Death to singletnormativity and hostcentrism.
We would prefer being addressed as "you&" when addressed in plural.
Collective pronouns: sys/sysself or sysselves, it/its, xe/xem/xeir, plural they/them
Collective terms: system, collective, entity
Members have their own pronouns and terms. Several of us use it/its and "being".
Semi-collectively Raistlin Majere, though that also refers to the specific member (who might also be more than one in a trenchcoat).
Pre-syscovery main is @dyspunktional-leviathan (we also ask, if you(&) can, to take a look at our signal boosting tag there (#help needed) and help where you(&) can. Our friend @fg-the-fallen-mapleshade does donation commission drawings. We also want to do them, have been struggling a lot with drawing sustainably but can at least offer sketches, and also for our commissions encouragement (for a donation that has been made) is included). Fandom blog @brotherless-behavior, drawing blog on hiatus @whatruwaitingfor-draw-spades. Raistlin has/have a new personal blog at @raistlin-r-majere. We're very new to working things out in plurality.
Politics from @dyspunktional-leviathan fully apply.
Haven't seen that many posts here that share about where to donate for the victims of the earthquake in Venezuela, here's a website that compiles a list of reliable associations where you can donate for the earthquake victims.
please spread the word! my country still needs all the help it can get
this racist website keeps deleting nader. he has been on tumblr since the beginning of the genocide and he's been in communication with me for years. in the span of 24 hours they have completely wiped every attempt he's made at creating a new account to fundraise for his father's cancer treatment
he has a long way to go after having to start a new gfm so anything you can spare would be much appreciated. please get better, tumblr
Hello, I'm Nader, a young man from the Gaza Strip. I've lived… Nadaer Alanqer needs your support for Donate to help Nader's father receive t
Help a latino sibling with groceries while they get better
hi y’all, i’m sharing my links in case someone can give me a hand with some groceries. i’ve been away these past couple of days because i haven’t been feeling so good and i haven’t been able to do pretty much anything these past weeks
anything helps, your sweet messages also help a lot <3 thank you in advance and happy pride month 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
We have a disabled unsheltered youth who's couch surfing that needs a mobility aid for a small space.
GOAL: $720
CA: $lookityabookity
VENMO: @whimsicalusername
note: c13
Graphic poster with a title: "Unsheltered youth needs mobility device"; and further text same as in the body of the original post. There's a photo of a motorized walker-wheelchair.
Hi everyone. I'm Milena. You may have heard of me from my investigative docum… Milena H needs your support for Help Milena Get Through and O
Hey everyone.
While I've been able to subsist on the generosity of friends and my father for the past year, that's become unsustainable and I will be losing my current living space at the end of July. For reasons I'm sure I don't have to explain, everyone in my family is either unable or unwilling to take me in.
I'm actively pursuing public assistance like shelters and food, but at this point, I'm ready to ask for a big enough bump to get started on driving Uber, which will take ~$500 (car rental + deposit). From there, driving for Uber will pay for itself.
Aside from that, phone service (so I can still take calls for potential jobs), storage space for my stuff, and a monthly public transit pass will run about $400/mo.
I know that I still have great things to offer any company and community I'm a part of, so I'm doing my damnedest to not give up and I'll absolutely be giving back again as soon as I'm able.
Please help me survive until then. Thank you for anything and everything.
STOP SCROLLING, MY BABY QAIS’S WOUND OPENED AGAIN BEFORE MY EYES.
I started using torn, worn-out clothes instead of medical bandages for my baby Qais, and his wound became infected and opened again because I cannot afford proper supplies anymore.
Tonight, I could not properly clean Qais’s wound because medical supplies are too expensive, so I stood there terrified, watching the infection and bleeding grow worse before my eyes.
I beg you as a broken mother in Gaza who cannot protect her child from pain, hunger, and death. Please, don’t leave my baby Qais alone in this nightmare—donate now and help me save his life.
OH MY GOD, I felt my heart break as I saw my baby Qais unable to move or respond, lying there in pain, and I could not help him. Please donate now and save him
The doctors told me his condition has become extremely critical, and without immediate treatment, he may not survive another night, so so I ask, can you help me get treatment for my baby Qais??
Every day without treatment makes his condition worse, and I am terrified that I am slowly watching him slip away from me. Please donate now—your kindness could help Qais receive the treatment he desperately needs.
I’m saying this with a heart that can’t take more pain. If you read this and scroll away, I won’t forgive you. My baby is slipping away. Please donate now, please share—save Qais.
the idea of headmates needing to be distinct is so pervasive. even in the plural community here, there feels like theres this unspoken expectation that being plural involves very distinct and discrete personality states. or at least that you should be able to make a pk that has all of your headmates. because all headmates should have a name and discrete identity apparently. i dont hate pk but it definitely reinforces that idea that systems need to be structured in a specific way
it leads to a lot of hurt. a lot of people fighting their brains to try to fit into a specific idea of plurality. or just deciding they cant be plural or that they arent plural enough
basically everyone i know who is plural can give some specific number of headmates they have and all their names. and like that's great if thats how it works for them. but i wonder how many of them are hurting themselves to categorize themselves like that
also like it's ok for the structure of your system to be unclear. its ok if you dont understand how it works. its ok if you dont even feel that system is the right word for it. theres so much diversity in how plurality presents itself and there is no such thing as not plural enough or whatever
thank you for the link to sysguide, i learned a lot. do you have any advice for how to try developing internal communication?
don't!
no, really, if you can't speak to eachother, then don't force it. embrace what you can control. be yourselves loudly, think about eachother, speak about eachother to other people, muse on eachothers' interests. be willing to form your intrasystem relationships without verbal contact.
ur median mod is here to suggest the alternative route. "try co-fronting". if you can both be present at once. if you can sustain two trains of thought simultaneously. those streams crossing and starting to talk to each other can be pretty natural. sometimes you just start interrupting each other and arguing amongst yourselves at that point, but even that can be kinda nice.
but yeah. not mandatory. not how every system works. and definitely not necessary for having feelings about each other or negotiating agreements within a system. you can always write things down for someone else to read later.
choose your own adventure type advice. pick whichever route speaks to your own experience and works for you.
Man, I'm a new system and I have no clue how to separate my alters out. Especially since tools like lighthouse and simply Plural don't work as well with our architecture, since I'm the permanent host so far. Like there's 2 clear guys, me and the mess of nondescript people who aren't Me and the other 2. Do you have any advice?
First off: do not force it.
Learning about your system can be a slow process. That can be frustrating or upsetting at times, particularly if this is new to you. When you have only recently realized that you share a head, it can be alarming to realize that you are not exactly sure who you share your head with. It can also be exciting or relieving. You have realized that you are not alone, and now you have the chance to make sense of your experiences by getting to know the others in your head.
Either way, you likely want to know everything right now so you can decide what to do with that information. Pushing your system to sort itself out for your benefit will not help, however.
System members may give you false information to get you to leave them alone. Others may simply refuse to show up. They may hide because they feel unsafe being known, and forcibly exposing them will not gain their trust. You are more likely to find some kind of success by asking, waiting, and noticing what emerges in your system in its own time.
Slow down. Don't rush the process. Let your system emerge in its own time- you will not be alone in this being a slower process if it takes a while.
We are still meeting ourselves a decade after we first began to realize that we were not alone. We will likely still be meeting ourselves in another decade. This is not a process that wraps up quickly in many cases (though, it can for some- there is no universal time to discover these things, and it takes as long as it takes).
There are a lot of reasons that it may be hard to get system members to identify themselves. Some system members do not feel ready to be seen yet. They may feel unsafe or struggle to trust that you will respect their wishes, particularly if you have a pattern of ignoring their boundaries and concerns. It can take a very long time for them to decide that it is safe enough to be seen. It's good to allow them to introduce themselves in their own time when possible.
Other system members simply do not like to be separated out. The majority of our system is like this, and we have learned that we get along best when we allow them to be unnamed and unindividuated. When we tried to force them to identify themselves, they simply hid and waited for us to get the idea. You may want to ask the nondescript folks if they have a reason for being nondescript.
Regardless of the reason, you do not have to know who someone is to work with the opinions that they share with you. You do not inherently have to separate your alters out, especially if doing so does not work for your system. If things are blurry, then let them be blurry. It's okay. Focus on listening to what your system shares with you and learning how to work with them in your daily life.
Consider asking your alters about themselves and who they know. They may have information that you lack about the rest of your system, or they may have a different perspective on the same information. You're likely to get the best idea of what your system is like by working together to understand yourselves- you are not the only system member capable of determining who is around.
You will likely never know everything and everyone. You will sometimes learn information about your system when you need to know it- and not a moment sooner. That's okay. Let some things stay unknown.
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You also do not have to use tools that do not work for you. If Simply Plural and Lighthouse do not work with your architecture, then you may want to consider trying a different sort of tool or making your own methods.
Fighting a tool that does not work for you is unlikely to make it work much better. Follow what makes your life easier to live. You are allowed to carve your own paths.
The older i get the more i understand why some people become obsessed with privacy, not because they’re hiding something, but because being constantly perceived starts to feel spiritually exhausting.
Did you know that soda machines at restaurants and movie theaters spy on you? That most common new cars now record your sexual preferences and send it to the manufacturer (and also data about anyone who also gets in your car, walks by your car, and maybe happens to be within visual range of your car)? That grocery stores are trying to force customers to download an app to scan barcodes on shelves instead of putting up prices, so the app can scan the phone, decide how much that customer should be squeezed for, and adjust the price? That more and more innocent people are being sent to jail for crimes committed hundreds of miles away because an AI facial recognition algorithm spit their faces out and the cops didn't bother to do the most basic of checks?
I am not uptight about privacy because I'm hiding something. I'm uptight about it because the people who dismiss my right to privacy are dangerous to you and me and our families, personally, all the time.
We actually did almost finish a pinned for this blog last night but had to figure out the formulation of one specific thing and laid it off in drafts and now [brain soup, it's not even about the pinned it's about this post], but we've updated the bio now here, at least.
Since we went vegan we've been getting especially pissed off at animal products in cookies/waffles/etc. It would literally be so incredibly fucking easy to make the same exact thing without using them.
If you're about to send an angry or hateful ask or comment, then please do yourself a favor and block this blog instead. We will never answer these messages, and we will block those making them. Please enforce your own boundaries and save us both the trouble.
Common Questions
What is plurality? (See also)
Am I plural? (See also: Can I prove that I'm not plural?)
Am I really plural, though?
What does plurality feel like?
Can I become plural?
Can I get rid of my headmates?
How do I learn who's in my system?
Am I (insert label here)?
A masterlist of other answered asks can be found here.
We do see and appreciate compliments, but we will not answer most of them, as we'd prefer to keep this blog relatively on-topic.
Resources about plurality and a list of this blog's tags are below the read more.
Resources:
Plurality 101
Understanding Multiplicity: A quick 101 primer on plurality/multiplicity from the Manchester Metropolitan University.
What Is Plurality?: Our own working definitions of plurality.
Hydra May 2025: A short zine introducing plurality to those unfamiliar with it.
Am I Plural?
Common Plural Experiences: A fairly well-rounded list of common plural experiences. Some of these experiences are common in non-plural folks, but if you're checking a lot of boxes or these things happen to you more intensely than seems typical, then it may be worth questioning further.
Plurality is not a checklist. You may have a lot of the experiences in the above resource, but that doesn't inherently mean that you are plural. There's no sharp line in the sand between plural and singular experiences.
Am I Plural?: Plurality is not a specific diagnosis or absolute thing, but a chosen framework for understanding your mind. If it works, then you get to use it.
On the topic of "is this a headmate or [something else]?": It's not necessarily about what it is, but what helps you live with and understand it.
Help, I'm Plural!
Advice from Those Who Came Before: for New Systems (pdf): Compiled advice for those who've recently realized that they may be plural.
We accidentally wrote a book (PDF, EPUB) covering most of what we've learned to work with ourselves. It's free, written in plain language, and broken up into very short sections for easier reading. Hopefully it helps.
A list of tools for plural folks.
Assorted links and books about plurality.
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Tags by Post Type
Plural Comic: All of our comics.
High Effort Art: Some comics, some drawings, all work that took more time than a 5 minute scribble.
Asks: Responses to inbox messages.
Essays: Long posts, usually not associated with a comic.
Metaposting: Posting about posting.
Tags by Topic
Amnesia: Memory problems and lost time.
Basics: Information about plurality for those unfamiliar with the concept.
Communication: Talking to each other and how to do it better.
Cooperation: Getting along with each other and building trust.
Denial: "I'm not plural, I just (textbook description of DID)"
Dissociation: Disconnection from identity, self, the world, feelings, sensations, etc.
Experiences: What's it like to be plural?
Getting to Know You: Learning about your system.
Labels: Words and their uses.
Masking: Hiding your system or coming out of hiding.
Passive Influence: Affecting behavior without taking full control.
Persecutors: When system members hurt you.
Questioning: "Am I plural?"
Relationships: Dealing with outside people (and occasionally each other).
Switching: Changing who's in control of your body.
Other
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