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Straight people don’t have to conform to gender stereotypes

[revolianmind]

Please think critically about this: if you claim a woman who is not traditionally feminine or is even more traditionally masculine is undoubtedly a lesbian, what message are you sending to society and young women? That heterosexual must submit to men’s wishes? That heterosexual women must be delicate and dandy? That heterosexual women have to cater to men’s wishes no matter what those are? That they should just enjoy being trapped into a prison of femininity? And if they want to wear baggy, men’s clothes and cut their hair that must mean that she is not interested in being with a man? These stereotypes stem from internalized misogyny: that according to which, if a woman is attracted to men, she must sexualize herself and be catering to their physical expectations of femininity instead of her mind or anything else being valued.

Please stop policing what wome wear and try to turn it into a statement about their sexuality. You’re only perpetuating sexism. Ask, don’t assume/ perpetuate sexist stereotypes.

[revolianmind]

“If you can’t be feminine what else do you have to offer” lmao ladies I told you that not conforming to gender stereotypes or expectations literally pushes all the creeps, misogynists and hypocrites away

[revolianmind]

I’m tired of seeing guys who look like convicts or pimps talking about how women have to have long hair, a nice butt, shave their bodies, wear makeup, but they do NONE of these things, ever. And if a woman doesn’t do them either, she is “unhygienic and unattractive”.

I’m not saying this because I’m mad that they don’t like me, cause I’m can’t physically be attracted to any guy who is what I had described above, but it’s about the hypocrisy. If you think that a woman “looking like a man” means that she is ugly, then that should tell you a lot about how YOU look to women.

[femalesfuture-deactivated202102]

activities celebrities do when they get bored: 1. call themselves queer 2. start a makeup brand

[revolianmind]

3. Start beef with other celebrities who have makeup brands

[annabadea]

Some tumblr user which I’m not going to name because I genuinely feel sorry for her, recently stained the name of Revolianism by calling us terfs, and then she said we have a “pride flag”, even though that is impossible because we are not LGBT in any way shape or form and don’t want to intrude either, we just have a flag to show positivity for us, which she decided to hate on, and on top of that, she said that only girls are revolians 😂 (just so you have an idea about how informed she really is). Thoughts and prayers 😔🙏🏻

P.S if you can’t see her post it’s because she blocked pretty much anyone who ever posted in “revolian” or “revolianism” hashtags because she didn’t want us to be able to defend ourselves. A real brave legend.

[space-coyote-judal]

Some of you conflate being gender non-conforming with being lgbt+ and it's not any more enlightened or intelligent when you do it than when stereotypical idiot bigots do it but you don't realize that because you think it's okay to stereotype people when you're the one doing it.

[embracing-femininity]

A question for liberals…

History has shown that traditional gender roles work incredibly well, they produce better off children, and make both parties happier over all.

History has shown that the “2 gender” system, having expectations that biological females are women and biological males are men, has worked incredibly well. Science shows that the majority of people fall into these categories.

Both of these “bigoted” beliefs are what lead to booming populations, big and advanced civilizations, lower rates of depression and suicide, and over all order in the family.

So I ask you, what is your purpose in opposing these things? Do you fight against normalicy for a false sense of heroism, or is it because you are bored? What good do you expect to come from tearing the foundations of civilization away? What do you think you are helping?

[revolianmind]

Manly men telling short haired women that they are ugly, that they should grow their hair out, wear makeup, and alter their appearance to please them is one reason why anyone should oppose these views.

Men demanding women to do things they would never do themselves is quite hypocritical.

But if you people were okay with a woman having short hair and wearing whatever she wants and having a family with a man who is not “manly” and has long beautiful hair and wears what he wants, then I wouldn’t mind it.

But it becomes a problem when you prioritize conformity to gender roles and gender stereotypes over having a nice healthy family.

[unbotheredmuse]

tbh i can’t wait to say “my husband” in casual conversation

[idothistostalkyou]

More movie posters with ladies looking badass while protecting their pretty looking boyfriends please

[revolian]

Teddy girls started gaining attention in the 1950s, having their style characterized as “rebellious”, they broke all the dress codes which were much stricter in their days. This is revolian culture.

They had no problem having short hair, even though that was seen as even more outrageous back then. Absolute legends.

Teddy girls are the early revolian girls. Guys we literally have a historical ancestry!!!

[revolianmind]

Queens!! Absolutely gorgeous!!

[revolianmind]

Cis heterosexual women can:

Wear binders

Be muscular

Shop from men’s department

Have very short hair

Wear men’s accessories

Wear baggy clothes

Stop telling straight girls they have to fit into this ideal femininity mold. Respect the existence of revolians.

[xherpowerx]

These people are really saying buttoning up your shirt, having short hair or rolling up your sleeves means you’re not interested in men. It’s almost 2020, please educate yourself on how one’s appearance does not indicate their sexuality.

[revolianmind]

Revolians: *exist*

Literally someone who has “equality” in their username: no you don’t, that’s gay culture so you’re probably not attracted to men if you do something to your hair and wear less revealing clothing, sorry I don’t make the rules 🤷🏻‍♀️

Do you see why it sounds misogynistic?

[revolianmind]

Straight guy: **wears no makeup, has short hair, dresses with baggy clothes, is muscular, doesn’t shave**

Society: such a charming man :)

Straight girl: hey that looks so comfortable and chill, can I do it too?

Society: Do you want boys to not like you? Do you want to repel men? Do you want to drive them away by doing the exact same things that they do and consider themselves to be attractive while doing? If you give them what they give you it will be a huge turn off for them!

[bara-enthusiast]

Where?

In fact if straight men dress up they get absolutely blasted/assaulted/killed

(Also I'm sorry but in what type of crack you have to be on to think the standards of beauty between the two sexes are the same)

[revolianmind]

Uh, yeah, thanks for pointing out the fact that it isn’t any easier for straight men to be gender nonconforming just because they’re straight. Things shouldn’t be like that though, and they should be allowed to dress up.

And sorry but beauty standards should be the same if we live in an equal society. But you just admitted that beauty standards aren’t the same for men and women and that isn’t necessarily fair to me, that’s why I want to change that. It is of course convenient for men, but not convenient for women.

[bara-enthusiast]

Beauty standards for men are higher.

No offense but face paint isnt as bad a literally destroying your body with closely specific fitness obsession

[enbiesarenttrans]

As someone who is biologically female and thus grew up female...OP is full of shit. I was a tomboy through and through (turns out I was just trans!). Sure, I was bullied a lot but it wasn’t for being a tomboy - it started because I have a speech impediment and just stuck all throughout elementary school because of it. Nobody ever told me to be more attractive, to be more girly, to make myself up so men would like me more, et cetera. 

I’m far from the only one too. Most tomboys are 100% left alone and allowed to do whatever they want. Girls and women have already been liberated from their strict gender roles so they can do things that used to be stereotypically “boyish” and masculine. Men on the other hand can’t. Hell, I’ve started transitioning - I don’t pass yet, but my legs and armpits sure are super hairy for a girl and nobody gives me a second look or goes up to me to bitch about it or anything. It’s almost like this is a complete non-issue for the most part.

Lastly, beauty standards for men aren’t “convenient”. For hell’s sake, Jason Mamoa was just fatshamed recently for not being dehydrated and instead being a healthy build for a fit man. We’re so up in arms about male beauty standards that a stupidly attractive man is considered “fat” for not being healthy. And you think some girls feeling pressured to wear make-up (in which many girls aren’t) is somehow on par with society thinking a man’s dehydrated body is desirable? 

[revolianmind]

Of course that if you “transition to being a man” no one will expect you to be feminine. And for most parts, it’s not like people come up to you and tell you to be feminine anyways- it’s more subtle, but then again, you’re not from where I am from, and you have no idea what my culture is like.

People (especially men) literally spit at my feet for being a masculine, they glare at me in the nastiest ways, yell rude things after me on the street. Guess you didn’t experience that, did you? So you can’t really speak for most rather masculine women. Not to mention countless of other girls who I know who experience similar things to this.

And men’s beauty standards might exist, but damn, I would rather have people expect me to be “bulky” and “tall” and “dominant” rather than weak, passive, hairless, small and pretty anyday.

[princessbubblegumandjustice]

The problem with movements that are about identity (or more accurately: communities that think their existence constitutes a movement) is exactly that: often they focus on identity and not their vision.

Focusing so much on acceptance and identity means that you can’t have a vision because that means people without that vision have to be excluded. By design you’ve failed because you’ve prioritized validation and acceptance over establishing goals.

And without a vision you can’t have a mission, which means no strategy and no action plan, which means no change.

And I guess this is what I have to say: an identity is not political. It’s not a statement. It’s not activism. The simple act of existing is not a political statement.

You’re confusing the act of being with acting upon the perspective your identity gives you to enact change.

What amplifies this problem is the idea that “everyone is an activist.” This is simply untrue. To be an activist you need to be helping directly while engaging in an organized way to enact change. You can be an advocate or an ally, but simply believing something or signing a petition doesn’t make you an activist.

And that’s okay! You don’t need to be an activist. More importantly: you don’t need to be an activist for every single thing you believe in. It’s fine to be an activist for one or a few things and then an ally for everything else. In fact I believe it’s better to have fewer fully committed activists and tons of allies than have many activists who have to spread themselves thin between dozens of issues.

It’s okay to not be an activist and the fact that unfortunately some people don’t have the time, resources, energy, or ability to be an activist doesn’t change that either. If existing or being an ally is all you can do, that’s okay.

[revolianmind]

I don’t know, I feel like things have to be taken gradually.

If a community wants to be able to achieve their goals, they must have some validation and acceptance to begin with.

Take Revolianism for example: a movement which aims to give representation and visibility to revolians (heterosexual men and women who don’t conform to the established gender stereotypes and gender roles), and educate people about this specific identity and how it should not be regarded as a deviation. There is a goal, but for a movement to be able to achieve it’s goals, it must first be accepted and validated by the majority in a society.

And of course we have a vision, and everybody is welcomed to join the movement. We aren’t excluding anyone, but if you don’t have the same vision, it basically means you don’t believe that these people should be represented or respected as human beings. And if you don’t, then this movement simply isn’t the place for you.

Of course visions and missions are important but every movement has to take “baby steps” before it can properly make a significant change, in my opinion.

[revolianmind]

Straight guy: **wears no makeup, has short hair, dresses with baggy clothes, is muscular, doesn’t shave**

Society: such a charming man :)

Straight girl: hey that looks so comfortable and chill, can I do it too?

Society: Do you want boys to not like you? Do you want to repel men? Do you want to drive them away by doing the exact same things that they do and consider themselves to be attractive while doing? If you give them what they give you it will be a huge turn off for them!

[bara-enthusiast]

Where?

In fact if straight men dress up they get absolutely blasted/assaulted/killed

(Also I'm sorry but in what type of crack you have to be on to think the standards of beauty between the two sexes are the same)

[revolianmind]

Uh, yeah, thanks for pointing out the fact that it isn’t any easier for straight men to be gender nonconforming just because they’re straight. Things shouldn’t be like that though, and they should be allowed to dress up.

And sorry but beauty standards should be the same if we live in an equal society. But you just admitted that beauty standards aren’t the same for men and women and that isn’t necessarily fair to me, that’s why I want to change that. It is of course convenient for men, but not convenient for women.

[revolianmind]

Straight guy: **wears no makeup, has short hair, dresses with baggy clothes, is muscular, doesn’t shave**

Society: such a charming man :)

Straight girl: hey that looks so comfortable and chill, can I do it too?

Society: Do you want boys to not like you? Do you want to repel men? Do you want to drive them away by doing the exact same things that they do and consider themselves to be attractive while doing? If you give them what they give you it will be a huge turn off for them!

[revolianmind]

You aren’t less of a man for not being “tall enough”.

You aren’t less of a man for not being “very muscular”.

You aren’t less of a man for liking makeup, having long hair, being sensitive, gesticulating.

You aren’t less of a man for being a revolian and not conforming to the stereotypical idea our society has of masculinity.

You’re still a man and you’re probably gorgeous too. You go, boy!!