keep scrolling. Reblogging is how posts actually get seen
You guys know what’s funny to me?
All my favorite transmasc coded lyrics are by bands who aren’t transmasc
Said lyrics are:
“Found out what it takes to be a man, mom and dad will never understand” - Coming Clean / Green Day
“Daddy’s little girl ain’t a girl no more” - Negative Creep / Nirvana
These are the only ones I could think of off the top of my head but honestly I’d love it if people reblogged this with more lyrics
“She should’ve been a son” - Been A Son / Nirvana
You guys know what’s funny to me?
All my favorite transmasc coded lyrics are by bands who aren’t transmasc
Said lyrics are:
“Found out what it takes to be a man, mom and dad will never understand” - Coming Clean / Green Day
“Daddy’s little girl ain’t a girl no more” - Negative Creep / Nirvana
These are the only ones I could think of off the top of my head but honestly I’d love it if people reblogged this with more lyrics
I changed the colors on my blog to the trans colors
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ID: A photo of a concrete cylinder with text painted on the side reading in all caps: "Suck More T. Dick! [heart]"
End ID.
Realest thing I have ever seen
I'm sorry but fem cis people, need to leave masc afabs the fuck alone.
Yes, I don't think it's okay to put down women who like to dress up and wear make up.
Yes, It is very patriartical to associate femininity with weakness.
Yes, toxic masculinity is bad.
That doesn't mean it's okay to force femininity on afabs.
If a trans man or transmasc wishes not to be called "gurl" or "queen" ect. You fucking respect that.
If a cis girl doesn't want to dress up, leave her the fuck alone.
I don't care if you're a cis gay man who was forced to be hypermasc as a child, or a cis woman who was taught to be ashamed of her femininity. You leave masc afabs alone!
Feminity is not inherently oppressive, but FORCED feminity IS!
One evening, I was at the LGBTQIA center for a trans committee and I was the only trans man in attendance. One trans woman told me she never understood how I could want to be a "disgusting man".
Later that evening, she told me she'd love to swap bodies with me (I was pre T, pre op and didn't bind). I told her I didn't understand why she'd want to have the body of a "disgusting man".
She called me transmisogynistic.
Oh, the irony.
Sharing this tag because holy shit
Fetishisation by trans women who say they hate us and we're trash BUT want to shagg us... I'd like to say I'm surprised, but I'm not because I've been hit on by at LEAST 3 trans women who said they were lesbians (and I, but that's me, wouldn't feel comfortable with a lesbian woman going out and/or having sex with me) and told me I "could make them pansexual". Or the one twice my age who, in the same LGBT center, grabbed me by the chocker I was wearing and said she'd gladly "put me on a leash."
Or my ex's girlfriend who told me, "I always dreamed of having a 3-some, I don't like men, but you have a c*nt. I'd love to pass you around."
And every single time I tried to defend myself, I got called a disgusting transmisogynist who just hated trans women, so I never dared to talk about it.
obligatory statement that this doesn’t mean all trans women are like this, it means these trans women were like this. that being said, i have also had similar things to the above said to me, both on and offline, and it is incredibly frustrating to feel like even talking about these things isn’t allowed because “what if transphobes use it against trans women” bc transphobes are have a narrative. they’ll find more stories to warp any way they can. but silencing discussion about intercommunity conflict and lateral aggression or just straight up transphobia from other trans people doesn’t keep trans women safe from transphobes, it just hurts the trans people who are trying to have the discussion.
The thing that also should probably be added to this conversation is, for every one of these stories I’ve heard where the perpetrator was a trans lesbian, I’ve heard at least three where the perpetrator was a cis lesbian or straight cis woman, who was using different language but eerily similar rhetoric. The problem is not that trans women are uniquely more oppressive towards trans men than other women. The problem is that female abusers in general, be they cis or trans, lesbian or straight, see trans men as an acceptable target for sexual violence, and couch it in terms of whatever social justice language allows them to claim that trans men have systemic power over them merely for being men. Women who are abusers are much more likely to fly under the radar if their targets are from a group that they can claim is oppressing them for any action they take to defend themselves. And yeah, you better believe that that includes marginalized women who are abusers – because abusers of all identities, even marginalized identities, absolutely exist, and will exploit the fact that they have a marginalized identity for the purpose of camouflaging their abuse of others.
Honestly, this whole thing reminds me quite a bit of the constant tension with supposedly anti-racist feminist spaces bending over backwards to cater to white women who abuse and denigrate Black men whenever they manage couch that abuse in terms of feminism. It’s essentially the same problem. Refusing to understand intersectionality isn’t just bad praxis in a “we’re stronger together” sort of way. When you refuse to acknowledge that someone who is from a class or identity which has power in one context might lack power in a different context, you are opening the door to abusers who will mercilessly exploit the rigid and non-overlapping categories of oppression that you have created in order to harm others without consequence.
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The problem is not that trans women are uniquely more oppressive towards trans men than other women. The problem is that female abusers in general, be they cis or trans, lesbian or straight, see trans men as an acceptable target for sexual violence, and couch it in terms of whatever social justice language allows them to claim that trans men have systemic power over them merely for being men
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Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.
gay men who don’t acknowledge trans men as actual men
lesbians who don’t acknowledge trans women as actual women
transphobia in the queer community
transphobia
one time i was in an olive garden bathroom and my packer fell out of my shorts and this ten year old boy just looked at me with absolute terror and without thinking i said "that's what happens when you don't eat your vegetables" later i saw him eating salad at a speed no human should be capable of