Marriage is a smart move for heterosexual men. Married heterosexual men make more money and enjoy better career progression, better physical health, and better mental health. Married men live longer than unmarried men, and are happier. Married men are promoted above single men or men with unmarried partners, and earn thousands of dollars more.
When married men get cancer or heart attacks, they have a better chance of surviving than unmarried men; when they are sick, they enjoy better care and get better faster. Married men suffer less from social isolation, report higher life satisfaction, and are more resilient to crises. (Of course, “bad” marriages reverse some of these effects - a man in a bad marriage will have more heart problems and be unhappier than an unmarried man.)
And it isn’t just that the “good men” who get married are just naturally “good men” who succeed at life. Studies on identical male twins show that married twins prosper more, and relatively “unsuccessful” men who marry see their fortunes improve. [x][x][x][x][x]
That’s not even counting the daily benefits of being married. Even in heterosexual marriages with complete gender parity - i.e. husband and wife both do equal amounts of cooking, cleaning and chores - the labor of running a home is still halved, which means more time for leisure or improvement. And most heterosexual households don’t practice gender parity - the women do more work [x]. It’s a real luxury to have someone cook your meals and run the household for you, which usually takes about 2.5 hours of extra work every day - so married men often have more time in their days.
Here’s the sad part. Marriage is known to make heterosexual women WORSE off than unmarried women. [x] [x] This has been discussed since the 1970s. A distinct problem is that married women often suffer a decline in mental health, but this could be confounded because married women are often distressed in heterosexual marriage, leading to more depression and anxiety than they’d normally have [x]. On average, heterosexual marriage is bad for women’s careers. It creates more work for women. Married women do have a better chance of surviving cancer and heart attacks than single women, but the benefit for men is greater. And since nearly 70% of divorces are initiated by women - not relationship breakups, which are equal between genders, but legal marriage breakups - women are the ones who want to get out. [x]
In conclusion, despite pop-culture insistence that women can’t wait to drag men to the altar so that they can Enslave Them For Life, men get a lot of benefits from marrying women. And women don’t benefit very much at all.
So why bother with all this performative, dramatic nonsense about marriage being bad and scary for men? Why pretend it’s “funny” for men to act like marriage is terrible, and that they hate their wives? To someone in possession of the facts, this Extremely Witty Banter is just going to make them laugh… at YOU.
jbbartram-illu
dededos
germansingergirl
kianamaiart
annaxmalina
andulkaphoto
