i was training a young person at work, and she referred to sexual assault as "SA" out loud, and i immediately was like, "no, it's sexual assault, call it what it is," bc idgaf if the algorithm overlords have taught y'all that you should fear direct language, how tf do any of you expect to ever address real issues with any amount of seriousness if you can't even say the words? imagine an advocate looking a sexual assault survivor in the eyes and asking "did he grape you?" it's absolutely fucking absurd, but these young interns and new hires are coming into an environment where we deal with survivors of all different kinds of abuse, and they're coming with the mindset that the words are as bad as the actions, and that makes them shitty at the job and look juvenile af
i HATE self-censorship for a lot of reasons, but being in crisis work makes it even more frustrating. who are you censoring for? like i am being so fr, WHO are you censoring for? have you even thought it through? people who have been raped know that they have been raped. if someone attempts suicide or is grieving someone who did, saying "sewer slide" isn't going to protect them from any of the feelings. a murder victim's family isn't going to feel better bc you said "unalived" instead of murdered. if anything, it's just extremely invalidating and othering. it's saying "what happened to you is so bad that i won't even say the word," which is NOT trauma-informed care. you are not protecting survivors/victims when you self-censor. the ONLY things you protect when you self-censor are the puritanical ideologies that are being encouraged by rich fascists who want your money and obedience
say the fucking words, guys. just say the goddamn words before i go insane!!!
How it feels to not give a shit about your ship being canon or confirmed by the creators or, and most importantly, even liked by the rest of the fandom:
important reminder that most people you follow online are significantly lamer than you think they are including me. and if you feel insecure comparing yourself to someone online: DON'T. theyre probably also lame and weird. most people on the internet are
I'm not a gatekeeper so yall. the best thrift stores are the ones that look bad. do not go to cool trendy thrift stores with hot alt twenty-something employees. (I mean you can if you want but enjoy paying $40 for a fuckass shirt.)
here's what you actually want in a thrift store:
in a rich town
run by a church
staffed exclusively by little old ladies
most of the clothes will be butt ugly. but they will also be 1) good quality and 2) cheap af. the 70 year olds running the shop think a thrifted shirt should be $3 and they are correct. everyone else shopping there is over the age of 45 so you won't have to throat punch any depop resellers over a cunty little top. you will get hyped up by old ladies and if you frequent the same shop they may start trying to set you up with their grandkids. everyone wins and who knows their grandkids might be hot.
you need to understand that i have two sets of headcanons. there's the set of realistic headcanons based on my genuine reading of the show, and then there's me playing pretend with my dolls.
written for @steddielovemonth day twenty eight âendlesslyâ by the cab | rating: t | wc: 2,1k | tags: post s4, three years in the future, established relationship, marriage proposal, fluff
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Thereâs a shop down the street where they sell plastic rings for a quarter a piece and Eddie swears it might be his favorite thing about his and Steveâs apartment in Chicago.
Well, no. He really loves that itâs only five minutes away from Buckleyâs dorm and that it has a fire exit thatâs often visited by their downstairs neighborâs cat. And of course, he also loves living there with Steve.
But that little shop is pretty sick too. Eddie is constantly misplacing his rings, and this way, itâs easier for him to replace them.
He stops by once or twice every week, which in Steveâs opinion is too much.
âYou only have ten fingers, Eds, how many rings can you possibly need?â He tells him every time, but he always asks Eddie to show him his most recent buy.
Todayâs visit has gotta be quick. Steve is waiting for Eddie and the black pepper he sent him to get for his homemade chili. So itâs in and out of the shop in less than five minutes, a new black band secured in his pocket, before Eddie hurries back home.
But even if he does, Steve still lets out an impatient little huff when he arrives.
âThere you are!â He says, walking over to Eddieâ and grabbing the black pepper from his hands, ignoring him.
Eddie lets out an offended string of noises. âAnd what am I? Chopped liver?â
âNo, you are late,â Steve chastises, but still presses a placating kiss to Eddieâs lips before going back to the sizzling saucepan.
Eddie follows him and hops on the counter, his legs dangling back and forth as he watches Steve stir. âUnless everyoneâs hiding in our bathroom, and I would be impressed, given how small it is, thereâs no one here yet so thereâs no way Iâm late,â Eddie says petulantly.
Steve rolls his eyes, adding the black pepper to the chili. âTheyâll be here soon. Rob called to say she was leaving her dorm and the kids said theyâd get here around two, and you know theyâll be starving from the three hour ride. And theyâll bitch if lunch isnât ready.â
âTheyâll bitch either way,â Eddie says with a snort. âIf not because of the food, then for the fact that theyâre all sleeping on the floor since we only have one couch.â
Their apartment is hardly the Harringtonsâ mansion, and while itâs more than enough for Eddie and Steve, it doesnât have multiple guest rooms and mattresses to fit nine people for a weekend.
Chuckling, Steve stirs the black pepper in. âYouâre probably right, remind me why we agreed to this again?â
Eddie taps his bottom lip with his finger, pretending to think. âMm, because you canât say no to them, and because Lucas was excited to use his newly acquired license to get them all here. Oh, and because you miss them.â
âYou miss them too,â Steve points out, one hand on his hip while the other brandishes the wooden spoon in front of Eddieâs face.
âI admit to nothing!â Eddie says, but the truth is that he does.
The last time they saw the kids was a couple of months ago, when he and Steve drove to Hawkins for Wayneâs birthday and it had really hit Eddie just how much theyâve grown in the time they were away. Mike had been taller than both him and Steve, Lucas had actual facial hair. Elâs curls were almost as long as Eddieâs while Max had chopped hers off and was rocking a badass bob. Will had a boyfriend and Henderson had a goddamned tattoo, for Godâs sake.
Needless to say that visit had left Eddie reeling, Steve too. And while they were both excited to see them and show them around Chicago over the weekend, neither is ready to see how many other things have changed since then.
God, is this how parents feel when they watch their kids grow up? Maybe all those jokes about him and Steve co-parenting these shitheads were right all along.
âHere, try this,â Steve says, snapping Eddie out of his spiral. He holds the spoon in front of Eddieâs lips for him to taste it in a move thatâs become familiar since they moved in together. Eddie leans forward and takes it into his mouth.
Then he lets out a moan.
âFuck, Steve,â he says, watching Steveâs cheeks go pink, either at the praise or the familiar obscene sound. âThatâs so good, oh my God.â
Steve ducks his head, smiling. âYeah?â
âMhm,â Eddie hums, licking his lips. âIâd marry you for that alone.â
Itâs hardly the first time Eddie has said that, but Steveâs reaction is the same as always. His cheeks pink up even more and a pleased bashful smile stretches over his lips. He puts the spoon in the sink and covers the saucepan to let the chili simmer before he stands between Eddieâs legs.
âYou keep saying that, but Iâve yet to see the ring,â Steve says, teasingly, only Eddieâs mind goes to the ring in his pocket, the black band that would look so good in Steveâs ring fingerâ
And before he knows it, heâs jumping off the counter and dropping to his knees.
With a raised eyebrow, Steve takes half a step back. âEds, you know Iâd let you blow me for how good my food is any day, but the kids will be here soonââ
âGet your mind out of the gutter, Steve,â Eddie scoffs. âThis isnât that, although that chili is definitely blow job worthy.â
âWell, if it isnât that then what are you doing down there?â
Hell if I know, Eddie thinks before digging into his jeans, taking the ring out.
Steve blinks down at it. âDid you stop by that shop again?â
âYes,â Eddie says and before Steve can protest, he adds, âBut this one isnât for me. Itâs for you.â
Steveâs eyebrows shoot up in his forehead and when Eddie holds it up to him, his eyes widen, his jaw going slack.
âOh my god.â
Eddie clears his throat. âSteve, these last three years with you have felt like a dream. Most of the time, I still canât believe they werenât one. That I wonât wake up from a coma at that damned secret hospital to find that none of it happened or that I died that day in the Upside Down and this is actually heaven. Life with you is just that good, sweetheart. Iâm the luckiest son of a bitch because I get to come home to you every day and wake up next to you and your ridiculously bad bed head.â At that, Steve makes the first noise since Eddie started his speechâ a soft wet chuckle.
âAnd I might be pushing my luck here, Stevie, because half the time I think I donât deserve you. You deserve aâ a gold ring and a beautiful house and someone who doesnât think that jeans without holes in them counts as formal wear. But while I might not be able to give you that, I can and I will love you endlessly. So, ignoring the fact that legally we canât, because fuck society, will you, Steve Harrington, marry me?â
Steveâs mouth opens with a gasp but before Eddie can get his answer, the door to their apartment swings open and in walks Robin.
She learned the hard way to use the key that they gave her cautiously after she walked in on them going at it half naked in the kitchen. The only reason why she used it today is probably because she thought it was safe to do it, knowing that they wouldnât get up to any funny business while they were expecting the kids.
She probably didnât expect to walk in on this instead.
To be fair, Eddie didnât expect to do this at all today.
âBoys, look who I ran into downstairs!â She says, holding the door open for the kids before freezing on the spot. âOh my God!â
âTheyâre naked, arenât they?â Dustin groans. That damn tone is the one thing that hasnât changed at all.
Robin sputters. âUh, no, theyâreââ
âOh my God!â Mike gasps, echoing Robinâs words as he steps in and sees Eddie on his knees in front of Steve, the ring still held between his fingers.
âWhat? What?â The others ask, trying to get a look while stuck behind Mikeâs tall frame.
They see Elâs head pop up under his arm. âEddie is proposing to Steve!â
âWhat?â Max and Dustin shriek, shoving Mike out of the way and stumbling into the apartment with Lucas and Will in tow.
Lucas gasps. âHoly shit!â
âDid he say yes?â Will asks, glancing between the two.
Dustin gives his arm a light slap. âOf course he said yes, heâs just as obsessed with Eddie as Eddie is with him.â
âActually,â Eddie cuts in, speaking for the first time since they all barged in. âHe hasnât, you shitheads interrupted him.â
âDude!â Max lets out an indignant huff. âWhat are you waiting for?â
âYeah, Steve!â The boys all agree, Elâs wide eyes do too.
âChildrenââ Robin chastises, but Eddie can see the curious glint in her eyes.
âIââ Steve starts, finally saying something but he doesnât get far before Eddie interrupts him.
âStevie, itâs okay, you just can tell me laterââ
He firmly shakes his head. âNo, Eds, I donât mind that the kids are here,â he says, his lips tugging upwards as he starts his own speech. âI donât mind that you got that ring from that shop down the street that I insist you spend way too much time in, or that we live in this small apartment and that you only own a single pair of jeans without any rips on them. I donât care about any of that because I love you, and I love our life, and nothing would make me happier than being married to you even if itâs not official. Actually, fuck that, we can have our own wedding and it can be real to us. All that matters is that I get to love you. Endlessly.â
Eddie gapes at Steve, his heart in his throat. He wants to say something, anything, but heâs afraid he might embarrass himself by starting to cry.
âDude,â Mike says, breaking the silence for him. âThat was so sappy.â
âShhhh!â They all say in unison while Max delivers a slap to the back of his head.
Eddie canât help but laughâ a happy, giddy sound. âNo, Wheeler is right. That was sappy.â
Steve shoots him a betrayed look. âShut up. Youâre lucky they didnât hear your speech!â
âDonât act like it didnât make you swoon,â he teases.
Steveâs cheeks go red. âYouâre insufferable, I take it back, I wonât marry you.â
âNo take backsies!â Eddie protests, grabbing Steveâs hand and sliding the ring on. âYouâre stuck with me now.â
âI know,â Steve says, his smile tipping into something soft as he hauls Eddie to his feet so he can kiss him.
Their friends cheer but the sounds quickly turn into groans as they both get a little carried away with their kiss.
âDo you guys need us to go back to the car and give you a minute to be gross?â Lucas asks after a while.
Eddie feels tempted to say yes but before he can Dustin jumps in protest. âNo way! Weâve been in that car for hours and Iâm starving!â
Steve and Eddie exchange a bemused look. They know their kids well.
âWell, lunch is ready, so go wash up and then you shitheads can eat.â
As soon as Steve says it, they all barrel into the apartment, squeezing into their tiny bathroom so they can wash their hands, arguing over who goes first the whole time.
Robin closes the door behind her and hands Steve her key. âI donât think itâs not safe for me to have that,â she says sheepishly.
Eddie snorts. âYour timing really is impeccable, Buckley.â
Pulling them both in for a hug, she says, âI love you, dinguses and Iâm happy for you, but if you make anyone else your Maid of Honor, Iâll kill you.â
âWe love you too,â Steve chuckles, and Eddie agrees with a nod.
She pulls away, heading to the bathroom so she can also wash up.
Steve wraps his arm around Eddieâs shoulders. âAnd I love you,â he says with a kiss to his temple. âEndlessly.â
Eddie intertwines his fingers with the hand that rests over his shoulder, feeling the ring on Steveâs finger. It causes a flutter in his chest.
âYeah, Stevie,â he says, giving his fingers a squeeze. âEndlessly.â
Asked for a doctor's note to show to the airport staff if necessary for an upcoming flight where I need to bring my T with me and they were like "yeah sure no problem" and then sent me a note that makes it sound like I will literally die if I go one day without my testosterone LMAO
Me: man it would suck if I got my T confiscated by customs so I should get a note explaining that I have it for legitimate reasons just in case
The note in question: this man may or may not fucking die if you take his medication away from him. This medication may or may not be integral to his daily survival. Do you want his blood on your hands yes or no
Hot tip from your neighbor archivist, there is no greater lie than âdonât worry, Iâll rememberâ
No. You wonât. Write down who is in that photo. Note the date and event. Put a year on everything.
âBut it is -insert person and/or event here- there is no way I will forget!â
1) WRONG. Years get murky, relationships fade, people change, family members look alike (especially when very old or very young)
2) even if you somehow do, the next generation has no idea who what where when or why.
This message brought to you by a very tired archivist who has spent days trying to find and ID 3 photographs at work and also deal with all her grandmotherâs photos when her children canât name their aunts and uncles let alone cousins.
"Kriffing hell, heâd fallen asleep. On Boba.Â
Theyâd stayed back to back, but Dinâs head had leaned over onto Bobaâs shoulder. The poor guy had been holding Dinâs weight forâa quick check of his chrono eased some of his guilt; itâd only been ten minutes."
Mand'alor Cabur chapter 14 by @nautilicious
This is one of my all-time favourite BobaDin fics, please give it a read and heap some love on the author, they really deserve it! (Their Boba is amazing. He isn't actively present all that much, but even then he has a presence, you know? and it's so good, I love him so much there!!!)
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