[romantic-nbla]

Intro post !

This is a blog for anyone of any gender or romantic/sexual orientation to come to and yearn. [ heavily focuses on queer people, but cishets are welcome too ]

All my posts are SFW and I don't want any NSFW interaction !! Please leave this blog alone !!

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About me !

Hi I'm Michael ! I'm 17, and identify as queer, polyamorous and aromantic.

My main pronouns are one/they.

My inbox and dms are open, just don't be weird and we won't have a problem.

[rikkisixx]

The Great Wall of Vagina - Jamie McCartney (x) Jamie made molds of the vaginas of women between 18 and 76 years. Among others, they include twins and transgender women. Women are often confused about their vagina, because they think it looks different: with this project he demonstrates that vaginas are as different as faces. McCartney hopes that his work will help to stop the increasing growth of labia corrections in recent years.

[rikkisixx]

(Yes these are vulvas, the title of the work is a play on words, The Great Wall of China/Vagina rhymes, Vulva doesn’t.)

[renthony]

No: “Dysphoria isn’t what makes you trans, gender EUPHORIA is what makes you trans!”

Yes: “The only requirement to be trans is that you do not 100% identify with the gender you were assigned at birth. Arbitrary standards of transness only serve to hurt trans people and give cis people more ammunition against us. Stop hyping up these arbitrary standards and milestones.”

[spacelazarwolf]

not to be a fucking boomer but holy motherfuck i’m so tired of young queers on social media having temper tantrums about flags and words and fanfiction and just shit no one gives a fuck about in real life.

here’s a list of things i’ve encountered in irl queer spaces that no one batted an eye about that i have seen nuclear level freak-outs about on tumblr:

- trans man calling himself a lesbian

- trans man calling himself a femboy

- lesbian being married to a trans man

- trans man and trans woman calmly and respectfully talking about reproductive transphobia (me and my voice teacher who i adore)

- gay men in puppy masks simply existing

- trans woman not doing voice training/feminization because she likes her voice the way it is and somehow not “tRiGgErInG” the women around her with her scary deep Male VoiceTM

- queer people saying slurs in normal speech when we talk about history or community or for self identification

- talking about how cishets are shitty to us no matter how we identify and not policing other people’s language when they talk about their personal experiences

i am far from the first person to say this but oh my god go outside. meet other queer and trans people in person at queer events. if you can’t do that, see if there are any streaming events you can attend. but just get off social media. stop thinking of the queer community as this nebulous online thing with rules and regulations created by and for white tumblr teens. it’s a real living breathing group of people that has infinitely varied experiences that a 20 yr old white tumblr user will never be able to succinctly boil down into a one liner. definitions mean nothing. stomping ur feet on tumblr bc u saw a trans man use a word u don’t like or a trans woman like a thing u think is gross and bad is stupid and u should not do it. grow up and go do something fun.

[violetclowns]

Rainbow flag colorpicked from the original 1978 flag <3

[mclennonyaoi]

[mclennonyaoi]

cannot believe the whole mspec lesbian discourse has come to “sappho from lesbos (who the term lesbian originates from) cannot be a lesbian” like hm. at this point.

[mclennonyaoi]

like this is the problem with being obsessed with labels. eventually you’re gonna run yourself in circles and go “um actually. the person who was one of the og lesbians from lesbos is NOT a lesbian. because i. a 15 year old on twitter with no knowledge of queer history, or queer theory, who’s only understands lesbianism through the lense of a google definition, think i get to decide that for her” like make it make sense.

[fipindustries]

man this sucks, being trans should have been an anthropological curiosity, not a political movement, it should have been a quirk of humanity, not a fight for survival, it should have been like being colorblind, or having six fingers, it should have been something science teachers taught their students excitedly because it was this interesting bit of trivia, it should have been no more exciting than being a furry or being born with edietic memory. it should have been this little vibrant community whose only care in the world was to share tips about how to customize your presentation it should have been an off hand remark while hanging at a bar to the tune of “hey, isnt joan of accounting trans? crazy stuff my cousin tom changed too and now is nora”

i look back at all those old news papers from like the 30′s and 40′s and the way they seemed to talk about the subject and is like fuck, how can we get that back

[romantic-nbla]

Late night drives with your lovers. Being the only car on the highway and feeling like you're the only people in the world. Finding little 24 hour stores to get some drinks or snacks. Someone always fiddling with the radio. Long conversations interspersed by bouts of laughter.

[pezpenser205]

controversial opinion but top surgery and other trans healthcare shouldnt be trans exclusive. so what if an autistic woman wants top surgery because boobs are a sensory nightmare?? good on her. she isnt "mutilating" herself any more than anyone else who gets cosmetic surgery for anything.

it doesnt have to be exclusively "trans healthcare." maybe a cis guy just wants boobs or a cis girl wants a dick. who cares. your bodys yours. customize that bitch. the more normalized it is to just do whatever with your body for any reason the easier itll be for the people who need to do it to actually go through with it because they wont be socially pressured as hard or harassed afterwards.

[genderoutlaws]

Marsha P. Johnson marching in the Christopher Street Liberation Day Parade in 1977

[ace-swordslvt-deactivated202405]

I was talking to one of my cis guy friends, and I called him “the big man” and he said, “that just made me very happy.” And the tone in his voice, I just knew exactly how he felt, “that’s gender euphoria!” I exclaimed. 

I don’t know why I never realized, but yeah. Cis people experience euphoria. Like many cis guys who go to the gym do it to affirm their gender. The cis men who get mad at being emasculated–they’re experiencing dysphoria! Trans people aren’t different or odd for experiencing these things. We’re just like everyone else, and somehow nobody talks about it! 

Like my femboy friend gets euphoria from being gnc, but he gets dysphoria by the idea of someone calling him a girl or using the wrong pronouns. Cause cis people have their own gender identities, they just happen to align with their agab. 

It all makes sense. 

I feel like cis people might understand if we explained it like this. Maybe I’m just being hopeful though. I’ve always just thought the “well they feel like the opposite” explanation is lacking any amount of personal relation that a cis person could attach to. 

[tearlessrain]

seriously if you step into any offline queer space for like two seconds you'll be staggered by the actual diversity of nonbinary people. I knew someone in college who was amab and balding and had a moustache and dressed like a dad and used she/her pronouns exclusively. I knew multiple people who you'd assume at first sight were cishet who used he/she/they. there are people you can't sort into amab and afab because it's literally impossible to tell because they've been playing 4D gender chess for 30 years.

like. none of it matters. you can make as many boxes and labels as you want, it's not gonna stop people from just being people.

[our-queer-experience]

'we need to fight for intersex rights because a lot of them are lgbt/lots of intersex people are trans' stfu right now. we need to fight for intersex rights not because it benefits us but because theyre constantly under attack, god.

[our-queer-experience]

if i made this post saying ‘‘we need to fight for trans rights because a lot of them are gay!’ stfu right now. we need to fight for trans rights not because it benefits us but because theyre constantly under attack, god” then this would have a lot more notes. 

[sheddingplates-deactivated20160]

[sheddingplates-deactivated20160]

“Kissing Doesn’t Kill“ (Black and white postcard) from 1980’s ACT UP campaign for HIV/AIDS awareness.

[robotsharks-deactivated20260326]

This is the banner that was put up on buses to create awareness! a lot of companies cropped out the bottom so I thought it would be cool to share the full version

[gettin-bi-bi-bi]

today is world AIDS day

a lot of HIV-positive people still face stigmatisation due to prejudices and misinformation. so here is a quick reminder that:

HIV cannot be transmitted through touch

HIV cannot be transmitted via saliva, tears or sweat

HIV cannot pass unbroken skin or gloves, meaning you can help an injured HIV-positive person without fearing infection

HIV medication is so good these days that it can push the viral load below a detectable amount, which means that the virus CANNOT be transmitted anymore! no, not even during sex!!! (which doesn’t mean you should just have unprotected sex; other STIs and unwanted pregnancy are still a thing that you have to keep in mind!)

the medication can have strong side effects though, so it is important to do more research and develop even better medication

not every person in the world has the same access to medication. it is absolutely vital that everyone who needs it can get easy and free access to it.

HIV is not a death sentence anymore!!! through education and free access to condoms and medicine we can keep pushing the number of new infections with HIV down and prolong the life expectancy of people already infected.

Please share this information, not just online but also with friends and family who might not know it. And if you can, donate to your local AIDS/HIV charity or if you want to support one that’s operating internationally then Elton John AIDS Foundation is the one I’d recommend!

[horrorlesbians]

everytime I remember that lesbian couple that have a marble statue of the two of them embracing and sleeping on a bed together over where their graves will be because the artists didn’t believe they would be able to be married before they died, so what they couldn’t have in life they could have in death, I fucking breakdown

[horrorlesbians]

memorial to a marriage; patricia cronin

[horrorlesbians]

“on july 24th, 2011- the first day that same sex marriage was legal in new york state, particia cronin and deborah kass got married. that same year the marble ‘memorial to a marriage’ was replaced with a bronze version. rainwater pools in the space between their two sculpted bodies, and falling leaves catch on the metal in the autumn. the two women sleep peacefully through snow and ice, and the scorching days of summer. over time the hands of cemetery visitors will wear down the bronze, burnishing it into a smooth shine. one day this will mark the final resting place of the two women. and someday people will have to remember that there was a time, long ago, when this was a memorial to a marriage that two women never thought they’d have.” 

- Caitlin Doughty, on the Death in the Afternoon podcast

[damnedifyoudeeohh-deactivated20]

For those curious:

[friendraichu]

Here’s the real-life couple in 2019 💖

[sadkazoosolo]

happy 20th anniversary (nov 3, 2002) to patricia cronin’s marble sculpture that furthered art, advocacy, and lesbian breakdowns everywhere

[destroyboydestroy]

I'm in love with the concept of butches getting crushes on each other. butches being dumb and vulnerable together. butches bumping shoulders and walking close. being afraid to make the first move. wearing each other's clothes. roughhousing. cutting each other's hair.

[destroyboydestroy]

people will see this post and question its existence and why it matters at all. People will truly lack understanding and forget that not everything is for them. My identity as a butch who only likes other butches is important because I have only ever been able to find safety and vulnerability in other bull dykes. There's no pressing, invasive, awkward questions about my identity. There's only understanding, kindness, sensitivity, and strength that's both hard and soft. This post is important for the me years ago who thought he had to be rigid and tough and highly masculine to meet the bar. For years, I forced myself to uphold the standards and perceptions people hoist onto butches. my love for butches is a love letter to myself. It's acceptance. it's finally allowing myself to be who I've always been. And I get to do that with people who want the same. We get to make up for lost time, dead adolescence, lives we never thought we'd live. So, yeah maybe you think just wanting to cut another dyke's hair or wear their jacket is lame. But for me it's all I've ever wanted.