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(ahem) Fallen angel here (will be decorated and edited!)
Yeah so the bots got to me, lost my art account that I worked hard to keep up , but im back angels!!! what happened really tore me down had a really bad crisis and refused to return to tumblr for awhile!!! However I dont givenup easy and WILL get my account back no matter what!!
For the new angels, Im Casket, Nuance or Cryptid.
Pronouns are they/them and vae/vem!
hey. if you want to actually change minds, don't be unkind to the people you're trying to convince. or you CAN but in most scenarios you'll alienate a potential ally. what matters more to you? taking your anger out on someone? or helping them actually understand the situation at hand?
"wow you're fucking stupid OBVIOUSLY x isn't y. can you learn to read or something" <- changes no minds, the person you're talking to will struggle to agree with you because by extension they would have to agree that they're stupid for being wrong, total happiness for everyone involved is through the FLOOR. in the NEGATIVES. no one wins, even if you feel good in the moment.
but....
"hey there, I understand that you're very passionate about this, but the most recent studies out there show that x isn't y. I just wanted to let you know, because you clearly care a lot about the subject!" <- I have seen this change minds firsthand, it's easier for the person to agree with you because they're not feeling defensive over an insult, and total happiness for everyone involved either stays the same or goes UP. everyone wins. if they're still being silly about it, at least you can walk away knowing that you tried. and often times, even if they show no change in the moment, that kind of interaction stays with people. they'll ruminate on it. you might have helped incite a later change of heart.
all that being said, conserve your energy and efforts. if someone repeatedly shows that they have no intention of considering any of your words, disengage! walk away! you CAN change minds but you CAN'T change everyone. "is this a constructive use of my time?" is a question worth asking yourself when you catch yourself talking to someone who is attempting to animorph into a brick wall. patience and kindness are awesome weapons but you do have to pick your battles. [:
Happy AAPI month — scheduled post n.1
Hey all! We’re still on break, but as Asian American plurals, we wanted to share some things about our plurality and culture this AAPI month :)
What is AAPI month?
AAPI month means Asian American & Pacific Islander month. It is also sometimes referred to as AANHPI month, or Asian American, Native Hawaiian & Pacific Islander month! This is a month dedicated to celebrating the rich histories and cultures of all Asian Americans and Pacific Islanders, and YES this does include Native Hawaiians regardless of which acronym you see being used!! In fact, “AAPI” includes over 75 different countries, as well as the pacific islands. During AAPI heritage month, special emphasis is put on AAPI people and their cultures. AAPI month begins May 1st!
Why is AAPI month important?
42% of Americans cannot name even one Asian American historical experience. Very few schools even require our history to be taught. Hate crimes against AAPI populations have spiked in a terrifying and concerning, especially since 2020. Our cultures are constantly overlooked, forgotten, and downplayed. We are seen as “model minorities” by some, and “dirty immigrants” by others. The month of May is significant because it commemorates the first Japanese immigrants and also remembers the Chinese immigrants who poured their blood, sweat, and tears out for this country. This month is a time to platform AAPI people and listen to us tell the stories that people have drowned out for many, many years.
What’s this got to do with plurality?
AAPI month is important to my system specifically because… big shocker… we’re Asian! We’re mixed Thai, Indian & Chinese! And we aren’t the only Asian system, trust us. AAPI systems are very frequently ignored and overlooked in the plural community, not to mention the ways our cultures are used as pawns for disgusting “syscourse” arguments (looking at you, tulpacourse) while our real lived experiences are thrown away if we express differing opinions.
Our system identifies as a traumagenic DID system. We always have. But we also identify as adaptive and, yeah, practicers of Buddhism! This includes tulpamancy for us! Due to this, we’ve scheduled three posts for this month, and while we won’t be active on this account for this month due to life experiences, we will be logging in periodically to make sure no hateful or racist comments are directed to us. So please behave!
Happy AAPI month everyone. Remember to signal boost, donate to, reblog from, and support Asian Americans and Pacific Islanders this month (and every month, just so we’re clear!). If you’re an AAPI system, tag us in your promo posts, gofunds, and anything else you want us to reblog! :)
You aren’t a bad person if you view your systemhood or plurality in a negative light. It isn’t a moral failing to feel negatively about your plurality or systemhood. You deserve love and respect as much as any other person. Your view on your personal experience with systemhood or plurality doesn’t reflect on your morals.
You are allowed to have negative feelings.
reblog if you love your mutuals but don’t interact due to low energy/executive dysfunction/etc (о´∀`о)
Here’s some positivity for traumaendo systems who started out endogenic!
Plurality can manifest at any age for a wide variety of reasons. It’s true that for some systems, they may start out endogenic but then become partially traumagenic in the future. These traumaendo systems are absolutely valid and they deserve to be recognized and uplifted in our spaces! So here’s to all the traumaendo systems who started out with endogenic origins!
🐙 Shoutout to systems who already had a well established system structure before they were traumatized!
🪸 Shoutout to traumaendo systems with headmates who each have their own specific origins!
🐠 Shoutout to protogenic systems who also have a complex dissociative disorder and identify as traumaendo as a result!
☀️ Shoutout to traumaendo systems who were nondisordered but whose plurality became disordered after a traumatic incident!
🐟 Shoutout to traumaendo systems who regressed in system communication and/or understanding after they were traumatized!
🏝 Shoutout to traumaendo systems who developed PTSD, CPTSD, or another trauma-based disorder after their system had already been established!
🐋 Shoutout to traumaendo systems who aren’t sure whether their traumagenic or endogenic origins came first!
🐚 Shoutout to traumaendo systems who often feel excluded from traumagenic, survivor focused resources due to their endogenic origins!
🦀 Shoutout to systems whose plurality, trauma history, or system origins have been fakeclaimed in the past due to being endogenic before they were traumatized!
🌊 Shoutout to traumaendo systems who are struggling, who need access to resources, therapy, a shoulder to cry on, or someone in their corner who cares about them!
🐬 Shoutout to traumaendo systems with trauma histories that are complex, embarrassing, gruesome, or could be considered taboo, mild, or even normal by others!
🏖 Shoutout to traumaendo systems who have come to accept and embrace their system origins, regardless of which came first or how they present!
To any traumaendo system who started out as endogenic, we want to remind you that you are real, your plurality is real, and your origins are real! We will never, ever doubt the trauma that you went through - you did not deserve whatever harm befell you, and we hope that in the future you will be able to find peace, recovery, and self-acceptance. It’s okay to have existed as a system before you were traumatized! There is nothing wrong with doing your best to live your life authentically and embrace who you are.
Please know that we care about you, we’re rooting for you, and we’re wishing the very best for you in all that you do! You not only belong in our spaces, but you make the plural community a better place by being here. Rest assured, your experiences are valid, and you are allowed to define and describe your own plurality with language that work best for you. We hope you can try to take it easy and have a wonderful day today! Thanks so much for reading, and take care!
makes me sad that most YouTube art videos are about "how to make your ocs interesting", "how to grow your account in social media", "how to not make mary sues" like what happened to just drawing for fun and sharing it- oh wait I forgot this is the result of lolcowing people for their technical art skills and or clout related things.
reblog if you're ok with your singlet friends asking you questions about plurality and/or your system
no no please worry about the "evil" alter. they're doing this for attention please for the love of god give them attention they are touch starved and in need of love. cause they're not really evil, they're lashing out. if everyone else gets compassion when they lash out, so should the "evil" alter.
stop calling people who are hurting "evil". start taking care of the "evil" people. they're still people, and people deserve compassion.
not knowing why you are the way you are, or why you act the way you do, can easily be very distressing to just about everyone. in your confusing and uncertain time, please remember that you deserve patience and kindness. your struggles do not make you any less deserving of such, even when you don't have a name for your struggles.
Fuck it. Coining post. It's very rough because I've never made one before.
#Pluronomy
What's pluronomy, you ask?
Simple! It's a combination of the words plural and autonomy.
It's the belief that you have the right to do what you want with your plurality as an extension of bodily autonomy, mental autonomy, and autonomy of beliefs.
I've seen folks say things like willing more alters and elaborating on fragments is bad because it's "worsening symptoms", that introjects need to source separate or source interact, that you need to see yourselves a certain way, that certain headmates and alters need to be treated a certain way, ect ect ect.
Pluronomy says to that "not your system, not your choice!" Pluronomy says do whatever you& want. This term is for folks who want more headmates, want to engage with that source in a fucky way. Those syskids and littles who don't want to be coddled, those in-sys relationships that are just reenactments that don't want to break up. Those "harmful" headmates who don't want to "get better". This term is for YOU!!!
It can also fall under the Mad pride and Mad punk movements for CDD having plurals and other disordered plural friends.
This term and is pro willo, pro endo, ect, but anyone can use it because gatekeeping terms is lame as hell.
my firsts post... this is some of the methods my system uses to tell me they're real. we've mulled it over and felt like sharing it because the community on tumblr has helped us a lot with understanding and accepting things. <3
