COMQUEER - LONG POST
pt: com-queer - long post.
comqueer, also called communityqueer, is a blankqueer stance in which the individual holds feelings of freedom for all and radical acceptance, while also striving to keep beings of all ages safe. this blankqueer stance is very intertwined with harmless personal identities so long they do not stereotype, make fun of, or degrade other groups. example: you may be dissorace, dissoabled, etc, while also not stereotyping the groups and listening to those who actually have the traits & the community to relieve dysphoria and be considered family / proxy of that community by its members.
EMOJI COMBO: π₯π
PRO:
HARMLESS PERSONAL IDENTITIES: associd / associ[x] / associx, dissomei, etc. com-queer surrounds this concept.
mogai, liom, radinclus
contradictory labels / good-faith
recovery, but shouldn't be forced upon someone who truly does not want to get better after multiple attempts at recovery
consent
bodily autonomy
rehabilitation
proper education on mental & physical health.
con"abuse" relationships (preferably with the use of a different term other than "abuse".)
non-disordered systems
self love
safe contact
coping mechanisms
yumeshipping
roleplay of any kind
protecting minors/children
mad pride
consuming dark media critically
harm reduction!!!
critically consuming media in general
realistic portrayal of abuse
de-sexualization of paraphilias (platonic, romantic, intellectual, emotional paraphilias...)
safewords in all kink/paras/etc
recognition of all mental illnesses (schizospec, cluster a, b, c, psychotic spec, neurodevelopmental disorders that isn't just ADHD or ASD, BIID, etc)
NEU:
transids (keep transids (dysphoria) related to race, able, harmed & harmful in private between close ones, and when publicly speaking of it, be objective in your experience without glorifying the experiences you have dysphoria of not having. harmless transids are free to be posted online wherever. we still encourage those with taboo IDs to use terms like dissomei and similar to be distinct from those who identify with taboo IDs for fun.)
ANTI:
abuse
harassment
pro/darkship community (1)
radqueer community (2)
ableism, saneism
"narc abuse"
stigmatization of disorders & paraphilias
"MUDs" or "medically unrecognized disorders" (3)
psych
bigotry
non-consenting acts of any kind (no matter how small!)
real incest (always csa or grooming, the internal family structure is something you cannot undo and coercion is VERY VERY common due to the power the family structure has.)
censorship
the label "thought crimes", no thought is a crime.
romanticizing abuse
xenosatanism
center wing, right wing
using sociopath, psychopath, psychotic, schizophrenic, etc in a negative context.
minors publicly in kink
agegap relationships (2+ years in child/teenhood (0-19), 3-4+ years in adulthood unless over 25/30 years old, where you are mature enough to enter any kind of relationship.)
generative ai
feel free to ask about any other stances comqueer holds. please READ everything thoroughly before asking questions.
(1) pro/darkship communities tend to publicly romanticize abuse and crimes, and while engaging in dark media isn't bad in itself, the presence of this romanticized/fetishized media in FANDOM spaces have high risk of children being groomed into pro/darkshipping, which can then permanently traumatize them. engaging in your paraphilias in private/with close friends isn't bad and even encouraged in therapy, but publicly romanticizing such will cause a lot of harm. always remember to consume dark media critically aswell! also, darkshipping MAY be damaging to your health. if it is, you should stop.
(2) radqueer as an ideology is... almost fine on its own (i.e the VERY original coining post of radqueer, aka old radqueer), but is far too vague and allows people who think chronominors can consent to chronoadults, aswell as "pro-contact" for paraphilias where one is completely unable to consent. this label was made to be VAGUELY similar to radqueer, but safer for children and fragile people to use and HEAVILY encourages consent before anything.
(3) MUDs tend to be already-defined disorders, and also tend to describe Normal Traits but make it into a disorder even though it is not inherently disordered. a lot of MUDs we see typically describe a form of Autism anyway, or any other disorder that exists. otherwise, it could also make people think that their normal traits are disordered, and waters down the meaning of "Disorder" in the first place. HOWEVER, making subtypes for disorders is fine, so long it still fits the criteria.
these opinions have been formed and curated with the help of medical professionals, psychologists, psychiatrists, psych articles, community experiences, and victims. such professionals are against forcing neurotypical standards on neurodivergents & persodivergents and general ignorance in the medical field, hence the anti-psych stance.
just because we heavily discourage public (romanticized) darkshipping doesn't mean anti-censorship opposes it. doing stupid things is legal. this goes for public romanticized darkshipping too.
