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small time blog with a couple big time posts, I don't care how long it takes your dad to mow the lawn//my personal is cassassandra, don't go there it's dead

[radfemeudaimonia-blog]

full offense, but how have men survived this long

[aeonwoman-blog]

[girlwhotumbls]

…have any of you taken a biology class?

[radfemeudaimonia-blog]

???? Joke biology? No

[roachswallower]

a zebra is just a horse that thinks it’s special

[snakecats-deactivated20151123]

[radfemeudaimonia-blog]

when I hear “shaving is a choice!!” or “make up is a choice!!” I feel like the subtext is “the choice you should be making!!”

[eee-in]

no it means “it’s a choice that you and you alone make so stop whining about it and if you don’t like doing it then don’t”

my god solve your own fucking problems it’s not hard 

[hawkeyedflame]

^One of the things we can agree about. Seriously. I say that makeup is a choice pretty much anytime it comes up in argument. I choose not to wear makeup. Fuck, I went to a wedding last month and I didn’t wear makeup. Nobody judged me. I went to several job interviews this spring and I didn’t wear makeup. I don’t wear makeup at my retail job and I have no intentions of wearing makeup at my co-op job at the hospital. Seriously grow up.

[the-strong-silent-typist]

OP needs to be protected from problems they imagined. If being told you have a choice makes you feel like you don’t have a choice, I’m not sure what could possibly help other than therapy.

[radfemeudaimonia-blog]

??????? that doesn’t make any sense with what I wrote lmao

[the-strong-silent-typist]

In what way? My conclusion seemed pretty obvious. You claimed that you feel that when you are told you have a choice, there is a subtext that tells you what you should do with that choice. If being told that you can choose for yourself feels like you’re being told that you cannot choose for yourself, what does that mean?

[elephantsfucking]

you seem to be under the delusion that information can be transmitted between the two of you.

people without basic reasoning skills are incapable of basic reasoning. if you do not understand that, you lack basic reasoning skills.

[radfemeudaimonia-blog]

nonsense, !

[radfemeudaimonia-blog]

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[radfemeudaimonia-blog]

when I hear “shaving is a choice!!” or “make up is a choice!!” I feel like the subtext is “the choice you should be making!!”

[eee-in]

no it means “it’s a choice that you and you alone make so stop whining about it and if you don’t like doing it then don’t”

my god solve your own fucking problems it’s not hard 

[hawkeyedflame]

^One of the things we can agree about. Seriously. I say that makeup is a choice pretty much anytime it comes up in argument. I choose not to wear makeup. Fuck, I went to a wedding last month and I didn’t wear makeup. Nobody judged me. I went to several job interviews this spring and I didn’t wear makeup. I don’t wear makeup at my retail job and I have no intentions of wearing makeup at my co-op job at the hospital. Seriously grow up.

[the-strong-silent-typist]

OP needs to be protected from problems they imagined. If being told you have a choice makes you feel like you don’t have a choice, I’m not sure what could possibly help other than therapy.

[sociallycommenting]

I don’t think OP meant that similar comments force her to wear makeup, but it does seem like feminism in general acts like even mild social pressure is an outrage and an unbearable burden on women who immediately conform to whatever’s expected to them.

We’re tougher than that thanks.

[radfemeudaimonia-blog]

mild

[sociallycommenting]

didn’t say all social pressure is mild.

When I chose to go to university overseas I had heaps of comments from friends’ mums/mum’s friends who were saying things like “but you’ll be so homesick” and some even went “why bother” and a few “but you’ll just get married anyway”. That’s mild. But I’ve seen feminists going “see SEE this is why girls are held back!”

Er no. Their opinions have no real force to shape my life choices. Ergo mild.

[radfemeudaimonia-blog]

And what did I say?

[radfemeudaimonia-blog]

when I hear “shaving is a choice!!” or “make up is a choice!!” I feel like the subtext is “the choice you should be making!!”

[eee-in]

no it means “it’s a choice that you and you alone make so stop whining about it and if you don’t like doing it then don’t”

my god solve your own fucking problems it’s not hard 

[hawkeyedflame]

^One of the things we can agree about. Seriously. I say that makeup is a choice pretty much anytime it comes up in argument. I choose not to wear makeup. Fuck, I went to a wedding last month and I didn’t wear makeup. Nobody judged me. I went to several job interviews this spring and I didn’t wear makeup. I don’t wear makeup at my retail job and I have no intentions of wearing makeup at my co-op job at the hospital. Seriously grow up.

[the-strong-silent-typist]

OP needs to be protected from problems they imagined. If being told you have a choice makes you feel like you don’t have a choice, I’m not sure what could possibly help other than therapy.

[sociallycommenting]

I don’t think OP meant that similar comments force her to wear makeup, but it does seem like feminism in general acts like even mild social pressure is an outrage and an unbearable burden on women who immediately conform to whatever’s expected to them.

We’re tougher than that thanks.

[radfemeudaimonia-blog]

mild

[radfemeudaimonia-blog]

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[faeriegoth]

i have been having. a Weird fucking time

[radfemeudaimonia-blog]

It’s been real, follow me at aawb.tumblr

[radfemeudaimonia-blog]

It’s been real, follow me at aawb.tumblr

[radfemeudaimonia-blog]

when I hear “shaving is a choice!!” or “make up is a choice!!” I feel like the subtext is “the choice you should be making!!”

[eee-in]

no it means “it’s a choice that you and you alone make so stop whining about it and if you don’t like doing it then don’t”

my god solve your own fucking problems it’s not hard 

[hawkeyedflame]

^One of the things we can agree about. Seriously. I say that makeup is a choice pretty much anytime it comes up in argument. I choose not to wear makeup. Fuck, I went to a wedding last month and I didn’t wear makeup. Nobody judged me. I went to several job interviews this spring and I didn’t wear makeup. I don’t wear makeup at my retail job and I have no intentions of wearing makeup at my co-op job at the hospital. Seriously grow up.

[the-strong-silent-typist]

OP needs to be protected from problems they imagined. If being told you have a choice makes you feel like you don’t have a choice, I’m not sure what could possibly help other than therapy.

[radfemeudaimonia-blog]

??????? that doesn't make any sense with what I wrote lmao

[radfemeudaimonia-blog]

It's been real, follow me at aawb.tumblr

[radfemeudaimonia-blog]

when I hear “shaving is a choice!!” or “make up is a choice!!” I feel like the subtext is “the choice you should be making!!”

[eee-in]

no it means “it’s a choice that you and you alone make so stop whining about it and if you don’t like doing it then don’t”

my god solve your own fucking problems it’s not hard 

[hawkeyedflame]

^One of the things we can agree about. Seriously. I say that makeup is a choice pretty much anytime it comes up in argument. I choose not to wear makeup. Fuck, I went to a wedding last month and I didn’t wear makeup. Nobody judged me. I went to several job interviews this spring and I didn’t wear makeup. I don’t wear makeup at my retail job and I have no intentions of wearing makeup at my co-op job at the hospital. Seriously grow up.

[listener-blue]

Exactly.

I also choose not to wear makeup. I have never worn makeup. Not even once. I have never felt judged for it. At the ripe old age of almost 40 I have made my way through school, through university and through 18 or so years in full time employment without wearing makeup. I have worked in catering, it hotel front of house, in retail.. I have never worn makeup in any of these positions. And now in my job as a dispensing optician, in which part of the job is helping people to be happy with their choice of new spectacles and therefore appearance/fashion is often an important factor, I do not wear makeup. I have been to a multitude of social events over the years, both casual and formal, and I have never worn makeup to any of them. I have never felt that my choice to not wear makeup has held me back in any part of my life. I have never felt that I was not accepted into social groups or any working environments because of the fact that I do not wear makeup.

Makeup is a choice. It is the choice of every individual whether to wear it or not. There is no subtext. Make up is a choice. Full stop. And the same goes for shaving.

[quinzelade]

and im over here plastered in it

:DDDD

[soyeahso]

I don’t wear makeup regularly but I also have very few blemishes and an even skin tone. I don’t shave my legs regularly, but the hair on my legs doesn’t grow in very thick. I cannot say whether I would actually feel like the choice to eschew either of those things would really be available to me were it not for those particular circumstances. Don’t dismiss and ignore the societal pressure placed on others based on your own set of unique circumstances. Damn.

[porcupine-girl]

It’s great that you’ve never felt like people were judging you for not wearing makeup (not soyeahso, the self-righteous people above). But just because you don’t feel like people are judging you doesn’t mean they’re not. 

Research has shown time and time again that women who wear makeup and otherwise conform to beauty standards are taken more seriously and are more likely to be hired and promoted. Have you ever, in your entire life, not gotten a job you interviewed for? You have no idea why you didn’t get it. Even if they told you some other person had this or that qualification, the person interviewing you might not even be aware of their own internal biases. They might have just had a general impression of you as being “less professional” and not really known why.

And even if you can somehow guarantee this has never happened to you, the fact remains that it happens to other women all the time. Congratulations, you happen to have picked the right industry and the right employers, not everyone is that lucky!

Yes, makeup is a choice. Shaving your legs is a choice. Etc etc etc. But it’s not a choice made in a vacuum. And pretending like it is isn’t “empowering” - it’s demeaning. You’re demeaning all the women who are pressured every day to conform to beauty standards for one reason or another, telling them it’s all in their head when the research shows that you are wrong.

[bloodsmile-deactivated20210416]

i’ve never worn makeup.  my Mom has never worn makeup. My Mom’s women friends who I grew up around never wore makeup.  My sisters never wear makeup.  Some of my friends did and some didn’t.  Maybe some women feel like it’s some kind of big deal? I don’t know.  I never felt pressured to wear it. I never felt weird.  I just did my own thing and others do theirs.  I kinda feel like those studies are probably bullshit.  How do you make a controlled study over whether a person wearing makeup gets them a job or not in the real world? lol. I’m pretty sure a woman not wearing makeup can be prettier and “conform to beauty standards” more than I could while wearing it lmao. But if some women feel like it’s some kind of life altering shit to wear makeup or not, I think they might care too much about what other people think.  Society is never gonna be fair, that’s just something you have to deal with.  Everyone has to.  Grow up and deal with your own problems is good advice, especially over something as trivial as makeup.  

And the OP is saying “choice is subtext for you should choose it”.  What? lol

[radfemeudaimonia-blog]

ok so why when you go to the supermarket and there’s a make up aisle it’s clearly for women to spend money on and not men

[bloodsmile-deactivated20210416]

because it’s usually women who wear makeup and who want to wear it? so that’s how marketing works. but some men wear it and they can go into the aisle and buy it if they want to.  there’s no law about it.  you know that right?  

[radfemeudaimonia-blog]

Yeah but how often do they. You say woman want to wear it, but is that because it's innate? Without a supermarket aisle to buy our makeup, woman would still find a way to wear it? Or do we want to wear it because it's marketed to us?

[radfemeudaimonia-blog]

when I hear “shaving is a choice!!” or “make up is a choice!!” I feel like the subtext is “the choice you should be making!!”

[eee-in]

no it means “it’s a choice that you and you alone make so stop whining about it and if you don’t like doing it then don’t”

my god solve your own fucking problems it’s not hard 

[hawkeyedflame]

^One of the things we can agree about. Seriously. I say that makeup is a choice pretty much anytime it comes up in argument. I choose not to wear makeup. Fuck, I went to a wedding last month and I didn’t wear makeup. Nobody judged me. I went to several job interviews this spring and I didn’t wear makeup. I don’t wear makeup at my retail job and I have no intentions of wearing makeup at my co-op job at the hospital. Seriously grow up.

[listener-blue]

Exactly.

I also choose not to wear makeup. I have never worn makeup. Not even once. I have never felt judged for it. At the ripe old age of almost 40 I have made my way through school, through university and through 18 or so years in full time employment without wearing makeup. I have worked in catering, it hotel front of house, in retail.. I have never worn makeup in any of these positions. And now in my job as a dispensing optician, in which part of the job is helping people to be happy with their choice of new spectacles and therefore appearance/fashion is often an important factor, I do not wear makeup. I have been to a multitude of social events over the years, both casual and formal, and I have never worn makeup to any of them. I have never felt that my choice to not wear makeup has held me back in any part of my life. I have never felt that I was not accepted into social groups or any working environments because of the fact that I do not wear makeup.

Makeup is a choice. It is the choice of every individual whether to wear it or not. There is no subtext. Make up is a choice. Full stop. And the same goes for shaving.

[quinzelade]

and im over here plastered in it

:DDDD

[soyeahso]

I don’t wear makeup regularly but I also have very few blemishes and an even skin tone. I don’t shave my legs regularly, but the hair on my legs doesn’t grow in very thick. I cannot say whether I would actually feel like the choice to eschew either of those things would really be available to me were it not for those particular circumstances. Don’t dismiss and ignore the societal pressure placed on others based on your own set of unique circumstances. Damn.

[porcupine-girl]

It’s great that you’ve never felt like people were judging you for not wearing makeup (not soyeahso, the self-righteous people above). But just because you don’t feel like people are judging you doesn’t mean they’re not. 

Research has shown time and time again that women who wear makeup and otherwise conform to beauty standards are taken more seriously and are more likely to be hired and promoted. Have you ever, in your entire life, not gotten a job you interviewed for? You have no idea why you didn’t get it. Even if they told you some other person had this or that qualification, the person interviewing you might not even be aware of their own internal biases. They might have just had a general impression of you as being “less professional” and not really known why.

And even if you can somehow guarantee this has never happened to you, the fact remains that it happens to other women all the time. Congratulations, you happen to have picked the right industry and the right employers, not everyone is that lucky!

Yes, makeup is a choice. Shaving your legs is a choice. Etc etc etc. But it’s not a choice made in a vacuum. And pretending like it is isn’t “empowering” - it’s demeaning. You’re demeaning all the women who are pressured every day to conform to beauty standards for one reason or another, telling them it’s all in their head when the research shows that you are wrong.

[bloodsmile-deactivated20210416]

i’ve never worn makeup.  my Mom has never worn makeup. My Mom’s women friends who I grew up around never wore makeup.  My sisters never wear makeup.  Some of my friends did and some didn’t.  Maybe some women feel like it’s some kind of big deal? I don’t know.  I never felt pressured to wear it. I never felt weird.  I just did my own thing and others do theirs.  I kinda feel like those studies are probably bullshit.  How do you make a controlled study over whether a person wearing makeup gets them a job or not in the real world? lol. I’m pretty sure a woman not wearing makeup can be prettier and “conform to beauty standards” more than I could while wearing it lmao. But if some women feel like it’s some kind of life altering shit to wear makeup or not, I think they might care too much about what other people think.  Society is never gonna be fair, that’s just something you have to deal with.  Everyone has to.  Grow up and deal with your own problems is good advice, especially over something as trivial as makeup.  

And the OP is saying “choice is subtext for you should choose it”.  What? lol

[radfemeudaimonia-blog]

ok so why when you go to the supermarket and there's a make up aisle it's clearly for women to spend money on and not men

[radfemeudaimonia-blog]

when I hear “shaving is a choice!!” or “make up is a choice!!” I feel like the subtext is “the choice you should be making!!”

[eee-in]

no it means “it’s a choice that you and you alone make so stop whining about it and if you don’t like doing it then don’t”

my god solve your own fucking problems it’s not hard 

[hawkeyedflame]

^One of the things we can agree about. Seriously. I say that makeup is a choice pretty much anytime it comes up in argument. I choose not to wear makeup. Fuck, I went to a wedding last month and I didn’t wear makeup. Nobody judged me. I went to several job interviews this spring and I didn’t wear makeup. I don’t wear makeup at my retail job and I have no intentions of wearing makeup at my co-op job at the hospital. Seriously grow up.

[listener-blue]

Exactly.

I also choose not to wear makeup. I have never worn makeup. Not even once. I have never felt judged for it. At the ripe old age of almost 40 I have made my way through school, through university and through 18 or so years in full time employment without wearing makeup. I have worked in catering, it hotel front of house, in retail.. I have never worn makeup in any of these positions. And now in my job as a dispensing optician, in which part of the job is helping people to be happy with their choice of new spectacles and therefore appearance/fashion is often an important factor, I do not wear makeup. I have been to a multitude of social events over the years, both casual and formal, and I have never worn makeup to any of them. I have never felt that my choice to not wear makeup has held me back in any part of my life. I have never felt that I was not accepted into social groups or any working environments because of the fact that I do not wear makeup.

Makeup is a choice. It is the choice of every individual whether to wear it or not. There is no subtext. Make up is a choice. Full stop. And the same goes for shaving.

[concentrated-sunshine-deactivat]

But strong independent wombyn can’t be expected to ever possibly just not every vague social trend …a force which is apparently on par with Obi Wan fucking Kenobi in terms of it’s mind bending capability.

[knightoflodis]

Also. Shaving and makeup are also choices to men and anyone else despite their birthsex, and they can choose to shave their entire bodies if they want to, and they can also choose to wear make up. I shave my whole body and I have been feeling so much more comfortable with myself as a result.

[ahfairehnuff-deactivated2017040]

TL;DR - CHOOSE WHAT MAKES YOU COMFORTABLE , NOT WHAT YOU THINK SOCIETY WANTS YOU TO CHOOSE. CHANCES ARE, SOCIETY DOESN’T GIVE A FUCK.

[radfemeudaimonia-blog]

But society does want us to choose to shave :/

[natlparksetc-deactivated2016080]

Society gives a fuck though if it didn’t y'all wouldn’t be contorting y'all selves with non-arguments

[ahfairehnuff-deactivated2017040]

If society gave a fuck, someone would have said something to me during the 8 months I didn’t shave. During that time I went to parties, went clubbing, worked in TK Maxx full time, and casually wore dresses with leggings (my preference because I dislike the feeling of bare legs). No one cared except for my grandmother/nanny who considered it unladylike. She is in her 70’s.

I also did all of this while not wearing make up and having my hair cut into a short bob. Two other things people say society cares about, yet I was never criticised for.

[radfemeudaimonia-blog]

Your experiences are not a body of evidence lmao

[lds-official-deactivated2016120]

My mother would bribe me with things to force me to shave, I have been forced to wear makeup and the only clothes sold to women are basically feminine.

[newusernamepending]

I never reblog it because I find it more hilarious than annoying, but you constantly get people replying to the Scots twitter posts who seem to think the Scottish accent and dialect was made up for some particular work of fiction. I’ve seen:

“omg, the ogre accent from Shrek”

“this is the voice of the dad in Brave”

“I think this is a line from Trainspotting?”

Apparently Scotland is a fictional country.

[halfboyfriend]

Scotland was invented in 1995 by Mel Gibson

[radfemeudaimonia-blog]

Always ask "who benefits?"