#contraqueer

[charlie-lottie]

✦・꒰ CONTRAQUEER ꒱ (alt flag and symbol)

pt: contraqueer (alt flag and symbol). end pt.

✶ DEFiNiTiON ꒱・❥・for queers who identify with "contradictory" labels and are proud of their contradiction . . .

for example: lesboy, turigirl, transmasc lesbian, bi-lesbian, gaybian, saphilean, cistrans, transfemasc, afab transfem, amab cisfem, butchbear and ect.

Emoji combo: 🌈💐🦋

About the flag (The flag was designed by @heinzeldarling):

Vivid pink — Queerness.

Soft pink — Passion and love.

Peach — Warmth and acceptance.

Cream — Inclusivity and diversity.

Pale mint — Going beyond "typicality"/"norms" and the binary. challenging established "rules" within the community.

Pistachio — Freedom.

Muted teal — Community.

Symbols (the symbol was designed differently):

The butterfly symbolizes the transition to one’s true self and is also a trans symbol.

The flowers — different flowers are depicted to symbolize uniqueness and diversity within the queer community, and to show that labels do not conflict with one another but complement each other.

Plain texts:

pt: definition, for queers who identify with "contradictory" labels and are proud of their contradiction. end pt.

pt: for example. Lesboy, turigirl, transmasc lesbian, bi-lesbian, gaybian, saphilean, cistrans, transfemasc, afab transfem, amab cisfem, butchbear and ect. end pt.

pt: Emoji combo: rainbow, a bouquet of flowers, butterfly. end pt.

pt: About the flag (The flag was designed by @/heinzeldarling). Vivid pink — Queerness ; Soft pink — Passion and love ; Peach — Warmth and acceptance ; Cream — Inclusivity and diversity ; Pale mint — Going beyond "typicality"/"norms" and the binary. challenging established "rules" within the community ; Pistachio — Freedom ; Muted teal — Community.

pt: Symbols (the symbol was designed differently). The butterfly symbolizes the transition to one’s true self and is also a trans symbol ; The flowers — different flowers are depicted to symbolize uniqueness and diversity within the queer community, and to show that labels do not conflict with one another but complement each other. end pt.

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0.1 : english isn't my first language, so I'm using a translator. Sorry for any errors!

0.2 : if this has been coined previously, please consider this as an alt.

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[caedisinian]

　❝　kiss me , son of c&a

﹚　　COMPLEX

⋂ ⋂　　a contraqueer (link) term　„

　　for those who’s queer identity is complex , whatever that means is up to the user itself , but it was made with contradictory labels and such in mind　„

﹚　　INSPIRED BY THE CONTRAQUEER FLAG ITSELF

　❝　tagging　—　 @radiomogai　 @showgai　 @friend-device　 @clownssick　❝　bonus　—　 @charlie-lottie

　❝　creds　(link)

[123gocat]

AAHHH I FUCKING LOVE BEING TRANSGENDER

HES WEARING CLOTHES SHHSHSGFDFSHSHGDGSHSHST!!!!!! biologically accurate katli!!! !!!! bra is inspired off of @kingsillysmilez character where he made one of his characters have a he/him bra

ommg kaatlliiww 🤤🤤🤤🥴🥴😵‍💫hes me ,,,,, i cqnt believe this awesome creechur is me,.... im so cooll,,

heres the fags i mean flags

imade the catgender flag not have the cat symbol cuz ittd be too cramped imo ,,,, ookay yahhahaha

[bot-bakka]

i haven’t been the type to make a callout post for like five years, but i think people need to know what’s happening with the discord server “loveall safe haven.” this is a server that claims to be open to everyone: made for self shippers, systems, alterhumans, complex queer identities and all disabilities.

they are not made for all disabilities.

i’m going to try to keep this short. i have a blind friend who is/was also in that server, and the two of us have been attempting to ask for more accommodation for my blind friend (who i’ll call H) for the past couple weeks.

we have brainstormed countless easy solutions and compromises, but every single one has been shot down by the mod team. reasonings included that H is “only one user,” that it would “ruin the aesthetics,” that it’s “too much effort” or “hard to moderate” or that mods would “face backlash”. the word moderator is literally your job title— what do you mean you don’t want to moderate?

to their credit, they did add an image description ping, so that people who didn’t want to describe their own media could ping it to get someone else to, which would’ve worked great if anyone used it. unfortunately, very few did, which resulted in me having to go through and describe 5-10 images all at one time, which created a “wall” of image descriptions in media channels. staff took issue with this and implicitly told me to stop sending image IDs because they were clogging channels. i pushed back, and they proceeded to call H “emotionally unstable,” tell me that H didn’t need to engage with material that “wasn’t equipped for them,” and say they were tired of “trying to accommodate” for H, when no accommodation was actually implemented at all. they refused to compromise and framed me as the villain, calling me biased, manipulative, accusing me of guilt-tripping, and criticizing me for trying to help. i was threatened with removal from the mod team, just for trying to stand up for a blind user attempting to be a part of the server.

if you are visually impaired, do not join. they will not help you. this server is not accepting nor safe if you need something that doesn’t fit their aesthetic mold or requires effort on their part to help you.

screenshots below cut

i can be seen speaking in small text here because i was so afraid to start another conversation about this because of the insults and threats i faced previously.

the “it” in question here is a suggestion that people move their actual names to the front of their display names, because having them sandwiched between symbols makes it nearly impossible for screen reader users to figure out what the actual name is. the response to this was blaming H and telling them to get a better screen reader. i wish i was kidding. (i am proxied as “miu” in this screenshot.)

i don’t have many more screenshots and i can’t collect any because i have left the server, but i hope this is sufficient. please stay safe out there and stand up against ableism— stand up for yourself.

[ocearba]

i don't know if i just never noticed it but i feel like the aggression against people who use contradictory labels has spiked tenfold this pride month. literally cant go on twitter without seeing someone pissed off about bi lesbians and gaybians and lesboys. radfems coming out of the woodwork to disavow transgender and nonbinary lesbians. even xenogender users can't escape it.

i know it's probably just online queer discourse but with how much the internet and the real world have become intertwined i'm worried about these people taking these ideas with them offline. years ago people would be 2 completely different people on and offline and now it seems like it's become more acceptable to mix the two.

it's also gone to show how little people really understand about GQs and enben and how willing they are to stuff us right back into boxes, but this time "wokely," which by the way the bastardization of the term "woke" is also immensely pissing me off. also the amount of people that see their identities as vip clubs that need to focus on excluding people instead of the community we're supposed to be.

i have a feeling the quick slope down back into conservative and right wing thinking has made people who cant think for themselves hop on this bandwagon. this is a queer issue altogether. i'm american so this is mostly centered on american issues, forgive me.

multiple states are practically unlivable for transgender people. tennessee passed a bill requiring medical providers to report the information of those who seek gender affirming care in May. multiple states are blocking people from changing their gender markers on any legal document. transgender people with a gender marker on their drivers license that doesnt' match the one on their birth certificate can be arrested for identity fraud. the federal government has rolled back amendments on birth certificates. some more petty things like proclaiming june "nuclear family month" with verbiage that implicitly excludes queer families from this month, only serving to undermine pride month because the government doesn't actually care about the families in the states they're supposed to represent. this is all just american stuff and other countries like the UK are also seeing a significant regression after years of apparent progression.

so basically what i'm getting at is there are all of these genuine queer related issues but people would rather be on the internet telling people with contradictory labels that they're not valid. i do not consider these people, people that insist we as queer individuals must pander to allocishet normative ideologies, that we must make ourselves palatable for the majority, part of the queer community.

this post doesn't really serve anything but for me to complain and i hope for people to feel a bit more encouraged to do something. i know so many queers in the us live in rural areas where queer activism is practically impossible and i'm not here to shame those who literally cant do anything. but if there's a pride organization in your town, or any humanitarian organization in general, now is a good time to get involved.

also, it might just be my region but i've noticed a lot of pride festivals have been moved to october, which is queer history month, because of the intensifying heat, so if you're planning on going to one you might want to check that your org didn't move it.

happy pride, and let's focus on uplifting each other instead of tearing each other down, please

[rookie-coins]

𖦹 misqueer

☘︎ ݁ a blankqueer term for those who are deemed “incorrectly“ queer. from old English mis- meaning “wrongly, badly, incorrectly“ and queer.

misqueer represents any queer person who has been deemed the “wrong“ type of queer, including:

☘︎ aro-allo individuals, as well as aro-spec individuals who still desire and/or engage in/with romance, and a-spec individuals who still desire and/or engage in/with sex. ☘︎ aplatonic, afamilial, asensual, etc. individuals, and those on the spectrum of aforementioned labels. ☘︎ ݁contradictory label-using individuals such as multisexual spectrum lesbians, gays, hets, etc.; lesboys and turigirls, tris/cistrans, afab transfem/amab transmasc, and any of those who consider oneself contraqueer. ☘︎ gender non-conforming transgender individuals, including those who cross-dress, transmasculine individuals who use a feminine name and/or pronouns, transfeminine individuals who use a masculine name and/or pronouns, transgender drag artists, and any of those who consider oneself GNC. ☘︎ individuals who use micro-labels or otherwise not well-known labels. ☘︎ nounself, name only/no pronoun, xenopronoun, and any other neopronoun user. ☘︎ those who experience queerplatonic, alterous, or another tertiary attraction commonly seen as having characteristics of romantic attraction while not actually being romantic. ☘︎ transgender individuals who desire or have undergone an unorthodox medical transition, such as micro-dosing hormones, surgery without hormones, synsex (controversially known as salmacian), nullosex/nullification or otherwise altersex, and any other form of anormative medical transition. ☘︎ ݁transgender individuals who do not wish to medically transition at all. ☘︎ transgender individuals who transitioned, are transitioning, or will transition later in life. ☘︎ unlabelled individuals or individuals who reject labels altogether. ☘︎ xenogender individuals.

color & symbol representation:

☘︎ amber represents the positive, warm, and friendly energy for each other in the community, and endurance through misunderstanding and blind hatred. ☘︎ gold as a color represents prospering in misqueer identities, and growth in the common understanding of misqueer identities. ☘︎ white represents a new beginning for those who have come to accept misqueer identities or being one oneself, and an open mind even to identities you don’t understand. ☘︎ black represents the intimidation and vulnerability misqueers ofen feel in one’s identity, and others’ off-put nature to misqueer identities. ☘︎ light red represents anger that misqueers feel about others being inconsiderate or outright aggressive towards one’s identity. ☘︎ dark red represents the hostility misqueers face for one’s identity. ☘︎ the bird symbol is a pigeon, which i picked as being a well known outcast animal. pigeons lived alongside humanity until they were deemed useless when no longer needed to deliver messages, and are now demonized as vermin. i feel like their story has a lot of reflections with fellow queers being condemned in their own community. ☘︎ the X symbol is a common symbol of something being wrong or incorrect, which the misqueer identity is seen as at its core.

☘︎ this term may be used by anyone who fits under these categories or otherwise feels like an outcast queer individual, and is not affected by any other stance, other than those who are discriminatory against any of these categories.

[d0gbite]

complicated orientation explanation time, in honour of pride month:

who i am attracted to and in what way has been extremely confusing for me over the past couple years. when i was a teenager, i came out to everyone as bisexual and thought that was the end of it; plain and simple. but i’m not sure that’s entirely accurate.

i’m definitely abrosexual, and speculosexual (a term i coined under the abro umbrella meaning your attraction fluctuates based on the gender of your partner/whoever you’re currently attracted to) and so it changes sometimes, but here’s what i’m thinking for right now:

i am allosexual aromantic towards men. i am completely sexually attracted to men, but feel 0 romantic attraction to them. in fact, im pretty romance-repulsed towards men.

i am allosexual and demi(?)lesbiromantic towards women. i typically only feel sexual or romantic attraction to them after forming a strong bond. i prefer women (and feminine nonbinary people), at this point in time.

i haven’t had enough attraction to nonbinary people yet to figure that out. i think it heavily depends on the vibe of the enban. my current partner is nonbinary, and both of us consider them to fall under my lesbianism. i’m not sure i have or do actually experience romantic attraction to anyone but them.

to sum this up i’ve been thinking aroallo speculosexual bisexual lesbian. that still doesn’t completely explain it, but it’s the closest i’ve gotten so far without having to list each type of attraction i feel to who, when, and to what degree.

i am also polyamorous/ambiamorous, but prefer open relationships or non-exclusive queerplatonic relationships.

[burnminedread]

contrashe

a term for when someone uses she (not always she / her ) pronouns but *only* when a masculine term,title,honorific,compliment,name,or masculine pronoun is paired with it.

examples of someone with this identity being properly referred to :

She lost his bag.

Her name is Elijah.

She's my boyfriend.

She's so handsome !

Her name is Mr.Brown.

there's a million examples that can be used for this,have fun :3