maladaptive daydreamer

does the bird feel the weight of its wings?

[quokkabum]

“‘You don’t turn sick at the sight of blood?’”

‘I think I shall not; I have never been tried yet.’”

—Charlotte Brontë, Jane Eyre

[wikitpowers]

TLKOF SAMPLER PT. 1 <3

I AM FREAKING THE FUCK OUT OMFG!!!!

~ link to part 2

[quokkabum]

“and yet, while I breathe and think, I must love him.”

— Charlotte Brontë, Jane Eyre

[pansexual-lilychen]

alright everybody stay calm it’s happening stay fucking calm

[vermivox]

“your friend is dead, and their corpse is inhabited by something only you can see for what it truly is" is already good horror. but "you begin to love the thing that wears their face"? the blasphemy of it. terror turning into desire. grief turning into longing. being enticed by what should repel you. it twists the knife deeper, because the horror is not based on deception anymore. the fear comes from recognizing the monster in its raw form and finding beauty there. you're not clinging to scraps of your friend, you're surrendering to something other, something wrong, and loving it. you're not holding onto a ghost of the past, it’s the monster itself that you choose

[freakoutgirl]

Me when I catch myself thinking "I wonder what it's like to be chosen by somebody" but then I remember my best friend chooses to be my best friend and my mutuals choose to follow me and the minimum wage employee chooses to give me sincere kindness that I remember years later because I was going through a hard time and it meant a lot

[perfeqt]

“Words are so powerful. They can crush a heart, or heal it. They can shame a soul or liberate it. They can shatter dreams or energize them. They can obstruct connection or invite it. They can create defenses, or melt them. We have to use our words wisely.”

— Jeff Brown

[armandageddon]

who gives a shit if the heated rivalry actors are queer or not. if they're queer then good for them for getting to play queer roles and if they're straight but this cheerfully willing to have hot sweaty gay sex with other men on television for our entertainment then more power to them too. other straight men should take notes. whats the issue here again

[skull-bearer]

[glitterary]

I remember—2006, approximately—watching Queer as Folk with a friend from high school. We were both queer, both closeted except to close friends. We had the door closed and were ready to slam the laptop shut at a second’s notice, because if his parents realised what he was watching, he would get in trouble.

There was a scene where two male characters were kissing passionately, and my friend turned to me almost breathlessly, saying “They’re both straight in real life, isn’t that amazing?”

For all I know, either or both of those actors might have turned out to be queer, but that’s not what mattered. In that moment, to both of us, it meant so much that two straight guys were willing to risk their future careers to give us some representation that was almost non-existent at the time. 

It's because of actors (straight or closeted) taking those risks that we have the much more queer-friendly media landscape we do now. And it's still a risk for actors to disclose their queerness, or take queer roles, if only because shows telling queer stories still get disproportionately cancelled. I don't give a flying fuck whether the actors are queer. What matters is that they’re telling stories that matter to us, and the more people there are who are willing to do that, the better our lives become.

[quokkabum]

“You say the world is so simple, then let me ask you one thing. Is the reason you think that way because you’ve only ever chosen what you knew would succeed, avoiding any choice where failure might hurt you?”

— The Greatest Teacher

[quokkabum]

“In this world, I think what is possible far outweighs what is impossible.”

—The Greatest Teacher

[byjove]

help me $500 worth of crafting supplies I’ll never use. save me $500 worth of crafting supplies I’ll never use. I need you now more than ever $500 worth of crafting supplies I’ll never use

[byjove]

do you know how many estate sales I’ve been to and found crafting supplies someone never got the chance to use? sets of beautiful mid century buttons still in the packaging, sequins from the 1940s never sewn into that beautiful dress, thread, dried paint sets, zippers, model airplane sets never put together. Jesus. it’s like something that connects all of the artists and dreamers within us, everyone who had the passion to create but never the time or headspace or direct inspiration

[crimeboys]

the worst part of getting into new media is when youre at the stage where youre completely obsessed with it but you cant go through the tags or seek out anything about it bc youre not fuckiny done yet

[crowns-of-violets-and-roses]

Discussions of trans women in sports often focus on elite/professional sports which honestly I find it hard to care about but the more common scenario of “we’re going to legally ban a high school girl from playing sports with her friends because she’s trans” is just profoundly evil

[zzzucker]

i remember when utah's (republican) governor ended up vetoing a law banning transgender students from playing high school sports when he looked at the numbers, and there were only four trans students in the state playing sports at all. he released a clumsily worded but surprisingly compassionate statement about the decision.

I must admit, I am not an expert on transgenderism. I struggle to understand so much of it, and the science is conflicting. When in doubt, however, I always try to err on the side of kindness, mercy, and compassion. I also try to get proximate, and I am learning so much from our transgender community. They are great kids who face enormous struggles. Here are the numbers that have most impacted my decision: 75,000, 4, 1, 86 and 56. 75,000 high school kids participating in high school sports in Utah. 4 transgender kids playing high school sports in Utah. 1 transgender student playing girls sports. 86% of trans youth reporting suicidality. 56% of trans youth having attempted suicide. Four kids and only one of them playing girls sports. That’s what all of this is about. Four kids who aren’t dominating or winning trophies or taking scholarships. Four kids who are just trying to find some friends and feel like they are a part of something. Four kids trying to get through each day. Rarely has so much fear and anger been directed at so few. I don’t understand what they are going through or why they feel the way they do. But I want them to live.

of course, it didn't amount to much. they overrode his veto. it's just so cartoonishly evil. an entire state's political body so desperate to terrorize this one little trans girl.

[redstonedust]

the saying about rose tinted glasses has a real truth to it. have you ever worn actual rose tinted glasses in real life. like those candy heart shapes ones. it fucking rules. you look cool AND everything looks a little bit like it has an instragram filter on it. cannot reccomend my rose tinted glasses enough #myrosetintedglasses

[marisatomay]

at the risk of being cringe with everything going on — this week, the last six months, the past five years — i keep thinking about that one quote from the great gatsby

[marisatomay]

“they were careless people…they smashed up things and creatures and then retreated back into their money or their vast carelessness or whatever it was that kept them together, and let other people clean up the mess they had made.”

[marisatomay]

it’s just every day now, huh.

[dreadfulman]

It is genuinely fascinating how many feminist cis women, including those who are on paper openly supportive of trans people, struggle to actually think about trans men as a concept.

A few months ago I ended up having a very long talk with a friend of a friend. She told me that she'd never really spoken to a trans man before, the only trans people she knew were trans women. There was a point, after the third time I reminded her that I was a man, that she just sorta of slotted me into her mental box of "man", and I could tell that happened because after that point she started trying to explain things to me as if I was a cis man.

I categorically do not "pass" and likely never will. I'm very short, my hips are prominent because I'm fat, I keep my hair long, charitably I could be said to have a baby face, I have D-cups and cannot bind due to spinal problems. To the majority of cis people I do not "look like a man".

But for the rest of the conversation I had with this friend of a friend I had to keep reminding her of how other people are going to view me, because there was no room in her mental idea of "man" for a man who is not treated as one. This was not malicious on her part, she was very nice to me, and I believe her when she says she wants to support trans people. I do not think she was lying when she told me how horrified she was to learn about how her trans woman friends were treated.

She said she was envious of me going out alone and how I need to understand that's a facet of male privilege and I asked her to look at me and explain why I'd be any safer. She was shocked to learn that I've been catcalled, been assaulted, that I regularly get spoken down to by cis men, shocked to learn I don't have a single transmasc friend who hasn't. She couldn't understand that I'm going to be treated the same by misogynists as any fat cis woman who doesn't wear makeup. There was no room in her feminism for trans men, because there was no room in her understanding of gender for men who are not cis.

We ended up talking about politics. She told me she was terrified of abortion being banned, and that this would never be a threat if men could get pregnant.

[boomer-mythology-destroyer]