sadderdreamz

just another teen with maladaptive daydreaming feel free to send me a message/ask anytime (main blog: @mellow-wine-and-honey )

[sadderdreamz]

10, 12, and 16, for the ask

10) What most influences your daydreams? Real-time events? Books? Movies? a lot of real-time events mixed with a lot of scenarios I’ve read

12) Do you have favourite paras? Why are they your favourites? yeah (well I love them all haha) but my favourite is the mirror of myself, except she’s the prettier, funnier, better version, she shares my name so I won’t reveal just for the anonymity, she features in a lot of my daydreams

16) Where do you get names for your paras?many of the names for my paras come from the scenarios they are in, so many of them are named after objects or places, they all have very quirky and unusual names

thanks so much for the ask x

[maddcastle]

✨ new madd asks ✨

(most of these are meant to inspire long, in-depth answers, but feel free to answer however you wish. whatever makes you feel comfortable!)

1. Do you use a repetitive motion to stimulate daydreams (rocking, pacing, etc.)? What is it/are they? Can you daydream without repetitive movement?

2. Do your daydreams get violent? How do you feel about them? How do you respond to them?

3. When are your daydreams the happiest?

4. Do you daydream in first person perspective? Do you have a parame/avatar?

5. Do you have (a) linear daydream(s)? How long has it/have they been running?

6. How did you discover you had madd? How do you feel about it?

7. How do you feel about your characters/paras? Have you ever fallen in love with them?

8. Do you know any other MD’ers personally?

9. How did you feel about it before you knew what maladaptive daydreaming was? Did you think it was something everybody does or that you were unique?

10. What most influences your daydreams? Realtime events? Books? Movies?

(note: i’m aware some are more comfortable with terms like character or person, but for simplicity i have elected to use the term “para.” please, feel free to respond with the terms you prefer.)

11. If you have a parame, please describe them. Are they much like you? How do you feel about them?

12. Do you have favorite paras? Why are they your favorites?

11. How old are the majority of your paras?

12. If you could give your paras any advice, what would you tell them?

13. Do your paras appear in a style other than realistic? For example, like anime or in the style of a video game?

14. Do you have OCs?

15. Are any of your paras adopted from existing fiction? From real life?

16. Where do you get names for your paras?

17. Do your paras have tragic backstories? Will you share a few?

18. Are any of your paras deceased? How did they die? How did you feel?

19. Are your paras human? Mortal?

20. Have any of your paras ever completely disappeared/vanished from the daydream world? Is there a story behind it or was it an unconscious occurrence? Do you think they might return? Do you want them to?

21. Have your characters commit crime? Have they been to jail? Are they legally innocent? Are they socially innocent?

22. Do your paras often find themselves in dangerous situations? How/why? Do they go looking for trouble? Does trouble look for them?

23. What do you associate with your paras? Colors? Smells? Words?

24. Has a para ever broken your heart? Have you ever broken theirs (through a parame)?

25. Has a para ever made you physically cry?

26. Do you act out your daydreams? Do you speak to/through your paras out loud?

27. Have you ever been caught daydreaming?

28. What do you most dislike about being a maladaptive daydreamer? Are there things you like about it?

29. Briefly describe a daydream.

30. Do you daydream to music? Is music a necessity to daydream? Do you wear headphones? How loud do you keep the volume?

31. Do you have models/faceclaims for your paras?

32. Does daydreaming energize or exhaust you?

33. Do you think there is a pattern/correlation between your daydreams and how you daydream them? For example, are your daydreams more violent when you’re lying down?

34. Do you have distinct daydream triggers? Do your daydreams come and go as they please?

35. Does your mood affect the amount of time you spend daydreaming? Or their intensity?

36. Have you ever had daydream block? How did you feel? How did you break it?

37. Have you ever had abusive paras? If it is not too sensitive to share, will you tell us about your experience with them?

38. Do your paras directly affect you in thisverse? Do you only interact with them in fictional scenarios or do you find yourself reaching for them in realtime, too? For example, do you converse with them mentally when facing a difficult situation?

39. Do you only daydream fantasy? Do you dream about thisverse?

40. Do you do research for your daydreams? How much? How often? How deep?

41. What was your first maladaptive daydreaming experience? Do you remember it? How did you feel about it?

42. When did you know what you did was different?

43. Do you ever daydream through the perspectives of paras of the opposite sex? How is it?

44. Do you experience any confusion between fantasy and reality? Does daydreaming leave you in a haze or in a dazed state?

45. If you have a parame, do you experience any dysphoria because of them? 

46. Do you ever rewind your daydreams and re-daydream old material?

47. Do you remember your daydreams in detail?

48. Do you edit your daydreams? To what extent? How often/how much does your brain block you from controlling things?

49. Do you get excited when you see or hear a para’s name in thisverse? When you see someone who looks like them? When you see something you associate with them?

50. How might you describe maladaptive daydreaming to someone who does not experience it?

[awesomelymadd]

Ask me if you want!

[celestialmadd]

Ask away!

[goingmadd]

are there any madd folk out there that also feel embarrassed about this disorder sometimes? and i don’t mean embarrassed about telling other people; i mean i genuinely get embarrassed and shy by myself when i think about it and the fact that i do it? and it’s odd because i can read posts about other people with madd and know it’s totally valid, but when i self-reflect, i feel like i don’t even want to look at myself in the mirror because i feel like it’s so mortifying that i do it?

[dagurdraumur]

Do you ever catch yourself not daydreaming? Like you realize that you haven’t daydreamed in awhile and you get stressed out and rush to find something to think about

[autherial]

me: tries to listen to the teacher during class madd: ;) me: dont madd: ;)))))

[sadderdreamz]

You: But... how do you deal with the loneliness that comes with maladaptive daydreaming?

Me: Uhmmmm... more maladaptive daydreaming?!

[sadderdreamz]

Me: time 2 do homework!! it's the fourth quarter let's go!! get those good grades!! im gonna try so hard for this final stretch!!

Brain: ok

Brain: ...but

Brain: u could daydream and watch ur life fall apart...

me: let's go w that

[adaptingmaladaptive]

Reblog if you've had the same universe for years that you daydream about

[maladaptively]

say it with me

maladaptive daydreaming isn’t positive for everyone

dreams can turn violent and dark so quickly u guys

some people’s daydreams tear their life apart

maladaptive daydreaming isn’t positive for everyone

[muhraudrs-deactivated20200917]

does anyone else ever have short, repeating daydreams? like if you listen to a certain song it brings you back into the same scenarios?

[themommestfriend-deactivated201]

that feel when you remember you’re not actually creative or a good writer, you’re a maladaptive daydreamer and you’ll never finish anything you start

[wisdomsfromthemadd]

Being a maladaptive daydreamer also has its positive traits: doing household chores becomes less boring and repetitive whenever you start creating funny conversations and scenarios in your head.

[thisismaddness]

Me: Imagines a scene

My brain: No wait that was the wrong tone of voice let’s imagine that again

Me: But I want to know what happens next

My brain: No this one line has to be said perfectly. Now let’s try this again

[languidschizoid]

*starts hating someone because of what i imagined them doing*

[we-all-madd]

Irony is not being able to maintain your MADD blog because of MADD.

[shoppingstars]

for mentally ill people who are in school

 It’s okay to take breaks. I know that a lot of people won’t support you if you keep missing classes, specially your family, but from a psychological view, school is important to a child/teenager because you are in a social environment and socializing is something very important to the mental health. So, if you are mentally ill and struggling with it, I want you to know that it’s okay to miss some classes if you are not okay, but please be careful to not stay alone all the time.

It’s okay if you have bad grades. Some people may feel bad when they get a bad grade, feeling like they are dumb or worthless because someone else “did better”. Okay, but try to think like that: You are mentally healthy, so you actually have the energy to study and focus on things you want, you don’t have intrusive thoughts and you don’t feel tired all the time. Will you always get perfect grades? No. But you definetely will have more advantage over those who are mentally ill and don’t have energy or can’t focus on the studies, who have intrusive thoughts and feel tired all the time. Grades are more like a mirror to how you feel inside than a intelligence meter.

Don’t be afraid to ask for help from a teacher or someone in your school. I know that, for some people, it sounds silly and it even may feels like you’re a child, but trust me, looking for help from a teacher can really be something good, specially if you struggle with mental illness. For example, let’s suppose you have social anxiety, if you say to your teacher “So, I have this illness and it makes really hard to talk on public, so if you could help me, please don’t make me talk in front of other people”, it will be a GREAT step that could save you. It could even help with the first topic; if you miss a lot of classes, then you could talk about your illness to your teacher and ask for private projects in your home or something like that.

Organization. “Blah blah blah, another stupid topic that everyone is tired of listening from people” I know, I know! But my purpose is: organize things about school; How? Buy a notepad a write your daily classes, homeworks, projects and everything, so it’s easier to you to don’t miss tests and stuff like that if you have bad memory. But, the MOST important thing: organize your feeling; What?! Yep! Buy another notepad and this one you can only write whenever you are in class, you will write about your feelings and moods during the time you are in school, so you can analyse the impact of it in your life.

Don’t forget to eat. Personally, I always had trouble with this. I’ve never had the habit to eat in school and let me tell you: that’s not good AT ALL! If you have problem paying attention in classes, eating will help you a lot to “wake up” and focus more. Also, specially to those who suffer from anxiety, like I do: you know our stomaches are a mess, if you don’t eat, it will make it worse. So please eat and drink water!

If you are not feeling well, don’t be afraid to speak. This is hard for specially those with social anxiety and/or AvPD, because it’s not so easy to raise your hand and speak if you know you will get a little attention from people. But, please, it’s better to ask for help and go to somewhere else more private, if you don’t want to talk in front of everyone, wait for a silent moment and walk to your teacher so you can talk about it. If you feel like you can’t really wait, raise your hand and ask to go to the bathroom, people will look at you, but it’s NOT because you’re doing something, it’s naturally to look at someone who makes a sudden move, that’s something normal of our brains and we ourslves do it. Don’t worry!

Sorry about my english. It’s not my native language :) hope it helps

[chaosdreamchronicles]

What is the difference between normal and maladaptive daydreaming?

So many people have this question so I’ll try to make this answer short and simple.

Daydreaming means zoning out for a while to imagine (normally enjoyable) situations. Daydreaming is only maladaptive when it is:

a) excessive (think: Do you daydream more than most people? Do you spend almost all your free time daydreaming? Do you daydream so much it makes it difficult to live your life?)

and

b) compulsive (think: Do you find it almost impossible to control? Do you keep daydreaming despite negative consequences? When you start can you stop again easily? Do you experience cravings to daydream?)

That’s it. Maladaptive daydreaming = excessive, compulsive daydreaming.

But what about pacing and characters/paras and violent daydreams and all of that stuff?

Many maladaptive daydreamers have noticed similarities in how they daydream. Some of the most common are:

- having extremely detailed daydreams - having daydreams that repeatedly involve the same people (these people are known as characters/paras) - feeling very strong attachment to their characters/paras - having daydreams which are explicitly violent or sexual - feeling detached from reality or not caring about it at all - unconsciously doing a repetitive movement while daydreaming. Normally this is pacing but it can be anything. - needing or prefering to listen music while daydreaming - imagining the same scenarios over and over until they are perfect - etc.

It’s normal for maladaptive daydreamers to do the above things. They could even be considered symptoms. But not everyone does them and that doesn’t matter. The only thing that makes daydreaming maladaptive is if it is excessive and compulsive.