queer enough

[queeraros]

anyways no solid plans to be active here again,catch us @8stripe for flag content ⭐️

[queeraros]

im so sorry but are you aware that the brown flag youre using isnt the neu aro flag..?

the original flag is by @a-romantic--aromantic and its got two purpley mauves in it… i just figured id?? ask? if you knew that?

thats bcz it isnt 💞

[weaselle]

warm take

i like gender but our relationship to it is so terrible.

Right now gender is like jobs: you have to have one and sometimes you’re stuck with one you hate having which is really hard to do anything about and this whole society is set up on the premise that you have to have them and they define your lifestyle.

But gender should be like games: they’re fun and don’t really effect anything in your life that isn’t personal feelings, and you can obsessively play just one or never engage with any of them or get excited to participate in all of them or even make up your own, it’s all up to you.

Jobs and Games are both social constructs, but one is limiting and frustrating and mandatory, and one is free and fun and optional. 

[weaselle]

oh hey, i forgot i said this

[queeraros]

happy pride, im just going to drop this request to add an aromantic emote to twitch here. the website is official and you only need a twitch account to upvote proposals. its already the eighth most voted emote request on the site (sixth most voted not to be adressed yet) and it would be cool to see it added for pride month :]

[violenceenthusiast]

i hold it as absolute truth that being trans is holy. not only because i have found a welcoming home unlike any other in the trans community but because what is divinity if not creation and what is being trans if not creating your own path. transness is not a burden, it’s a gift. life as a trans person is not easy, obviously, and not everyone is going to feel the same about their transness. but to me, it’s a beautiful and expansive thing, meant to be reveled in.

[fish-to-male]

one day some of you will actually go outside and go to pride and you’re going to meet old black queens who refers to themselves as femme, you’ll meet people from small towns who still use the word transsexual, you’ll see that your local activist organization set up a stall about your local LGBT history that includes leather bar’s history, you’ll see lesbians in groups refer to themselves as “guys” and “boys”, you’ll see someone with breasts and pasties and little else have “he / him” painted on his chest, and you’ll be so caught up with your terminally online attitude that instead of appreciating the wide diversity of people who exist in the LGBT community who are brave enough to share themselves you’ll just be formulating posts and tweets in your head for when get home about how “problematic” it all was and it’s honestly tragic

[saturnialsapphic]

Once, back when I worked in an LGBTQIA dungeon, I encountered a significantly older person who remarked to me that they hadn’t been to “this type of place” in decades. They struck up a conversation with me and told me how amazing it was to see an openly transexual youth such as myself. I asked them about their experiences with gender and they said “oh, well, I’m a bit male and a bit female. Men’s and women’s clothes, sometimes makeup in a suit, sometime fresh faced in a dress when I’m at home. You know, bisexual” Obv this puzzled me at first until I realized this person was using bisexual in a very, very, literal and old fashioned sense, as in, dual-sexed. Non-binary.

Y’all gotta understand there are generation gaps in the language we use and you open yourself up to a LOT of very interesting stories if you stop blocking off the past.

[8stripe]

happy pride month! to celebrate this year ill be trying to put out more of my color adjusted pride flag set (1) (2) (3), as theyre pretty simple to make- please do send in a request for whatever your flag is and ill see what i can do!

heres a few off the bat- the sunset lesbian flag, a warmer version of the nonbinary flag, and the same pan flag last year but with a weird artifact removed. happy pride!

[posi-pan]

[ID: A white background with black text that reads, "What pan flag should I use during pride?" at the top. The three stripe pink, yellow, blue flag is below it to the left, a green check to the right. Black text underneath it reads, "- an established, known symbol of pansexuality for over a decade. - arguments against it are exclusionist lies and bad faith takes rooted in panphobia, age old homophobia, and a lack of knowledge on queer history." smaller black text underneath that reads, "if it's so important to distance yourself from this flag, why are your alternatives nearly identical to it?". End ID.]

there's another round of "stop using the original pan flag" going on, so i took their ugly, exclusionist little infographic and made it better by putting facts on it.

note: this is about people trying to universally change the pan flag, not people who make fun/accessible variants of the pan flag for personal use.

[8stripe]

! new terms !

[ femique on the left, masquine on the right ]

FEMIQUE: a non-gendered term for anyone who feels queer attraction to women [a femique person] / a non-gendered term for queer attraction to women [femique attraction]

MASQUINE: a non-gendered term for anyone who feels queer attraction to men [a masquine person] / a non-gendered term for queer attraction to men [masquine attraction]

after literally six months of having these coined, im finally getting around to posting lol :,] i completely welcome and encourage other people to make terms riffing off of these, the way most existing attraction terms explicitly reference the users gender feels kind of limiting to me personally, and i feel like non-gendered terms for attraction are a big niche that would be helpful to fill!

id’s are under the cut on this one, i was having trouble with the alt text feature

Keep reading

[loumandliker]

this is a bit of a hot take but when it comes to lgbtq identities i don’t think any experience is actually exclusive to any given sexuality/gender

[loumandliker]

trans men have experiences in common with lesbians who have experiences in common with bisexuals who have experiences in common with gay men who have experiences in common with aromantic people who have experiences in common with bisexuals who have experiences in common with asexuals who have experiences in common with lesbians who have experiences in common with gay men who have experiences in common with trans women who have experiences in common with trans men etc etc etc lived experiences are not as cut and dry as “this experience is exclusive to bisexuals” or “this experience is exclusive to lesbians” or “this experience is exclusive to this kind of trans people” because oftentimes queer people are brutalized and affected in the same ways when it comes to interpersonal and legislative experiences. people don’t exist in discrete identity categories that all have unique experiences with no overlap.

[queeraros]

[gendercensus]

Plural followers...

… I’d like your feedback!

[gendercensus]

71 participants so far. :) Feedback is welcome whether you’ve participated in the Gender Census or not. Thank you everyone! :)

[neopronouns]

casualic | flamboric

casualic: a non-straight and/or non-cis person who presents in a casual or minimalist way; a descriptor of low-effort queer presentation.

flamboric: a non-straight and/or non-cis person who presents in an elaborate or flashy way; a descriptor of high-effort queer presentation.

for anon! they asked about a version of sparrow that wasn’t just for nonbinary people, and due to the origin of the terms sparrow/peacock/raven, i’m more than happy to coin an alternative. these terms are not intended to replace the terms kiwi or peacock (in peacock’s original definition), as those are important terms specifically for nln people, which is why the definitions of these are very general!

[8stripe]

our femme & butch flags

[ left is femme, right is butch ]

we made these several months ago, but finally cleaned up the colors and stuff to a point where were happy with them! these are for femmes/butches of all identities, including non-lesbians. if you want names for these you can call them spring femme and summer butch (they were not intentionally themed its just what the colors remind us of) :]

the 6 stripes are the official ones, but you can use these if you like them better! we ended up making a ton of different stripe patterns and the 6s and 4s are our favorites :]

[autcore]

Some reasons people may identify as non-SAM aro or “just aro”:

They may have a complex/confusing sexuality they find difficult to label, so decide not to.

They be aroace and prioritise their aromanticism

They may be alloaro with no intention to act on their sexual attraction, so feel no need to disclose it

They may feel their sexuality is not relevant to their experiences, while their aromanticism is

They may not be comfortable talking about their sexuality or it may be private

They may have no use for sexuality labels

They may have any number of other reasons not mentioned here

If someone identities as non-SAM aro or “just aro” it may be because the exact details are personal, you don’t have to understand each person’s individual relationship with sexual attraction to be polite and support their identity.

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

anyway as long as we’re talking abt this I just wanna share a tweet thread that resonated w/ me today 

[image description: a series of tweets from twitter user @ sofftestpunk, reading as follows:

like I literally don’t care if you’re gay, are you QUEER?

I’m specifically part of the queer community and NOT the LGBT+ community. ive never felt like part of the LGBT+ community. I am QUEER. and my community is QUEER. and if you’re not queer then cool I’m sure you have your own communities n shit but I’m looking for my peers in mine

the key distinction for me is that the queer community is browner and Blacker, the LGBT community has always appeared painfully white and uncomfortable for me to personally be involved with. the queer community is also more radical, practicing radical unlearning of concepts like

family, love, gender, sex etc and reframing and rebuilding these things. the LGBT community has never, in my experience with it, been as driven about breaking down these systems and more often aim to be able to live safely within them

for me, the lgbt+ community is white, skinny, cis, abled etc. it’s the LGBT society at my uni; a room of sex segregated white people with very strict expectations of sexuality, expression, bodies etc. self professed queer spaces are the messier underbelly, the mixing

the fuzzy boundaries and the fuck the boundaries, the ugly and unattractive, the new and different, the too loud and too weird. that’s my family

muted the thread btw because people don’t know what “personally” or “in my experience” mean :^)

end description.]

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

noticing some of y’all get real angry about people feeling unwelcome in LGBT spaces because of racism/ableism/cissexism/fatphobia. maybe try channeling that anger towards the racism/ableism/cissexism/fatphobia instead of the people drawing attention to it, yeah?

[phinarei]

Oh my God. I’m so glad I stopped to read this. It really digs into my exact feelings on LGBT+ vs Queer.

Yes, LGBT is fully capable of being full of diversity. However, the more extreme types of diversity are almost never allowed to be part of the face of it all. Seeing a fat, mixed race, disabled, or truly gender fucked person in a campaign that talks about LGBT+ rights using that wording is rare to the point of being almost jarring. The leaders of any given campaign are Mat Bomer, Ellen Degrees, Neil Patrick Harris, and other people who are pleasant to look at with a clean cut air that is as non-threatening as possible. Trying to make people see them as “like them,” rather than standing by the idea that people can still be human if they’re different.

Meanwhile, any time I see something riding on the word Queer, it’s always fronted by people who are fighting for their right to respect when they can’t or don’t want to be seen as “like everyone else.” Trans people who don’t “pass” as cis, fat butch lesbians, extremely femme gay men, dark skinned gnc people, people with culturally specific genders, visibly disabled queer people, autistic people whose experience with gender is affected by their autism, and just general social misfits.

As a fat, autistic, disabled, asexual, Native lesbian with religious trauma and leftist beliefs, I never quite fit into the first group. I never felt fully welcone or seen. Where I did feel at home was with a couple dozen social rejects, who all identified specifically as queer. Everyone was “damaged” or “weird” to the point where we called ourselves, “The Island of Misfit Toys, but if Tim Burton got ahold of it.” That was the community that felt safe to me, not the LGBT group that was filled with people half there to network for after college or just add to their CV.

So, yeah. I have a very specific relationship with the word queer and the people who embrace it that just can’t be replicated by the more socially acceptable LGBT+ umbrella.

[antimasculist]

it's so weird to me how online lgbt spaces have such an obsession with these clear cut definitions of who's allowed to call themselves x or reclaim y or even just exist in an lgbt space like. I feel like so much of being queer and being lgbt is breaking out of the strict categories cishet society as placed us in and it's so fucking weird and uncomfortable to see lgbt communities just reinventing that