I apologize if this story seems all over the place. But lately I’ve been working on my mental health and this was a huge reason for my downfall
So I’ve been married to my husband for almost a year, and I’ve been with him for about 5 years. But the last two and a half years have been horrible.
Me and my husband are high school sweethearts. We did get married at a young-ish age (I’m saying young-ish because I did grow up in a super religious family and most of my cousins were married before they were 18)
But before me and my husband got married I did live with him and his family from the second half of my senior year up until me going to college (I took a year off)
I moved in with the due to problems with my family and my mental health. His mother offered to take me in since I was 18.
All seemed fine, I was suffering from depression and anxiety but his sister did too so her helped me though it the best her could (my husband)
But it was a mistake, his mother had been nice to me up until me and my husbands graduation and us moving to a new house with them.
Then pretty much everyday I would get belittled over not doing enough and not paying them enough (mind you I just got out of high-school)
So I pushed myself to work more hours. I had only been getting about four hours before due to me still being in school so I got another job. But that wasn’t the end of it.
His mother started being very hostile towards me, mainly because he and my mom had problems in the past (by problem she didn’t like my mom and spread Rumors about her at their place of work and by past I mean when me and my husband were 5-4 respectively)
And she would take that out on me, she would wait until me and my husband left and steal my things. She did things to my cat (one being putting a bunch of harmful medicine near her food while I was gone another breaking off one of her teeth). Mind you my cat is really friendly to just about everyone and the second she would see his mom and sister she would refuse to go anywhere near them.
It’s got really bad when he told them he was going to marry me and they needed to treat me better. This only made it worse. It seemed like they were trying their hardest to break us up. This took a huge toll on my already terrible mental health.
It was sad because his sister started in on it too, at this time she was my supervisor at one of my jobs and she started making it a living hell for me then would blame me for anything that went wrong.
At this time I was planning on moving back to my parents, because I’d rather deal with their cruelty then hers.
The last few months living with them were a living hell. My things were being stolen, I wasn’t getting my mail and his mom had stolen about 6 for my credit cards I had sent to me that I would replace. (Towards the end I started sending my mail to my parents because we were mending our relationship and I trusted them more)
At this time I couldn’t drive so I depending on them for rides. I even stared working at a place his step dad worked at and matched his availability to make it easier on them. But nothing I did was alright. My husband started to really get upset when him and his sister would fight and his mom would take it out on me, like punishing me for what he did. I was told I wasn’t doing anything, I wasn’t pulling my weight. Which really passed my husband off because in a house of about 10 people I was the only person who would regularly clean (his family was pretty dirty, like really bad.) and no one else would do any cleaning. I would be stuck doing dishes for 3-4 hours even though I didn’t make the mess. When my husband pointed that out it wasn’t good enough.
Towards the end my husband was considering asking his biological dad to take us in until we moved for college. But I couldn’t do that because I knew if I left they would mess with my stuff and hurt my cat more then normal.
It ended in my husband quitting his job 2 months before he planned to keep them from sabotaging my things. He even caught his mom messing with my things when she thought we weren’t home. Luckily we moved not to long after but the whole thing set me back and I ended up having a mental breakdown a few weeks after moving and starting classes.
To this day his mom with come to pick him up to take him into our home town and she won’t speak to me.
Both my cats hate her and refuse to even go near her if she come over (we got a kitten a few days before moving and she never interacted with her until a month after the move and like my older cat refused to be even in the same room)
It’s sad because I grew up seeing my dads family mistreating my mom and I hated it and never wanted my kids to see that.
But luckily my father(s) in law (my husbands step and biological fathers) treat me well. And his other sibling are okay with me (i spent a lot of time with each of them getting to know them and such because I consider them my family the day I met them) and even his uncle (on his mother’s side) likes me.
He made me realize she was just evil because she did it to everyone she couldn’t control.
A lot of people on my life feel the reason she was so horrible is because she started to realize I wasn’t just some fling. He son wanted to be with me and was willing to cut her off if it meant me leaving. It makes me sad because after all of this I told him she was not going to be in our children’s lives. And he agreed because he didn’t feel that if she treated me bad she deserved to be around my kids.
It makes me sad because I never wanted to be the daughter in law who refuses any contact with her in laws but after 2 years of trying to build a relationship with her I give up.
I never thought I would have the stereotypical monster in law that you hear about in moves and stories but, I guess not everyone can be lucky.
The point of me telling this is because I want people to know. Just because someone treats you like you aren’t worth being treated like a human you and right to cut them out of your life. Don’t let your significant others family treat you like crap because they don’t feel like your good enough for their child. As long as you care about their child and want the best for them you shouldn’t feel bad about yourself.
