Roleplaying Relationships: A Guide
The fact is that almost everyone roleplays relationships, nearly every character on here has shown some romantic interest, and will at one point involve their character in some kind of romance, whether reciprocated or not. These things are usually very important to the characters and players, and thus prone to quite a bit of drama!
Here are the main focuses that have lead to drama, and a few pointers to make your roleplaying experience involving these topics a little more pleasant!
Some topics will cover your treatment of other people, which I think is the MOST IMPORTANT. How you treat other people in regards to relationships will effect how people treat you! I have abstained from talking to people, even with the munâs other characters, because of how the mun treated IC relationships.
Iâve divided this into three parts, SHIP FOCUS, CHARACTER FOCUS, and MUN FOCUS
Iâve seen a lot of people lately who have a very limited idea of who they want to have their character in a relationship with. They want to play out THIS OTP and wonât take any other.
Usually the best way Iâve seen this done is if you have a friend who ships the same pairing, and the two of your create characters to play your ship.
However, Iâve found that it will prove rather limiting, especially if you donât have a friend in cohoots with you. There are dozens of Homestuck characters, of various quality, and various romantic availability. The odds of you finding that one character, whoâs open, available, and of good quality is pretty low! Â And after that, you have to take into account that everybody plays their characters differently, some to a severe degree. Your character may not have the chemistry with that particular character that attracts you to that ship.
This isnât a NEVER DO THIS ITâS WRONG AND HORRIBLE YOUâRE A TERRIBLE RPER thing.
If you are bound and determined to rp this ship and wonât take any other, then thatâs your decision (as long as youâre not forcing it on anyone). In the end, youâre really only effecting yourself in that decision.
However, I think that you are really limiting yourself when you do this! There might be other characters, maybe not even within your fandom, that suits your character just as well, if not better!
I had made Terezi with the intention for her to be paired <3 with Karkat, and was heavily leaning towards <3< with Vriska. In the end, I didnât end up with anything resembling that, and Iâm just fine with that outcome. Have you seen Terezi and Tavros together? Theyâre basically the most adorable couple ever. SP has told me that Broderick was intended for someone completely different than Droog, but he kept his mind open, and look how well they worked together (Droogâs sudden fucking off to China notwithstanding).Â
There are probably tons of other examples out there. You just need to keep an open mind, and you could end up with an OTP you never expected!
 This portion involves when you think you have found the perfect character for yours. This specific person, with this url, this is the one that is perfect for your character. You think they have great chemistry, they work really nicely together, theyâre a perfect pairing.
There are a few things to remember while you try to pursue this relationship for your character. This is much stricter, because it involves other people, and not being a douchebag to them. This is definitely the part that people will harshly judge you for if you fuck up.
Their character does not belong to yours. Ever. Even if theyâre in a relationship, but especially if they havenât even started dating, or anything remotely official! Therefore, you have no right to get mad when their character interacts with other people, and spends time with them, especially if they havenât made any romantic moves on the other.
If your character is creepy and possessive, and would openly act so, thatâs one thing. However! This is the part where I tattoo on your face SEPARATE IC FROM OOC.
You, the mun, should not pout at the other mun, should not be passive aggressive, or threaten to abandon your character. That is pressuring, creepy as fuck, and wrong. Donât fucking do it.
It makes things uncomfortable for the other characterâs mun, and quite frankly, the muns of anyone involved. Other people will be watching, and will remember this if your character tries anything with any of theirs.
For that matter, donât do any of the above if your character does enter a relationship, and it doesnât work out. Itâs alright to be disappointed, because hey, it was fun roleplaying that, youâre going to miss it. Itâs not alright to barrage your blog with posts about how fucking disasterous this is, how youâre screaming and crying IRL, and threatening deletion or permanent hiatus.
Creepy. Pressuring. Wrong.
And for goodness sale, donât feel the need to delete or restart your character after the break up because OMG THEY WILL NEVER GET OVER IT. People survive that shit every day, your character can too, and even come out stronger for it. People are not defined by their relationships! Neither should your character be.
Know when to move on. Itâs alright if it doesnât work out. Your character will survive the ordeal of being single. As long as you keep an open mind, and you take some time, your character might even find another partner, even better suited to them!
From what Iâve seen, this mostly happens with people who are dating. Because they are in a relationship, they feel as thought their characters need to be in a relationship. Honestly? I recommend against this. I have seen it consistently in the many years Iâve been RPing, and 90% of the time, it ends badly. Itâs like working with your SO, eventually one side will pollute the other.
What I usually see happen is:
A) The characters break up, and put a strain on the munâs relationship
B) The muns break up, and put a strain on the characterâs relationship
There is another potential flaw, and while it doesnât hurt the relationships involved, itâs still a pretty sad sight to see.
C) The characters have absolutely no chemistry, and are basically only together because the muns have put them together so they can RP a relationship.
I have seen plenty of characters where the relationships have no chemistry, and obviously if they were on their own, the two would not be nearly as involved.
If you are dating, and your character just happens to go nicely with your SOâs character, and you guys think that it would be IC to go ahead and go with it, then go ahead. Just remember! Keep IC relationships out of your OOC relationship, and make sure that you both can keep the relationships separate.
The end of your ship is not the end of the world
I AM SO SERIOUS SEPARATE IC FROM OOC ITâS SKETCHY AS FUCKÂ