Is there any kind of behavior on social media that’s related to specific variants?
Variants are about motivations. It’s hard to discern motivations from behaviour.
That being said, it IS the Fe agenda to say that people can be compared to each other sufficiently enough that we can glean at least SOME basic facts about them from minimal interaction or even simple observation. It’s hard to articulate what I mean by that, but it’s hard to articulate how a feeling function works in general.
Since Fe works with Ti, it’s easy and almost unconscious to process those frameworks and basically read a person through a few minutes of observation. Ne vs Ni can have different effects here (it’s why NFJs are known to either be RIGHT on the mark or EXTREMELY WRONG about a person, or at least, their motivations). Ni sort of “just knows”, Ne goes through possibilities and potential answers without really being sure of any of them.
That being said. None of the following are hard RULES— they’re general for a reason. But behaviour often gives away a person’s motivations, right? I’m going to extend this past online interactions, into a more general “how to spot variants”.
Sp variant:-Homebody (comparatively). Even the extroverts go out less than other extroverts who aren’t Sp doms.
-odd hyper-fixations, exacerbated by si/6.
-some degree of personal neuroticism.
-their immediate environment reflects their mental state. There’s an incorrect assumption people make about sp doms— they’re not always organized and clean. A depressed, stressed or just unwell sp dom can be pinpointed by their immediate environment matching that. That, or their environment becomes unnaturally clean.
-Odd conception of personal information. You can see this both online and irl. Might tell you their extended traumatic backstory, but what they had for lunch? Classified fucking info. Spso is better at smoothing this over than spsx is.
-get really stressed out when their living environment doesn’t match what makes them feel comfortable. My roomie is gonna hate this but I always throw a blanket over a particular pillow she has because it makes me uncomfortable. My gran (spso) redoes parts of her house every year to keep up with what makes her feel most at ease.
-personal comfort > reputation for spso. Spso makes social sacrifices all the time to preserve itself. “I don’t need to care about this, since it doesn’t benefit me and isn’t my driving motivation.”
-personal comfort > relationships for spsx. Being best friends with a person doesn’t matter when your energy levels are in the shitter. “If they cared, they’d come to me. I don’t benefit from over extending myself, even for loved ones. They’ll understand.”
-they do a lot of things alone. Or they have no trouble being alone— but they’d prefer to have a friend or two there, or to be doing something they enjoy and can throw themselves into entirely. Yes, even spso is like this. Best friends and interests aren’t purely the domain of sx.
-the phenomenon of “splendid isolation” is very telling of an sp dom five/fix.
-cares about how their existence is perceived on a base and material level— “do I look like I had my life together?” “What relationships do I have that preserve my preserve my personal comfort? Which don’t? And how much energy do I give each?”
(I’ll be totally honest here and say I don’t get soc doms and any soc doms are encouraged to give their input)
-cares about what people think about (their) group or their position in a group, specifically. Everyone (yes, everyone) cares about how they’re perceived in some way— but soc doms seem to be fixated on how their position is perceived relative to the “social order” or social norms.
-tries to make friends with everyone (or specific people) but it feels really unnatural? Even sosx feels weird to me… it’s like they don’t see YOU, they see where you fall. What you abstractly represent. It just feels forced— not in the weird spsx or spso “forced” way through oversharing, but really just being… overly casual, almost.
-“oh god I’m out alone in public, what are people gonna think? What if they think I’m a loner?” Have trouble going places by themselves that are “unacceptable loner places”. No problem going to the library alone for example, but CANNOT go to “socially unacceptable loner places” alone. By cannot I don’t mean actually can’t, but they really don’t like it and try to avoid it.
-cares about their existence in a hierarchy (Te) or matrix (fe). “Do I look like I belong here?” “How do my relationships fit together with one another? Does something or someone seem out of place? How do I rectify it? Is it threatening, or just part of the social order and how people work?”
-you can tell what their interests are. Walk into a room and you’ll be bombarded with them.
-they have certain particular interests or fixations that might be easily seen online, too.
-if they don’t like you, they don’t like you, and they’re not going to apologize for it or pretend that’s not the case. anyone who’s met an sx dom has seen this happen
- get “too into” things, but not in an autistic “subject of interest” way. Just that they really obviously like a thing a lot.
-a bit elitist about their interests and/or their friends. Can be really possessive about people, things, characters, you name it (but not in the obsessive sx blind way, which is very markedly different).
-they share things in weird ways. Not sp dom weird, but… a different kind. That one post like “love projecting onto fictional characters so I can reveal deep parts of my psyche without it actually saying anything about me”— very sx 4/fix (both dom sx and aux).
-cares about their existence in terms of individual relations: “do I look like I know what this person really needs from me?” “How are all of my relationships different from each other? Do I treat everyone like an individual? Are my relationships markedly different from one person to the next? Can I merge with this person, even just intellectually or platonically? Am I really interested?”
Of course, aux users of these variants can see aspects of them in themselves.
