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"teens are prone to tantrums and are emotionally unstable" - okay, yeah, puberty is real, and emotional regulation is a difficult skill to learn. but also. any adult person would be pissed if their opinions were disregarded, they had no say in what happens to them, their emotions and feelings were downplayed and their privacy were intruded on.

gremlininho

reallyisgarbage

I really hope she ain't cuz tarantulas stay in they enclosures.

The other option is just as bad cuz gerbils gon chew through the ethernet cable or something

heedra

not to oversimplify an extremely complex discipline but if i had to pick one tip to give people on how to have more productive interactions with children, especially in an instructive sense, its that teaching a kid well is a lot more like improv than it is like error correction and you should always work on minimizing the amount of ‘no, wrong’ and maximizing the amount of ‘yes, and?’ for example: we have a species of fish at the aquarium that looks a lot like a tiny pufferfish. children are constantly either asking us if that’s what they are, or confidently telling us that’s what they are. if you rush to correct them, you risk completely severing their interest in the situation, because 1. kids don’t like to engage with adults who make them feel bad and 2. they were excited because pufferfish are interesting, and you have not given them any reason to be invested in non-pufferfish. Instead, if you say something like “It looks a LOT like a tiny pufferfish, you’re right. But these guys are even funnier. Wanna know what they’re called?” you have primed them perfectly for the delightful truth of the Pacific Spiny Lumpsucker

akiragatr

I was in martial arts for years, and in particular I kinda specialized in working with the younger kids.

The two Big Rules when instructing younger students was- 1. Compliment before Critique 2. Don’t say ‘but’, say ‘now’

Praise kids on what they get right first, especially if they are struggling. Like OP said, kids don’t like to engage with people who make them feel bad. They need encouragement when learning new things.

Number two boils down to this. If you tell a kid a compliment, then say “but you need to fix this”, that ‘but’ completely negates your compliment. It’s gone. It was canceled out like adding a negative to a positive. Using “hey, that punch is looking great, now let’s focus on your stance” doesn’t verbally cancel out the progress they’ve made. It’s like they’ve checked off something on their list of stuff to work on.

Wording can absolutely make or break a child’s motivation and interest.

problemedic

Rebloggling as it’s relevant in a Medical Education context

lizziedoesvetpath

Honestly I use all of these to teach vet students too. I think people in general respond better to positivity in teaching. Not coddling, but acknowledging when a student got part way to the right answer, or had a good thought process, is something I’ve found keeps students engaged and builds confidence, which encourages them to keep going instead of shutting down and just “getting through” a lab or a rotation

catchymemes

pipermintz-deactivated20260402

I feel like if humans swallowed rocks like birds do to help grind up food we'd have so much fun with it.

Can just imagine all the girlies on tiktok going "I know this is a bit controversial but I honestly love using limestone as a gastrolith. Not only can you readily forage it but they are just so pretty when smoothed out after regurgitating them"

and then all the comments would be like " girl 😭 😭 calcite dissolves in stomach acid!! Just use quartz if you want a pretty gastrolith like 💀"

eternalfarnham

I like this site. Y’all just shotgunning counterfactual timelines

caspercryptid

I feel like not enough people realize that people under enormous strain act really really fucking Weird

byjove

‘Nuclear Family Month’ is so funny as a concept. I have never seen a nuclear family worth celebrating.

dragonessmiralis

The Addams

byjove

Do Grandmama, Uncle Fester and the rotating cast of possibly existent cousins mean nothing to you? 😔

dragonessmiralis

I may in fact be stupid

byjove

It’s okay. Understanding the enemy (the concept of a nuclear family) is the first step to defeating it.

magicalmysteryperson

Nuclear Family Month is a thing? That... that can't be real.

oh wow. it's real.

....real stupid.

byjove

sadly. microdosing Tumblr on the worst news stories I have had the misfortune of reading.

reallyisgarbage

I'd like to point this out because it's glorious and ridiculous.

borderlands-disorder

northstareclipse

There's a recurring online tendency to aestheticize consensus itself. The imagined future village is full of emotionally compatible people who enjoy communal gardening, conflict resolution circles, acoustic folk music, mutual aid potlucks, and repairing bicycles together at sunset. Which is nice for the people who genuinely enjoy that lifestyle. But plenty of humans are solitary, prickly, obsessive, urban, nocturnal, sensory-seeking, technologically attached, contrarian, novelty-seeking, private, or just plain difficult. Those people do not evaporate after the revolution. They do not get Left Behind while you are Raptured into the Utopia. They become your neighbors.

reallyisgarbage

I actually think about this quite often. It was sparked by reading a book by a Native Alaskan author talking about growing up Native (can't remember the author nor the book title, unfortunately), and he said that family was close and that you knew all of your family and who not to trust with what, and I realized you're stuck with these people whether you like it or not. You live in the same hut thing for the winter. You share the work or die. It's probably where the "family sticks together no matter what, on the premise of 'because family'" idea came from, and it's very fair in a world where it's that or you suffer or die.

That kind of Together lifestyle might be appealing to some people, and certainly it can be nice, but when you're family with people who treat you horribly, you still need them. You CAN'T make it on your own or be independent in bumfuck nowhere Alaska. You can't build a barabara on your own or do all the work yourself. Whether or not you like it, you need these people.

grippysockgang-deactivated20230

You all are the coolest people I vaguely know

cpericardium

starryhoundbloo

Shout out to my mom who explains my transition as "Having a daughterpillar turn into a Boyterfly". It doesn't erase the fact I was an adorable little girl, and also affirms my gender now. I love my mother.

reallyisgarbage

Oh my god that's amazing

avatarmerida

Happy pride month to the tiny cowboy and tiny Trojan man from Night at the Museum

This hands down the best comment in the notes, I will not be taking criticism.

song-of-sea-and-sky

happy pride month 2021 I ain’t quittin’ you…

I just realized all those posts I see about transness are my business now. Not because I'm trans, but because I have a trans loved one now. Advocating for her is my business. Education is my business. Making that effort isn't something I can do passively anymore.

Obviously I'm not saying I should have weight in the trans community just because my girlfriend is trans. All I mean is... this isn't just something I'm watching anymore. I always felt like it wasn't really my place to say or do much, but now it is because I want to be there for her.