some kinda deal

34. he/him. bi. just here to lump my interests in a big pile. follows from latoratah.

[rozanovsjockstrap]

i’ve been on this site since i was 19, and that’s what’s wrong with me

- bi guy • husband • boyfriend

- former sex worker, current volunteer org gopher

- i post about: film and tv in general, art, architecture, antiques, history, religion, leather/kink/bdsm subculture

- 🔞

- i look like this

[rozanovsjockstrap]

priest friend was like, “you will be so impressed with the innuendo of my card” and nothing actually prepared me

god

“even if you don’t like it, fake it with people who want to celebrate with you”

and brideshead revisited as a present

i take back all the times i said straight men aren’t funny; sometimes they are

[rozanovsjockstrap]

will never forget till the day i pass away that my former priest bought me brideshead revisited for my birthday. and then paired it with a card deliberately making a gay sex position reference. like what did he mean by this. what church scandal did i almost cause. things to go in my autobiography.

happy pride mnth

[stopitwolfe]

[felius-nightbloom]

[iwilleatyourenglish]

"sometimes you absolutely ARE required to do things in life for the good of other people, even if you hate it" loud incorrect buzzer noise

pure individualism is a disease that kills communities, isolates individuals, and leads to things like the anti-vax movement.

you are not so important that you aren't bound by social responsibility and decency.

others are not so insignificant that they don't deserve help and sacrifice.

[rozanovsjockstrap]

incredible dialogue in this

[outofcontextanimash]

[dailynarnia]

is jake gyllenhaal gay??

why would you ask us, a narnia blog, this

[mangled-by-disuse]

in happier pride news i actually found this deeply heartwarming

that's solidarity baybeeee

[lgbtlaughs]

Further context: Durham city council (Reform UK) cut funding and support for Pride. The Durham Miner's Association and other trade unions raised enough money for Durham Pride 2026 to go ahead - a direct call back to when Lesbian and Gays Support the Miners (LGSM) raised money for mining communities when Margaret Thatcher seized union funding during the miner strikes of 1984-85.

At the 1985 Labour party meet, the motion to support LGBT rights as a party was passed due to a block vote from mining unions.

Stephen Guy, the chair of the Durham Miners’ Association, said that when it became apparent Durham Pride was under threat, he took it upon himself to “encourage the trade union movement to step up and do the right thing, and stand shoulder to shoulder with the LGBT+ community […] They not only raised funds for us, but came to our communities, uplifted our spirits when they were down, and showed their solidarity.”

[swagsmeister]

hollanov breakfast making in fugly pride merch to kick off pride month

[godlessondheimite]

In 2026, the chicest thing a gay actor can do is never explicitly come out as gay but also make it abundantly clear that he is. Coming out is too modern. Staying closeted is too old fashioned. But this method merges contemporary freedom with Old Hollywood glamour and allure, and it weeds out the dumbest people who truly don’t get it. I call it the Pascal Method.

[nobodys-odyssey]

Taylor Swift does this

[godlessondheimite]

no she doesn’t

[nobodys-odyssey]

You clearly don't go here or to queer history and signaling, or both, enough to have this conversation and I'm not going to explain it to you. You could have asked questions, you could have done even a modicum of research. You didn't and you made yourself look ignorant. Goodbye.

[dancinbutterfly]

#I'm fucking crying#this is an instant classic#this is the next meme#i can't believe I'm here to see a baby copypasta nary two hours old#I can't#lol#i laughed way too hard#iconic

[handsywoman]

Connor Storrie stunning for VOGUE Adria

[killadelphia]

[rozanovsjockstrap]

happy pride, i logged onto gaiaonline just to find the journal entry that i wrote the morning after realising i could never be a decent fag for hags because surprise bisexuality was unlocked

i will absolutely not be sharing the whole entry because i was 14 years old on 06/08/06

but for context-- i had a dl boyfriend in grade 9, things didn't work out, i went to summer school, met his new girlfriend, we hit it offffffffff like so well and hung out all the time and our parents let us have sleepovers on account of 🫳

but then like

"Completely emo and depressed." 2006 was a society. "Assumed the role of a support figure" OH I'M SURE. This is now more than twice my lifetime ago, so this is like reading the journal of a stranger.

MATES............... 😭 local high school faggot touches one boob and immediately goes LADS LADS LADS LADS LADS LADS

anyway, sport, you'll be confused for about a week and then you'll be a ✨huge slut✨ for the next 20 years

[lauraepartain]

Rest in peace, Patrick Haggerty, it was a blessing to have met you. Haggerty was a country singer and queer activist, whose 1973 album Lavender Country is widely considered to be the first openly queer country album ever made. I originally became hip to Patrick through his 2016 StoryCorps short called “The Saint of Dry Creek”, a Sundance Film Festival selection that tells the story of being young and gay in rural america, and his father, a dairy farmer, who impressed upon him the beauty in being true to yourself.

“‘Look, everybody knows I’m a dairy farmer. This is who I am.’ And he looked me square in the eye. And then he said, ‘Now, how bout you? When you’re a full-grown man, who are you gonna go out with at night?’ And I said, ‘I don’t know.’ And he said, ‘I think you do know. Now, I’m gonna tell you something today, and you might not know what to think of it now, but you’re gonna remember when you’re an adult. Don’t sneak. Because if you sneak, it means you think you’re doing the wrong thing. And if you run around spending your whole life thinking that you’re doing the wrong thing, then you’ll ruin your immortal soul.’  And out of all the things a father in 1959 could have told his gay son, my father tells me to be proud of myself and not sneak. My reaction at the time was to get out in the hay field and pretend like I was as much of a man as I could be. And I remember flipping 50-pound bales three feet up into the air going, ”I’m not a queer. What’s he talking about?” But he knew where I was headed. And he, he knew that humiliating me and making me feel bad about it in any way was the wrong thing to do. I had the patron saint of dads for sissies, and no, I didn’t know at the time, but I know it now.” - Patrick Haggerty/Lavender Country

Patrick boldly made music that I know not only touched the lives of many of us, but provided a sense of comfort, confidence, and the power of feeling seen to his queer audience. He spent his life doing the opposite of sneaking, and left us with his art and spirit. 

Taken at the OG Basement in Nashville years back after his show there.

[rozanovsjockstrap]

lavender county is providing nourishment and sustenance to me

if you too would like to play as a morally questionable man sniffing around straight/dl/conservative rural men in a dating sim instead of the typical stuff on offer -> it's free

it's also named after lavender country, which is 👍

[mi-ciudad]

i wanna get you so hard that you’ll need to piss but you can’t bc you’re so hard

[vorpal-bry]

..it’s time to step away from the computer, sir

[mi-ciudad]

hes only saying that bc i got him so hard that he needs to piss but he can't because he's so hard