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[jeypawlik]

OJST: Enemies to Lovers with Fashion

https://www.ohjoysextoy.com/enemies-to-lovers-with-fashion-jey-pawlik/ (This comic is SFW!) This idea came to me hard and fast and I pushed everything else aside to get it out of my head as fast as I could. Everyone has their own vision of fashion and what others “think” they should wear, but that vision changed a lot for me after I came out, and then again when I started hormones which really helped me lean into a nicer style than graphic tees all the time. I actually ended up making TWO full OJST comics this month (on top of other freelance work) so check out the OJST Patreon in June for the yearly Pledge Drive to get all of this year’s exclusive comics, mine (it’s about my sketchbooks) will be posted here on my own Patreon come December for $10 Private Collector tier folks!! [ID: “Enemies to Lovers with Fashion” a comic by Jey Pawlik is done in cool textured colours with mint greens, teals, pinks, purple and grey. Jey is a nonbinary person with a chubby built and ages through the course of the comic. A young Jey and their Fashion counterpart stand in a room covered in pink frilly femme clothes, there’s a big fancy green door behind them. Young Jey yells “I don’t want to wear any of these clothes, Fashion!” In contrast to young Jey’s graphic tee and comfy sweatpants and their hair pulled back in a simple ponytail, Fashion (who looks just like Jey) is all dolled up in a pink frilly dress with a bow in their curled hair. Fashion replies “You’ll look more presentable though.” Young Jey says “They’re—they’re just what other people think I should wear. Fashion asks “What DO you want to wear?” Jey yells back “I don’t know, but none of these” before running through the big fancy green door saying “I’m fed up with all this. I’m getting out here.” Fashion follows behind them while saying “Wait, that’s not the exit!” Young Jey and Fashion find themselves in a brightly lit closet with pink clothes on either side of them. Jey asks “Whoa, what is this place?” A ribbon obscures the bottom of the page with the text “Read the rest on OhJoySexToy.com” /end]

[ripleylacross]

Birthday art for @sanjikunbb!

[Clip Studio]

[gardengnosticator]

friendship addicts will be like “i just need one more hit of your infectious laughter and zest for life”

[redgoldsparks]

The Annotated Edition of Gender Queer is almost here!

It will be out in stores on May 19. Many people, including myself, added notes, comments, thoughts, drawings, and in a few cases extra comics to this edition! I also included many of the early black and white inked comics and penciled pages I created when developing the book. Thank you so much to everyone who contributed: ⭐ Jadzia Azelrod (author of Galaxy: The Prettiest Star) ⭐ Andrea Colvin (original editor of Gender Queer) ⭐ Alex L Combs (author of Trans History From Ancient Times to Present Day: A graphic novel) ⭐ Dr Sandra Cox (English Professor, Southeast Missouri State University) ⭐ Eli Erlick (author of Before Gender: Lost Stories from Trans History, 1850-1950) ⭐ Mel Gillman (author of Other Ever Afters, Stage Dreams, As the Crow Flies) ⭐ Ashley R Guillory (contributor to Queers at the Table) ⭐ Justin Hall (editor of No Straight Lines: Four Decades of Queer Comics) ⭐ Kori Michele Handwerker (author of Tiny Book Science) ⭐ Phoebe Kobabe (my sibling and colorist of Gender Queer) ⭐ Tara Madison Avery (publisher, Stacked Deck Press) ⭐ Ajuan Mance (author of Gender Studies: True Confessions of an Accidental Outlaw) ⭐ Hazel Hewlevant (author of Queer and How We Got Here) ⭐ Matthew Noe (Librarian at Harvard Medical School) ⭐ Hal Schrieve (author of Out of Salem, Vivian's Ghost, Fawn's Blood) ⭐ Matt Silady (Comics professor at California College of The Arts) ⭐ Rani Som (author of Spellbound, Apsara Engine) ⭐ Shannon Watters (co-creator of Lumberjanes) They all have impressive credits but more relevantly, all of them are friends 🧡💛💚💙

In stores May 19 2026, and available for preorder here. (It is heavy enough to be difficult to hold up in one hand!)

insta / patreon / portfolio / etsy / my books / print store / bluesky

[melgillman]

I had the honor of doing some of the annotations for this book, alongside a TON of absolutely incredible queer artists and scholars! I’ve seen the whole book and it’s lovely. Get a copy for yourself, and ask your public library to get one for all your neighbors.

[ripleylacross]

Sometimes you're squattin' on the porcelain throne and a comic idea smacks you so hard that you gotta shit it out ASAP.

Some additional reasons I prefer handheld bidets over bowl styles:

There's far less cross-contamination of fecal matter to your urethra, because more often than not you're spraying from the front, NOT the back like those other ones do. I stopped getting so many UTIs once I switched.

But no, seriously, rinsing your junk whenever you want or need to??? Fantastic. Outstanding. Amazing. Love it. Great on a hot day or when I've been sitting at my desk for too long.

It's also perfect for rinsing off stuff after ✨activities✨. -They're SUPER easy to install and unobtrusive.

ty for coming to my bidet talk, the floor is now open to questions from the peanut gallery.

[meledol84]

From the back????? Are people the bidet like when they were children and someone else was cleaning you? 🫣

[ripleylacross]

I don't think so? I was referring to the common (American?) toilet attachment with the nozzle at the back of the bowl:

They're just a recipe for pushing fecal matter to the front, and I highly doubt they're ever actually "self-cleaning."

[ripleylacross]

Thanks for adding that panel about the ability to get wet in your OJST comic about lube! I’ve been dealing with a lot of shame about how much lube I need, and it was really validating. You rock.

Y'know what, that bit almost didn't make it into the final version. I was worried that it would feel preachy after all the fun and games, but this topic is so very important to me, and I knew it NEEDED to stay in there.

That comic actually came from a place of frustration with how lubricant and the need for it is perceived. My original pitch came back saying that I clearly have unresolved issues that need to be worked out before I can approach the topic in a non-antagonistic manner. And... yeah, that's pretty fair.

I still want to make that comic, that way I can get way more specific about how to apply the stuff properly. It's not rocket science, but it's an awkward topic to bring up and even I haven't figured that out ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Thanks for the love!

(Read the comic in question here!)

[ripleylacross]

"My knees may stagger, my bones may break, my will may fracture - but my faith stands strong on your shoulders, o lord Ilmater, if you will let it."

Baby's first paladin, and I'm HOOKED.

(Shiloh, he/him)

[Clip Studio]

[ripleylacross]

Matching PFPs of our fursonas for my boyfriend and I :>

[ripleylacross]

Hey y'all! Money is bit tight now thanks to budget cuts at work, so I'm sharing a little reminder that I'm open for commissions!

Just $75 could get you a sweet PFP just like these, or a pair of matching PFPs for $125! (a 17% discount!)

Check out my commission form over here: artistree.io/ripleylacross

[ripleylacross]

"There is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun." ― Christopher McCandless

[Clip Studio]

Based on this photo I took of Mt. Adams/Pahto in Washington on the Pacific Crest Trail in '24!

[ripleylacross]

Vyvian (they/them) wouldn't be caught dead dressed anything less than fantastic. You never know when Dinner for One may end up as dinner for two, or three, or four…

[ripleylacross]

A comic about Dyshidrosis aka pompholyx.

CW: Skin conditions, blisters.

[ripleylacross]

Years later I finally learned what caused that terrible flare-up: An adhesive alternative in blister bandages called Colophony. It's made of pine resin and turns out that crap gives me dermatitis at best, dyshidrosis at worst.

I'm also allergic to pine pollen. Just my luck!

(note: If you get these blisters it may be caused by something entirely different than what causes mine. I know people that get them from stress alone. You know your body, and I'm not a doctor!)

[ripleylacross]

Matching PFPs of our fursonas for my boyfriend and I :>

[ripleylacross]

Hey y'all! Money is bit tight now thanks to budget cuts at work, so I'm sharing a little reminder that I'm open for commissions!

Just $75 could get you a sweet PFP just like these, or a pair of matching PFPs for $125! (a 17% discount!)

Check out my commission form over here: artistree.io/ripleylacross

[ripleylacross]

Have you ever shopped at As you like it in Eugene OR? So many of the toys you've reviewed are there, including the squidly co tdick strokers, it's been wonderful being able to get reviews from another NB before venturing out into the world of trans inclusive sex toys that I hadn't known existed before I found that store.

Even if you hadn't ever shopped there and it's all just coincidence, thank you for all of the reviews you have posted to oh joy sex toy. You've made a serious difference in the way I shop for toys ( and also have given me a higher success rate for finding ones I like!)

Aw thanks! I'm glad your journey to find toys you like has been made easier! The frustration of dropping your hard earned money on something you don't like and can't return, resell, or even recycle is real. If I was feeling petty I'd make a list of all the things I DON'T recommend, but I do my best to stay positive and just promote the good ones.

Oh, and despite living in Portland for the better part of 15 years, I've never been to Eugene! I've heard good things about the place, though, and now I know they've got a rad shop as well!

Cheers!

[ripleylacross]

Matching PFPs of our fursonas for my boyfriend and I :>

[ripleylacross]

I can finally share this now that the story's published.

Baby's first OPB illustration.

Families, former Portland Public Schools employees fight cuts to language services

PPS dismantled the Language Access Services team this past spring amid millions of dollars in budget cuts. They say needed services are stil

[ripleylacross]

Painted some big rocks on a much smaller rock last night.

Considering the fact I haven't painted an acrylic landscape in over a decade, and this was done with a single, shitty grocery store paint brush, dollar store paint in the late evening supplemented only by warm string lights... I'm really fucking impressed with myself.

Based on these photos!

Taken last summer while hiking the Pacific Crest Trail over the "Knife's Edge" in the Goat Rocks Wilderness of Washington State.

[ripleylacross]

Sometimes you're squattin' on the porcelain throne and a comic idea smacks you so hard that you gotta shit it out ASAP.

Some additional reasons I prefer handheld bidets over bowl styles:

There's far less cross-contamination of fecal matter to your urethra, because more often than not you're spraying from the front, NOT the back like those other ones do. I stopped getting so many UTIs once I switched.

But no, seriously, rinsing your junk whenever you want or need to??? Fantastic. Outstanding. Amazing. Love it. Great on a hot day or when I've been sitting at my desk for too long.

It's also perfect for rinsing off stuff after ✨activities✨. -They're SUPER easy to install and unobtrusive.

ty for coming to my bidet talk, the floor is now open to questions from the peanut gallery.