;; the self ;; i'm nonbinary transmasculine and am tme, and i am also white and usamerican. i identify as polyamorous sex-favorable aromantic asexual, and extremely kinky to the point i write papers about it.
;; interests ;; i love to bake, and am learning how to cook! i also love writing, reading, and watching television. my fandom interests are up in the air at the moment, but i am always eager to find something new!
;; kinks ;; i have a wide-spanning variety of interests. within these bounds, i am explicitly into ageplay/age regression, fauxcest, dollification, objectification, feminization, painplay, bondage/shibari, petplay, alien/monsterfucking, detrans, cnc (including rapeplay, intoxication/drugplay, somno), medfet, experimentation play, and the unfortunately physically impossible kinks of cumflation, oviposition, vore & absorption, and macro/micro. and, for the record, i am a bottom-leaning sub!
;; colors ;; if you cannot tell, my favorite color is pink, and i will often operate under a pink-esque aesthetic! (this is here to break up the post before my limit list, ahaha!)
;; hard limits ;; i do NOT enjoy and will not interact with vomit, scat, feet, and scent/aroma content. these are just things i won’t really interact with and would prefer to not be shown! but i will not yuck your yum if they are yours!
;; disclaimer ;; almost all of these fantasies play out in my head or with non-literal replication/roleplaying. i do not condone real life bestiality, rape, abuse, etc. {please don't fuck actual bugs, y'all.}
;; welcome ;; thank you for coming to my blog! i hope you enjoy it here! i am still getting into the swing of things, but i hope that i bring you joy in a variety of ways as i progress and grow.
fucked that you can’t fix other people especially when you really care about them. Oh so im just supposed to be there for you while you suffer. like a useless cunt gargoyle
"male socialization" has become such a great cudgel against trans women because it's the perfect way to launder all your bioessentialist misogyny under the guise of social critique
like, oh that woman is acting "male" by standing up for herself or others? and you're denigrating her about it because you're..... not a misogynist?
you can just kind of gesture at socialization theory and everyone autofills it with their bioessentialist assumptions
like, it doesn't particularly matter what mechanisms of socialization you think are the root cause of her behaviors, and it really doesn't matter what her upbringing actually looked like or where she's at in unpacking how it affected her
you don't need to understand or engage with socialization theory at all, you can just slap the label of it over your bioessentialism and bam! you sound progressive without needing to let go of your conservative views, and everyone will go along with it
If you have ever known anyone with a kink for being hit, or beat up, or raped and you're okay with them, you also gotta be okay with the people who's kink it is to do the hitting, the beating, or the raping. At the end of the day, we're adults playing pretend, and that's it.
With every single sub i have the first thing we ever do is establish the safe word (stoplight system), and the non-verbal safe word in case they can't talk for any reason. If I can't tell where the sub is at, I will ask them point blank what is their color, and if they can't give a response, we stop. The goal is to make the other person feel good, including pain, and the most important part us knowing your subs limits and LISTENING to them. I will *never* hurt a sub in a way that they have not explicitly expresssed interest in.
Was going to make a joke post about punishing an agere girl by not taking the pickles off her burger but I started crying thinking about doing that for real. I'd never do that ever. I'm so bad at punishment play no girl deserves to be punished...
Got emotional while cutting vegetables thinking about this again I think this might just be a period week for me. Under my watch all veggies will be prepared to suitable standards of deliciousness and if you don't want them we will find other ways to get you the nutrients we need. No one ever has to eat something they don't want to from now until forever
baseball interviewers will ask "how do you throw the ball so good" and Mariners players will casually drop that they have a headmate who plays the game for them
police departments love to be like "we need more money to fight all the crime that's been happening lately" and they show a graph with crime going up at then you look into the numbers and it's like "the ten percent increase in crime was correlated with a ten percent increase in active policing hours" and it's like oh okay so the crime factory needs more money because the crime factory stayed open late to manufacture more crime in order to convince us to give more money to the crime factory. Where can I get off this carousel of misery?
police departments love to be like "yes, we ruined the lives of thousands more young black folks, but you have to understand: we wanted a tank, and you weren't giving us new-tank money."
people are always so shocked about transfems not wanting to fall back on their assigned gender at birth for some kind of hypothetical social gain. like funnily enough our alleged Immutable Male Essence is not a privilege for us. It is, in fact, the complete fucking opposite.
it's interesting bringing up some transfeminist theory to my drag race watching cis therapist thinking she'll disagree but then she just starts spitting incredible transfeminist truth that would cause 100 years discourse on tumblr.
she was telling me that all her transmasc clients have soared up through their careers and have private insurance, while all her transfem clients are financially struggling and are on state insurance
she was like "they transition into privilege and patriarchy is happy to accept them as men" and what's awesome is she said her transmasc clients generally understand this privilege and use it responsibly, including in support of trans women
and you know to be clear these aren't even things I would have said. I mean there's definitely Nuance at the very least. if I were to say the "transitioning into privilege" and "being accepted by patriarchy as men" things myself I'd want to be able to prove them out relatively rigorously, and I haven't done that, so don't take this as me doing a full cosign on these claims. but damn, she did just kind of say them
on TME/TMA: being mistaken for a transfem and catching strays is not the same thing as actually being a transfem: the actual targets of transmisogyny
I know a lot of trans men want to be TMA reallllll bad because someone mistook them for a transfem once and called them a tranny, but the "Affected" in "TransMisogyny Affected" doesn't just mean you have been Affected by transmisogyny at some point--it means it affects you, inescapably, in uncountably many more ways than just random harassment, every minute of your damn life. and it worms into your brain and stays there, because you ARE the tranny they were talking about
you may be a tree near the target and catch the occasional stray, but you are not the target
I had a really good example of this pop up on the bus a while back. TLDR an older cis woman accused of being transfemme was protected by several people, while I, visibly transfemme, was not when the same person started threatening me.
💬 11 🔁 1676 ❤️ 2448 · Transphobia is so fascinating sometimes because I just got an example of why “everyone is transmisogyny affected” is
Hello! Genuine question: is every nonbinary person that was CAMAB considered TMA, even if they don’t identify with femininity? I was under the impression that only trans women and transfem people in general were TMA but I saw a post that said otherwise so now I’m not sure.
I know you’re not like the boss of definitions or anything but you have a big followerbase that’s in the know about these things
As the tumblr princess of definitions™, yes, every nonbinary person who was CAMAB is TMA. They are also transfem. None of these are identities, sex assignment is an event and biopolitical technology, and TMA/transfeminized is a social position.
The fact they these people are not feminine, and yet are transfeminized, is an important ongoing factor in how non-binary (or simply non-western) identities are oppressed.
I was going to donate so you had money, but then I saw the first post on your blog shitting on trans men. I figure you don't want my filthy trans man money so best of luck with your campaign. hope you can find some trans women that can financially support you.
1) the first post on my blog is an intro post that doesn't mention trans men 2) my husband is a trans man 3) you're just a lying scumbag anyways. You were never gonna donate anything in the first place.
denying trans kids hrt when they're sure of which puberty they want to go through is also an act of oppression. even if puberty blockers are available, we're not protecting kids by denying them the opportunity to go through puberty at the same time as their peers
"what if they go through physical changes that they later regret?" we allow cis kids to take that risk. in fact, most of them are never even given a choice and told they might regret it. just educate trans kids about what hrt will and won't do for them, then let them decide
every callout post about a transfem reads like "she sexually harassed and practically assaulted someone while in a position of absolute power over them, abusing her authority while they were trapped and helpless against her machinations" and then you look into it and it's like "she hit on the barista at the coffee shop i go to and it was awkward and a little uncomfortable" and like... yeah, maybe she shouldn't have done that, but you are blowing this wildly out of proportion, and i don't think she should lose her community and support network and housing and income over that. and then if you voice that opinion people send you asks like "why do you think trans women should be allowed to get away with rape?"
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